For Couples – How To Have More And Better Sex

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Looking For Ways To Spice Up Sex?

 

Is sex getting routine for you? Are you bored of the same action in bed? Do you sometimes feel tired to have sex?  Do you feel that something is lacking in your love life that you feel like you are just going through the motion when having sex? If this is you, you are not alone. Many lovers get stuck in a sexual rut. But this does not mean you have to settle for occasional and/or boring sex. Here are some things you can do to break the cycle of boredom.

 

(1)   Talk To Each Other

 

Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship and the foundation for great sex. Good and effective communication includes being a good listener, paying close attention to the spoken words but also the tone of voice and body language used, in order to get a complete understanding of what is being spoken.

 

Couples often complain that they do not have much time to really communicate with each other, not with taking care of the kids, holding down one or more jobs, doing household chores and paying bills. If your children do not have a normal bedtime routine, make one. Putting the kids to bed at a reasonable hour gives both of you time to unwind from your day at work or other family responsibilities, allowing both of you the needed time to focus attention on each other.

 

Making time to be alone with each other should therefore be a priority if you want your sex life to be better. Meaningful communications do not have to only be about personal crises. Endless talk of problems will turn off a partner, no matter how sympathetic he or she is. The time spends together should not be used to discuss the kids, jobs, bills or other stress related topics. Instead the sole purpose of the time together is to connect with each other as friends and lovers.

 

When disagreements occur, avoiding or refusing to talk about them can breed anger and resentment that can hurt your sex life. It is not that happy couples never argue. Most couples have disagreements. But in a mature relationship, power is not defined by winning an argument or getting one’s way. True power comes from knowing how to discuss differences fully and honestly. Successful couples know how to argue with class and dignity. They may disagree, but in the end, they end up understanding and respecting each other’s differences.

 

(2)   Give Sex A Temporary Break

 

At times the pressure to perform may cause you to feel tired of sex. To alleviate the pressure, you can hold off on having sex for a few nights. Skipping sex for a couple of days is a form of delayed gratification. Waiting enhances the anticipation factor, making you more turned on, so when you do have intercourse, it will be better and more fun.

 

You can also consider forgoing full-on sex and focus on foreplay. If you only have foreplay for a day or two and get each other really worked up, it will make the sex much hotter when you actually do it. Sometimes just simply cuddling each other will do. Affection and tender physical contact are also important investments in your happiness and, ultimately, a better sex life.

 

(3)   Do Exciting New Things Together


Participating in adventurous, thrilling activities outside the bedroom (a trip to an amusement park, motorcycle riding, cycling and surfing lessons) with your other half can spice things up. Engaging in novel, arousing activities with a partner can reignite that giddy early sensation of being in love. If you both find sailing or water-skiing exciting, for example, that rush-like feeling can carry over into bed. By doing things you both enjoy, you will enhance the connection between both of you, which can improve the overall relationship.

 

(4)   Do Not Take Each Other For Granted

 

The main problem in every long term relationship is the tendency to take each other for granted. After so many years together, we become too comfortable with each other. We no longer feel the need to do or say anything to please and impress each other.

 

One way to overcome this is to take turns to please other by. By forgetting yourself and homing in on his or her pleasure, then switching, you can discover new erogenous zones.  So tell your partner or lover that tonight is all about him or her. Give him or her massage to clue in to untapped erotic territory, like his or her ears, feet and nipples. Focus on his or her reactions such as moans, grunts and a rapid-fire heartbeat so that you will know what drives him or her wild, and concentrate on those areas. Later (or even the next night), pull a role reversal.

 

Another form of taking each other for granted is reflected by the way both of us start to neglect our appearance. Brush or comb your hair, brush your teeth, take a bath or shower every day, put on some makeup, get rid of those old nasty sweats and put on an outfit that shows that you care about your appearance.

 

Ladies, put your hair up in a nice clip instead of a “scrunch”, or take the time to curl your hair and make yourself look nice for your husband. Get rid of the granny panties and wear some underwear that is attractive and sexy for your man. There isn’t much that can diminish the romantic feelings between husband and wife than to see your spouse looking frumpy and disheveled.

 

Taking care of yourself and your body, by keeping fit will both improve your health and increase your energy and sexual appeal. You don’t have to run a four-minute mile to feel that way. Even a brisk 30-minute walk revs your heart and clears your head. Or sign up for a gym membership, put your favorite songs on your iPod and work out with your honey. In fact, studies show that people who stay healthy and active have a better sex life than their couch potato friends.

