Men Health – What Is Premature Ejaculation And How To Treat It

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Premature ejaculation (PE) means coming too quickly, and it is one of the most common sexual problems in younger men. PE happens to around about 20% to 30% in men of all ages.


The medical method of determining premature ejaculation is called “intra-vaginal ejaculatory latency time” (IELT), a stopwatch-timed duration measured from the beginning of vaginal penetration until ejaculation occurs.


At the 2006 Congress of the European Society for Sexual Medicine, an American research paper reported that on average the lasting time of men with PE was 1.8 minutes and for ‘normal men’ it will last an average of 7.3 minutes.


However, this quantitative measure doesn’t tell the whole story: There are men who ejaculate within a minute but say that they don’t have premature ejaculation. And then on other end of spectrum, there are patients who are able to last for 20 minutes, and they say they do have premature ejaculation.


In other words, the definition of “premature” may be largely in the eye (or mind) of the beholder, and depends on a man’s sexual satisfaction and his perception of his ability to control when ejaculation occurs.


What Causes PE


The causes for PE is either you are just being very excited with a new partner, or an acute sensitivity of the local nervous system, which triggers orgasm too suddenly.  It can also be linked to anxiety about sexual performance, stress, unresolved issues in a relationship, or depression.


How To Treat PE


Some men try to treat themselves with a local anesthetic gel that is applied to the shaft of the penis shortly before intercourse. The drawback of this method is the local anesthetic can ‘dull’ the sex sensation for your partner. It can also cause a distressing skin reaction in either partner, with intense itching, redness and soreness.


Some others try a ‘long love condom’ that contains a local anesthetic (benzocaine or lidocaine) inside it. A few guys claim that they do last longer with these condoms, but the man is still at risk of a sensitivity reaction to the local anesthetic.


There is a penis squeeze method which requires your partner to place her hand so that her thumb is on one side of the erect penis with her index and middle fingers are on the other side. The index finger will be just above the ridge of the glans (the ‘head’), while the middle finger is just below the ridge.  When you feel you are near to a climax, tell your partner to squeeze on the shaft firmly between her thumb and the other two fingers.


The squeeze method technique begins with the manual stimulation of the penis, progresses to motionless intercourse and then to intercourse with both partners moving. This technique requires the partner to stimulate the penis until he is close to ejaculation. When the man is about to ejaculate, the partner squeezes just below the head of the penis hard enough to make him partially lose his erection. About 76 percent of couples who learned and used this technique had success treating premature ejaculation.


This penis squeeze method really needs to be demonstrated to you personally by an expert. Most couples who try to learn it from the Internet or a book get it wrong.  So, it will be better to see your GP, or a psycho-sexual therapist who can teach you how to do it properly.


Recently, there is this new medication which is a tablet called dapoxetine (its trade name is Priligy). It is actually an antidepressant which has the ability to lengthen the time between sexual arousal and climax.


It is taken by mouth, in tablet form a couple of hours before you intend to have intercourse. The dose is either 30 mg or 60 mg. Dosage depends mainly on your body weight. Please note that this tablet will not cure PE. It only relieves the problem.


Possible side-effects of dapoxetine include dizziness, nausea, insomnia, headaches and diarrhea. However, if you have bad PE, Priligy would probably be worth trying. It is a prescription drug. You can obtain it via the internet, but you should have an online ‘consultation’ with a doctor first. It is extremely expensive, costing SGD167 to SGD186 (USD136 to USD152) for just three tablets. This works out at about SGD59 (USD48) every time you want to make love.


In my opinion, it will be best not to use pills because they are expensive and do not cure your PE. In this case, you can use the self-training start-and-stop masturbation method to control your sexual response.


What you can do is you set aside some private time to masturbate with dry hands. You will masturbate almost to the point of ejaculation and then stop. You do this for three times and on the fourth time you allow yourself to ejaculate. After you have achieved some measure of control on your ejaculation, you can try masturbating with a wet hand, which will feel more like the inside of a vagina.


It is often easier said than done to tell you to relax during sex because the more you tell yourself to relax, the more your mind will focus on your anxiety. If this happens to you, what you can do is, instead of focusing on yourself, you give your partner 100% attention and do all you can to pleasure her in every way she likes.


This can be oral sex, giving her an erotic massage, role-playing, etc. The main thing is to get your woman to achieve at least an orgasm during foreplay. Once she had her first orgasm, her body will be very responsive to your stimulation. As long as she gets her orgasm, how long you can last inside her will be immaterial to her. This is because most women reach orgasm not as a result of penetration but due more by clitoral stimulation.


