What Can I Do If My Girl Is Shy Of Receiving Oral Sex

 

 

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How to make women orgasm through clitoral stimulation? There are 3 basic ways: using fingers (fingering her), giving oral sex and through intercourse. Of these options, licking the clitoris is the most effective and pleasurable for a lot of women. Most women do not achieve orgasm through intercourse alone because the normal way of penetration offers little chances of rubbing the clitoris. In order to have orgasm from penetration, you have to make some minor changes to the missionary position.

 

This leaves the next best alternative: fingering the clitoris. For some couples where either the guy is not comfortable with licking the clitoris or the woman is self-conscious about her man kissing the clitoris, then stimulating the clitoris with fingers will work best for them. For a guy who does not have much sexual experience, manual stimulation offers the easiest starting point because he can see clearly what he is doing and can more easily gauge his partner’s reaction.

 

Before rubbing the clitoris, there are some basic ground rules you need to follow-

 

(a)    The clitoris is a very sensitive and delicate area. Most women will respond much better to a slow and light initial touch. Your girl will let you know if an increase in pressure is required.

 

(b)   During the early stage of touching the clitoris, you should not focus too much attention on this area, which can be quite uncomfortable for some women. More time should be spent on the area surrounding the clitoris. This is because the nerve endings extend out from the clitoris and a woman can get pleasurable feelings from attention being paid to the entire area.

 

It is only after she has been quite aroused that you can give her clitoris some more attention. You will know she is quite close to orgasm when she moans, her clitoris becomes enlarged (just like an erected penis) with blood rushing into the genitals area, her hips arching towards you, her thighs pressing against your cheeks and her fists clenching. If you put one hand on her stomach, you may feel her muscular contractions. So, keep a lookout for these ‘green lights’ before you cross over to give her more intense sensation.

 

(c)    Speed is important in order to stimulate her effectively. Steadily increasing strokes that are sustained are going to be much more successful than sporadic or inconsistent touching.

 

How To Play With The Clitoris Using Your Fingers?

 

(1)   Make sure your hands are clean

 

Clean hands and trimmed fingernails are very important if you are planning to explore the delicate parts of her body. If you love your woman, you certainly will not want to increase her risks of getting a yeast infection or hurt her most sensitive parts with a sharp fingernail.

 

(2)   Get her in the mood

 

Though your objective is to give her clitoral orgasm, you should not dive in and hone in on her clitoris in the initial stimulation stage. Most women need to have a little bit of warming up for them to get ready for sex. Pay some attention to her other erogenous zones – her ears, neck, breasts, lower back, buttocks, knees and feet. Give her a sensual massage on the back, feet and inner thighs before you gradually work your way to her hot spots. If she is not wet, do not play with her clitoris.

 

(3)   Adjust your pressure according to her preference and arousal level

 

When touching the clitoris, be sure not to get too rough before you get to know what she likes. A light touch works on most women. Once she is getting into the mood, find a regular motion (side-to-side, up-and-down or circular) she likes and repeat it again and again. Not necessarily harder or faster, but perhaps more firmly, more repetitive circular motions usually work well. Sucking her nipples or kissing her while you are fingering the clitoris often helps.

 

If your girl is hypersensitive and like it rough, you have to use a harder touch when you finger her. As she starts to enjoy it, you do it harder and faster. Make sure the clitoris is wet with her natural lubricant or your saliva. Press even harder on the clitoris and keep rubbing from side-to-side, over and over, as fast as you can.

 

If you do it correctly, she will have an orgasm and then cool down. You can keep doing and make her come again a few times till she is satisfied.

 

These are the basic ways to make her orgasm through manual stimulation of the clitoris. All you have to do is to be patient, give her ample time to be properly turned on. Start with small, gentle strokes and work your way up from here as she gets in the mood. Your woman will let you know when she is ready for direct clitoral stimulation. To enhance your performance in giving her oral pleasure, you can also stand-by with a pussy kit, that will sure make her keep asking more from you.

 

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I Want Her To Get An Orgasm – What Should I Do?

 

 

 

A guy wrote in a sex forum: “After sex, I asked my girl if she had an orgasm. She said no and she never has. I want her to get an orgasm because I really like to pleasure her. What should I do?”

 

When it comes to female orgasm, most men are like this guy feeling quite helpless. With these tips and tricks, you will have her moaning in no time and keep coming back for more.

 

How to make her orgasm? There are basically 2 ways you can go about getting a woman to have orgasm: stimulating the clitoris and stimulating the g-spot. Of these 2 choices, stimulating the clitoris is the easiest and quickest way because the clitoris is very easily accessible. You can touch her clit using your fingers or your mouth. Most women masturbate themselves to orgasm by just fingering the clitoris.

