How To Get And Use Sex Toys For Beginners




If you have never used sex toys you may find them intimidating. This is especially so for people with little or no sexual experience. You can use sex toys to explore your body before choosing to become sexually active. What are the good sex toy choices for beginners or people who have little or no sexual experience?


Penis sleevePenis sleeve

Penis sleeve

This is a male sex toy. It is a tube made of cyber skin or other soft material that slides over the penis shaft and is supposed to mimic the feeling of a vagina or mouth. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, a penis sleeve is a good choice. Rub a little water-based lubricant on the shaft before you slip your penis through the sleeve and glide it up and down manually. You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have. Some have textured lining for extra stimulation.


Penis ring

Penis ring



The ring works by constricting the flow of blood out of the penis to help the user achieves a firmer or harder and longer lasting erection. For beginners, it is advisable to use adjustable and simple rings. Some rings come with buckles and snaps. If you are using them, just be careful not to let your pubic hair get caught in the snaps.


If you are using an adjustable ring, open it up all the way, slip it over the penis and behind the scrotum and then tighten it. Once you have gotten the ring on, you can masturbate all the way to orgasm and ejaculation. If you feel any discomfort, remove the ring. Whichever type of penis ring you choose to use, do not leave it on for more than 20 minutes. Once you are comfortable with using the penis ring on your own, you can let your partner put the ring on you as part of the sex play.


Clitoral vibrator

Clitoral vibrator


This is the best option for a girl if she does not want to have any insertion at all or does not want to stretch her vagina too much. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation. This is because the clitoris which is packed with numerous sensitive nerve endings is responsible for most female orgasms. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrator than other kinds of sex toys because it can provide some of the best orgasms.


Small vibrator

Small vibrator


This is a good choice for women who are using a vibrator for the first time to insert into themselves. This kind of vibrator is even thinner than a tampon so that it does not hurt when a woman push it into herself. A good thing about small vibrator is that it can fit in the purse so that she can take it with her wherever she goes.


Bullet vibrator attaches to penis ring

A more versatile type of small vibrator is the bullet style vibrator which can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina. Some bullet style vibrators can be attached on penis rings and used for couple’s pleasure.







Anal plug

Anal plug


This is a good choice if you are new to anal sex. Whether you are enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, this toy can give you just enough stimulation without being painful. Make sure you apply water-based lubricant on this toy before inserting it into the anus.



Special toy cleaner

Toy maintenance


To keep your toys in proper condition, it is better to clean them with a mild soap or special sex toy cleaner before and after use. Avoid using strong detergents because they can breakdown the toy material. For battery-operated toys, take out the batteries after using them. Rinse water-proof toys with hot water. For those that are electrical or not water-proof, clean them with a soapy wet cloth. Dry them thoroughly after cleaning. Most germs cannot live on a dry surface.


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The Art Of Touching – How To Make A Woman Orgasm




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Where are the female hot spots to touch on if you want to turn a girl on? One of women’s biggest complaints is that men often go straight for the breasts or other private parts and spend little or no time exploring other parts of their bodies. What most guys do not realize is that there are more erogenous spots they can explore to get women aroused. If you want to get her in the mood, you have to stimulate some of her often-neglected body parts. Read on to discover her other sensuous body parts.


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(1)    Scalp


The scalp is covered with nerve endings that make it super-sensitive to touch. A good scalp rub can both release tension and increase blood flow. This will definitely flood her body with the feel-good hormones dopamine and serotonin.


(2)    Ears


Touch or massage the rim of her ear between your thumb and forefinger with your fingers. As she responds, graze the ridge of her outer ear with the tip of your nose. She can feel your breath and hear your whisper as you describe to her in great details everything you are about to do to her. The sense of anticipation may be as exciting to her as the act itself.


(3)    Lips


Lips remain one of the most erotic areas of a woman’s body. It is no secret that women equate a good kisser with an especially good lover. Kissing is your entrance exam for the rest of her body. To rev things up, you can vary the strength and intensity of your kiss. You softly lick her upper lip or tug it gently between your lips.


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(4)    Neck


The neck is very sensitive to touch and kiss because the skin is thin in this area and the nerves and blood vessels are closer to the surface. The back of her neck is also another part you should not miss. You can build up the pleasure by gently touching and kissing her from her hair line down to her shoulders. It will make her reach dizzying heights and pleasure.