By focusing on pleasuring your partner, your attention will be distracted away from yourself. The result is that you will feel the sense of achievement when you see your woman reaching orgasm or even multiple orgasms. You will have a satisfied partner and most probably frequent passionate sex as she can’t just seem to get enough and always beg for more from you.


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How A Woman Can Turn A Man On When She Is On Top


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You and your guy are always changing sex positions. He wants you to be on top. But each time when you try to ride on him, it sucks. Everyone tells you to just sit on him and ride it.


But riding a man isn’t just about sitting on top. There is a lot more to it than that. If you want to know how to ride your man and look sexy, here is a list of things for you to take note.


(1)   Practice First


Being a first timer or someone who hasn’t really been riding a man often enough, this position can be a bit tricky. But you can always get better by practicing it on your own. When alone in the bedroom, try rolling a pillow and sitting on top of it like you will, if you are on top of your guy. Roll your hips back and forth like what you are going to do if you are trying to balance on a mechanical ball.


(2)   Get Him Involved


When you are on top of him, grab his hands and have him support your balance. The more balance you have, the easier it will be for you to keep a steady rhythm when you are going back and forth.


If you want to try to bounce up and down, it is important for your guy to help you with the bouncing. It will help ease your sex workout and make him feel involved too. By doing that, both of you will be able to last longer and enjoy the girl-on-top position for a longer period of time.


(3)   Get His Feedback


Sex is all about being connected and having good communication. While you are on top of him, read his signs and ask him if he likes what you are doing and what he likes you to do to improve on it.


If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down to see if it is anything to do with your movement. Perhaps you are moving too aggressively. If he suddenly grabs you, stop moving for a while to find out if he is unable to hold on anymore.


If his member starts throbbing inside you when you are on top, he is probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so you have to slow down and help him get back his control.


(4)   Let Go Off Yourself


If you want to ride your guy, you have to make sure he is really turned on and you have to let go off your inhibitions and forget about your self-consciousness. Focus on how sexy you must look to him while on your knees hovering over him.


While he is on his back with his firm erection, swing one of your legs over him. As you grind your pelvis against his, lean back and stretch your body. You will be able to reveal all and look a lot sexier too.


Then you lick his nipples, nibble his ears, grab his butt as you straddle him and do anything else that makes you feel good. Your man may actually be surprised and get turned on by seeing this new side of yours. He is going to have a hard time keeping his hands off your body as you show yourself off.


(5)   Get Seductive


Use your fingers to play with your hair carelessly when he is looking at you. This will definitely be very arousing for him to see you enjoy yourself. As you bounce off him, cup your breasts with your hands and move them against the sides of your body. You can also take his hands and place them on your breasts as you grind him.


Get close to him, brush your breasts against him and whisper something dirty and sexy in his ears. What better way to turn him on than to tell him, “I’m coming.” So simple, so powerful, so ego-bossing for him because this proofs he is successfully satisfying you.


(6)   Start Slowly And Gently


Great sex is all about the rhythm and the motion. Both of you have to feel in synchronize with each other to actually enjoy sex. If you move too aggressively, he will not be able to keep up with you.


As a lot of your weight is resting around his member, you should avoid sitting on him hard or moving in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. This may fracture him down there.


You can move vertically up and down, or move around his member in slow circles, or go fast and quick or slow and deeper. Whatever motions you choose or switch to, give him enough time to adjust to your moves so that he can connect better with you, which will ensure that the sex is better.


(7)   Take Control


Getting on top takes the control away from your man, but your sexual confidence will end up turning him on a lot more. Push him onto the bed and let him know just how horny you are. Grab his hand and ride him harder.


To get kinkier, you can tie his hands to the bed post or even handcuff him or tie his hands together with a scarf. You can also stop halfway and give him oral. Or, you can take his member out while having sex and move your hip close towards his face so that he can lick your clitoris.


(8)   Choose Any Of These Positions

(a)   Chest To Chest


This position facilitates clitoral stimulation. If you find it difficult to reach orgasm in the missionary position, this position will help a lot. Because you are sitting on him, this position does not need much balancing. For him the benefits are that he can relax and just enjoy the fact that you are taking control.


(b)   Normal Cowgirl


This is a great position from a man’s point of view because you can really give him a good show. You need to lean backwards and support yourself with your arms. While doing so, he can play with your breasts or rub your clitoris. You have full control with this position and it is also one of the best for hitting your g-spot too.


