She doesn’t seem to be keen. When you touch her, she either pretends she is asleep or she tells you she is tired. Why does this happen? How to keep her interested again so that you can have sex as often as you want? Read on.
(1) Getting wet is not all
When comes to sex, every woman is different. Some women can lubricate a lot while others do not. For this reason, you cannot rely on lubrication alone or how much she gets wet as the sole signal to judge whether she is ready for penetration. Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. The fact that she is getting wet is not a good excuse to skip foreplay.
How to recognize the signs that she is ready? When she is getting more and more aroused, her heart will beat faster and breathing get heavier causing her body to get tense up. More blood will flow to her genitals, ultimately triggering rhythmic muscle contractions in the vagina and other parts of her body. The skin on her face and chest may flush red. She may moan, pant or her face may take on a pained expression. Some women may emit a silky fluid (not the normal type of lubrication) often referred to as female ejaculation.
Before you see the above signs, you have to lay the groundwork and warm her up. You have to be patient. She needs a lot of kissing and tender loving care. She needs you to explore and tease her body to build up the tension and expectation. One of the sex tips you need to keep in mind is not to assume that just because she is wet that she is ready. Getting wet is only the beginning and not the end game.
(2) It is not just about orgasm
Ideally it will be nice if she can have orgasm in every sexual encounter. In reality, sometimes she may not reach orgasm at all. This is not your fault and not hers. Lovemaking is, fundamentally, a present moment experience, with no pressure, free of any inhibitions and nagging thoughts. If you are too goal-oriented about achieving orgasm, you can only create unnecessary stress on yourself and her, diminishing the chances of actually reaching peak.
You cannot force a woman to reach orgasm. What a woman wants most is to be emotionally connected to her partner and the feeling of intimacy. What you can do, besides physically stimulating your woman, is to create a safe, comfortable and caring environment for her in which an orgasm may happen.
Each encounter does not have to be orgasmic. Sometimes it is nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together. Intercourse is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm.
Stop pestering her with words like “there yet?”. This can only turn her off. The pressure to perform for you can cause her to fake it just to stop you from asking. You can say words like “Do you like it? Here? There?” or “Harder?”.
(3) Talk to her
This has to take place outside the bedroom. Those intimate moments are not the time to bring up any sexual issues. Be careful with what you have to say, no blaming, no accusing, just purely fact-finding. You can ask her some pointed questions such as “Are you tired or do I need some improvements?” , “Do you need more foreplay?” , or “Would a sensual massage help?”.
Great sex does not happen overnight. Bringing her to orgasm needs lot of patience and knowledge. You can get more ideas from here. Sometimes it can be as easy or simple as offering a little extra help, which you can find at this place.