Do you know what turns a woman on? What makes her a bit of a cold fish in bed? How to bring sexy back into your bedroom? How to make her love sex again so that you can have as much as you want to? You can have the sex life you want and bring the pleasure back into lovemaking with these tips.
One of the reasons she never initiates sex is because of her fear of rejection. For a woman, self-esteem is one of the most important things to have in order to feel at ease when she is in bed with a man. To reduce her anxieties you need to do what women do when they want sex.
You need to show her you are up for it by sending out subtle signals. This will mean creating an atmosphere where she is quite sure she will not be rejected. This can be as simple as lighting a couple of candles, or dimming the lights, playing her favorite sexy music, feeding her chocolate-flavored cream or strawberries and talking dirty to her. The key is in creating a relaxed but suggestive atmosphere conducive for a night of wild sex.
(2) Be creative
After a few years, it is easy to find the whole game of sex monotonous if you do not create new ways to enjoy each other in bed. When one of you get bored, you may have trouble getting an erection or she may have difficulty in reaching orgasm. The best way to overcome this is to be opened to each other’s new ideas about the things both of you like to try.
To prevent being knocked back, you can turn your requests into a game. You can alternate weeks of who is responsible for coming up with ideas, fantasies and new positions. This way your partner will not feel pressurized. If she gets stuck, there is wide choice of sex manuals, magazines and videos available for both of you to browse.
If she does not orgasm often, this may be due to insignificant stimulation. No matter how much she wants it, she may be too shy to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down there. In order to get her off, head south. One study found women who experience multiple orgasms usually have the first orgasm after cunnilingus, rather than intercourse or manual pleasure.
The tongue is the perfect instrument for stimulating the clitoris. Instead of making her beg for oral sex, learn to be best in performing cunnilingus and give it to her without her ever having to ask. To spice things up, you can try different positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. You can also get an oral kit to enhance your performance. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more.
(4) Be romantic
It is easy to take your partner for granted if both of you are too busy with the daily routines. Make an arrangement to set aside some moments for some dirty romancing. Strike a deal with one of the many relatives you are always in contact with: one Saturday a month, they watch your kids for the night while you and your wife go on a date and you return the favor the next Saturday.
Romance her as you would during courtship days. Her identity is more than just wife or mother and she needs the assurance of your love as well. Intimacy is often more important to a woman than sex. Letting her feel important as a woman and person, and helping her feel emotionally close to you, is what that can fuel her drive to have more sex with you.
(5) Getting fit together
Working out with your woman and treating this activity as fat-burning foreplay can raise her dopamine (good-feeling hormone) levels and ease her anxieties. Besides this, your post-exercise sweat will contain traces of androstadienone, a testerone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.
Use these tips to tune in with each other’s needs and what follows next will be more explosive than both of you ever imagine.