     (c) Facing Away From Him


In this position, you sit on him with your buttocks facing him. If your guy is a butt guy who prefers to look at a sexy butt more than an eyeful of boobs, he will love this position.


Use these tips when you are on top of your man. Remember to feel and look sexy and confident so as to give him the wildest ride he ever had.


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Men Health – How Can I Keep It Hard Longer?

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At some stage in their life, most men have a problem getting and keeping an erection. It is only when the erection is not sustained in order to have sex at least half of the time does the lack of fullness and hardness becomes a problem. If this is so, you may be suffering from erectile dysfunction (ED).


ED can affect men at any age, but is more common as men get older. It’s estimated that half of all men aged 40-70 have some degree of ED.


ED can have physical and psychological causes, and sometimes be a combination of both. The most common physical cause is the narrowing of the blood vessels in the penis due to heart problem, high blood pressure and diabetes. Psychological causes include depression, anxiety and relationship problems.


ED can also be a side effect of drug use, whether for recreation or for treatment. Drugs such as hormones, tricyclic anti-depressants, muscle relaxants, diuretics, beta-blockers and H2 blockers are common culprits. Addictive substances may also cause problems. To solve your erectile problems, talk to your doctor about possible alternatives may resolve the problem. If you are using recreational drugs, you might want to stop.


How To Treat ED?


Treatment for ED depends on what is causing it.


Erectile dysfunction can be an important signal to other issues. It is associated with raised cholesterol, diabetes and raised blood pressure. Any of these can be a warning of future heart disease. Your doctor can ensure that you get the treatment you need. 


Symptoms of ED can often be improved by making lifestyle changes, such as losing weight, if you are overweight,  giving up smoking, drinking less alcohol, exercising regularly and reducing stress


If your erection problem is due to psychological cause such as stress or performance anxiety, the key is not to panic. Take your time and engage in longer foreplay or try some new techniques to help make things more interesting and back some of the pressure off of your penis. Get creative but, most important is to have fun. For example, you can get her to suck your cock or go down and lick her pussy and ass. That may get you going.


If you want to put it in and it is not hard enough, you can ask her to get on her hands and knees, and rub the head of your cock against her pussy hole for a few minutes. What you need is just to focus on the pleasure and sensation of rubbing against her. Before you know it, it will get semi-hard, and you can then pop right in.


If the above ways do not work, you may consider psychological treatments such as sex therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy, which is a form of relationship therapy where you and your partner can discuss any sexual or emotional issues or concerns. 


If you are prescribed blood pressure tablets or antidepressants which cause erection difficulty, your doctor may be able to put you on a different kind.


If your erection problem is due to low testosterone, it can be treated with hormone replacement therapy. This should resolve erectile dysfunction as long as it’s used together with erection-helping drugs. Other conditions, such as diabetes and high blood pressure, can be treated, which may improve erections.


There are drugs that may be used to treat the physical problems of impotence, which may be taken orally or through injections. Sildenafil (brand name Viagra) may be prescribed and used safely, as long as you are not taking nitrates for heart problems. There are also drugs that are injected directly into the penis and produce an erection that could last about one hour.


Some devices, such as vacuum or constriction rings, can be very helpful in getting and keeping an erection. There are also implants that are inserted into the man’s penis that may either be semi-rigid or inflatable, allowing more control. There are many different kinds and styles of these devices and are very useful if the erectile dysfunction problem is due to physical cause.


If your doctor has certified that your erection difficulty is not due to any underlying medical problems, you can turn to Get Harder Erection and Dirty Harry’s Secrets for inspiration, ideas and tools to get back the erection you want.




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Men Health – Hard Facts Of Penis

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Here are some things you might have wondered about your penis, but were afraid to ask.


Appearance And Sensitivity Can Change With Age


There are two major changes to the appearance of a penis as a man ages. The head of the penis (glans) gradually loses its purplish color, the result of reduced blood flow. There is also a slow loss of pubic hair. As testosterone wanes, the penis gradually reverts to its pre-pubertal, mostly hairless, state.


It is normal for a penis to curve slightly to the left or right when it is erect. It is only when you have a more significant bend in your penis which may cause you pain or difficulty having sex, that you need to see a doctor. This condition, known as Peyronie’s disease, occurs most commonly in middle age. This is due to the accumulation of penile scar tissue which cause the penis to become curved


Studies have shown that the penis becomes less sensitive as men age. From age 25 on, sensitivity starts to decline. The sharpest decline in sensitivity is seen between age 65 and 75. This can make it hard to achieve an erection and to have an orgasm. Whether this will render orgasm less pleasurable remains an open question?


