How Do I Get Confidence In Sex

 

 

 

 

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When the time comes to having sex, instead of getting aroused, you are completely overwhelmed with anxiety. Even worse is the girl is into you and wanted sex and instead of making her feel comfortable and sexy, you end up being ‘stuck’ in your head with racing thoughts, heart pounding and having a full-blown panic attack. You feel paralyzed in your attempt to make a ‘move’ on her.  This makes you feel down since you do not meet her expectations.

 

Does this sound familiar to you? If it hasn’t happened to you as yet, you are probably aware of a friend or acquaintance that experienced it. There is enough evidence to show that performance anxiety happens to most people, whether they are men or women. But it is definitely the men that suffer the horror of not being able to satisfy their partners sexually either due to not being able to have an erection or feeling that their penis size is not big enough to give women orgasms.

 

So, how do you cope if your main worry is about size? Here are the ways you can make her orgasm easier and more often, even if you are below the average size of 6 inches.

 

(1)   Focus on pleasuring her

 

As guys, we like to assume that a bigger penis will be able to reach more hot spots inside her and this is why women prefer a huge one. In reality, size does not matter a great deal as long as you know what you are doing. Being well endowed do not automatically make you a great lover if you do not know how to please a girl. The most sensitive nerves are on the outer part of the vagina and if you can learn sexual skills to dominate her, these will turn her on many times more than the largest penis could.

 

What you lack in size, you can make up for it by learning how to turn a girl on with masculine dominance. This will include things like –

 

(a)   Talking dirty to her

 

Girls love to hear their partner’s fantasies. It will turn her on to watch you get aroused by what you are describing. A great way to sound sexy and dirty is to describe out loud what is happening during sex, how wonderful it feels in your body; telling her something you are going to do and something you want your lover to do right now. Maintain eye contact as you talk because this can give her extra pleasure. Dirty talk is not just words and phrases, but also about how you say it, which is to use your voice and sounds such as moans, groans, sighs, whispers and screaming. You can sound commanding and harsh, submissive and uncertain and everywhere in between.

 

(b)   Taking the lead

 

You have to know what you are supposed to do, be confident in what you are doing, without asking for her permission. Confidence comes from knowledge which can be acquired in 2 ways. One way is to read widely about sexuality. Another way is to pay attention to your girl to know enough about what she likes and dislikes sexually. Once you are able to know how to please her, you can apply what you have learned wisely by making modifications and adjustments so that you customize or tailor-made your moves to meet her unique needs. During foreplay, you can do a few things to ‘man-handle’ her such as spanking her or lightly biting her neck.

 

(2)   Choose sex positions that can give her g-spot orgasm

 

Here are the 2 positions that can easily make a girl orgasm

 

(a)   Enter her from behind

 

You can penetrate her from behind when she is lying on her side or standing in front of you.

 

(b)   Enter her by standing or kneeling between her legs

 

She will lay on just about any edge big enough with her feet plant on the floor and you penetrate her either by standing or kneeling between her legs. For comfort, you can put pillow under your knees if you choose the kneeling position.

 

Use these 2 tips to overcome your performance anxiety. It may take a little bit of time and effort to purge out those negative thoughts you have accumulated in the past. But once you start the ball rolling, it will pick up speed and you will notice improvement in your partner’s pleasure as well as your own.

 

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