For Couples – How To Stay In Love

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Gone are those days when both of you were so passionately in love with each other. Both tried to impress each other; both would display the most desirable part and you were curious to explore each other physically and emotionally. When the relationship matures, priorities change as child-care responsibilities and effort to build up your career occupies a more important position. Both of you start to take each other for granted and as a result the intimate passion for each other goes downhill. But there are still ways for you to rekindle the flames of passion in your relationship.

 

(1)   Open Up To Each Other

 

The first step to get back that passion for each other is to have a good talk with each other, not just a shallow talk. This is very important because talking can bring both of you closer together; whether this takes place over the dinner table or in bed.

 

Spend at least five minutes to sit down together and talk about those funny and interesting things. Laugh at the same thing will break the ice and link you back to the emotional closeness with a partner.

 

Pillow talk is also a great way to build intimacy and passion with your partner. But don’t use pillow talk time to bring up issues in your relationship or to discuss chores, work, family or friends. Share each other’s fantasies, worries and fears. Also try talking dirty to each other to get some passion into your lives.

 

(2)   Utilize The 5 Senses Of Sight, Hearing, Touch, Smell And Taste

 

Wear a sexy nightwear. You can look good to each other by regular exercises. You can leave notecards with loving messages or even special innuendos in special places such as in a lunch box, the bathroom mirror, under the pillow, etc. Or, you can do this by texting. Sexy messages that indicate you have your partner in your mind all day long are bound to get you amazing results.

 

Use lightings that illuminate your bedroom with a soft, yellow glow. This will make your naked body look more radiant and beautiful. Watch porn/romantic movies or read the Kama Sutra together.

 

Compliment each other generously to show appreciation for effort in ‘investing’ in the relationship. Whisper in a soft husky voice and talk dirty to each other. Listen to mood music or any songs that turn you on, especially those songs which could have heard in one of your lovemaking sessions.

 

You can moan while cuddling or even while kissing. It is a great way to show your appreciation by letting your lover/partner knows that you are enjoying what is going on.

 

Give each other a hug or kiss at every opportunity. Such simple actions can evoke the mood for sex. Pamper your lover with a sensual massage. Touch each other’s erogenous zones before penetration.

 

Wear perfume behind the ears to smell fresh and nice. The smell of perfume can excite your partner and get him/her into the mood to make love. You can also use fragrant massage oils to rub each other for a few minutes before having sex to smell great and turn your partner on.

 

Body-paint each other with edible cream and take turns to lick the cream off each other’s body. A moderate amount of urine can heighten the pleasure if you want to be a little bit kinky in spicing things up. In daily life, include those foods that can increase passion into your diet, such as onion, grapes, oyster, avocado and water-melon.

 

(3)   Flirting Or Seducing

 

This can make a woman’s body to produce the hormone oxytocin, which can cause vibrating sensation when she is passionate. The bonding effect of this hormone can also draw her closer to you. So, do not hesitate to seduce her.

 

(4)   Pay Attention To Your Partner

 

You need to be physically and mentally focused on your partner during sex. Your partner needs your presence and certainly do not want to get this feeling that while you are lying beside her, but your mind is at somewhere else. Your emotional involvement is what your partner desires the most.

 

Be good to each other, love one another and talk openly, these are all keys to build a stronger relationship which will result in more frequent and better lovemaking. For more related tips to how to do this, click on Great Lover

 

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How To Bring The Sexy Back In Bedroom

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A dry spell in your sex life is not the end of the world. If you are in a relationship for a while, there is a big chance that you have experienced this more than once. You can always find ways to excite each other in bed and bring the glow back in your love life. To find out how you can do it, read below.

