Sex Tips For Women: How To Orgasm If You Never Have One Before

Orgasm Help For Girls

Why do some women have difficulties in reaching orgasm during intercourse?  How to increase the chances of having an orgasm if you never have one? No matter how much you want it, orgasm cannot be forced. The more pressure you put on yourself to cum, the less likely it is to happen. You have to take things slowly to find out what works for you. The most common reason for not been able to reach orgasm is due to the fact that women do not know their own bodies well.

 

The best way for a woman to understand her own sexuality is by way of masturbation. You may ask, “Why masturbate?”  Besides helping you to understand your own sexual response, it feels good. If you do not know how to sexually satisfy yourself, it will be almost impossible for you to have orgasm during intercourse. Learning about your own body and how it responds to your touching is the first step to guarantee yourself a satisfying sex life.

 

It is no secret that a lot of women own sex toys. It is because vibrators and other sex toys can enhance their sex lives by adding a little fun and variety. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators and dildos and share their sex toys with their partners.

 

If you are curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one and wanting to know how to choose the perfect vibrator for you, read below.

 

What kind to choose?

 

To answer this question, you have to determine how you are going to use the sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? What do you want the sex toy to do for you?

 

You can use a vibrator in two ways, either to use it just to massage your clitoris or to use it for insertion, or even both (stimulating your clitoris and g-spot) at the same time. G-spot and dual-action vibrators are mostly used for penetration, while the standard vibrators are usually used for clitoral stimulation. Deciding for yourself what are the most important aspects of owning a vibrator, is a critical step in finding the right vibrator for you.

 

What is the size and shape you want for your sex toy?

 

There are sex toys of various shapes, sizes, colors, materials and styles for you to choose from. Do you want something that is small and discreet so that it can be easily fit in your handbag so that you can use it at anywhere you want?

 

A lot of women prefer discreet vibrators, those sleek and simple looking ones that can be mistaken for a variety of different things. There are also a number of sex toys that are shaped like other things, such as lipstick tubes, candy bars and cucumbers, so that you do not have to worry about other people noticing it, allowing you to take your pleasure with you wherever you go.

 

Sex toys can be made from different materials such as plastic, silicone, steel, softer silicone or glass. It is important to know that different materials perform differently and each material has different characteristic and different cleaning requirements. You can check out on a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material that intrigues you the most.

 

Do you want a battery-operated one or a cordless, rechargeable one? This will be determined by how convenient you want it to be and how often you think you are going to use it.

 

How much you are prepared to pay?

 

If this is your first time and you are unsure of a particular type of toy, you can start with a lower price model to test the water and later on upgrade to a higher price one. Generally, the cheaper it is, the less features and power you will get for your vibrator. You do not have to spend a lot, but to get a reasonably good vibrator; you are going to spend more than five bucks.

 

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9 Rules for Stronger Erections

Do You Want To Get Hard At The Right Time

No penis is an island. Or so J. Stephen Jones, M.D., F.A.C.S., a urologist with the Cleveland Clinic, likes to tell his patients. If your penis were an island, it would be tempting to think of it as a hot spot in the Caribbean—calm and tranquil during the day, throbbing with activity at night, and the destination of a constant rotation of half-naked coeds.

 

As much as that sounds like paradise, Dr. Jones says a more precise urological/geographical parallel would be your penis as peninsula—a bodily extension that shares a supply of blood, oxygen, and nutrients with all your other organs. Unfortunately, that means if a natural disaster strikes the mainland, it’s likely to affect any protruding landmasses, too.

 

“ED stands not only for erectile dysfunction but also for ‘early diagnosis,’ because you can use ED to predict a heart attack, potentially by years—arterial damage from cardiovascular disease affects the small arteries in the penis first,” says Christopher Steidle, M.D., a clinical associate professor of urology at the Indiana University medical center at Fort Wayne. That’s one reason it’s a mistake to let Levitra, Viagra, and Cialis lull you into an I’ll-fix-it-when-it-breaks mindset.