 

Oral sex is one of the most exciting and intimate ways to stimulate the clitoris. The tongue can be used with expert precision, transforms from hard to soft and contains the perfect natural lubricant – saliva. The act of cunnilingus is also incredibly sexy and can make her feel like a Goddess when it is done properly. To be good at it, you have to be an excellent reader of her body, her breathing, her movements and what she may be telling you with words.

 

Here is how –

 

(1)   Get her in the mood

 

Most women need some warming up to really get into the mood. Take your time and ease into it. Go and take a hot bath or shower together, using some sweet-smelling lotion or soap which can trigger more arousal. This is also a good chance to use your hands and mouth all over her body.

 

Start with your lips and kiss your way down her body. This will ‘wake up’ her body to get ready to receive what is going to happen next and the anticipation will get her motor heating up. Spend a bit more time on her breasts because the super sensitive nerves under the nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina. Therefore pinching or rubbing her nipples as you go down on her will drive her wild. Tease her mercilessly by kissing and nibbling on her stomach and inner thighs till she starts arching her hips towards you.

 

(2)   Give her additional teasing

 

Start by breathing over her genitals but do not blow over this area. What is needed here is to keep her lubricated and blowing will reduce the wetness. Kiss her inner thighs at first, maybe licking on them and sucking on them in different places. Run your tongue along her vaginal opening. Lick from around the external opening of the anus and towards the area above and around her clitoris. Make sure your tongue and mouth are really wet.

 

(3)   Moving over to her clitoris

 

When you have teased her to the point when she is squirming and moaning a little, or begging you to lick on her vaginal opening, then it is time to reach for her clitoris. Because a lot of women have very sensitive clitoris, therefore most of them prefer to have their clitoris licked through the clitoral hood. Give this area a first wet and soft kiss.

 

(4)   Trying with different strokes

 

Studies have shown that many women prefer clitoral stimulation on the sides of the clitoris at the one o’ clock or eleven o’ clock positions. Gently lick her side-to-side or up-and-down over her clitoral hood at these locations. If she is comfortable with more intense stimulation, you can pull back her clitoral hood to lick on her clitoris with short and repetitive, up-and-down or diagonal licks. If you are not sure about her preferences, ask her to give you feedback.

 

(5)   Giving her suction pleasure

 

As she becomes more aroused, you can take her clitoris in your mouth and gently suck on it. Besides this, you can use your mouth to suck on or nibble on her vaginal lips. With her clitoris inside your mouth, you can gently flick your tongue over it as you apply the suction. This combination of sucking pressure sensation and tongue flicking is a great way to intensify her experience.

 

(6)   Maintaining your stimulation at steady pace and try not to stop

 

Most women like you to just keep doing what you are doing until they are done coming. You will know that she is going to orgasm when she moans, her thighs pressing close to your head, her hands tightening and her body aching towards you. She will tell you to stop when she is satisfied.

 

(7)   A helping hand is always better

 

At times you may get exhausted using your mouth and need to come up for air; you can then use your hand to continue with the stimulation effort. If she ever masturbates in front of you, you should have some idea how she likes her clitoris to be touched. If you are not sure, ask her to show you or you can offer her your hand to let her guide you about the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.

 

The above are some general pointers you can use to make her orgasm. The key is to be receptive and attentive to her body language and get her feedback when in doubt so that you can tailor-made your moves that work best for her. Then and only when she asks you for more tricks to please her, that you can click on Hot Sex and Lick By Lick

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How To Make Her Orgasm Quickly And Orally

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman, is one of the most awesome ways to stimulate her clitoris. Because most women enjoy oral sex, the act of cunnilingus can make her orgasm faster. The following tips and techniques will help to make sure this happens.

 

 

 

(1)   Cleanliness first

 

 

 

If you shave regularly, be sure to do it before you give her oral sex. Nothing kills the mood more than it feels like sand-paper on her sensitive parts when you go down on her. Trim your fingernails too because sharp nails can hurt her delicate and sensitive parts.

 

 

 

(2)   Take a shower with her

 

 

 

This is a good way to start your foreplay on her. With steamy warm water raining down on her, you start to turn her on with your kissing and touching of her from head to toe as you rub soap on her body. Having a shower together can also help to get over your (or her) uneasiness over the taste/and or smell of her genitals.

 

 

 

(3)   Do not focus on the clitoris

 

 

 

There is no need to go down immediately on her. Women love it when a man shows patience in stimulating her. Use your hands and mouth all over her body to create the anticipation and tension on her.

 

 

 

You pay extra attention on her breasts, stomach and thighs. When you pinch or rub her nipples, you will also ‘wake up’ the sensitive nerves under them which are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina.

 

 

 

As you move on to her other erogenous zones, she will get to the point of being so sexually aroused – her hips are thrusting towards you and her moans pretty regular – which is a signal for you to head south.

