How To Turn A Woman On And Have Sex As Often As You Want

 

 

 

 

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What turns a woman the most in bed? What are the ways to turn a woman on? In bed, what do women like to do the most? Read on.

(1)   Be Romantic

Every woman craves romance, whether they are young or old. It is perhaps the best and simplest gift that a man can give to a woman. This maybe something physical such as pampering her with gifts or can be a thoughtful gesture. This means it may not cost much. You do not necessary spend a bomb to turn a woman on unless she is a gold-digger. Here are ways you can be a romantic partner.

(a)    Do spend time together and one of the ways is to learn something new together. You can consider signing up for golf, cooking or some other type of lessons. You can do workouts together at the gym or park.

(b)   Surprise her with gift and make sure you know what she wants

(c)    Every day you should make an effort to look for some good things to say about her

(d)   Good communication is also very important. There is a need to talk about expectations such as how do you want improve sex to be better, what kind of fantasizing in the bedroom is alright for her, what is your definition of a good foreplay, what kind of sex positions would you like to try, how do you like to be touched before, during and after sex. You should also make an effort to resolve any underlying grievances which may hurt romance as well as intimacy.

(e)    Do something special and out of ordinary (be unpredictable in a pleasant way), such as pamper her with an unsolicited back rub/foot rub or even a sensual massage.

(f)    You accompany her to her-type of movie, even if you are not a fan.

(g)   Do one of her chores and don’t point it out. Many wives are secretly turned on when their husbands offer to help do household chores.

(h)   Remember the important dates such as birthday, anniversary or Valentine

 

(2)   Build The Right Mood

In order to turn a woman on, you have to work on her mind which controls her sexual desire. Here are some ways you can do to create mentally arousing moments with her.

(a)    The first thing you need to do is to create a romantic environment. You will go about gathering what you will need to set the mood. The mood you want to create is up to you. Nature sounds, ambient music, and meditation music will all help to create an atmosphere of relaxation. You could also choose music designed to stimulate and arouse. Dim the lights as much as possible when preparing for a massage. Candlelight is a good choice as long as you take safety precautions. Keep all candles on a sturdy surface far from flammable objects. Lava lamps, lighted tabletop fountains, room lights on a dimmer switch, and night lights are all good lighting options.

 

Sensual massage can be very relaxing and help a lot in getting her in the mood. Lavender, patchouli, ylang ylang, and sandalwood are all good scents for your sensual arsenal. Choose a massage oil to use as a carrier for your essential oils and to use on your partner’s skin. Coconut oil, food-grade almond oil, and jojoba oil are all safe to use both outside and inside the body.

(b)   You also need to make an effort to get her feel comfortable in sex. This can be done by saying something that is comforting. The best way is you can say it in a way to make her feel sexy (such as complimenting her body). You can also put her at ease and help to distract any tension in her mind by engaging in dirty-talking

(c)    You can make the atmosphere more lively and fun by playing some sex games. Here are 3 bedroom game ideas you can consider.

 

(i)                 Both of you will write down about the 5 or more fantasies that can be acted out together at the time you are playing the game. If your fantasy requires props have them at hand. Take turns each by pulling out one at a time and then acting out the fantasy.

(ii)               Both of you will take turns picking an area of your body and letting your partner spend 60 seconds lavishing that spot with sensual attention: kisses, licking, nibbling, caressing. This will help you to learn what areas your partner is dying to have you pay more attention to and can let you know exactly what she wants, so there is no more excuses.

(iii)             You can try strip poker. In this game, the winner or loser will have to do perform some sexual acts. Of course you have to make sure that it is something that both of you would enjoy. That way, no matter who wins or loses, you will both really win.

 

(3)    Spice Things Up

Doing the same thing over and over again can kill the mood over the long run. This means at certain point in time, you have to do something different. Here are some ways to spice sex up.

(a)    You can add in lotions, oils, specially-designed love cushion and sex toys to heat things up a little.

(b)   You can get a copy of the Kama Sutra and experiment with some unique sex positions that both of you might enjoy.

(c)    You can take turns in letting each other to take control during intercourse. Some women have this fantasy to be the dominating one during intercourse.

(d)   You can talk about your fantasies. For a start you can try some light bondage, and when both of your comfort level increases you can bring out some more of your kinky fetishes and lusty desires.

(e)    You can make a video together while having sex. You can delete it after the act if having a sex tape freaks her out, or make sure it is locked up in a safe place. Watching both of you having sex in the video and having sex at the same time can be a huge rush for anyone.

