How To Get A Woman To Love Sex

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Do you want your woman to be open with her sexual desires? Do you want her to be more responsive to your sexual overtures?


The fact is when comes to sex, women are more concerned about intimacy and passion rather than the physical act itself. In order for women to want sex, it has to be the sex that is worth having. Women love to be entertained and aroused. In order for her to get aroused, she has to feel loved, feel wanted, feel safe and you have to inject some element of excitement and anticipation in a romantic way. If you want her libido to be at a high point tonight, you have to take care of all these. Here are some ways on how you can re-ignite her passion.


(1)   Talk to her


It is said that before marriage, it is the guy that does most of the talking, but after marriage, it is the woman who talks more.  Men like action more than talking. When a guy suddenly has this desire for sex, he will start groping around her woman’s body, but after a while, this will tend to be a big turn-off for her. To a woman, talking is a way to achieve emotional intimacy which is often closely tied to sexual intimacy. It is the glue that holds a relationship together.


Do take a genuine interest in each other’s experiences. Talk with each other, not at each other. Listen attentively without planning what you will say next or impatiently waiting your turn to speak. Pay attention to the tone of voice, body language and eye contact. Ask questions. Validate positive experiences. Offer support and empathy when needed.


During your talking, it is always good to add in some sincere compliments. In order to feel sexy, a woman first has to feel beautiful. Women get intimacy from words. “You look beautiful” is a fine comment. But follow up by complimenting her on something that is unique to her, such as her laugh, her warm smile, her soft skin, the shape, size and feel of her breasts, her silky hair, her melodic voice, her freckles, etc. This assures her that you find her attractive, as opposed to every other woman. And do not wait for sexual moments to trot out such verbal reinforcements. The more often you can convince her that you find her desirable and attractive, the more often she will desire sex.


When couples learn how to improve their communication skills they will naturally feel more comfortable sharing their wants and needs in the bedroom. Straightforward talk will ultimately lead to more satisfying, fulfilling sex.


(2)   Spend time together


If you have kids, after they go to bed, keep the TV off – tell her you want to spend some time with her. Or, you can get someone to baby-sit while the two of you go out on a date. Do something that will allow you to talk, have fun and feel close to each other. Do the things you used to do before you were married. Try something new. Be seductive and flirtatious with each other. Dress up and take the time to look your best. There is only one don’t; avoid talking about the kids, money or work. Tonight is about the two of you.


A good way to spend time together is to work on a project together. Create something. Learn a new language or musical instrument. Play games. Build something for your home. Write a book for your kids. Make a short homemade movie. Take a class. Try making a photo or video scrapbook of old family photos or video footage. Working as a team will naturally bring you closer together. It happens at the workplace all the time. Invite this feeling of accomplishment into your own home. It really works. 

(3)   Be Seductive and playful


Let her know in advance.  Be playful about it.  And exercise tact.  Start in the morning by giving her a really tender and passionate kiss good bye (not deep, just passionate).  Tell her you wish you had time to kiss her more, but you have to go – let her know that you will be thinking about her all day long.  Send her a message via e-mail, cell text or IM chat.  Tell her you keep thinking about that kiss and how you look forward to seeing her tonight.  Tell her you cannot wait for the kids to go to bed. When you get home, give her another passionate kiss hello. Chat, kiss, etc.  Don’t be pushy, take time and get her really warmed up. 


Set a romantic mood first. Be affectionate with each other. Reminisce about your first date. Look at your wedding album. Sexy lingerie, candles, a bottle of wine, silk sheets is all good aphrodisiacs. Read erotic literature to each other in bed. Act out the parts you like best. Be spontaneous, playful and carefree. As the night goes on, she will be getting a little bit horny.


(4)   Spice things up


Boredom in the bedroom is a result of non-communication and lack of intimacy. Sex becomes routine because the rest of the relationship is routine.


You can make sex interesting by sharing with each other sexual fantasies

or secrets no matter how outrageous or silly they may seem. Promise to be non-judgmental. Be open to play out these scenes as long as they are not uncomfortable for you. The intimacy that such a mutual confession produces will be sexually arousing for her. To take things further, when you are kissing and caressing her, spin a storyline that matches her fantasy. Whisper it in her ear and let her chime in with her own details — which you can use to direct your lips and hands. If her mind equates your touch with her deepest fantasies, she will start getting wet at your first caress.


Another option is role-playing which is liberating because it offers options and taps into your creativity. It is an amazingly effective, safe way to get variety into your sex life. Be someone else in the context of a scenario. How about acting as a hero, villain, teacher, student, spy, Casanova, etc.? Wear costumes, wigs and play roles that both you and your partner find fun.


If she is open to trying new things, you can try some mild bondage. Many women secretly yearn to sexually surrender to a powerful male, one who will take control and will absolve them from the responsibility of achieving an orgasm. The thought of giving up responsibility for their sexual satisfaction is a powerful turn-on.


Prepare her by telling her what you will do to her tonight (you can leave her a note or a voice message or send her an e-mail). Demand that she prepare for it by wearing your favorite “slave” outfit and making herself beautiful. When the time comes, order her to get down on her knees and submit to her “master.”


Tie her gently with a soft bondage item, such as the silk bondage sash which can also be used to lightly tease her nipples. You can then proceed to tease her with a feather or a tickler or give her a light spanking with your hand. Sex toys can also be used here.


Use these tips to help you to become the kind of lover and partner that you want to be. This may not happen overnight, but it is okay to learn a bit at a time. You may make some mistakes along the way. But if you learn from your mistakes, you will keep on getting better. For more ideas and tips, click on Better Sex.

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