 

(1)   Communication is the key

 

It plays an important role in a relationship. Do you and your partner share intimate details and all those secret, naughty thoughts? Before you even get to bed, be willing to talk to each other about the little naughty things that can excite you now and then. One of the ways you can do this is to play a fun game of dirty truth or dare between you and your partner. Here are some questions you can ask each other:

 

(a)    Describe a situation or incident that made you feel horny

(b)   Which part of your partner’s body you like best

(c)    What should your partner wear to turn you on

(d)   What are both of your sexiest sexual fantasies

(e)    What is the weirdest sexual act you want to indulge in

(f)    Can you suck your partner’s toes and kiss all the way up to the inner thighs

(g)   Can you eat a melting chocolate off your girl’s boobs

(h)   Can you pass a candy to your partner using just the lips

(i)     Can you slip your hand into your partner’s jeans and keep it busy for a while

(j)     Can you stroke your partner’s tee shirt/pants until the tee shirt moves or the pants stiffens

 

(2)   Make yourself look sexy to each other

 

You can do this by being physically active. It will be best if you can do this together as a couple. Regular exercises can make you feel fit and healthy. The improved blood circulation from the workout can help men to keep it hard down there for a longer time (longer or stronger erection).

 

You can look good to each other by dressing well or in sexy ways, proper grooming, putting on perfume and keeping a healthy lifestyle of proper diet, sufficient sleep and cutting down on smoking and drinking. This can help you to feel and look sexy to each other.

 

Looking good can do wonder to your sex life. If you look better, you will feel better and be more confident about yourself when you are both naked.

 

(3)   Take things easy and slowly

 

Intercourse can only be enjoyable if you do not put pressure on yourself and/or your partner. Once in a while, your partner is not able to stay in the sexy mood for as long as it takes, she is not able to reach orgasm, or you wish you could have lasted a little longer. This is perfectly normal and it happens to every couple. If you or your partner is not in the mood, you do not need to do it. Give sex a break.

 

Instead just cuddle, kiss, touch or pamper each other with a massage to maintain the bond with each other. You can take the pressure off yourself by switching your focus to pleasuring your partner. By keeping yourself busy or occupied with her, you will have little time to worry about your own performance or whether you can get hard enough.

 

Giving yourself less pressure and more pleasure also require you to take things slowly. Foreplay always helps the guy hold on longer. Spend at least fifteen minutes on foreplay. You can make this more arousing to you and your partner by spicing it up with erotic massage, role-playing, oral sex, fingering her, dirty talking to each other, body-painting each other, or watching porn together. This will definitely give your little guy down there more time to warm yourself up for the act. When it is time, you can rest assured that he will be ready for action.

 

To read further on how you can make sex hotter and better, click on Couple Love Guide.

 

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Female Orgasm – How To Give A Woman Maximum Pleasure In Sex

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Do you want to do something new to surprise her sexually? Do you want to make her feel amazing and loved by means of some hot sexy ways? Are you looking for ways to do more in the bed that will make a big difference to her in terms of sexual pleasure? Here are some ways you can do to pleasure her so that you can make her totally satisfied after each intimate moment.

 

(1)   Get Her In Mood First

 

The best way to do this is to be romantic to her. Think outside the box by planning a date night that will blow her away, whether it is a concert with her favorite musician or a night out on the town at a romantic hotel. Think of the things that make her special, whether it is her love of classic cinema or her penchant for cooking, and then cater to those unique qualities. You can surprise her with slinky lingerie or simply tell her how sexy and beautiful you find her. Also, do anything you can to make her feel relaxed and feel good so that she has the capacity to get into the sexy mood.

 

(2)   Foreplay

 

If you want to get her in the mood for a steamy night, foreplay would be a good place to start.Women love foreplay! The more that you tease her the less chance you have of her leaving or stopping your progress, as long as your teasing is performed properly.

 

Always take things slow and never make any sudden movements, the idea is to move your hands and body slow and smooth while maintaining fluid motion; don’t do one thing for too long. The trick is to keep things happening faster than her mind can keep up, so as to build up the anticipation gradually.

