Is It Safe To Have Period Sex

 

 

 

 

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You pulled your penis out and it had blood all over it. This scares the hell out of you. You wonder if it is alright to have sex during her period. Is it safe or are there any side effects?

 

The myth that sex during menstruation is dangerous or ‘unclean’ originates from religious text. The fact is having unprotected sex at any time can be risky and this includes when she has menses. If you feel that pregnancy is unlikely to occur you are deluding yourself. The likelihood is extremely small but not zero. There are reported cases of pregnancy in couples who only had sex during menstruation. This is because not all vaginal bleeding is from a menstrual period. Sometimes a girl will have a small amount of vaginal bleeding at the time of ovulation – her most fertile moment. It is very easy to mistake the vaginal bleeding during ovulation for menses. Additionally, sperm can survive in the female reproductive system for up to 3 days. Because some women ovulate at the end of their menstrual periods, sperm may still be alive at this point and able to fertilize an egg. Due to the difficulty in telling the difference, having sex during menstruation should not be used as a natural form of birth control.

 

There is another thing you need to take note about period sex. A woman’s risk of being infected or getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) is higher than at other times because the cervix opens to allow blood to pass through which at the same time provides a convenient access for bacteria to travel deep inside the pelvic cavity. A woman is also more likely to pass on blood-borne diseases such as HIV and hepatitis to her partner during her period. She is more likely to develop yeast or bacterial infections because the vaginal PH during menstruation is less acidic.

 

Some people do not like the idea of having sex during menstruation seeing it as a natural monthly break in the action. Some people are bothered by the smell. Sometimes, the last thing on a menstruating woman’s mind is to have sex. She feels irritable, bloated, pained and tired. On the other hand, there are people who are perfectly comfortable with it. Some women become extremely sexual because of their surge in hormones causing them to be highly responsive to touch. Some studies discover that women demonstrate a higher sex drive just before, or just after, menstruating.

 

Whether or not you want to have sex during her period is a personal choice that both you and your partner have to be comfortable with. If you want to, there is no reason for you not to enjoy intimacy at all times of her menstrual cycle. In fact, it may bring some real benefits to your woman.

 

Sexual intercourse during menstruation may help in relieving pain from menstrual cramps because of the feel-good endorphins that are released during orgasm. It may help to shorten her period by a few days. During orgasm, her uterus goes through a number of muscular contractions which can help to speed up menstruation. As the uterus contracts, the uterine lining along the vaginal wall will be forced out in the form of menses. Besides, semen contains prostaglandins, hormones that are responsible for causing uterine contractions. The combination of prostaglandins and orgasm may result in an increase in the frequency of uterine contractions, speed up the outflow of menstrual blood and cut short her menstrual period.

 

Is it okay to have oral sex? Though some people may find the thought of oral sex during menstruation a bit disgusting, many couples do engage in this act. If you and your partner are considering having oral sex during menstruation, rest assured that this is entirely safe as long as either partner does not have any STD.

 

It is a fact that not every woman likes period sex and this applies to men too. If you choose not to have vaginal penetration during menstruation, you can explore other ways to maintain intimacy such as giving her a massage to relieve tension, mutual masturbation, hand jobs or the use of sex toys for self pleasure. If both of you want to get more physical, you can consider having anal sex.

 

But if you choose to maintain normal intercourse, place a dark colored towel underneath her lower body and have a wet cloth nearby. It is better to get her lying on her back to slow the bleeding. When you have finished, give yourselves a quick wipe down and go for a shower immediately. This is because menstrual blood is pigmented and dries quickly. If you delay, you will need a bit more effort to wash it off completely.

 

It helps if you aim for sex before she begins her cycle or after the first few days. If her flow is heavy, you can opt to have sex in the shower. These are the things to take note if you want to explore sex during menstruation. Remember to take safety precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STDs.