(5)    Area between collarbone and top of cleavage


This region is more sensitive than the bottom of the cleavage. Stimulate this area using the pads of your fingers.


(6)    Areola


This area responds to very light touch. For women with smaller nipples, this area is far denser in nerve endings than the nipples themselves. Simply run your lips or fingers across the areola can cause it to tense up pleasurably. To prompt the greatest sensation, wait until the aerola tenses up and then gently stretch it between your fingers.


(7)    Side breast


This is an often overlooked but extremely sensitive area. While women with bigger boobs can find that their nipples are less responsive, the sides of their breasts are highly sensitive to any stimulation. Stroke along the length of the side breast with your fingers and then move into a circular pressure, as this will increase the flow of oxytocin to heighten the intensity of her orgasm.


(8)    Back


Knead the muscles between her shoulder blades and spine and follow with light fingertip strokes. As you get lower and lower down the back, the nerves become more sensitive. This is an area where a guy places his protective hand on, which most women love it because it shows that he feels very strongly about her. By kissing or licking down the spine to end up with a kiss on her lower back will definitely get her into the mood for more.


(9)    Belly


Stroking or even massaging the belly can be an erotic experience for some women. The thought of you moving farther south can be downright exciting, likely causing her vaginal muscles to contract from the anticipation, boosting her arousal and possibly leading to orgasm without direct genital contact.


(10)  Hands


Her palm, fingers and the inner folding between the upper and lower arm are very sensitive to stimulation. You can arouse a woman by running your fingers along her fingers, palm as that will make her feel relaxed and ready for a sexy rendezvous ahead. Some women find the inner folding of the hand especially exciting and pleasurable when showered with gentle touch or kisses, because the skin is thin in this area.


 (11)   Buttocks


I love curvy buttocks! Lots of women like it when you lightly spank and squeeze their buttocks. Some even like their buttocks to be licked, sucked and penetrated (with fingers, penis or both). If you shower her behind with unsolicited attention, you will be rewarded with many favors from her.


  (12)  Legs


Her toes, ankles, the sides of her feet, back of her knees and inner thighs are the sensitive spots on her legs. There is nothing more seductive than a foot massage. Pay extra attention to the pleasure points such as her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet. Some women love having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so ask her if she likes it before putting them in your mouth.

Because of all the nerve endings behind the knees, some women find it very pleasuring when you gently lick or nibble on the back of her knees.


Touching a woman’s inner thighs without touching her private parts is the most sensual tease that is sure to get her all charged up. Stroke her thighs in the direction of her vagina, but pull away before you reach it. Breathe on her or brush your fingers very close will awaken the skin. This will transmit a different kind of sensation than if you are actually making contact.


If you have been spending a few minutes each on every of her sensuous body parts as listed above, by now, she should be begging for you to do more to bring her over the edge of orgasm. If you are keen for more ideas to arouse her further to orgasm, read on from Make a Woman Orgasm and Her Best Lover.

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Giving Her The Best Orgasm She Ever Had




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If you want to please a woman, you have to make sex better for her. If she is satisfied, she will have orgasms more often which means you will have better sex more often too. Follow these steps to help your wife or girlfriend reach orgasm as often as she can.


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(1)   Start with kissing


Before you do anything, make sure the surrounding temperature is not too hot or too cold. Even a slight chill can hold off an orgasm. Start kissing her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing because it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Deep French kissing can be teaser to what you are going to do next when you are between her legs.


Kiss her sensitive spots (lips, neck, ear lobes). Move your lips slowly towards the side of her neck and kiss softly. Kiss those erogenous zones on either side of her throat. Gently scratch her back as you kiss her and softly but firmly slide your hand up under her hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze. Move your way down her collarbone to the indent located below her neck. Kiss this nerve-dense region. Work your way towards the part of her neck, below her earlobes. This area is full of sensitive, pleasure-producing nerve endings.


Once you have been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt and circle back to her stomach. Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair.


(2)   Move to her breasts


Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing down to her breasts, kissing the upper area and still rubbing her lower body with your hands. While you are kissing her, reach behind and unhook her bra.