It Can Shrink With Less Usage


You need to have erections regularly to keep your penis in shape. It has to be essentially exercised. To maintain a healthy tone, the smooth muscle of the penis must be periodically enriched with oxygen by the rush of blood that engorges the penis and makes it erect.


If you do not do anything to maintain normal erection, the penis can get shorter. Without regular erections, penile tissue can become less elastic and shrink, making the penis 1-2 centimeters shorter. A device like a vacuum pump, which forces the penis to swell with blood, can help men with physical erection problems maintain a healthy penis.


Is Masturbation Healthy?


Due to the above reason, it is okay to masturbate. Apart from the pleasure it gives, masturbating can help you learn what you like and don’t like sexually. Men can also use masturbation to learn how to control their orgasms.


Some guys are worried that if they masturbate too often they will run out of sperm. Men will not run out of sperm, as they produce it continuously. After a man has ejaculated, it will take some time before he can ejaculate again. This is normal and doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with his sperm.


Masturbation is harmless, but if you do it too often your genitals may feel sore. If men do it a lot in a short space of time, they can get a slightly alarming looking swelling of the penis, called oedema, caused by fluid in the tissues. However, the swelling disappears within a day or two.


Another thing to take note is vigorous masturbation can rupture your penis.


No Relation Between Size And Erection


There are two types of penises. A penis that doesn’t gain much length with an erection has become known as a “shower,” and a penis that gains a lot is said to be a “grower.” However, most penises aren’t extreme showers or growers. About 12% of penises gained one-third or less of their total length with an erection, and about 7% doubled in length when erect. Generally, shorter penises increase more in length when they become erect than longer ones.


Researchers also found that the difference in length between a short penis and a longer one was a lot less obvious when erect than when flaccid. For example, the flaccid penises varied in length by 3.1cm (1.2 inches), whereas the average erect lengths differed by only 1.7cm (0.67 inches).


The Tip Is The Most Sensitive Part


Many men consider the underside of the glans (head) of the penis and the underside of the shaft to be most sensitive to sexual pleasure. The implication from this is, when a woman performs oral sex on a guy, it is not necessary for her to take it all in, which can trigger a gag reflex. What is needed is a woman should spend more time on the tip and the underside using her fingers, lips and tongue.


Circumcision And HIV


While there is not significance difference in sexual pleasure between circumcised and uncircumcised, circumcision can cut down the risk of getting HIV and passing sexually transmitted diseases to your partner. This is because certain anaerobic bacteria (which do not need oxygen to grow) thrive in the inner fold of the foreskin which is moist most of the time.


After circumcision, there are fewer kinds of bacteria on the men’s penises. This also explains why circumcision has been linked to a lower risk of getting HIV. One theory is the anaerobic bacteria may prompt the immune system to respond in a way that makes cells more vulnerable to HIV infection.  


Vibrators Can Help Men With Ejaculation Problems


Vibrators aren’t only for women. They work on the penis, too. In fact, vibration is so effective on the penis that often men with spinal cord injuries can ejaculate with the aid of a special medical vibrator. For this kind of treatment, the vibrator is usually held against the underside of the head of the penis.


Although vibrators often help men with ejaculation problems, you don’t have to have any kind of medical condition to use one. You could do it just for fun by using a vibrating personal massager.


A happy sex life is very important for every relationship and your overall life. Though sex can get boring and less satisfying at times, you should never resign to this state of affairs. There are ways to spice things up. When there is a will, there will always be a way. For this you can turn to Hot Sex and Endless Pleasure for inspiration, ideas and tools to get back the sex life you want.


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Do Females Really Care About Penis Size

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What is the average size of penis? Can you enlarge your penis? Can penis size affect sexual performance? What women think about penis size? Read below to get answers to these questions.


Penis Size Changes With Age And Weight


When men grow older they tend to gain weight and fat will accumulate on the lower abdomen which causes the penis to look smaller.


In addition to this apparent shrinkage (which is reversible) the penis tends to undergo an actual (and irreversible) reduction in size. The reduction — in both length and thickness — typically isn’t dramatic but may be noticeable. If a man’s erect penis is 6 inches long when he is in his 30s, it might be 5 or 5-and-a-half inches when he reaches his 60s or 70s.