 

Passion ebbs and flows in every relationship, but romance can last forever if you make the effort. Hold hands in the movies and when you walk down the street. Lean over and give your partner a kiss just because. Be a little naughty and send a sexy text message. Do something special and unexpected for each other.

 

Express genuine appreciation and gratitude for the things your spouse does; compliment and flirt with your husband or wife. Take a shower together; give each other massages; make out on the couch without thinking that it is not “good enough” unless you go all the way, like the way you did when you were dating.

 

Pay close attention to subtle hints and comments about something your husband or wife wants or needs, and purchase it for him or her as a surprise. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive. Pay close attention to clues for birthday, holiday or anniversary gift ideas, making a point to write them down so you won’t forget and end up struggling to find a gift your spouse really wants.

 

Has your partner mentioned a concert or sporting event he or she has interest in attending? Buy some tickets and go as a couple. Does your spouse enjoy craft shows, museums, art festivals or amusement parks? What are you waiting for? Buy some tickets and go! Do you often hear your partner singing or whistling a tune on the radio that he or she likes? Find out who the artist is and buy the CD that includes the song.

 

(5)   Stay Physically Connected

 

Keep your relationship from feeling too platonic by making sure that nonsexual touching is a part of your everyday interaction with your partner. That means a warm hug, an arm around the waist, a shoulder massage or caressing your partner’s hand.

 

Begin each day by physically touching your spouse with hugs and kisses. Hold hands while sharing a cup of coffee or tea together; place your hand on your spouse’s leg while sitting together watching the morning news; gently caress your spouse’s face.

 

Just sitting on the couch together watching television is an excellent opportunity to physically touch each other can get the romantic sparks flying. When you climb into bed each night, affectionately cuddle and hold each other for several minutes, rather than immediately turning away from each other to fall asleep. The more you practice spending time being affectionate and feeling more connected, the more your passion for each other will grow.

 

Keeping the fire alive in your relationship may be challenging, and sometimes it’s more work than we want to do, but the rewards are well worth the effort you put forth each and every day. Click on For Him and/or For Her  for more ideas, advice, tips and clues into how you as a couple can get out of your relationship rut and get those home fires burning all over again.

 

 

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Oral Sex – How To Give A Guy The Best Blow Job

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Do You Want To Make A Guy Addicted To You?

Oral sex is something every guy loves. Watching a woman licking and sucking his penis is every guy’s idea of heaven on earth, because this ‘little banana’ represents about 80% of his ego. Many women are aware of this fact and want very much to know how to give him a mind-blowing mouth job. While some women can adequately please their partners orally, others try to imitate what they see in adult films, which is not the best way to give a guy a blow job. Below here are some tips on how to give your man an amazing blow job that he will never forget.

 

(1)   Be Enthusiastic

 

The most important thing about performing oral on your man is to show him you are enjoying doing it and you want nothing more than to pleasure him with your mouth and tongue. Show some passion and enthusiasm when you are giving him head. Let him know how much you enjoy it by giving him a moan or groan and making some sucking noises. This can turn him on even more.

 

(2)   Be Confident

 

The most important thing about giving your man a blowjob is to be confident when doing so. One of the ways to build confidence is to be knowledgeable about the possible hot spots on his penis. There are specific areas on a man’s penis which can increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

 

Most girls assume that they have to work on the whole shaft but it is usually the tip that is super sensitive. You can drive your guy crazy by just spending a bit more time on the tip. Pressure is also very important. Consistent pressure and evenly squeezing with your hand and lips is what will make him cum.

 

(3)   Take Your Time

 

Many girls just want to pop it and get it over with. But if you want to make your man’s toes curl, you have to pretend that his penis is an ice-cream cone and do the same thing you will if it is. Make your tongue as flat as possible, because this can help to cover more territory. Then slowly run your tongue along his penis from tip to base, leaving no spot unlicks. Slowly suck and squeeze his soft penis with your lips to let his erection build in your mouth. He will love the feeling of having his entire penis in your mouth as he is getting more aroused.

 

(4)   Maintain Eye Contact

 

Make sure you glance up and hold his gaze every once in a while when you are sucking him. Add a devilish gleam in your eye as this is going to drive him absolutely crazy. To make it easier to maintain eye contact you can prop his head up on a few pillows so he can look down and see you in action.

 

(5)   Hide Your Teeth

Keep your teeth out of the way by wrapping your lips over them when giving oral sex, so as not to accidentally scrape or bite him. His penis though looks hard but is actually quite delicate. Once in a while, a guy will enjoy your teeth gently scraping against his penis, but most of the time, he will not want your teeth to sink on his shaft.