(f)    You can watch porn together. Porn can be enjoyable for both sexes. Get into bed together and watch a few porn movies with a decent storyline. It will keep both of you engrossed and wet. Stroke each other and have sex while watching the movie. If you like it, talk about the movie with each other while watching it and visualize sexy fantasies with each other

(g)   You can read an erotic story (such as 50 Shades Of Grey) together. The mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. Create fantasies and imagine it together. It will be a bigger turn on than you think.

(h)   Have sex in different places and different times of the day.

(i)     You can get better in your oral sex, probably by reading up on how you can improve your oral skill or by playing an oral sex game to warm things up, or by adding in some tools to improve your performance.

(j)     You can consider role playing. Here are some suggestions for sexy role-plays ideas.

 

(i)                 School Teacher and Student

(ii)                Flight Attendant and Passenger

(iii)               Homeowner and Plumber

(iv)               Police Officer and Burglar

(v)                Firefighter and Frightened Citizen

(vi)               Photographer and Model

(vii)              Lady Gaga and Her Little Devil

(viii)             Artist and model

(ix)               Master and domestic maid

(x)                Doctor and patient/nurse  or patient/nurse

(xi)               Stripper and client

 

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How To Improve A Woman’s Chances Of Having An Orgasm

 

 

 

 

 

I came across this at a sexuality forum. A guy and his girlfriend have been having sex for over 5 months and she never had an orgasm. She never seems to be in the mood to do it. She only said that if the environment was right maybe it would be possible for her to achieve orgasm. She claimed to love her boyfriend and sex didn’t really bother her. The guy would like to know how to make a girl orgasm and how to increase her sex drive.

 

If you are facing the same situation, the following ideas should help to start the ball rolling.

 

(1)   Create the right conditions

 

To get a girl to desire you and want to have sex, you have to put her at ease. This will need more time, the right atmosphere, some romance, and lots of other nice sweet little things you do to make her feel good. If she is stressed and is occupied with other problems, sex will not work. She needs to get in the right mood. Therefore you should be helpful as well as supportive and give her a lot of care and appreciation.

 

Making love is a slow process for a woman. You may have to start many hours in advance in order to turn her on effectively. This will require fondness and attention from the man she loves.

 

Women need a much longer foreplay than men. You start by whispering sweet words in her ears. Give her a very specific reason why you find her irresistible such as the curve of her neck or the way she walks. You may also take a long hot shower or bath together which will give you both the chance to touch and rub each other. The lightings in the room should not be glaring. Candles and soft music can help too.

 

Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready. You need to be patient. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. Sometimes it may not work, even if you do everything right. With practice, she will eventually be more responsive to your stimulation.

 

Another good way to get her relaxed is to let her mind wander into fantasy. To reach orgasm, she needs to clear her head and turn off her brain’s fear center. Fantasy is a great way for her to deactivate her fear center. You can help her to relax by constructing an erotic fantasy before things heat up. This can be done by whispering provocative sentences to each other in turn, building a story she can get lost in.

 

(2)   Make her orgasm first

 

Most women will not achieve orgasm through an ordinary genital sexual intercourse. Men are often very tired after their orgasm. Due to this reason, it is best to ensure your woman has an orgasm before you. She will still be excited afterwards and will enjoy your orgasm.

 

Women can easily reach orgasm by proper stimulation of the clitoris, a small lap of skin just over the vagina. You can stimulate her clitoris using your fingers and your tongue. One study found women who experience multiple orgasms usually have the first orgasm after cunnilingus, rather than intercourse or manual pleasures. The tongue is therefore the perfect instrument for stimulating the clitoris. The way to do is to start with cunnilingus and move on to intercourse.

 

There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give her an orgasm, which is the g-spot. It can be a bit difficult to find this region and stimulate it in the right way. This can only be effectively done when she is highly aroused after clitoral stimulation. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way will usually use the woman-on-top intercourse position. This position gives her lots of options to control the movements to facilitate g-spot stimulation.

 

These are the 2 key things you can do for a woman who never had an orgasm. Her chances of getting an orgasm or even multiple orgasms will be higher if she has a partner who is attentive to her needs.

 

If you are keen to know more about how you can get your girl to enjoy sex with you, you can read on further at Hot Sex and Make Her Orgasm

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How Do I Get Confidence In Sex

 

 

 

 

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When the time comes to having sex, instead of getting aroused, you are completely overwhelmed with anxiety. Even worse is the girl is into you and wanted sex and instead of making her feel comfortable and sexy, you end up being ‘stuck’ in your head with racing thoughts, heart pounding and having a full-blown panic attack. You feel paralyzed in your attempt to make a ‘move’ on her.  This makes you feel down since you do not meet her expectations.