 

Here’s another: Take steps to safeguard your sex life now and you may never need to pop the little blue pill. Or any other shade of erection aid. In other words, follow our advice and every woman who visits your peninsula will leave with a smile.

Eat Blackberry Jam on Your Toast

Dark fruits like blackberries, bilberries, and elderberries contain high levels of anthocyanins, ultrapowerful antioxidants that could act as erection insurance.

Quick science lesson:
Your penis’s ability to rise and shine depends, in part, on the availability of nitric oxide, a blood-vessel-dilating chemical. When too many free radicals are present in your bloodstream, nitric oxide goes down-and so does your penis. Enter anthocyanins. These potent antioxidants attack free radicals before they have the chance to lower nitric oxide levels.

 

Here’s proof of their power: Indiana University researchers found that arteries treated with anthocyanins retained high levels of nitric oxide even after being flooded with free radicals. “Antioxidants help keep free radicals under control so nitric oxide can do its thing,” says David Bell, Ph.D., the lead study author. And that “thing” is giving your penis the blood it needs to turn excitement into an erection.

Shut Down the Smokestack

If you still light up, you’ve probably accepted your increased risk of heart disease, stroke, lung cancer, and bladder cancer. But how about dying young and impotent? A study published in the Journal of Urologyfound that smoking causes arterial damage that doubles a man’s risk of total erectile dysfunction. The good news: “If men quit in their 50s or earlier, we can usually reverse the damage,” says Andre Guay, M.D., director of the Lahey Clinic for Sexual Function, in Massachusetts.

 

When Dr. Guay measured nighttime erections in 10 impotent smokers (average age 49), he noted a 40 percent improvement after just 1 smoke-free day. Swap the cancer sticks for fish sticks: Researchers at the Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland discovered that taurine, an amino acid found in fish, helps heal smoke-damaged arteries.

Become a More Sensitive Guy

Everyone knows stress is a psychological cold shower. But untamed tension also works in a more insidious way—by releasing epinephrine, a type of adrenaline that goes straight to your arteries and slowly wreaks havoc there. “Stress in the long term can contribute to hardening of the arteries,” says Dr. Jones, who is author of Overcoming Impotence: A Leading Urologist Tells You Everything You Need to Know.

 

In a great medical irony, being hard in the arteries can leave you soft in the shorts. The fix: Force yourself to concentrate on each of your five senses for a few minutes every day—the feel of the steering wheel in your hands, the sound of the engine revving to redline, the sight of the hot brunette in the next car . . .

 

“Obsessing on stressful thoughts will increase your epinephrine,” says Jay Winner, M.D., author of Stress Management Made Simple. “On the other hand, if you focus on current sensations, it decreases the epinephrine and ultimately improves your ability to have an erection.”

Stop Sawing Wood

Snoring can sabotage a night of sex, and not just because it’s difficult to engage in foreplay from the couch. “All of your tissue needs oxygen to be healthy, and the penile tissue is especially sensitive,” says Dr. Jones. “When you snore, you’re depriving your tissue of that oxygen.”

 

That said, don’t waste your money on OTC snore stoppers; research by the U.S. Air Force shows that these products aren’t effective. Instead, try placing bricks under the bedposts at the head of the bed. “Snoring has a lot to do with gravity,” says Phillip Westerbrook, M.D., founder of the sleep-disorders center at the Mayo Clinic. “If you elevate the torso without bending the neck, it changes the effect of gravity on the soft tissues of the throat.”

Eat a Dark-Chocolate Dove Bar

It’s erection medicine. Dark chocolate contains epicatechins, flavonoids that trigger the release of dilating chemicals in the inner, or endothelial, layer of the arteries. How much should you munch? A University of California at San Francisco study shows that those who ate a 1.6-ounce dark-chocolate bar each day increased their blood-vessel dilation by more than 10 percent.