 

(6)   Use Your Hands

 

The best oral sex usually incorporates some hands-on action to help you to reach the areas that your mouth is not able to reach due to the possibility of getting a gag-reflex. As you put the penis tip in your mouth, use your hand to stroke the shaft of the penis up and down, clockwise and then anti-clockwise in a fluid motion.

 

Or, you can make a figure of O with two fingers around his shaft, forming a ring. As your mouth moves down his shaft, this ‘ring’ will slide upwards to meet your lips. When your mouth retreats towards the penis tip, the ‘ring’ will move down to the base of his shaft. This will create the illusion that you are taking him all in while in reality it is more like three-fifths.

 

(7)   Give Him Oral Anal Stimulation

 

Licking, flicking or inserting a stiff tongue into the anal passage and thrusting feels great for both sexes. This is because the area is highly sensitive with many nerve endings. Lots of guys love this, but many are too shy to tell you.

 

If you are ready to take the plunge and want to learn about how to really turn your partner on, you can read on further from Blow By Blow and/or Good Head Kit.

 

 

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What A Woman Wants Most From A Relationship

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Are You Looking For Great Sex?

 

 

Do you want to have a great sexual relationship with your partner or wife? Have you ever wondered why she is not involved in the relationship sexually? There can be many factors behind this, but one of the most common reasons is that her emotional tank is empty.

 

As guys, we can enjoy sex without every other part of our life being just right. But for women, the sexual relationship is directly tied to the rest of the relationship. When a woman thinks of intimacy, she generally wants to begin with emotional intimacy.

 

Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust and frequently involves both you and your partner sharing feelings and emotions with each other in order to gain understanding and offer mutual support. It is necessary for human beings to have this form of intimacy on a regular basis for them to develop and maintain good mental health.

 

A woman needs to feel an emotional bond before sex begins.  If you are connecting with her and meeting her needs, then the sexual relationship tends to go well. If her needs are unmet, you can be sure the reception in the bedroom can seem quite cold.

 

For a man, intimacy generally means physical intimacy. That is how they feel close to their partner. That does not mean they do not have an emotional connection, because for a lasting relationship, this is required. However, aside from sex as simply sex, men also need the physical intimacy to feel loved. Sex alone is just not enough. The emotional connection must be there for it to be meaningful. Performing without feeling will be just like going through the motion.

 

Here are some emotional needs that women have and you have to meet these needs, if you want to have a deeper connection with your woman.

 

(1)   Give Her Time

 

It is not about quantity times as some men may think it is, but rather quality time. Being in the same room with her all day but not paying any attention to her amounts to quantity time but actually having positive interactions between the two of you is quality. 

 

Women want to be with their man. They enjoy it when we spend time with them. So, do make an effort to be with your partner or wife. Do schedule time to spend with her on a regular basis, perhaps once a week. You do not have to do something elaborate. Just be together. In the process of being together a lot, many surprises come along to make the time enjoyable as well.

 

(2)   Have A Heart-To-Heart Talk

 

Consider understanding your wife’s heart your greatest life adventure.  Women are mysterious and complex.  They love to be loved, sought after, and pursued.   Engage in conversations that lead to self-disclosure and heart–to-heart talks. 

 

Talking with your partner is the only way to truly connect emotionally, if you do not keep the lines of communicate open; neither one of you will know what the other wants or needs. As men we prefer to keep things on the surface. Nobody gets hurt that way, except our wife. Your wife wants to learn who you are. She wants to know your inner thoughts, your struggles, and your pain. So, quick, easy answers will come across as you are not keen to talk to her.

 

If she asks about your day, she wants to know all the details. Do share your experiences with her; by telling her about your day, work, or hobbies. Show her you want her to know about you by volunteering information about yourself, instead of waiting for her to ask.

 

Spending time together allows for these conversations. Since it takes a while for many men to open up, you might consider spending enough time with your wife to allow time to open up. If you are a woman reading this, I encourage you to make it as safe as possible for your husband to open up, as this will be a struggle for him.

 

To show your keen interest in her, you can also ask her how her day was, or about her hobbies or work. Listen to her responses. Show you are listening by leaning forward, nodding occasionally, and making eye contact. Tell her you understand what she is saying by re-phrasing what she has told you. Then you can progress into deeper questions about her interests, life, or past — once you feel comfortable doing so.