 

When comes to sex, do not be afraid to experiment. This will enrich your sexual experience. Read on more from Hot Sex and Bedroom Fun if you want to have an enjoyable sex life.

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When To Have Sex In Order To Make A Girl Orgasm Fast

 

 

 

 

Have you ever noticed how her libido ebbs and flow at different times? Do you ever wonder why on some nights she is very horny and really wants you, yet on other nights, she needs some coaxing? Do you know that her libido is controlled by her hormones which can fluctuate on a daily basis depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle? Would you like to know the sexual implications about the changes in her hormone levels?

 

One of the ingredients of great sex is it should be mutually enjoyable and fulfilling. It therefore helps a lot that as guys, we should have a good understanding about the hormonal changes happening in a woman’s body and how these can affect her sexual desire.

 

4 Hormones Influencing Her Monthly Menstrual Cycle

 

(1)   Follicle-stimulating hormone is responsible for stimulating the ovarian follicles (the tiny sacs of eggs) to grow.

 

(2)   Estrogen is produced by specialized cells within the developing follicles. When this hormone reaches the blood stream, it will build up the lining of the uterus in expectation of a fertilized egg. It also thins the mucus in the cervix (the narrow outer end of the uterus) to make it easier for the sperm to reach and fertilize the egg.

 

(3)   Luteinizing hormone triggers the egg to break from the follicle (sac). It also causes the broken follicle to grow new cells that produce the progesterone.

 

(4)   Progesterone causes the lining of the uterus to secrete protein-rich substances for nourishing the egg if it is fertilized. If not, these substances will be drained out of her body together with her menses. This hormone also helps to thicken the cervical mucus to make it more difficult for the sperm to reach the uterus.

 

The rise and fall of estrogen and progesterone seem to be responsible for the shifting physical and psychological sensations many women experience in their monthly cycles. When estrogen is in command (during the 1st half of menstrual cycle), women tend to feel better both physically and emotionally, more self-assured and less irritable.

 

When progesterone is on the rise (during the 2nd half of menstrual cycle), women tend to have more negative feelings such as low esteem, impatience and lethargy. They may also experience more physical ailments such as headaches, swollen ankles and muscle fatigue. Therefore, when she turns down your sexual advance claiming she has a headache, she may not be lying to you. These shifts are tendencies that may not happen to every woman. The intensity of these changes also varies from woman to woman and from month to month for each woman.

 

The average length of the menstrual cycle is 29.5 days. It is normal for women to have a cycle ranging from 15-49 days. Most women’s cycles get shorter as they age, from an average of 35 days during teen years to 28 days by mid-30s. The length of menstruation also varies among women from 2-8 days. A variety of factors can shorten the cycle from month to month, including crash diets, stress, excessive exercise and prolonged use of contraceptive. Some research indicates that a sexually active woman (having sex at least once a week) tends to have a shorter and more regular menstrual cycle.

 

How The 4 Phases Of Menstrual Cycle Affects Female Sexual Desires

 

(1)   Bleeding Or Menstruation Phase (Day Number 1 To 5)

 

The bleeding can last from 2-8 days. A woman may feel depressed and normally little or no sexual activities.

 

(2)   Pre-Ovulatory Phase (Day Number 6 To 14)

 

Estrogen continues to rise and peak on around the 12th-14th day as her body is getting ready to ovulate. The lining of the uterus begins to thicken and cervical muscles get thinner making it easier for the sperm to enter the uterus. During this period, she is feeling confident and is in the mood for romance. The 10th-14th day will be a good time for some long, slow romantic lovemaking.

 

(3)   Ovulation Phase On The 14th Day (Peak Sexual Desire Day)

 

On this day, she is at her peak horniness (if she is not taking birth control pills) with her eggs readies to drop and her testosterone spiking. Men will flirt with her today too, since she is giving off an animalistic level of pheromones. If you want to get her pregnant, today is the perfect day. Today is a great day for quickie sex as she wants you a lot and probably more than once. She is most likely to be multi-orgasmic today, so be sure to satisfy her any way you can.