 

Does this sound familiar to you? If it hasn’t happened to you as yet, you are probably aware of a friend or acquaintance that experienced it. There is enough evidence to show that performance anxiety happens to most people, whether they are men or women. But it is definitely the men that suffer the horror of not being able to satisfy their partners sexually either due to not being able to have an erection or feeling that their penis size is not big enough to give women orgasms.

 

So, how do you cope if your main worry is about size? Here are the ways you can make her orgasm easier and more often, even if you are below the average size of 6 inches.

 

(1)   Focus on pleasuring her

 

As guys, we like to assume that a bigger penis will be able to reach more hot spots inside her and this is why women prefer a huge one. In reality, size does not matter a great deal as long as you know what you are doing. Being well endowed do not automatically make you a great lover if you do not know how to please a girl. The most sensitive nerves are on the outer part of the vagina and if you can learn sexual skills to dominate her, these will turn her on many times more than the largest penis could.

 

What you lack in size, you can make up for it by learning how to turn a girl on with masculine dominance. This will include things like –

 

(a)   Talking dirty to her

 

Girls love to hear their partner’s fantasies. It will turn her on to watch you get aroused by what you are describing. A great way to sound sexy and dirty is to describe out loud what is happening during sex, how wonderful it feels in your body; telling her something you are going to do and something you want your lover to do right now. Maintain eye contact as you talk because this can give her extra pleasure. Dirty talk is not just words and phrases, but also about how you say it, which is to use your voice and sounds such as moans, groans, sighs, whispers and screaming. You can sound commanding and harsh, submissive and uncertain and everywhere in between.

 

(b)   Taking the lead

 

You have to know what you are supposed to do, be confident in what you are doing, without asking for her permission. Confidence comes from knowledge which can be acquired in 2 ways. One way is to read widely about sexuality. Another way is to pay attention to your girl to know enough about what she likes and dislikes sexually. Once you are able to know how to please her, you can apply what you have learned wisely by making modifications and adjustments so that you customize or tailor-made your moves to meet her unique needs. During foreplay, you can do a few things to ‘man-handle’ her such as spanking her or lightly biting her neck.

 

(2)   Choose sex positions that can give her g-spot orgasm

 

Here are the 2 positions that can easily make a girl orgasm

 

(a)   Enter her from behind

 

You can penetrate her from behind when she is lying on her side or standing in front of you.

 

(b)   Enter her by standing or kneeling between her legs

 

She will lay on just about any edge big enough with her feet plant on the floor and you penetrate her either by standing or kneeling between her legs. For comfort, you can put pillow under your knees if you choose the kneeling position.

 

Use these 2 tips to overcome your performance anxiety. It may take a little bit of time and effort to purge out those negative thoughts you have accumulated in the past. But once you start the ball rolling, it will pick up speed and you will notice improvement in your partner’s pleasure as well as your own.

 

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Advanced Oral Sex Techniques To Drive Him Crazy

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Hello ladies, if you are looking for ways to improve your oral skills to give pleasure to your man, the following oral sex tips will be of great help for you to work on.

 

(1)   Maintaining visual contact

 

Keeping eye contact helps to maintain connection with your partner. If through your eyes you can show him how much you like what you are doing in pleasing him orally, this can arouse him a great deal.

 

(2)   Getting creative with your tongue

 

You can change the shape of your tongue in stimulating him in order to give him different sensations. A tongue that is wide and flat feels very different as compared to one that is curled up, or rolled into a tube. The side edge of your tongue, the tip, the flat part in the middle of your tongue, each of these parts gives different kinds of sensation to him. He will especially feel the difference when your tongue is in contact with his frenulum, scrotum or certain spots on the shaft of his genitals.

 

(3)   Do not neglect his scrotum

 

The scrotum is a highly sensitive spot you should not leave out when giving him oral sex. You can either gently tap or massage his scrotum with the pads of your fingers. You can also make a circle with your thumb and index finger and grab the scrotum at the point where it meets the penis and gently pull at it.

 

(4)   Pressing on his perineum

 

The perineum is the area between the scrotum and anus. Depending on some men’s preference, some of them find it very enjoyable when you use your fingers to apply a bit of pressure in the middle of this area.

 

(5)   Giving him pleasure through sucking

 

Sucking the male organ with just the tip of it or when the tip and some part of the shaft is in your mouth can be a very highly pleasurable experience to your partner. This is because the sucking action can draw even more blood into his genitals.

 

(6)   Working on his anus

 

The anus is filled with nerve endings and is therefore very sensitive to your stimulation. When giving him oral sex, you can increase the level of pleasure by using your finger to gently massage the outside of the anus. The sensation on him will be unforgettable if you can combine this with the sucking action as mentioned in the previous point.