 

(3)   Be Romantic And Thoughtful

 

Women thrive on romance. You may not be the romantic type, but your wife wants to be romanced, so be romantic to her. Romance is the action of spend loving time with your wife. It is the action of winning her heart all over again. Though you are married, you still need to win her heart. There are many ways to do this. A simple way to find out is to ask your wife what she likes, and then do it.

 

Make an effort to remember her birthday, anniversaries, and holidays that are important to her. Show her that you care for her by celebrating these events without being reminded. However this should not be limited to these special occasions. Though you do not have to give a woman gifts every day, but sending regular tokens of appreciation would be highly recommended. If you show a woman your romantic side even if it is just once in a while, you will be able to get in touch with her emotions.

 

(4)   Recognize Her Effort And Contributions

 

How often do you praise your wife? Do you speak well of her in front of the children? Are you her biggest fan? Shower your wife with praise. Be captivated by your wife’s beauty. Make her feel special by commenting on a specific item she is wearing or how her hairstyle really brings out her beautiful eyes. Flattery can be your friend but do not over-do it. This step requires paying attention to her and noticing different positive qualities in her. If you find it difficult to praise her, start taking notice of all the little things she does well and make a big deal out of it.

 

Women love to be honored and praised for their beauty.  Frequently and sincerely find things about your wife’s appearance, personality, talents and anything praiseworthy and tell her about it. She will feel emotionally charged from this simple action.

 

(5)   Non-Sexual Touching

 

Physical intimacy does not always mean sex. Women generally like to start with hugging, kissing, and other forms of physical intimacy before sex begins.  Initiate loving physical contact, such as an unexpected hug or a stroke on the cheek, will help you connect emotionally with the woman you love.

 

Rediscover the Lost art of Kissing.  When was the last time you and your wife made-out?  Enrich your kissing experience by changing tempo, intensity, include teasing and nibbling, and hold her face close. Replace those daily pecks to lingering ten seconds kisses.

 

Practice the Two Minute Miracle. Make the two minutes before you leave and the first two minutes after you reunite focused on emotionally connecting with your spouse.  As you leave the home take time to embrace your wife, kiss her (a ten-second kiss is much better than a one second peck) and ask her if there is anything you can do for her.  When you return home, find her and hug and kiss her before you do anything else.  This ritual is miraculous in its ability to create feelings of closeness in marriage.

 

Physical contact can improve a relationship and cause two people to feel closer and stay in a relationship for a longer time. If you consistently initiate some sort of loving physical contact every day, your woman will feel more connected to you emotionally.

 

(6)   Be Supportive

 

Stay by her side physically and emotionally.  Being her man means providing her with help whenever she needs it. Women want to know that no matter what happens their husband supports them.

 

When your wife has a bad day, be there for her. Listen to her without judgment or frustration. Support her in any way you can, whether that is verbal, emotional, or other ways of supporting her. Encourage her, rather than yelling at her or blowing her off. Take her struggles seriously.

 

Besides this, she also needs your emotional protection, which is protection from people who may be harassing her or in some way making life difficult for her. You can protect her by standing up to that person and letting them know that your wife is to be treated with respect.

 

You might be the type of man who would rather avoid trouble than pursue it. But if you choose to stay next to her, no matter how hard things get, you will be able to get in touch with her spirit, which is something most men cannot do.

 

Do you know the difference between lust-based sex and love-based sex?  When a woman feels like her body is a vehicle to please her husband, this is lust-based sex or women often call it “duty sex.”  On the other hand, if she is able to feel that sex can be an amazing experience being a beautiful blend of physical, emotional, and spiritual feelings, this will be  love-based sex.  

 

The best thing men could do is to bond with a woman on an emotional level by getting in touch with her heart and soul. If you do this, the woman of your dreams will not just want to jump into bed with you, but will also want to stay with you in the long run. Do you need some more tips to have a great sexual relationship? Click on Women’s Deepest  Desires and/or Give Her Mind-Blowing Orgasm.

 

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For Couples – How To Sex Talk To Make Love Better

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Better Communication Leads To Better Sex

 

How often do you want to have sex? What are your sexual fantasies? How do you want to make sex more pleasurable? What are the new things you like to try to spice sex up? These are the things you probably like to talk to your partner. You want more from your sex life. After many years of being together, sex has gotten stale and routine. But, whenever you bring up the topic of making some changes or trying new things, your partner gets embarrassed and hurt or kind of behaving in a dismissive manner.

 

How to talk about sex with your partner without making him/her feel uncomfortable? How to talk to your partner in a way that really let him or her know how you feel? Here are some ways to get your partner to open up.