Do not just go direct to her nipples. Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck. Though nipple stimulation works, but it is much more effective to tease around them first as well as other part of her body before reaching for her breasts.


Lift her breasts when you caress them and touch them softly. With your thumb and index finger, you gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and anti-clockwise. Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them under your palms. Now, with your thumb and forefinger, you gently pull on her nipples but never pull down, Switch around the above movements to see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.


As she gets aroused, her nipples will become flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors will become primed for greater pleasure and pressure. You can start gently nibbling on her nipples or using a little more suction or pressure. A slightly firmer touch can be very pleasurable for a woman if she is already aroused. If you start out with intense pinching or firm sucking before she is fully and completely aroused, you are very likely to turn her off.


(3)   Heading downwards


As you move down to her stomach, you kiss every inch of the area below her breasts. Kiss her on the mouth again while you take off her pants. But not her panties yet! Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, you kiss every inch of it and working your way up to her inner thigh. While doing this, you can rub her clitoris. The friction caused by the brushing of the panties fabrics against her clitoris can start to make her feel the heat. Then go back to her left leg and do it all over again!


(4)   Clitoral stimulation


At this stage, she will be begging you to rip her panties off and give her more. Next, you pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris and position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move your tongue in a sweeping motion from side to side. You can also lick her in either clockwise or anti-clockwise motion. In between licking of her clitoris, you lick the rest of her vulva as well. Her vaginal lips and opening have super sensitive nerves that feel extremely pleasuring to her when you run your tongue over them. As she gets more aroused, you can take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it. While licking her clitoris, you can at the same time pinch and rub her nipples gently.


(5)   Get into position


If you are doing the above steps correctly, she should be having at least one orgasm. At this stage, her body will be very responsive to further stimulation and she has the capability of getting multiple orgasms. By now, you can choose to enter her as deeply as you want in any of the 3 following sex positions.


(a)    Enter her from behind (doggy style)

(b)   Woman-on-top

(c)    Missionary with pillow support or with a wedge under her pelvis region with her legs resting on your shoulders


So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes and will get her more turned on than she ever had before. Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have not only one intense orgasm, but lots of them as well. If you are with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make her be the one begging you to be inside her and not the other way round.


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Fun Things To Do Tonight As A Couple






After a while, sex can get boring and predictable. Knowing exactly how long the foreplay will last, what positions you are going to use and how long it is going to take for your partner to reach orgasm becomes all too familiar. To break out of the sex rut, couples should try new things in the bedroom. This can improve sex life and bring you closer together. If you are looking for some ideas to spice sex up, here are a few to get you started.


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(1)   Questions and answers


Your girl lies naked in bed and you stand at the doorway to the bedroom. She will test how well you know her by asking you questions about herself. These questions can range from sexy (what is her favorite sex position) to personal (name her dream vacation spot).


For each correct answer, you will get to move one step closer to her. If you give the wrong answer, you will take a step back. Once you correctly answer enough questions to reach the bed, the teasing, the sexual tension and expectation will drive up your lust. In the process, you will get to know your woman better.


(2)   Make sex tasty


You can use food to rub on another person, certain vegetables for inserting into sexy places. You have to make sure that the food will not irritate sensitive skin or cause any allergic reactions. Some of the best foods for sexual activities are strawberries, whip cream and chocolate syrup.


You can make a game out of this by applying different food to various parts of the body and get your blindfolded partner to seek out the whereabouts of the food using hands and mouth. The different sensations on the tongue and on the skin can be almost unbearable, in a good way. The objective is to stimulate as many senses as possible during sex.


(3)   Pamper her feet


Many women enjoy having their feet massaged and licked. At the end of the day, you offer to rub her feet. Few women can resist this. If you have foot fetish or you want to try something new, you can let her rub her feet on your face, or along your dick, or pinch your balls with her toes.


(4)   Orgasm competition


Lie side by side naked and start to pleasure yourselves. Whoever comes first gives the other person manual or oral stimulation until he/she reaches the finish line. The act of masturbating in front of each other can draw you closer together because it is normally something you do when you are alone. Allowing another person to watch you makes you feel vulnerable and increases the intimacy with your partner.