 

(7)   Getting feedback on his preference

 

Some men may like a bit of rough handling of his “little brother” such as using your teeth on certain areas of it. Both the tip and shaft of the penis, when properly lubricated can take in a fair amount of friction and squeezing. When it comes to scrotum, it is best not to apply direct pressure on his testicles. You have to get his feedback to find out how much rough handling he can take it when giving him oral sex.

 

(8)   The use of sex toys

 

When you are busily masturbating him with your mouth, you can use a vibrator to provide some external stimulation on the middle part of the perineum and/or the outside of the anus.

 

(9)   Spicing things up

 

You can enrich the oral sex experience with additional ingredients such as sexual fantasy role play, dirty talking or some specific kinds of touch which include grabbing, slapping and spanking.

 

What if you are feeling a bit lazy at times but do not want to disappoint your man? In this case, you can choose to lie on your back. You then ask your partner to adopt the doggie position and he positions his genitals directly over your mouth. With this position, you can still give your man a good blowjob even if you are lack of energy.

 

To make having sex mutually fun, you can adopt the 69 position, whereby both of you face each other’s genitals. With this position, both of you can give oral sex to each other.

 

Try these oral sex tips to make him begging more from you. For additional amazing ideas on how to get your partner to be sexually addicted to you, read on more from Blow Job and Oral Kit.

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8 ways To Rekindle Your Sex Life & Reignite the Magic in Your Relationship

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This article lists out 8 ways for couples to get back the “spark” in their relationship and sex life. The ways include both in the bedroom tips and out of the bedroom actions/gestures. Some of the suggestions need couples to better communicate with each other to understand their needs. It also requires the guys to be sincere in their approach to be effective.

 

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had? What do you do when your sex life takes a dive? You are not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable and as a result can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special. Should you go out and cheat or should you do some research on how to improve your sex life? If you truly value your relationship with your partner you would pick the 2nd choice.

 

Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that flame of passion:

 

(1)   Become kids again.

If you and your partner are walking by the park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride.

 

(2)   Fun with water

On a hot day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach. Take them out and pass one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

 

(3)   Give each other a massage

Take the time to give each other a massage. Try mixing some rose oil with almond oil to make cheap massage oil.

 

(4)   Bring back her fond childhood memories

Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted as a kid. For example, if she always wanted a Barbie Doll, buy one for her next birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wants.

 

(5)   Do something romantic!

During your picnic at the beach, draw out the shape of a big heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you admire the setting sun. When the night comes, spread a mat on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the mat with your partner and watch the stars together.

 

(6)   Show your partner how much you appreciate her.

Leave a long-stem rose at a place where she could easily find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

 

(7)   Give her pleasant surprises

At times, do surprise her with some small gifts or some simple gestures that she will appreciate. This really requires you to be concerned enough to know what she wants. To be effective, you must do this out of sincerity or at the bottom of your heart. The problem with a lot of men is that they only give presents or treat their wives slightly better because they feel guilty over some matters. Needless to say, some wives will suspect their husbands may be cheating on them. Believe me, even if your wife is not as clever as you think, you can’t fool her. That’s why I want to emphasize that the act of giving her pleasant surprises must be done out of sincerity.

 

(8)   Look for ways to spice up your sex life. How?

 

(a)    Changing the place where you have sex.

This is the best way to add spice to your sex life with your partner. After making love at the same old place all the time, you will get bored as time goes on. How about making love at the bathroom, on the kitchen table or at any place where you can have some privacy?

 

(b)   Be a bit more adventurous and try some new sex positions.

It helps to take the time to learn more about the positions of the karma sutra.

 

(c)  Learn how to talk dirty.

Some women get turn on or love it when men talk down and dirty to them. You can find all kind of guides on how to talk dirty in books or you can “google”   for talk-dirty tips from the Internet.

 

(d) Perform oral sex.

Besides genital penetration, there are some other ways to satisfy a woman sexually. Oral sex is one of the ways that can give her great satisfaction. By incorporating oral sex (of course with the consent of your lover) during foreplay, you can “buy some time” to get her to reach orgasm. Men must have the patience and open mind to discuss about oral sex before trying it. They should know how the woman would like him to do it to her otherwise it is not going to help. When giving oral sex to a woman, the man has to understand this is only for the pleasure of the woman so her likes and dislikes are very important. Sometimes men don’t like the idea of giving oral sex to their women because of the smell of vagina, women should understand this and take shower and wash “her area” properly. Doing this properly with patience and mutual understanding can enhance sex life and build a strong relationship.

 

A man-woman relationship is like cultivating a plant. Both parties at times have to play the role of a gardener, regularly provide enough of water and fertilizer that suits the plant, so it will grow, flourish and/or bear fruits.

 

Read on more from Hot Sex and Turn The Heat On for more ideas to improve your sex life.

 

 

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