 

(1)   Avoid Criticizing Or Blaming

 

If you feel rejected or not satisfied, find a way to let your partner know without accusing him or her. Start your talking in a positive mode. You can begin by saying something like, “I love you and I like to feel more connected to you.”

 

Just discuss what you feel is the problem and let your partner know how you feel. For example, “I am really hurt and confused that you seem to have much less interest in sex than you used to,” or “I miss having sex with you.” You cannot be faulted for how you feel and expressing yourself this way is likely to get a more positive reaction.

 

When you talk to your partner about sex, make sure that this is done outside the bedroom such as in the kitchen while preparing meals, during a casual chat over a cup of tea or a glass of wine. The more natural you can make the conversation, the less threatening it will be.

 

(2)   Ask About His Or Her Views And Suggestions

 

Rather than dictating to your partner about how it should be done, he or she will be more receptive if you can ask him or her about suggestions and views on how to make things better. Ask what turns him or her on or what makes him or her uncomfortable. Ask him or her about any fears about sex. Find out from him or her any kind of sexual pleasuring that he or she wants but have not experienced. Get him or her to tell you about any special places he or she likes to be touched.

 

At this stage it is important to keep an open mind and listen. Avoid ridiculing his or her views. During the discussion, do pay attention to your own and your partner’s body language. Do your facial expressions, your posture appear defensive and/or uncomfortable?

 

(3)   Use Props

 

Talking about sex with your partner is not always easy. You have the underlying worry that you will embarrass or hurt his or her feelings. Get some how-to books or videos about sexuality and read or view them together and use them as a platform or basis for your discussion about the new things to try.

 

Go online or to a sex shop together and look into toys, blindfolds, ticklers and paddles. You can also buy her some sexy clothes and lingerie along with maybe some new perfume so that she does not think it is all about sex.

 

You can create a “love coupon” book for her and inside each coupon you put things like – romantic dinner, receive a massage, oral sex, try a new position, etc. Tell her that she needs to use each coupon each week.

 

You may also consider creating a “suggestion box” and both of you will make contributions to this box in term of ideas or suggestions about the things you want to try. Both of you will take turns on a weekly basis to pick out a suggestion from this box and act on it.

 

(4)   Negotiate A Compromise

 

It is very common and normal for couples to have differences over how often to make love. The one who wants sex more often than the other one feels being rejected while the other who is contented with the current frequency of sex feels being badgered. This can lead to an impasse or tension.

 

To ease the tension, work out a compromise. If the husband wants to make love four times a week and the wife once, they can agree they will make love twice a week. The wife can give her husband a kiss and cuddle on those sex-free days to reassure him how much he is loved without her feeling that will inevitably lead to demand from him for sex.

 

(5)   Give Your Partner Positive Feedback

 

Your partner may not understand what you are trying to tell him or her about issues regarding sex, but will respond to encouragement. When in the bedroom, show your partner what turns you on and where you want to be touched. You can take his or her hands and put them on the body parts you like to be touched. Give him or her lots of positive feedback during sex. Moan and groan and better still say things like, “Wow that feels good” and “I really like that”.

 

(6)   Be Patient

 

You have to realize that the discussion may take more than one conversation. You do not have to knock it out all in one discussion. Sexual communication is an ongoing process. Give your partner time to process and think about what you have said.

 

Give yourself an option to bring up the topic again. Reassure your partner that you care about how he or she feels and you want to follow up to hear about what he or she has to say about the topic.

 

If you are still keen for more ideas to improve sex to enjoy your love life to the fullest, you can check this out at Fun Games and/or Creative Sex.

 

 

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Sexual Health – How To Be Better In Bed And Make A Girl Want You More

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Want Her To Get Addicted To You Sexually?

 

Every time when comes to sex, you just get really nervous, get too caught up in trying to be a good lover, and kind of self- conscious about my size, even though it is average. You have read about the need to relax and you have tried. But when the time comes, you just can’t get fully hard. Do you ever experience this?

 

When you think about sex, what comes to the mind? Chances are will be stuff like how to last long, how to get hard, or how to make her orgasm? If you are too preoccupied with these, it can give you a lot of stress and affect your performance in bed. Instead of focusing too much attention on yourself, it will be good if you can divert your attention to your lover/partner. Here are some ways you can do to regain your confidence in bed and have the sex life you want.

