How To Get And Use Sex Toys For Beginners

 

 

 

If you have never used sex toys you may find them intimidating. This is especially so for people with little or no sexual experience. You can use sex toys to explore your body before choosing to become sexually active. What are the good sex toy choices for beginners or people who have little or no sexual experience?

 

Penis sleevePenis sleeve

Penis sleeve

This is a male sex toy. It is a tube made of cyber skin or other soft material that slides over the penis shaft and is supposed to mimic the feeling of a vagina or mouth. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, a penis sleeve is a good choice. Rub a little water-based lubricant on the shaft before you slip your penis through the sleeve and glide it up and down manually. You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have. Some have textured lining for extra stimulation.

 

Penis ring

Penis ring

 

 

The ring works by constricting the flow of blood out of the penis to help the user achieves a firmer or harder and longer lasting erection. For beginners, it is advisable to use adjustable and simple rings. Some rings come with buckles and snaps. If you are using them, just be careful not to let your pubic hair get caught in the snaps.

 

If you are using an adjustable ring, open it up all the way, slip it over the penis and behind the scrotum and then tighten it. Once you have gotten the ring on, you can masturbate all the way to orgasm and ejaculation. If you feel any discomfort, remove the ring. Whichever type of penis ring you choose to use, do not leave it on for more than 20 minutes. Once you are comfortable with using the penis ring on your own, you can let your partner put the ring on you as part of the sex play.

 

Clitoral vibrator

Clitoral vibrator

 

This is the best option for a girl if she does not want to have any insertion at all or does not want to stretch her vagina too much. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation. This is because the clitoris which is packed with numerous sensitive nerve endings is responsible for most female orgasms. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrator than other kinds of sex toys because it can provide some of the best orgasms.

 

Small vibrator

Small vibrator

 

This is a good choice for women who are using a vibrator for the first time to insert into themselves. This kind of vibrator is even thinner than a tampon so that it does not hurt when a woman push it into herself. A good thing about small vibrator is that it can fit in the purse so that she can take it with her wherever she goes.

 

Bullet vibrator attaches to penis ring

A more versatile type of small vibrator is the bullet style vibrator which can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina. Some bullet style vibrators can be attached on penis rings and used for couple’s pleasure.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anal plug

Anal plug

 

This is a good choice if you are new to anal sex. Whether you are enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, this toy can give you just enough stimulation without being painful. Make sure you apply water-based lubricant on this toy before inserting it into the anus.

 

 

Special toy cleaner

Toy maintenance

 

To keep your toys in proper condition, it is better to clean them with a mild soap or special sex toy cleaner before and after use. Avoid using strong detergents because they can breakdown the toy material. For battery-operated toys, take out the batteries after using them. Rinse water-proof toys with hot water. For those that are electrical or not water-proof, clean them with a soapy wet cloth. Dry them thoroughly after cleaning. Most germs cannot live on a dry surface.

 

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How To Create A Sexy Bedroom

 

 

 

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Besides being the place to rest, most people will usually have sex in the bedroom too. Regardless of whether it is the first time or the thousandth you are having intercourse in the bedroom, its atmosphere will either add to or distract from your sexual experience. Therefore, making your bedroom into a space that is comfortable, unique and inviting is one of the easiest and best things you can do to have a great sex life. Here are the ways you can make this happen.

 

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(1)   Make it clutter-free

 

If you want to have this romantic feel for your bedroom, you have to make it spacious. You have to remember that this is your bedroom and not a storeroom. Therefore you should avoid making it stuffy by placing only the things that you need. Keep unused stuff in the cabinet or in the closet. Also, you should not have any exercising equipment around because the bedroom is a place for lovemaking and relaxation and exercising equipment just do not fit in. By keeping your bedroom clutter-free, it will be more inviting, organized and welcoming.

 

(2)   Invest in good quality paint

 

Low quality paint tends to leave a smell in your bedroom which can be toxic and cancer-causing. Use white or warm colors paint so that it will not be too dark when the lights are off.