 

(4)   Premenstrual Phase (Day Number 15 To 29)

 

Within 24-28 hours after ovulation, her body temperature will increase by about 0.5 to 1 degree and stays there for several days. Cervical mucus gets thicker making it difficult for the sperm to enter the uterus. Progesterone continues to rise and peak on around the 22nd day. Some women will have bad mood during this period.

 

However, some sex researchers discover that women have a 2nd stretch of days during this period when they tend to be more sexually active. This resurgence of sexual desire may be caused by the sudden drop in progesterone that occurs after the 22nd day. It is believed that high levels of progesterone suppress female libido so when the level falls, her desire will go up.

 

On a daily basis, the best time to have sex will be between 9 am to 12 noon, when estrogen levels are at the highest. The bad time for intercourse is between 6 pm to midnight when estrogen levels are at the lowest. This is a problem because most working activities are organized in the day time and most people can have sex on evening except on weekends.

 

This implies that for evening sex to be mutually enjoyable, a lot of foreplay (touching, manual and oral stimulation, dirty talking, role playing, sex toys, lubricants) plus patience is needed to get her in the mood. In places that have 4 seasons, female libido is at the peak at around late summer period which explains why a lot of births occur at around early summer.

 

So keep these female sexuality facts in your mind and you should be able to know how best to please a woman at any time during her cycle. Perhaps now you want to know more about how to make her enjoy sex as much as she can even in those less-favored days and if this is the case you can click on Hot Sex and Great Lover

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Self Help Guide For Women With Orgasm Difficulty

 

 

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If you experience difficulties in having an orgasm, you are not alone. It is estimated that 4 out of every 10 women have some degree of dissatisfaction over their sex lives. In the following paragraphs, I will talk about the possible obstacles that prevent a woman from having an orgasm and how she can overcome them.

 

Possible Obstacles To Orgasm

 

Orgasmic impairment does not discriminate based on age, ethnicity, religion, education, or sexual orientation, experience, or inexperience. A woman’s menstrual cycle may cause her to be unable to experience orgasm at regular and frequent intervals because of hormonal changes within her body. Certain life situations and experiences can also increase the chances of her unable to experience orgasm. Other factors like stress, medication, prescription birth control, hormonal imbalances, heart disease, insufficient and excessive body fat, some beliefs that are being fed into her mind about sex or a woman’s body is dirty and sexual pleasure being sinful, can all influence a woman’s ability to have an orgasm.

 

HOW TO OVERCOME THE OBSTACLES TO ORGASM

 

(1)   Getting rid of those negative ideas

 

Orgasm is actually a normal or natural reflex response to sexual stimulation. However, as a girl grows up, she receives a lot of negative feelings and ideas from society about a woman’s body, masturbation and sex.

 

Women are often raised on the beliefs that they can achieve fulfillment through making personal sacrifices that pander to the wishes and expectations of others while suppressing and ignoring their own needs. Women are usually expected to be sexually passive, ‘good girls’ are not ‘sexually active’ nor should they ‘desire sex’.

 

While on a conscious level, a woman may want to experience pleasure and orgasm, on a subconscious level she may be saying no because of these negative ideas and beliefs. It is for these reasons and many more that affect a woman’s ability to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

 

(2)   Establish a connection between your brain and genitals

 

Given that a woman is often being wrongly told that her genitals are ‘dirty’, she will try to limit her contacts with them as much as possible. This can cause a woman’s brain to disconnect from her vulva and clitoris as if they are not part of her body.

 

There are nerve pathways that carry sexual stimuli or messages to a woman’s brain. Before a woman can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm, she must ‘wake up’ these sexual nerve pathways in order to form a mental link between her genitals and brain. This requires frequent caressing of the clitoris and vulva so as to stimulate and activate these nerve pathways. Her brain needs to be trained to process numerous nerve impulses (by way of self stimulation or masturbation) before it can do so efficiently, or even knows how to process them.

