Few days ago, when browsing a sexuality forum site, I came across this question – How can I make my girl squirt? It is a very interesting question because there are so much half truths, myth, and doubt mixed in with the truth about this delightful part of female sexual response.
You may be wondering if women are capable of female ejaculation or what is commonly known as squirting or gushing and why is it that many women have never done it. Let us begin by looking at some of the myths and nonsense out there about female ejaculation, and clear up some of the things men have been asking about.
Is it true that squirting is some kind of weird thing that you can only see in porn movies?
Indeed, the act of squirting can be often seen in porn movies. However, female ejaculation is real and is not something made up by anyone. It is a natural part of female sexuality and most women who have ever ejaculated look upon it as an overwhelmingly fantastic sexual experience. Female ejaculation can happen during or before orgasm But the fact is about porn movies – it is a world full of exaggerations and fake acts. In certain scenes, women may be urinating.
Women that squirt are actually urinating, right?
Well, squirting and urinating are two different things. Female ejaculation is not urine. It is a fluid that comes from the kidneys passing through the para-urethral glands (often referred to as the female “prostrate glands” or G-spot area) is a bit like the male fluid that carries sperm but without the sperm content. This fluid is clear in color, no smell or has a slightly sweet scent, very unlike the heavier and thicker fluid that you normally see when a woman is “wet” or has an orgasm. This thicker and heavier fluid is actually the vaginal discharge which lubricates and cleans up the vaginal walls as it oozes out during sexual arousal.
However, one ought to take note here is that unlike men, women can ejaculate and urinate at the same time, so it is better for women to urinate first before doing any stimulation of her pleasure points down there.
Now, let us get to the part that I understand a lot of guys are most interested in – How to make YOUR sex partner experience female ejaculation?
Let me first caution you here. Once you train a woman to ejaculate, there is a high likelihood that she will want to keep on doing it quite frequently when you make love. As cool as that can seem to you right now, some women can give off pretty a great amount, and it can make a good mess. So you might require to begin keeping towels nearby the bed, and rest her down on top of them before you begin.
Okay, here is how this can be done:
1. Do not Be Disappointed if not much fluid comes out and need not be FREAKED OUT if a huge amount does come gushing out. Different women ejaculate different amounts– from a little trickle to a major outburst. One is not better than the other, it is only a function of her anatomy.
2. Delay Her Orgasm
The longer you delay her orgasm, the better the chances that you will be successful in making her squirt. This means a lot of foreplay and sensual touching.
3. Make Her Come With A “Blended Orgasm”.
After delaying her orgasm for a long time, she will have built up a great deal of fluid in her para-urethral (Skene’s) glands. When you do make her come, you want to build it unhurriedly and then bring her over the edge quickly using a “blended orgasm” – stimulating both her clitoris and G-spot.
There are a few different ways to make sure that you get her to come hard and quick with a blended orgasm when the moment is right, and using one of these methods is the surest way to do the trick.
So, the only part left is– what is the best way to stimulate her to get to female ejaculation?
4. Use One of These Proven Female Ejaculation Positions
Some women ejaculate easily from many different positions, and they will certainly have remarkable results with all three of these positions. Other women might only respond to one or two of them. Usually one of the first two will work very well.
The first, which is often very effective, is to use your tongue on her clitoris.
The key is to find a rhythm that drives her wild. What you are looking for is an amount of direct stimulation to the tip of the clitoris that is just beyond what she can comfortably deal with. You need to maintain a lot of mental and emotional connection with her while you do this so that you can reassure her that she can be still and that she can “take it.” You want to go just past her edge.
When you finally tell her it is alright to let go, you might have to hold her hips still with your weight to keep her from squirming right off the bed.
The key to make this method work is to insert a finger and massage her g-spot at the same time. Get started with some lubricant or cream. The Nipple and Clitoris Stimulating Gel is fantastic as it heightens sensitivity around the vaginal area and it also makes it easier to insert your fingers into her vagina. You can in fact feel the glands fill up behind the g spot as the area swells beneath your fingers.
The second method works even more often and most women will react very powerfully to it. The key is the hand position and the movement.
Rest her down on her back, and have her raise her legs up in the air, knees bent. Make a “hook” with your middle finger or both middle and ring-finger. Put your finger/s inside of her, pointing up towards her belly. In this position, you can then place your palm across the top of her vagina and her clitoris.
Applying pressure with the palm across her clitoris, the motion is NOT in-and-out, but rather, up-and-down. As the fingers go up and down against the g-spot, the palm brushes up and down on the clitoris.
NOTE: Use a LOT of lube for this, particularly between the palm and vulva.
After delaying her orgasm as long as possible, you want to use this motion quickly and firmly. Again, this will perhaps get her past the edge of the amount of pleasure she is accustomed to dealing with, and you may have to encourage her verbally, and help her by holding her hips down so that she does not squirm right off the bed.
The final method is a bit more of a trick, but can be even more fun because it involves intercourse.
Have her position herself on top of your penis, but facing away, towards your feet. She can be on her knees, but it may be more effective if she squats over you, and then leans back on her palms so that you are penetrating her at an angle to bump into the G Spot. After that you use one or both hands to stimulate her clitoris. When she feels ready to ejaculate, you may have to withdraw to unblock the duct.
The good news is that in terms of the “technical” and physical aspects of it, this is pretty much all you will ever require to know if you want to get a woman to experience female ejaculation.
You can find more information on common issues that couples come across when trying to make this work, and, of course, much more on the psychological and emotional aspects by visiting Hot Sex and Lover Guide.