 

 

 

(4)   Work on the areas around her clitoris

 

 

 

You begin at the very base of her vulva and work your way up slowly with a long and wet lingering lick. While doing this, make sure you pay attention to her signals – her moans and responses – so that you will know which particular move can turn her on effectively. At this point in time, you just tease her and build up her tension by spending more time working on the areas around her clitoris

 

 

 

(5)   Direct stimulation

 

 

 

A lot of women have very sensitive clitoris. Therefore your initial contact with her clitoris should be very gentle licking and not to stay too long over it. It is only when you sense she is quite close to orgasm that you start focusing on her clitoris.

 

 

 

When she is ready to receive your direct clitoral stimulation you should see either or some of these signals – she moans, her breathing becomes more rapid, her thighs pressing against your head, her hips arching towards you and her hands tightening on your head or grabbing your hair. At this point, you can apply a bit more pressure as you stimulate her.

 

 

 

If she likes intense stimulation, you can pull back her clitoral hood with your index finger and use your tongue to apply short and repetitive up-and-down or diagonal licks on her clitoris. To arouse her even more, you can take the labia (vaginal lips) or even the clitoris in the mouth and gently create a sucking sensation. You maintain the pace and rhythm of your licking and do not stop unless she asks you to.

 

 

 

(6)   Use your fingers

 

 

 

At times, your tongue may get tired and you want to catch some breath and you can continue stimulating her clitoris with your fingers. You place 2 well-lubricated fingers over the top of her clitoris and rub it either in circular or up-and-down motion.

 

 

 

You can also insert 2 curled and lubricated fingers inside her with your palm facing and at the same time rest your thumb on her clitoris. These 2 fingers will rub on her g-spot while you use your thumb to draw circles on her clitoris – this combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation will give her double pleasure and lead her to a very mind-blowing orgasm.

 

 

 

Once you know how to push her buttons, you can keep doing it until she lets you know she wants a change. To spice things up, you can throw in a new position, location, and technique or oral tool kit. If you want to know how you can do this, you can click on Hot Sex and Turn Her On.

 

 

 

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The Mistakes To Avoid When Stimulating Her Clitoris

 

 

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The last thing you want is to have your girl losing interest in sex because you stimulate her clitoris in the wrong way. Here are the mistakes to avoid if you want to turn her on effectively.

 

(1)   Lack of communication

 

Every woman is different and has her own individual preferences. Great sex is not just about sexual techniques. You need to communicate with your woman to find out what she likes and what works on her. During lovemaking, you have to pay attention to her body signals and responses and make changes/adjustments accordingly because there is no one fixed set of rules in pleasing a woman sexually.

 

A good way to know how she likes her clitoris to be touched is to watch her masturbating. You will be able to observe where she touches, how much pressure she applies to each area and how fast she moves her fingers. Or, you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.

 

(2)   Stopping halfway

 

If she is enjoying what you are doing to her, do not stop.  This will break her momentum in reaching orgasm. If you are tired, you can switch the way you stimulate her either by fingers, tongue or a vibrator. You have to continue stimulating her until she experiences orgasm contractions.

 

(3)   Overly dependent on vibrators

 

You may have heard about how your girl’s vibrator can be her best friend. Vibrators can give her quick and powerful orgasms. It comes in handy and is a good aid to give her continued stimulation when your fingers or tongue get tired before she reaches orgasm.

 

Vibrators can be great fun, but over-using them can lead to a temporary desensitization of the clitoris. This means she may not be able to orgasm unless a vibrator is used. You can use a vibrator to spice things up. But no matter how good and efficient a vibrator is, it should not be a total replacement of your oral/manual stimulation of her clitoris.

 

(4)   Not providing enough of lubrication

 

Lubrication is the key to making her experience pleasure when you stimulate her clitoris. Imagine rubbing your face with a sand-paper. This is how it feels when you touch her un-lubricated clitoris. To avoid this, you can apply her natural lubrication, your saliva or a water-based lubricant to the area before stimulation. Also, do not blow on her clitoris because it will dry up the lubrication and cause discomfort. However, you can breathe warmly on it.

 

(5)   Too impatient

 

Even if your main purpose is to give her oral sex, this does not mean you have to go straight for her clitoris. You have to take things slowly by giving her time to warm-up her body. You focus on her other erogenous zones first, starting from her head by kissing her lips, neck, fondling her breasts before you move further down to kiss and nibble on her stomach and inner thighs. You tease her mercilessly until her hips start thrusting towards you, which is a signal for you to move to her clitoris.

 

(6)   Too much attention on her clitoris initially

 

The clitoris is highly sensitive. If you focus on her clitoris or apply too much pressure on this area too soon, she may feel uncomfortable instead of getting turned on. Your initial contact with her clitoris (if any) should be light and short. The correct way is to work on the area around her clitoris to let her get used to the sensation before stimulating it directly.