 

Do not forget to keep talking, and always keep the conversation sexual. Whisper your comments into her ear and kiss her ear while you are at it; the ear is one of the best spots to kiss a woman to get her in the mood and keep her that way. The more you tease her the more you will be able to please her. She will be so aroused by the time you really start to pleasure her, she will be ready to explode!

 

(3)   Give Her Passionate Kisses

 

In order for your kisses to be passionate, you need to start with the passion long before your lips even touch. You draw her towards you by placing your hands around her waist. You look her in the eyes and hold her gaze. Say something sweet to her so that she can feel your passion.

 

When your lips meet, let her lead. Remember, feed off of what she gives. If she is coming at you full steam, you’d better not pull away like a punk. Get in there and give her the business. Meet and match her force. If she is swirling her tongue with yours, do the same. Tongue games can be fun, whether you are inside each other’s mouth or even outside of the lips. While you kiss her, you use your hands to gently touch and caress your partner’s back, arms or face.

 

(4)   Give Her An Erotic Massage

 

Do not rush into pleasuring her sexually, take your time; she will thank you later. Instead you pamper her with a sensual massage which can work like magic for getting a woman horny. But, you have to do it right. Start off by gently massaging her shoulders and hands. Try using some massage oil. Use the oil sparingly, and all over her body (except her private areas). Get her feet, calves, thighs, back and arms.

 

When your partner is at their most relaxed state, you might consider asking her to roll over onto her back. This is where you can lightly tease and rub her most sensitive areas. As you are nearing the end of your massage, pay special attention to her thighs. Sensual massages will turn on a woman every time.

 

During the whole session, do stay in communication with your partner and make sure everything you do feels good for her. Find a steady rhythm that your partner enjoys, and graduate from short, light touching to deeper and longer strokes. Use your bodyweight instead of just your arm strength to give a firm and even massage.

 

You do not have to depend only on your hands to give a hot erotic massage. Incorporate the use of massage oils so your hands can glide easily across her body. Consider using a variety of massage-enhancing tools or sex toys like a vibrator.

 

(5)   Give Her Oral Pleasure

 

Being enthusiastic about oral sex will make her feel great about herself and will get her in the mood. The tongue can be used as a mighty tool in absolutely pleasuring her inside and out. She will reach her peak of ecstasy if you stimulate her clitoris with a flick of your tongue. Take your time with it. Focus on what she likes and learn what she doesn’t like.

 

You can enhance your oral performance by heating up or cooling down the temperature in your mouth. You can try drinking some tea or sucking on an ice cube, for example. When your mouth and tongue make contact with her vagina, it will give her chills. You can either discuss this with your girl beforehand or surprise her in the middle of an oral session. Also play with the timing by shocking her with the change of temperature for a few seconds or dragging it out for a few minutes.

 

If you and your girl are itching for some oral novelty, try buying tasty oral sex creams or delicious oral gels. These products bring some flavor to your oral task and are very easy to apply. You can choose from different flavors such as cherry or peach. This sweet treatment will get you both ready for a night of oral pleasure.

 

(6)   Have Spontaneous Sex

 

You can always have good sex, but if you want to achieve great sex you have to be spontaneous. Don’t always have the times and place you want to get busy planned. That takes some of the pleasure and fun out of it. Surprise her sometimes with an unplanned sexual adventure; you are not limited to just pleasuring her in the bedroom. You can surprise her by showing her at her office for a lunch time quickie or drop in on her while she is taking her morning shower.

 

Venture outside of the bedroom if you want to give her absolute pleasure. You may be breaking the law with this fun tactic, but if you are careful, the rewards are quite nice. Try stopping somewhere during the drive home from dinner and have a little session in the car. Or perhaps you and your mate can catch a bad movie no one is going to see on a weekday — odds are you will be the only two in the theater, which will give you enough privacy.