 

While the study wasn’t done specifically on erectile tissues, anything that benefits your body’s endothelial system will likely benefit your erections, since the penis is made up largely of endothelial surfaces. “Keeping those surfaces healthy is crucial to good arterial flow,” says Kevin McVary, M.D., a professor of urology at Northwestern University. Look for dark chocolate that bears the CocoaPro logo on the label—this symbol is a visible sign that the candy bar you’re buying is chock-full of flavonoids.

Lower Your Estrogen

Calculate your body-mass index. If your BMI comes in close to or over 25, you may be carrying just enough lard to drag down your erections. “We know that heavier men convert testosterone to estrogen, and that a lower level of testosterone and a higher level of estrogen are not good for erectile function,” says Larry Lipshultz, M.D., a Men’s Healthadvisor and chief of male reproductive medicine and surgery at Baylor college of medicine.

 

Fortunately, even moderate weight loss can rid you of excess estrogen and put your sex life back on track. A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that one-third of clinically obese men—BMI 30 or higher—with erectile dysfunction showed improvement after losing 10 percent of their body weight.

Get Pricked

If you think the problem is that you, well, think too much, see an acupuncturist. The results of a study published in the International Journal of Impotence Researchsuggest that acupuncture can help treat psychologically induced erectile dysfunction. (Relax—the prick points are all in your back.)

 

“In psychogenic erectile dysfunction, the patient has trouble with the balance of his sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems,” says Paul Engelhardt, M.D., the study author. “Traditional Chinese medicine tries to restore that balance.” Sure, it sounds like using feng shui for your underwear drawer, but it works—64 percent of the men who underwent 6 weeks of acupuncture regained sexual function and needed no further treatment.

Build a Stronger Floor

Go figure—one of the best ways to treat erectile dysfunction is to pretend that you suffer from premature ejaculation. British researchers discovered that the traditional treatment for a hair trigger—strengthening the pelvic-floor muscles—is also a remedy for men who can’t point their pistols. In the study of 55 impotent men, 40 percent of those who practiced pelvic-floor exercises, a.k.a. Kegels, every day for 6 months regained normal sexual function.

 

Apparently, the same muscle contraction that’s used to stop peeing midstream can also prevent blood from escaping during an erection. “Unless they have severe back pain, all men with ED can perform pelvic-floor exercises,” says Grace Dorey, Ph.D., the study author. Here’s the workout plan: Contract and relax your pelvic muscles anytime you’re sitting, although you can also do them lying down. Work up to doing 18 contractions daily, holding each one for 10 seconds.

Open Your Medicine Cabinet

And make a list of all the prescription pills you’re popping. “A lot of prescription drugs may be associated with sexual dysfunction,” says R. Taylor Segraves, M.D., Ph.D., coauthor of Sexual Pharmacology. One possible culprit is the cholesterol-lowering drug simvastatin, brand name Zocor. Talk to your doctor and show him/her the pills you take to see if they are in any way affecting your sex life. Often a similar pill, sans side effects, is on the market.

Still Not Able to Defy Gravity?

At this point, it makes sense to consider taking Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra to stimulate bloodflow to the penis, says Dr. Steidle. And who knows what miracles might happen once you prime the pump a few times? “What a lot of men find is that once they restart these medications, they may not need them for every episode of sexual activity—they may need them only now and then,” he says.

 

Similarly, if you suffer from performance anxiety, a drug-fueled romp or two may be just what the urologist ordered to restore confidence. And while all three erection medications have the power to prevent you from psyching yourself out in the sack, Cialis’s ability to work for up to 36 hours may provide an advantage, says Julian Slowinski, Psy.D., an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania school of medicine. “This gives a man and his partner a lot of time over the weekend to be more spontaneous.”

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To Cheat or Not to Cheat?

Temptations are all around us, and it’s easy to have a sneaky moment without getting caught. To cheat or not to cheat, we’ve heard that before. But what should you really do?

To cheat or not to cheat, that is a pretty big question.

But as a matter of fact, it’s not a question at all.

It’s a nagging thought that crawls into your conscience each time you’re presented with an opportunity to get into someone else’s bed.

So should you cheat?