 

(3)   Get a comfortable bed

 

Make sure it is not too big for the room and preferably one that has built-in drawers underneath. Plush comforters and high-quality sheets will make you both feel comfortable in the bed. Depending on how much space you have, use a mixture of pillows: standard-sized, square or decorative ones with coordinated covers. Arrange them in such a way with the biggest ones at the back.

 

Use relaxing colors such as rich earth tones or calming blues and greens for your bed sheet. Using bed hangings and canopies can add another layer of mystery and privacy to your room. This will make your bed more romantic with those fabrics hanging at the sides. Make sure you choose a fabric that is light and gauzy to make it bear that softness feel.

 

(4)   Add rugs

 

Aside from having cushy beddings, give your floor a soft feel by placing a soft rug (that is the same length of your bed) on either side of the bed. This can add to the cozy and comfortable feeling, giving your room a romantic ambience with all those softness around you.

 

(5)   Use dim lighting

 

Lighting should be soft and filtered. Bright and glaring lights such as the overhead fluorescent lamp can detract from the ambience. Opt for those 40 watts lightings to add comfort and serenity. You can also use a table top lantern or a lamp at the side table. You may also make use of natural lights by having transparent curtains. Make sure the curtains compliment the bedding.

 

(6)   Add mirrors

 

They can also add depth and make your room looks more spacious. You can use as many as you like and they can be any size. But just do not over-do this because you don’t want this to be too overwhelming. Or, you can just use a floor-standing mirror that can be move around the room which certainly adds spice to both the atmosphere and the action.

 

(7)   Make it sexually functional

 

Everything that you could possibly want when you have sex should be within easy reach of your bed. Some sexual necessities that should be neatly stashed in one of the built-in drawers underneath the bed or near to the bed are: condoms, lubricant, breath mints, long silk scarves, sex toys, love cushion, and a roll of toilet paper or tissues for easy clean up. Have your favorite treats handy, maybe a box of chocolates that will be sure to tease. For a late-night indulgence, place strawberries and whipped cream on a small tray next to the bed.

 

(8)   Add a little music and noise

 

Keep your favorite love songs at your iPhone. Soft love music is one of the easiest ways to lift up your mood. You can also invest in a bedside sound system to play your favorite mood-inducing music.

 

If you have a TV in the bedroom, use this only for watching erotic videos. This can be porn, or some romantic or scary movies. There are wide choices of movies that are perfect for getting both of you in the mood. Do not limit yourselves to the obvious ones.

 

Creating a romantic bedroom atmosphere is essential to enhancing romance in your life. Get artistic, be creative, and put the spark back into your sex life. For more ideas to spice up sex, you can read further from Gaming for Orgasm and Love House.

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The Sexy Things Women Love

 

 

 

 

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Do you know what turns a woman on? What makes her a bit of a cold fish in bed? How to bring sexy back into your bedroom? How to make her love sex again so that you can have as much as you want to? You can have the sex life you want and bring the pleasure back into lovemaking with these tips.

 

(1)   Make her feel at ease

 

One of the reasons she never initiates sex is because of her fear of rejection. For a woman, self-esteem is one of the most important things to have in order to feel at ease when she is in bed with a man. To reduce her anxieties you need to do what women do when they want sex.

 

You need to show her you are up for it by sending out subtle signals. This will mean creating an atmosphere where she is quite sure she will not be rejected. This can be as simple as lighting a couple of candles, or dimming the lights, playing her favorite sexy music, feeding her chocolate-flavored cream or strawberries and talking dirty to her. The key is in creating a relaxed but suggestive atmosphere conducive for a night of wild sex.

 

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(2)   Be creative

 

After a few years, it is easy to find the whole game of sex monotonous if you do not create new ways to enjoy each other in bed. When one of you get bored, you may have trouble getting an erection or she may have difficulty in reaching orgasm. The best way to overcome this is to be opened to each other’s new ideas about the things both of you like to try.