 

Do not be afraid to venture further away to her perineum, anus and vaginal opening. It is only when you sense she is quite close to orgasm that you switch your attention on her clitoris. She will be more receptive to your direct clitoral stimulation when she starts moaning, her breathing gets more rapid, her hips arching towards you, her thighs pressing against your head and her hands grabbing your hair or holding your head firmly.

 

These mistakes can really turn her off and kill the mood for sex. Always when in doubt, check with her is the best. Pay attention to her body signals, her breathing and her movements, take your time and react/adjust accordingly so as to tailor your moves to her needs.

 

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The Naughty Things A Naked Girl Would Like To Get From You

 

She is in her birthday suit. This could be the 1st time or the 100th time you are with her. What are you going to do to please her in bed for the next one hour or so? In most situations, whether it is the 1st encounter or not, she would love very much that you could do the following things.

 

(1)   Pamper the back part of her body

 

The back part of her body is also very responsive to any sensual stimulation. You stand behind her to start with kissing the nape of her neck and then slowly give her a cat bath down her spine. This position allows you to simultaneously massage her breasts and other possible erotic areas at the front part of the body. To help you in doing a better job, you can get her a special massager.

 

(2)   Give her an unusual clitoral stimulation

 

You gently pin her against the wall and spread her legs using your knee. Then you brush your thigh against the area between her legs to warm her up. You can also use the tip of your “little brother” to rub against her clitoris. Take her hand and place it on your shaft so she can control how she wants to be stimulated.

 

(3)   Be naughty with your hands

 

You use one hand to massage her buttocks and the other hand reaching to cup her face. By doing this you are letting her feel she is so beautiful that you cannot stop looking at her and you find her so seductive that you cannot wait to do her.

 

(4)   Lubricate her

 

Before you enter her, apply some flavored lubricant around the opening to her vagina. The amount of lubricant should be just enough to enter her smoothly but not too much that there is no friction at all.

 

(5)   Give her some love bites

 

When people are in a state of being highly aroused they have a slightly higher tolerance for pain. You can take advantage of this by giving some love bites on her thighs before doing oral on her.

 

(6)   Apply pressure on this little known hot spot

 

Put your thumbs on either side of her vagina and rub the area in small circles. The nerves that link to her clitoris actually extend to this area so your massage prepares her body for oral sex.

 

(7)   Keep her guessing

 

You can do this by blindfolding her and planting kisses on any part of her body. Because she is not sure where your cheeky lips are going to land next, this will put her body in a state of constant anticipation. You can also give her oral sex when she is being blindfolded. This will be good for women who have problem in letting go because they are self-conscious about how they look down there.

 

(8)   Give her some visual stimulation

 

Put some mirrors at strategic locations in the bedroom so that she can see reflections of you doing her. Women can also get turned on by what they see.

 

(9)   Give her a clitoral and g-spot orgasm

 

Use 2 fingers (the 3rd and 4th fingers) to lightly stroke her clitoris in circles. Apply some lubricant on the 2nd finger of your other hand (with the palm facing up) and go about 1 to 2 inches inside her along the front wall to reach for the g-spot (which feels spongy) to press on.

 

(10)  Try this improved version of missionary sex position

 

Tie her ankles together before you enter her. In this way her vaginal wall will give your “little brother” a tighter squeeze making her you feel bigger. This position also allows for better clitoral stimulation. You can also put her in the best position to orgasm in the fastest way by getting her a love cushion.

 

(11)  Pamper her joints

 

Those parts of her body which can be bent such as neck, elbow, waist, etc are very sensitive to sensual stimulation. Kiss any of these spots during the lovemaking session to heighten her sensation. It will be better if you can leave out her usual sensual spot first so that by the time she gets highly aroused she will be dying for you to go for the “final assault”.

 

(12)  Give her oral sex at right angle

 

Position yourself perpendicularly to her body so that you can move your tongue back and forth sideways across her clitoris. This change from the usual up and down movement of your tongue on her clitoris will enrich her sensual sensation.

 

(13)   Blow hot and cold

 

Suck on her nipples until they become hard. Alternate blowing and breathing hot air on them. You can also put ice-cubes in your mouth to provide the cooling sensation. You can also use the hot and cold sensation when you give her oral sex. Hide one or two ice-cubes in your mouth, alternate having the ice-cubes touch her while you give her oral sex and then hiding it in your cheek. This change in temperature is extra sensual to her.

 

(14)   Talk dirty to her

 

Go and whisper to her ear that you are going to make her wet without touching her. Proceed to tell her in great details all the naughty things you are going to do to her later in the evening.

 

(15)  Add in some sex toys

 

Slip in one of those rings that have a mini-vibrator attached to it over your “little brother”. This should give her a kind of pleasure that she would not normally get before.

 

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