Sometimes your girl is real naughty and she deserves to be spanked, or it may be you who are the naughty one who just want to give her a good spanking. Spanking is a great way to spice up your love life, adding a little kink and eroticism. Giving a girl a good spanking can increase blood flow to her genitals and leads to a greater state of arousal. Some women get so turned on by spanking that you may find your girl begging for it every time the lights go out. Here is how to spank properly and make her enjoy it.
(1) Talk To Her
Just don’t spank her out of the blue. If you haven’t at least given a hint that you plan on spanking her, this could lead to problems. She might not be in the mood or she might even have a sun burn where you plan to swat her. If spanking is your idea, discuss it thoroughly with your girl beforehand rather than springing it on her randomly. Or, you can just go for it and give your partner a light tap and gauge their reaction. Teasing your partner playfully throughout the day can be a good way to start.
(2) Add Role Playing
Spanking can be fun, and it is even better when there is role playing involved. Perhaps you can be an angry school master and she can be a naughty, disobeying student, you are the guard and she is the prisoner, you are the traffic cop and she is being caught for speeding, or you can be her boss and she can be a bumbling and incompetent employee. Let the scenario start and improvise the lines as you go along. This idea for including role play into spanking adds an extra layer of fantasy while making her go wild.
(3) Adventurous Locations.
Surprise your partner by taking your activities outside the bedroom and to a place slightly dangerous, with a chance of getting caught. Perhaps it is a public restroom, a trail in the woods, or a poorly-lit parking garage. The rush you both get from engaging in slapping sex will be heightened even more by the danger that at any second someone might find you.
(4) Start With Light Spanking.
You don’t want to scare the crap out of your girlfriend with a full force slap to the butt. Doing it that way is just asking for you to get throw out of the bedroom and for your lady to never want to take a spanking again. Keep it light and playful, almost silly to get her into the whole idea of spanking. Never smack both buttock cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way. Keep your hand tight and slightly cup to ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.
(5) Choose A Position
There are many positions in which to administer and give a spanking. It is up to you and your partner to discuss what is comfortable for her. Some of the positions include over the knee, bent over a chair, she stands with her hands against the wall, or you lay her down across your lap and place a pillow under her front side to get her butt as high in the air as possible. While you have the option of spanking a butt with a paddle, a whip, or an abundance of other props, I strongly recommend that you start off with your hand. Besides the hand is best as it allows you to get the full feel of the ass-spanking connection.
(6) Talk To Her While You Are Spanking
You want to keep up the dialogue during spanking to make it a truly interactive affair. This will also maintain the excitement for her throughout. Tell her how naughty she has been and that she is getting what she deserves! Part of the turn on for her during this is feeling like a “bad” girl, different than her standard role in the office or the house. Talking to her in the right way will add to her enjoyment.
(7) Do Not Stick To One Spot
If you just swat your partner over and over and over on the same spot on her butt or thigh, it’s going to eventually begin to hurt. And even thought she might like the pain, you might be doing damage to the skin or blood vessels without even knowing it. Vary your location a little bit, never landing too many spanks in a row on one spot. Always remain attentive to your partner the whole time. Listen to her emotions and respond to her feelings. If you feel she is not enjoying herself, be sure to stop or change your tactics.
(8) Spice It Up
One tip for spanking your woman is to please her in other ways while the spanking is going on. She’s going to get very aroused, so you can halt your spanking to slide your hand—or your tongue—between her legs to give her clitoral stimulation. After not quite getting her off, resume your spanking, going back and forth, making her beg you for an orgasm.
(9) Let Her Spank You Back
It is not fair that you lay into her butt so hard that it has got red marks everywhere, now is it? How about letting her take a turn at you? Have a good spanking session, laugh your heads off and spank each other silly. If neither one of you are able to walk the next day, you’re doing it absolutely right.
If you are looking to take foreplay to the next level, you should include spanking as part of the act. It can be stimulating for both the male and female partner, but only if you do it the right way by following the above nine tips. So be creative, be rough, and give her a good spanking.
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- Ask Dr. Berman: How Can I Make My Spanking Fantasy Come True? (drlauraberman.com)