(5)   Hide-and-seek

Taking this childhood game to new levels can add plenty of spice to your sex life. One of you will hide and the other will search. To give a sexy twist to this game, you can offer favors if you are being found in a certain time. Or better yet, the sooner you are found, the better will be the favors.


(6)   Rape fantasy play


Though rape is a serious subject, some women get completely turned on by the thought of being overpowered. This kinky foreplay technique will make your love life fantastic. You “break in” to the house and intrude into the bedroom, which can be both frightening and arousing to her at the same time. As you “threaten” her and she begs for mercy, she will be getting more and more aroused.


(7)   Lover’s lane


You and your partner will find a place around your town where you can park and not be bothered. One of you will pretend to be a virgin and have no idea on how to please the other. After you have parked, the supposedly ignorant one will be told and show in explicit details in how to please him/her. This can help couples that are struggling with their sex lives to know each other’s desires better.


(8)   Let her dominate you


She will tie you up with scarves, belts or a silk tie. This is a good chance for her to touch you the way you like. If she is not sure, this is a great time for her to figure out by herself. Through asking questions, listening and observing your response, she will get to have a better understanding of what arouses you a lot.


Another way is she will blindfold you and then tease you all over using a series of sexy objects such as caressing your penis with a silky thong, drizzling chocolate sauce over your chest and then lick it up, rolling a beaded necklace over your upper thighs. You will guess what she is stroking you with, and she will stick to a particular item until you give the right answer.


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The Sexy Things Women Love





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Do you know what turns a woman on? What makes her a bit of a cold fish in bed? How to bring sexy back into your bedroom? How to make her love sex again so that you can have as much as you want to? You can have the sex life you want and bring the pleasure back into lovemaking with these tips.


(1)   Make her feel at ease


One of the reasons she never initiates sex is because of her fear of rejection. For a woman, self-esteem is one of the most important things to have in order to feel at ease when she is in bed with a man. To reduce her anxieties you need to do what women do when they want sex.


You need to show her you are up for it by sending out subtle signals. This will mean creating an atmosphere where she is quite sure she will not be rejected. This can be as simple as lighting a couple of candles, or dimming the lights, playing her favorite sexy music, feeding her chocolate-flavored cream or strawberries and talking dirty to her. The key is in creating a relaxed but suggestive atmosphere conducive for a night of wild sex.


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(2)   Be creative


After a few years, it is easy to find the whole game of sex monotonous if you do not create new ways to enjoy each other in bed. When one of you get bored, you may have trouble getting an erection or she may have difficulty in reaching orgasm. The best way to overcome this is to be opened to each other’s new ideas about the things both of you like to try.


To prevent being knocked back, you can turn your requests into a game. You can alternate weeks of who is responsible for coming up with ideas, fantasies and new positions. This way your partner will not feel pressurized. If she gets stuck, there is wide choice of sex manuals, magazines and videos available for both of you to browse.


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(3)   Give her oral pleasure


If she does not orgasm often, this may be due to insignificant stimulation. No matter how much she wants it, she may be too shy to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down there. In order to get her off, head south. One study found women who experience multiple orgasms usually have the first orgasm after cunnilingus, rather than intercourse or manual pleasure.


The tongue is the perfect instrument for stimulating the clitoris. Instead of making her beg for oral sex, learn to be best in performing cunnilingus and give it to her without her ever having to ask. To spice things up, you can try different positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. You can also get an oral kit to enhance your performance. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more.


(4)    Be romantic


It is easy to take your partner for granted if both of you are too busy with the daily routines. Make an arrangement to set aside some moments for some dirty romancing. Strike a deal with one of the many relatives you are always in contact with: one Saturday a month, they watch your kids for the night while you and your wife go on a date and you return the favor the next Saturday.


Romance her as you would during courtship days. Her identity is more than just wife or mother and she needs the assurance of your love as well. Intimacy is often more important to a woman than sex. Letting her feel important as a woman and person, and helping her feel emotionally close to you, is what that can fuel her drive to have more sex with you.


(5)   Getting fit together


Working out with your woman and treating this activity as fat-burning foreplay can raise her dopamine (good-feeling hormone) levels and ease her anxieties. Besides this, your post-exercise sweat will contain traces of androstadienone, a testerone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.


Use these tips to tune in with each other’s needs and what follows next will be more explosive than both of you ever imagine.


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