 

To prevent being knocked back, you can turn your requests into a game. You can alternate weeks of who is responsible for coming up with ideas, fantasies and new positions. This way your partner will not feel pressurized. If she gets stuck, there is wide choice of sex manuals, magazines and videos available for both of you to browse.

 

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(3)   Give her oral pleasure

 

If she does not orgasm often, this may be due to insignificant stimulation. No matter how much she wants it, she may be too shy to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down there. In order to get her off, head south. One study found women who experience multiple orgasms usually have the first orgasm after cunnilingus, rather than intercourse or manual pleasure.

 

The tongue is the perfect instrument for stimulating the clitoris. Instead of making her beg for oral sex, learn to be best in performing cunnilingus and give it to her without her ever having to ask. To spice things up, you can try different positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. You can also get an oral kit to enhance your performance. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more.

 

(4)    Be romantic

 

It is easy to take your partner for granted if both of you are too busy with the daily routines. Make an arrangement to set aside some moments for some dirty romancing. Strike a deal with one of the many relatives you are always in contact with: one Saturday a month, they watch your kids for the night while you and your wife go on a date and you return the favor the next Saturday.

 

Romance her as you would during courtship days. Her identity is more than just wife or mother and she needs the assurance of your love as well. Intimacy is often more important to a woman than sex. Letting her feel important as a woman and person, and helping her feel emotionally close to you, is what that can fuel her drive to have more sex with you.

 

(5)   Getting fit together

 

Working out with your woman and treating this activity as fat-burning foreplay can raise her dopamine (good-feeling hormone) levels and ease her anxieties. Besides this, your post-exercise sweat will contain traces of androstadienone, a testerone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

 

Use these tips to tune in with each other’s needs and what follows next will be more explosive than both of you ever imagine.

 

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For Couples – How To Better Sex

 

 

 

 

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You and your partner have a very active sex life. But you find it always the same and it is getting boring. Both of you are very open with each other and are willing to try new things. You want to make sex life more fun for both of you, but not sure how to do it.

 

Here are some fun ways you can do to turn the heat on in the bedroom

 

(1)   Share And Act Out Your Fantasies

 

One of the ways to spice up your sex life and have fun with it is to share with your partner in detail what you fantasize about. If you still have fond memories of one of your school teachers, you can ask your partner to dress like him or her. In order to cultivate the mood for acting out each other’s fantasies, you will have to do away with all the inhibitions and allow yourself to be crazy or even outrageous.

 

If you are not sure how to start with what character you like to act, you can get some ideas by watching erotic movies, books or black comedies. After you have chosen the character you want to play in, the next thing to do is to get the required costumes and the related accessories and props to make it look real and fun.

 

(2)   Indulge In Your Fetish

 

To spice things up, you can push the boundary of your fantasy by engaging in fetish play. It is not unusual to be a fetishist and it is not something you should be embarrassed about. Incorporating a fetish into your love life, if both of you are comfortable with it, is the best way to bring the spark back into the bedroom.

 

If the object of your fetish is foot, you can incorporate this by spending more time on touching, smelling, tasting, kissing or handling the feet, ankle or toes of your partner or have your partner do this to your feet. Or, instead of giving or receiving a hand job, you or your partner can do a ‘foot job’ by using his/her feet to stimulate the genitals to orgasm.

 

Are you sexually aroused when dress in, or seeing your partner dresses in tight fabrics, or fantasizing about such scenarios? Well, either of you can dress like an acrobat, dancer, athlete or swimmer.

 

You can also expand this further by re-enacting scenarios from comic books or movies where characters are portrayed wearing such skin-tight costumes. These scenarios usually involve a damsel in distress and a super hero (Batman, Spiderman, or Superman) that comes to the rescue.

 

If you are obsessed with high heels, get your partner to put them on during sex. If you are obsessed with armpit, you can do away with the normal procedure of taking shower before sex.

 

If you enjoy watching or being watched during lovemaking, you can have sex in public or watching your partner or letting your partner watch you masturbating or playing with a toy. You can also consider asking another couple to join you in a group lovemaking session so that you can at the same time watch and being watched.

