How can I make a girl orgasm? Why she can’t orgasm when we are having intercourse? What is wrong? There is nothing wrong with you and your girl at all. Around 75% of women do not reach orgasm from penis-in-vagina intercourse alone. This does not mean that 75% of women do not experience a sexual climax. The truth is that sex is more than just intercourse and orgasm. In order to help put your woman into the 25% who enjoy sex and make her like you a lot, you have to understand the process of sexual response. Any sexual experience will involve some or all of the 5 stages which are desire, arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
Desire is simply the wish or urge to participate in any sexual activity or some kind of sex. This desire works in the same way as feeling hungry which makes you want to eat.In a sexual context, desire is a matter of having an appetite to have sex at a given time which is sometimes described as being “hungry” or “horny”. Without this feeling of sexual desire, sex in any form is not going to be enjoyable. This feeling of desire can happen when all or any of the 5 senses of sight, sound, smell, touch and taste are being stimulated. This can also occur when we are talking about sex with someone else. In order to get aroused, we need to have desire first.
What happens when you or someone is aroused? When we are aroused, blood pressure will go up, making our face red hot, breathing and heartbeat gets faster. Our body becomes very sensitive and responsive to touch. There will be an increase in the flow of blood to the genital issues. Your penis will get hard. Her nipples become erect or swollen and the breasts get slightly fuller. Her clitoris and vaginal lips become puffed up. She will start to get wet (vaginal lubrication). The deeper end of the vaginal also expands and pulls back a bit, making her feel emptier inside the vagina. Though a guy can get aroused very quickly, but for a woman, this usually can happen if you are patient in giving her a good foreplay.
When sexual stimulation continues, our arousal may then progress to the plateau phase. We get this “high” feeling or a feeling of being “on the edge”. Your body will feel increasingly sensitive, face, lips or chest get flushed, or the heart beat gets even stronger. The same thing also happens to her.
This is the peak of sexual excitement which happens after the plateau stage. The muscles especially around the pelvis region will expand and contract and the body will secrete more good-feeling hormones such as endorphins. For a guy, he will reach the point of no return and ejaculate. For a woman, she must be stimulated all the way (without stopping) in order to reach orgasm.
The pressure that builds up in the body to reach orgasm is finally released just like the popping of an inflated balloon. Both you and your girl will feel physically and psychologically relaxed. Blood that fills up the genitals and other sensitive body parts will drain out causing them to return to their normal state. This resolution stage can also happen without orgasm when all forms of sexual stimulation are stopped abruptly.
Now that you understand how orgasm can happen to you and your woman, you can start applying this knowledge in your sex life now. In order to get her to enjoy sex and experience full arousal, plateau and climax, you need to stimulate more than just her genitals. Her state of mind is of utmost importance. Her mind needs to be stimulated as well to get in the mood.
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