 

Vibrators can also provide sufficiently high intensive stimulation to allow a woman to experience orgasm. Once she learns to experience orgasm using a vibrator and the nerve pathways develop, other forms of less intense stimulation will be able to trigger an orgasm. The first orgasm is usually the most challenging to achieve. The more orgasms a woman has, the easier they will occur in the future.

 

(3)   Promote your blood circulation

 

Blood flow is essential to sexual arousal and vaginal lubrication. This is because blood carries the feel-good chemicals that allow the physical aspects of arousal to happen. If a woman does not have enough blood flow to her vulva and vagina, she is likely to have greater difficulty in experiencing arousal and orgasm.

 

Same as how her nerve pathways develop with use, so do the blood vessels and erectile tissues. The more often a woman stimulates and causes blood flow to increase in her genitals, the longer blood will stay there, the more her blood vessels and erectile tissues will function better as a result.

 

Any activity that increases blood flow to the vulva can enhance arousal. Frequent stimulation of the vulva and clitoris (with the help of natural oil based lubricant), sexual fantasy, using a clitoris pump and engaging in 20 minutes of sustained physical activity each day through walking, swimming, jogging, bicycling, etc will help in blood flow circulation. Anything that is good for your heart will help to increase blood flow throughout your pelvic and genital region.

 

(4)   Acknowledge your sexual desire

 

Before a woman can learn to experience orgasm she must acknowledge and accept her sexual desire and learn to know its rhythms. You need to know if you are experiencing sexual desire on any given day, and its level in comparison to other days. This is usually indicated by the frequency of sexual thoughts and arousal.

 

Since a woman’s menstrual cycle often causes her desire to be cyclic, this requires you to acknowledge that cycle and the limits it may place on your sexual response. Your estrogen and sexual desire drops rapidly after ovulation and is normally at its lowest during menstruation. On days when your level of desire is lower, orgasm may require more mental than physical stimulation.

 

(5)   Learn to relax

 

If you are stressful, it is less likely for you to be able to become aroused and experience orgasm. The simplest and quickest way to reduce stress is through deep breathing. Close your eyes, breathe deeply in through your nose, hold for a couple seconds, exhale deeply through your mouth and repeat. Get in the habit of doing this before you masturbate or have sex, any time during the day you feel stressed. Another way is to do stretching exercises to help relieve muscular tension.

 

(6)   Be comfortable with your body

 

You need to recognize there is no such thing as a perfect body. Do not be too harsh on yourself and be misled by what you see in magazines because they do not exist in real life. Even if you are not satisfied with your body, wishing it can be better, you need to be able to look at and touch it and enjoy the pleasure it can give you. Your body is still very capable of giving you pleasure, if you allow it to. The more pleasure you allow your body to give you, the more you will find that you like your body. A woman who is able to get comfortable with her body will have higher chances of achieving orgasm than a woman who does not.

 

(7)   Indulge yourself in sexual fantasy

 

Sexual fantasy is often essential to masturbation and orgasm. You should focus on the things that turn you on instead of thinking of what you should do or try to achieve. If you are not able to create a sexual fantasy of your own, read an erotic book or magazine, romantic novel, sexually explicit pictures, or erotic video. Just let your mind wander and think about all the erotic stuff you can imagine.

 

The main thing is to get yourself sexually liberated in your thoughts and assert your rights to sexual pleasure as a woman. This sexual pleasure does not necessarily have to come from your partner(s). Recognize that you on your own can be a source of sexual pleasure. Be kind to yourself and learn to love and appreciate your body. When you choose a partner, make sure he or she accepts you as what you are, including your imperfections. When you are able to reach this stage, orgasm will become part of your second nature.

 

For more readings on female sexuality and sexual health matters, you can click on Treat Painful Intercourse and Female Personal Care.

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