Or should you just resist the temptation?

Understanding the temptation

You know the answer already. Don’t cheat! Period.

But I’m not going to preach those same words. Cheat if you must. Don’t cheat if you can.

At the end of the day, it’s you that has to weigh the balance and understand the real difference.

Firstly, I’m going to ask you a question. Have you ever cheated on your lover?

If you haven’t, you should know that once you do cheat without getting caught, you’ll never really be able to forget about it.

You may be able to put the thought away, but it’ll always haunt you for as long as you stay in the relationship.

And if you’ve cheated already, you’ve been there and done that. How do you feel about it now?

Cheating is fun and easy

To cheat or not to cheat, well, that isn’t really the question anymore. We all know it, cheating is fun and such a sexy rush. With the hectic lives that we lead these days, it’s really easy to cheat or have an affair and get away with it forever. If you’ve been flirting with someone outside the relationship for a while, and the flirting turns to petting and phone sex, it’s only a matter of time before hands start slipping inside each other’s pants.

And when it does happen, I can assure you, the sex would be one of the best you’ve ever had in your life. And just watching your sexual fantasy undress itself in front of your eyes is… awesome!

And the best part, you get away with it all. You have the sexy cake and eat it too!

Falling in love with someone else

Some affairs are purely sexual and some, well, they can get rather complicated. It all starts with a bit of flirting and long conversations. And then you genuinely start to believe you’re in love with someone else.

If you do cheat and get into their bed or even exchange a kiss, it may remind you of everything that’s missing in your own relationship, the affection, the weak knees, and all those happy feelings. But we won’t get into it here.

To cheat…

We don’t have to get into all the sordid details, but let’s admit it, cheating is fun. And more than cheating, the sexual attraction that builds up before you actually do anything with your sneaky lover is all the more fun.

With all the happy lights flowing out of every orifice of cheating, cheating on a partner seems like a fun thing to do. I could even tell you to go for it and have a blast, and just don’t get caught!

But now is where we look at the other side of this happy story on cheating.

It ends with an orgasm

In almost all cases, you cheat because of the sexual excitement. You just want to do it. You and your secret lover may have worked out the perfect time and place, or it may just be a spur of the moment thing, and finally you find yourself in bed, naked and sweaty, and so full of passion it makes you go blind with horniness.

It may feel really good, but it will end. Just as soon as you orgasm.

You may have spent months building the excitement up, but as soon as you orgasm, it’ll all come to a grinding halt.

And if you do love your partner, whether you want to or not, you’re going to remember your partner just moments after reaching for the sky in ecstasy. And it’s not always a happy thought. In almost all cases, you’ll be consumed with an overwhelming sense of guilt even if you push that thought away.

Is it worth it?

To cheat or not to cheat? There’s only one answer to that question. You do want to cheat.

Cheating on a partner gives you a high that a drug addiction may give you. You’ll hate it as soon as you do it. But a day or two later, you’d want it again. There’s no escaping out of an affair, unless one of you start to get bored or lose the sexual infatuation.

Cheat if you must, but try this. The next time you feel a desperate need to sleep with someone else, play with yourself and let yourself loose in your world of sexual fantasies. And once you’re all done orgasming and climaxing, sit up and ask yourself if you still want to cheat on your loving partner.

It’s such a little thing, an orgasm, and you’re willing to throw your loving relationship of years away just to experience an orgasm with someone else. Is it really worth it? You decide.

…or not to cheat

Cheating on a partner and getting away is easy if you’re smart enough. But that memory of cheating will always exist in your mind. And almost all cheaters say the same thing… if only I could turn back time.

It may seem like fun, but once it’s all done and a few months have passed by, you’ll feel stupid about it even if you aren’t caught. And every time you think about it, you’ll realize how much happiness you could have gotten out of your own relationship if you could have devoted the same time on your own partner.

How would you feel if your partner was in your shoes?