 

What’s more spontaneous than interrupting a good night’s sleep? Wake her up with the art of seduction in the middle of the night. It is totally unexpected. Let’s just hope your woman is not the type to be cranky when she is sleeping. If she is, maybe you should just wake her up in the morning an hour or so before your normal wake-up time. It is not as exciting, but still accomplishes the idea of spontaneous since it’s not the typical bedroom romp a little after dinner and before you go to sleep.

 

Follow these tips on how to pleasure a woman and you will be amazed at how responsive she will be!  If you need some more tips, you can get them at Great Lover.

 

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For Couples – How To Make Sex Enjoyable And Satisfying

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Having regular sex is good for us. It increases our sense of well-being and it is good for our health. Sex can help boost our immune system, and even our lifespan. It also decreases depression and enhances happiness But how satisfied are you with the sex you are having, and how can you increase your satisfaction for you and your partner? Here are the ways to pump up the passion and have better sex for you and your partner.

 

(1)   Open Communication

 

She likes long foreplay sessions. You tend to rush into sex. She longs for wet, sensual kisses, but you prefer dry, chaste pecks. You want sex twice a day. But she can’t handle it more than three times a week. You are adverse to oral sex but this is something she wants.

 

It is very normal for couples to have incompatible sexual styles. But when comes to talking about sex, people tend to be very sensitive because they are afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings. But both of you are not going to get what you want in bed unless you ask for it.

 

So how do you tell your partner what you want without bruising his or her ego? The best way to do is to talk with your partner when you are not having sex and to communicate your needs in a non-confrontational and loving way. Reinforce the positive aspects of the relationship, and particularly the sexual relationship.

 

You can say something like – “I would love if we ……” or “Could we try this?” Be sure to look out for nonverbal cues too. For example, if she keeps touching you gently, you do the same way to her.

 

Before you can tell your partner what you want him/her to do in bed, you need to know what you like. For women, they need to explore their own bodies by masturbating, or using a vibrator and reading some self-help books on how to reach orgasm. You can also read books about sexual positions and sexual fantasies and see what you feel comfortable with.

 

Once you have figured out what you want, you share it or better still show it to your partner. You may do this by way of mutual masturbation to show each other how you like to be touched. By being open to each other about your needs, your partner will most likely be pleased with you wanting him/her and wanting to be close to him/her in a sexual way.

 

(2)   Face Up To Your Problems, Issues And Concerns

 

If your partner’s smell is turning you off, suggest taking a bath together before making love. If you crave for more foreplay, tell him to slow down. If you or your partner is adverse to oral sex, shaving your hair down there could be enticing and erotic. Doing mutual oral sex can also help to encourage and/or enable him/her to satisfy your needs.

 

If you are experiencing erectile problems, you should speak to an urologist and a cardiologist about the problem to obtain the appropriate therapy. If you suspect the pills you take are hurting your libido, you need to speak to your doctor about lowering the dose, changing the medication to one that has less side effects and possibly adding another medication, hormone, or sexual enhancement cream.

 

A person’s testosterone (an essential hormone that contributes to libido) level can decline due to aging, menopause or after giving birth. If you experience lower libido due to either of one of these factors, you should speak to your doctor to come up with solutions.

 

If you always feel tired or do not have enough time for sex, you can get creative with the hours or minutes you do have, or you can schedule sex.

 

If she has difficulty in achieving orgasm during intercourse, you have to spend more time on foreplay and especially on clitoral stimulation. You have to stimulate her clitoris by giving her oral, or a hand job, getting into positions that increase clitoral stimulation and even consider incorporating a vibrator.

 

If she is having low lubrication due to not feeling aroused enough, or due to reduced estrogen level after pregnancy or during and after menopause, besides spending more time on foreplay, you can consider using some water-based lubricant such as Astroglide or K-Y.

 

If you are concerned your penis size may not be enough to satisfy her, you can consider using a penis pump. This can make your penis bigger, temporarily (which is during intercourse). But at the end of the day, it is not about your size, it is more about how you are able to use some of the sexual techniques to satisfy her. Also according to surveys, only 7% of women feel size is critical to their pleasure and the majority of women attach greater importance to passion than size. It is passion that keeps women coming back for more.