 

(3)   Try Phone Sex

 

The best thing about phone sex is that your partner cannot see you. This will allow both of you to be more comfortable to talk about all your fantasies and tell each other all the things you wish to do.

 

You can engage in phone sex by doing sexting. If you are too shy to say out certain things or you feel silly doing it, you can send sexy photos during the workday or texting hints about what you want to do together in the evening. If you are not sure what to say, you can check out the smartphone apps which offer a wide range of ideas.

 

If you feel that talking and sexting are still not fun enough you can make use of webcam and Skype. This is especially applicable if you and your partner are in separate places. You can get her to dress sexy, do a strip tease or even masturbate together.

 

These are just some of the ways you can make your sex life interesting. There are no limits to what you can do to spice sex up as long as you understand that intercourse is not just penetration and ejaculation. You are only limited by your imaginations and inhibitions.

 

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Sex Tips: How To Last Long

 

 

 

 

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It is one of those things that most men fear in bed. Before she cums, you come first. The disappointed look in her eyes is the last thing you want it to happen in her sexual experience. How to prevent premature ejaculation (PE) so that you can last long enough for her to reach orgasm before yours? Let’s find out below!

 

(1)   Pinpoint the underlying causes of your PE

 

The truth is while there are many causes of premature ejaculation which affects every guy differently, they can all be summarized by one main cause, which is the failure to take control of the pleasure you experience during sex.

 

The main reason that you are not lasting long enough is because you are allowing yourself to experience pleasure, or stimulation, with too high intensity. This high intensity of stimulation is what causes you to ejaculate earlier than you want.

 

To last longer in bed, you need to take control of your stimulation. You need to realize that what you are doing before and during sex can dramatically influence how long you can last. It is only when you understand that this has nothing to do with your age or penis size, it has to do with those every little action you take before and during sex which have some kind of impact on your stimulation, then it becomes easy to make a change.

 

(2)   Choose sex positions that can help you to last longer

 

Sex positions can have a dramatic effect on how long you last in bed. When it comes to choosing those last longer positions, it is more about having sex in those positions that will not stimulate you too soon or too strong.

 

One great position that makes this possible is the standing up. In this position, you make love either by standing in front or behind your woman and she can be standing or sitting at the edge of a table or bed. The reason this works so well is because when you are standing up, tension and pressure will be directed away from your penis. Part of this tension and pressure will be directed to your legs. This will relieve some of the pressure and stimulation on your penis, helping you to last longer.

 

Another position you can consider is the woman-on-top position. Why this position works? The main reason is because unlike most other positions, this position does not require you to move a lot other than using your fingers to stimulate her clitoris and other erogenous zones. Lesser movement will mean lesser stimulation on your part and you can get your woman to slow down her movements so that both of you will have higher chances of reaching orgasm at the same time.

 

Another way to help you last longer is when you sense you are quite close to orgasm, you switch into another less stimulating position.

 

(3)   Reduce the amount of friction to the penis tip

 

The tip of the penis (also known as the glans) is the most sensitive part. In the normal thrusting movement, it will be like pushing in as much as you can and pulling out in a way that cause the highly sensitive glans to rub against the entrance of her vagina, which offers you intense stimulation. To minimize the stimulation to your glans, after you push in, you do not pull out too much so that most of the time you are deep inside her. This will avoid getting your glans from being too strongly stimulated by your thrusting.

 

(4)   Focus on her pleasure

 

Instead of piling too much attention and pressure on yourself by trying to time yourself, you can distract from such stress by re-directing your attention on your woman. You slowly down and stimulate one by one her erogenous zones. This will increase the chances of your woman reaching orgasm faster and before you. After she have her first orgasm, her body will be highly sensitive to your stimulation. She will then reach orgasm again very soon and will be sexually satisfied. Under this circumstance, how much time you spend inside her will no longer be an issue. After all, she already gets her orgasm before yours.

 

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