Now I’m not trying to take you on a guilt trip, but you need to think about it all before you make up your mind on cheating. How would you feel if you found out that your partner has been cheating on you? How angry and disgusted would you feel if you could hear those words that are exchanged in the heat of the lusty moment? Would you ever forgive your partner or forget the words they spoke?

What would happen if you get caught?

You may have been careful to erase all the signs of the affair. No late night texts, no phone calls in the evening, meet only at lunch hours, and all the works.

But luck is fickle. And somehow, your partner may get to know that you cheated on them. How would they react? Your relationship may end for ever, and even if it doesn’t end, it’ll never ever be the same unless a miracle holds both of you together. Is it worth it?

Before you cheat on your partner, ask yourself if you’re ready to lose your relationship for an orgasm.

Cheating without cheating – The middle path

Now this may leave you more confused than ever. But the answer is simple. If you value your relationship, don’t cheat. Those few minutes of sex and orgasms are just not worth it.

If you do want to bring more pleasure and fun into your sex life, look for ways to keep the relationship exciting.

Fantasize together

If you and your partner trust each other, learn to be frank about each other’s sexual interests and talk about it while having sex. Talk about your fantasies even if it involves another person. It’ll help you get over the infatuation and bring both of you closer too.

Have an open relationship

You may be high school sweethearts and have always been in love. Now, ten or twenty years later, both of you may want more “opportunities” in bed. It may be the inquisitiveness or you may just want more fun. Speak to each other and look for ways to keep the relationship together, while having fun outside the relationship.

End the relationship

Sexual frustration and the urge to cheat on a lover can at times ruin perfectly happy relationships. If you see no way to keep the love alive, then end the relationship instead of cheating and breaking your partner’s heart. Make up your mind on the way forward and stick with your decision.

Should you cheat or not cheat? Avoid cheating and look for ways to bring that excitement into your own relationship in a manner that can keep both of you happy.

If you want a second opinion, cheat if it’s spontaneous, avoid it if it’s planned.

To cheat or not to cheat? Well, you know your options. Think about it and make up your own mind. But always remember to consider what you’d gain and what you’d lose before jumping into another bed.

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How To Have Sex As Often As You Want

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[kaset.] Global Orgasm – 22 December (Photo credit: kaset)

She doesn’t seem to be keen. When you touch her, she either pretends she is asleep or she tells you she is tired. Why does this happen? How to keep her interested again so that you can have sex as often as you want? Read on.

 

(1)   Getting wet is not all

 

When comes to sex, every woman is different. Some women can lubricate a lot while others do not. For this reason, you cannot rely on lubrication alone or how much she gets wet as the sole signal to judge whether she is ready for penetration. Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. The fact that she is getting wet is not a good excuse to skip foreplay.

 

How to recognize the signs that she is ready? When she is getting more and more aroused, her heart will beat faster and breathing get heavier causing her body to get tense up. More blood will flow to her genitals, ultimately triggering rhythmic muscle contractions in the vagina and other parts of her body. The skin on her face and chest may flush red. She may moan, pant or her face may take on a pained expression. Some women may emit a silky fluid (not the normal type of lubrication) often referred to as female ejaculation.

 

Before you see the above signs, you have to lay the groundwork and warm her up. You have to be patient. She needs a lot of kissing and tender loving care. She needs you to explore and tease her body to build up the tension and expectation. One of the sex tips you need to keep in mind is not to assume that just because she is wet that she is ready. Getting wet is only the beginning and not the end game.

 

(2)   It is not just about orgasm

 

Ideally it will be nice if she can have orgasm in every sexual encounter. In reality, sometimes she may not reach orgasm at all. This is not your fault and not hers. Lovemaking is, fundamentally, a present moment experience, with no pressure, free of any inhibitions and nagging thoughts. If you are too goal-oriented about achieving orgasm, you can only create unnecessary stress on yourself and her, diminishing the chances of actually reaching peak.

 

You cannot force a woman to reach orgasm. What a woman wants most is to be emotionally connected to her partner and the feeling of intimacy. What you can do, besides physically stimulating your woman, is to create a safe, comfortable and caring environment for her in which an orgasm may happen.