 

If you or your partner feels she is a bit loose down there, you can get her to strengthen the tone of her pelvic muscles by doing Kegel exercises. The aim of this exercise is to increase the pelvic floor muscle tone which helps to reduce looseness. Get her to practice some squeeze/hold/release of her pelvic muscles for five to ten seconds, three times a day. If she is not sure about her pelvic muscles, ask her to insert a finger into her vagina and squeeze the surrounding muscles against her finger. She will be squeezing the right muscles if her finger feels tight.

 

(3)   Cultivate The Sense Of Feeling Good About Yourself

 

When it comes to having good sex, sometimes your thoughts get in your own way. Especially when those thoughts are negative about your weight, your physical condition and about how your body looks to your partner while you are having sex. A negative body image can distract you from having satisfying sexual experiences.

 

What can you do? One way to help shed a negative body image while boosting your sex life is to get regular exercise. Exercise can help you not only feel better about your body but also to increase your stamina as well as improve your circulation. Good blood flow is important to sexual satisfaction because good orgasms rely on blood flow to the genitals. Try practicing yoga, walking or swimming for 30 minutes every day to see positive effects on your body and on those negative thoughts.

 

Want to boost your self-esteem? Police your mind. Shut down any negative thoughts you have about yourself, and focus on the things that are great about you. Your sex life will thank you.

 

(4)   Strengthen Emotional Connection With Her

 

The emotional relationship between partners also has a great effect on a woman’s sexual satisfaction. The emotional relationship is the connection that a woman has and experiences with her partner and it is critical. Women perceive and experience sex in terms of a context, and by that I mean the relationship that they have with their partner. Women have difficulty separating sex from emotions such as closeness, attachment, trust, love and support. If a woman is not connected emotionally to her partner, sex suffers; she is less inclined to be sexual, and thus is less satisfied.

 

So while women can have sex, even enjoy sex, on a particular encounter or occasion; but in order for her to perceive overall sexual satisfaction in her life and relationship, she needs to feel emotionally connected to her partner.

 

How to get this emotional connection with her? You can do this by trying to look things at her view point so that you are able to share her feelings. You also need to listen to her, and at times to bare your own feelings. In this way, trust, comfort and ease with each other will happen, which is the essence for great sex.

 

The ways to sexual satisfaction are being able to communicate, to feel self-confident, stable, secure and good about yourself, to be emotionally close to her and to be willing to face up your problems by looking for ways to resolve them either by yourself or through professional help.

A woman who is satisfied will tend to enjoy sex and likely crave for more. Therefore if you want to have more sex, you have to satisfy her first. For more tips on how you can do this, click on Eternal Flame

 

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For Couples – How To Increase Sex Drive

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You used to have sex three to four times per week. Now it is about one for every ten to twelve days. For some odd reasons, the act of doing anything sexual does not interest you or your lover. The horniness is no longer there and sex drive is declining. It reaches the point where one of you almost has to beg for sex. What more can be done to increase the desire for sex for both of you? You can actually do a lot to boost libido and keep you and your partner happy in the bedroom with the following tips. If they do not help, you may need sex therapy with a professional to make sex work for both of you.

 

(1)   Self-Discovery And Self-Stimulation

 

You need to learn how to identify the pleasant, sensuous and sexy feelings and identify the situations that make you feel this way. You just need to pay attention to what your brain and body are saying to you naturally during the day and night.

 

Maybe you have simply gotten tired of doing the same thing in the bedroom. By experimenting on your own time and at your own pace (by way of masturbation or self-stimulation), you may discover a few erogenous zones, some unusual sensations or new moves that you enjoy.