What causes the penis to shrink? There are two factors involved here. One is the slow deposition of fatty substances (plaques) inside tiny arteries in the penis, which impairs blood flow to the organ. The other factor is the gradual buildup of relatively inelastic collagen (scar tissue) within the stretchy fibrous sheath that surrounds the erection chambers. Erections occur when these chambers fill with blood. Blockages within the penile arteries — and increasingly inelastic chambers — mean smaller erections.


As penis size changes, so do the testicles. Starting around age 40, the testicles definitely begin to shrink. The testicles of a 30-year-old man might measure 3 centimeters in diameter; those of a 60-year-old, perhaps only 2 centimeters.


What Is The Average Size Of The Penis?


For adults, the average penis size is about 14-16cm (5.5-6.3 inches) when erect. The average girth for an erect penis is 12-13cm (4.7-5.1 inches). A penis would only be considered unusually small if it is less than 3 inches (7.6cm) long when erect.


In one study of 80 men, researchers found that increases from flaccid to erect lengths ranged widely, from less than a quarter-inch to 3.5 inches longer. Therefore there is no consistent relationship between the size of the flaccid penis and its full erect length. Penises that are smaller when they are limp tend to grow more when they are erect, so your penis’ size when limp does not necessarily predict its size when erect.


Many men worry that their penis is too small. However, when you look at your penis from above, it seems smaller than it is because you’re looking down on it. If you are overweight, your penis may look smaller as some of its base will be hidden by fat around your stomach.  The size of your penis can also be affected by other things. For example, if you’re feeling cold or anxious, it can make your penis temporarily smaller.


People tend to think that taller men have longer penises, but this is not true. Some short men are known to have more than an average penis size and in the same way, some tall and well-built men have a smaller than average penis. You should also know that penis size has nothing to do with racial background.


Penis Size And Sexual Performance And Satisfaction


Some people believe that men with larger penises are more capable of satisfying their partners sexually. However, this is not true. Many factors such as understanding and responding to your partner’s needs and wishes are more important for a fulfilling sex life than the size of any body part.


Though men care very much about penis size, most women have little interest about its size. According to a sexuality research, a much higher percentage of women (85%) were satisfied with their partner’s penis size than the percentage of men (55%) who were satisfied with their own penis size.


Most research studies suggest that penis size is much lower down the list of priorities for women than such issues as a man’s personality and grooming. An unusually long penis can actually be uncomfortable for some. Girth matters to some women, but not to all.  When it comes to sex, women are much more interested in whether you are romantic, tender and sensitive to their needs and desires than your penis size.


The chief reason why the penis size is of little importance is that the vagina is a flexible organ which will expand or contract according to the size of the penis. This means that any man’s penis will fill any woman’s vagina completely, except in very rare cases where the erect penile length is less than four inches. This also means that a somewhat larger penis can be accommodated in a woman’s vagina, because it will expand accordingly.


Can Penis Size Be Increased?


Surgery can be done to increase the length of the penis involves cutting the suspensory ligament. This ligament joins the penis to the pelvic area and supports the penis in an upright position when it’s erect.


When the ligament is cut, the penis hangs lower, which can make it look longer. However, cutting the ligament may also cause the penis to point downwards when erect. A study in 2006 found that cutting the suspensory ligament led to an average increase of 1.3cm in penis length. However, only 35% of men who had the operation were happy with the results.


Surgery is also possible for increasing the girth of the penis by injecting fat taken from elsewhere in the body into the penis. However, there is a risk that the penis may look uneven or lumpy, and there may be scarring. Also, the injected fat can disappear over time.


The non-surgical ways to increase penis size are vacuum pumps, penis extenders or stretching devices and pills, supplements and creams. But (with the exception of penis extenders) they can only increase the size temporarily.


If you are overweight, losing weight will make your penis look larger. This is because the fat around your stomach may hide some of the base of your penis.


What Women Want


Though size may matter to some women, but the good news is you can outsmart your size even if you come up short—leaving you both satisfied. What can be done? Be passionate; spend enough time on real foreplay, and variety.


What keeps women coming back for more is not your penis size – it’s your passion and your effort in pleasuring her. Women want to feel appreciated, and sometimes nonsexual touching is more of a turn-on than going straight for her butt or breasts. Be affectionate to her by putting a little more effort in your foreplay. You take time to caress and kiss her all over. It is this type of little affection that wakes up her senses.


During lovemaking you can enhance your erection by either entering her from behind with pillow support under her belly or by letting her get on top of you. The doggie position can intensify her pleasure by making you feel larger inside her. The woman-on-top position can give her a lot of freedom in choosing the amount of friction against her clitoris and the angle of penetration that can hit her g-spot.


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