 

Each encounter does not have to be orgasmic. Sometimes it is nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together. Intercourse is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm.

 

Stop pestering her with words like “there yet?”. This can only turn her off. The pressure to perform for you can cause her to fake it just to stop you from asking. You can say words like “Do you like it? Here? There?” or “Harder?”.

 

(3)   Talk to her

 

This has to take place outside the bedroom. Those intimate moments are not the time to bring up any sexual issues. Be careful with what you have to say, no blaming, no accusing, just purely fact-finding. You can ask her some pointed questions such as “Are you tired or do I need some improvements?”  , “Do you need more foreplay?”  , or “Would a sensual massage help?”.

 

Great sex does not happen overnight. Bringing her to orgasm needs lot of patience and knowledge. You can get more ideas from here. Sometimes it can be as easy or simple as offering a little extra help, which you can find at this place.

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Sex Tips: How To Make Him Want You

English: Male erogenous zones includes the gen...
English: Male erogenous zones includes the genitals (penis, particularly in erect state; scrotum and testicles), the buttocks, the anus and the inner thighs. In the left image we see the genitals (with erect penis) and the inner thighs of a male and in the right image the buttocks and the anus of the same male. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If your sexual activity with your man is becoming dull and monotonous, what can you do to change this? Ever wonder how you can please your man in bed? How to spice things up to have the sexiest fun time ever with him? Wondering what turns a guy on in bed? How to make him desire you and want you more than ever? Read on.

 

(1)   Understand him

 

What better way to please a man than to find out what he likes? You can talk about your new moves in bed and find out if he likes them. By talking and listening to each other, both of you will be able to learn from each other. This will of course help both of you to please each other better and enjoy sex a lot more too.

 

Another way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction is to know where his erogenous zones are. His mouth is one of them. While making out, you suck his lower lip into your mouth and use your tongue tip to stroke up and down. This can make him feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth to all other parts of his body. Kissing the front of his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck, licking his nipples like an ice cream and so on are all the things that can contribute to his pleasure.

 

(2)   Be willing to try new things

 

You need to do something very, very bad and bold occasionally. How about having sex in a public place? The risk of getting caught can be very arousing. Exchanging sexual fantasies with your partner and acting out some of these scenarios or roles can be a great way to spice up sex. Every now and then try other positions rather than sticking with the tried and tested missionary. Always remember that when trying any new things, make sure both parties are willing to prevent one of you from being shocked by something unexpected.

 

(3)   Be confident

 

One of the ways to build confidence is to take care of your body by keeping fit, dress well and having a well-balanced diet. Wear your best night wear when you get into bed. Dress in comfortable lingerie or boxers that enhance your sexiness and make you look good. Men easily get aroused visually, so work on your magic by looking good for him. The better you look when you are about to have sex, the better, sex will become.

 

Lots of things can undermine a person’s confidence, but it often comes down to performance. He may worry about ejaculating too fast, you may be worrying about whether or when you will cum. What matters are not his or your performance, but the overall satisfaction and pleasure you both enjoy. Recognize that once in a while, things may not work up to your expectations and this is normal. You can learn something from this and the knowledge you gain over time will boost your confidence.

 

Another way to be confident is to be knowledgeable. You can read about sexuality matters from self-help guides to get some ideas on how to please your man and at the same time improve your sex life. When comes to sex, a man will really enjoy a woman to open up and feel comfortable in bed.

 

(4)   Take the initiative

 

When was the last time you initiated sex? Inside your mind, you may ask, “Who cares?” But he cares. Initiating is a clear way of indicating you enjoy having sex with him. This can be infectious as to making him feel the same way. Most guys really love their women to be a bit more aggressive, more obvious and more direct at times.

 

Be spontaneous because to many guys, the unplanned encounter with their women is still the best kind of sex. This means to be willing to get intimate with him at any moment. Your willingness to be spontaneous will tell that he is worth putting everything aside for under any conditions – good, bad or indifferent.

 

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