 

Sex toys such as vibrators, dildos, ben-wa balls, ticklers or restraints can be used as alternatives to hand stimulation and to achieve variety in types of stimulation. This method is also applicable to guys. He can press a vibrator against his body from head to toe to discover on his own which body parts or areas are his hot spots.

 

(2)   Communicate For Better Understanding And For Ways To Spice Things Up

 

Open communication to each other is very important. Exchange with each other what you like and dislike. Be honest if you are experiencing a low sex drive or if you wish your partner has more sexual desire. Be open about your inhibitions and what you think the problem might be.

 

This communication is also a good opportunity for both of you to discuss about how to spice things up, or to add a little novelty into your love life. This can be doing something unusual outside the bedroom too such as going for a hike in the wild or doing bungee jump. For indoor activities, this can be having sex in positions that you have never tried, to make love in places you have never done before, have sex in the middle of the afternoon or in the morning, engaging in some role-playing, adding a few props or costumes, or adding some gels, lotions, massage oils to enhance sensation.

 

(3)   Learn To Relax

 

Too much stress increases the stress hormone cortisol, which causes testosterone (which plays an important role in sexual desire) to plummet. Find a way to tune out for fifteen minutes a day, whether through meditation, yoga, deep breathing exercises (inhale through nose and exhale through mouth for ten times a day), chilling to music, or learning tai-chi. It will be ideal if your partner can join you in these relaxation activities. You can exchange massage with your partner. Massage can improve sexual arousal particularly if you are stressed, worried or angry.

 

(4)   Set The Mood

 

Everything starts from the mind because the brain is the main sexual organ. Reading erotica or watching a sexy soap creates arousing chemical changes in your brain that can increase desire. Search for things that affect your senses pleasurably. Try different stimuli such as aromas and scents, flowers and candles, running water and hot tubs, different types of music, even incense.

 

Experiment with the feel of soft fabrics against your skin, wearing sexy lingerie, buying clothes in colors that appeal to you. Watch movies with erotic or romantic themes. Or experiment with quite lush or exotic restaurants. Trying cooking special dinners for two at home.

 

Spending time each day touching and cuddling each other can boost oxytocin (feel-good hormone) levels and make you feel not only closer to your partner but more relaxed during sex. This simple gesture can also help to reset your brain and body to learn to enjoy sex again.

 

(5)   Exercise Together With Your Partner

 

Sex drive often wanes when you are not feeling good about yourself and your body. Exercise and weight loss can help you to feel good and boost your body image. Aerobic workouts (running, biking, swimming, weight training) help to improve blood flow to sex organs, boost your mood by pumping up the feel-good brain chemicals called endorphins. An increase in testosterone levels about one hour after working out can also leave you feeling sexier. Do avoid overstraining yourself because extreme exercise can actually lower testosterone levels.

 

Have your wife engaged in Kegel exercises by working on her pelvic floor muscles (those which control urine flow). This can help to increase libido and make her more aware of the pleasurable feeling from sex. To do this, have her act as if she is stopping her urine halfway. Have her to squeeze or contract the pelvic muscles and hold there for ten seconds and then release for ten seconds before resuming to the squeeze/hold/release action.  Have her do this for three to four times a day.

 

(6)   Eat Well

 

Eating a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean proteins helps keep you fit and increase your energy and libido. Specifically, you can include food items such as oysters, celery, banana, avocado, nuts, eggs, garlic, scallops, pumpkin seeds, chocolate, licorice and ginger which are thought to boost libido.  Spicy foods such as chili are believed to increase sexual desire by increasing heart rate and causing your body to release endorphins, the same chemicals that your body produces after exercise. Though there is no medical proof that they can increase libido, but they could work because of the placebo effect.

 

(7)   Consult Your Doctor

 

If you have any difficulty in the bedroom (pain, low desire, vaginal dryness), bring it up with your doctor before it derails your love life. Certain medication such as antidepressants, birth control pills can reduce libido. Discuss with your doctor to see if there are any way to alleviate this problem.

 

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