 

(1)   Pay Attention

 

Sex is not a one-way street. Therefore it is very important to pay special attention to your partner’s desires. This will not only help to make sex pleasurable for her, but it can also help turn you on or get you last longer. Talking about this beforehand can help ease any awkwardness if you need to slow down during a heated moment.

 

Ask your partner to tell you, how her body feels as you touch her. Besides this, you need to really listen to her body, her breathing, her muscle tension, her moaning, the changing temperature of her skin, so that you can tell, in real time, exactly what she likes and doesn’t like, what is working and what is not working.

 

Paying attention is very important because it allows you to tune in and notice exactly what she is really responding to. It also allows you to make adjustments that can tailor to her needs. If a technique you read somewhere is working, you can enjoy it and follow it to where ever it leads you to. But if it is not working, you will know right away and won’t just keep pushing it, waiting for something to happen that is never going to happen. Paying attention solves all those pointless insecurities men do sometimes feel at one time or another.

 

(2)   Know Her Body

 

Knowing her body, her sensitive points are very important if you want to improve your performance in bed.  Knowing the most sensitive parts of your woman is highly essential to drive her totally mad at your each and every touch.

 

Do you know a woman’s neck is one of the hottest spots on the female body? If you tickle very slightly or give a soft sensuous kiss behind the neck, you can arouse her within seconds and get her ready for almost anything you want.

 

Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra-sensitive to your touch. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and gently nibbling of her ears can make the experience more sensuous. Such a single move of yours can create a strong physical arousal in her.

 

Her lips are also another erogenous zone. Try varying the intensity of your kisses by kissing her softly, then more passionately, then slow it down again.

 

Her scalp can be very sensitive to stimulation, and since she is probably not expecting you to lavish any attention on it, surprise her. Having her hair brushed can be a very sensual experience. Or run your fingers through it as you’re kissing her, or, simply caress her scalp gently with your hand.

 

The entire breast is rich in nerve endings but a woman with smaller breasts may experience increased sensations per touch. This results from a condensed amount of nerve endings. All breasts respond to stimulation after a while. Therefore, go slow, take your time to fondle the breast. Areas that are especially sensitive to touch include the nipple, the areola (the pinkish area that directly surrounds the nipple) and the underside of her breast.

 

Avoid over-stimulating the breast because this can be numbing or painful for women during some parts of their menstrual cycle. Try taking the less-is-more approach is highly effective and arousing. Touch her breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. That allows her to have the important moment of anticipation. Stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples by starting around the outer edges of her breast and moving inward with slow circles until they become aroused (hard). This builds up anticipation.

 

The clitoris is located at the top juncture of her inner vaginal lips, a small knob of pink flesh. Women like different amounts of direct stimulation on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed clitoris, others will prefer indirect stimulation at first through her vaginal lips. The fact is, most women need a good bit of arousal before having their clitoris targeted, but once they have reached that point, which is where many women want you to devote your attention all the way to orgasm.

 

Another area for sexual massage is the magical G-spot, located roughly 1.5″ inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her G Spot stimulated. This area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused it feels spongy.

 

The perineum which is the area between the vagina and the anus is very sensitive for a lot of women and is often unexplored. It is made from tissue similar to the vaginal lips so there are a lot of nerve endings there. It also has an element of intimacy that might turn her on when you lick or rub gently on this area.

 

A lot of women like their buttocks attended to, and with more vigor than you might think. You can use pressure on a butt that you wouldn’t use on a breast. It is not sensitive the way a nipple or a clitoris is so you can knead them and squeeze them. Many women are self-conscious about their behinds, so spending time here will show her that you like it, and hopefully allow her to be more comfortable with herself and you.

There are other hot spots you can consider, which are the backs of her knees, the insides of her arms, her inner thighs, or her palms. Women love to have these areas gently stroked, kissed, licked, or blown upon (be gentle on these areas, they are made of very soft tissue).

 

Note that every woman is different. Some women enjoy rougher play, while others are really sensitive and prefer light soft touching. Find out her preferences when you move to each of her erogenous zone by asking or watching her reactions.

 

(3)   Keep A Proper Lifestyle

 

This is also very important if you want to perform in bed. Stress can wreak havoc on all areas of your health, including your libido. Stress increases your heart rate (in the bad way) and increases blood pressure, both damaging to sexual desire and performance. Exercise is a great way to reduce stress and improve your health. Keep fit with strength training (weight lifting), swimming and fast walking, running or other aerobic exercises.

 

To build up your sexual stamina for a better sex life, do Kegel exercise by strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles in your body’s pelvic floor — the ones that let you stop the flow of urine mid-stream. You can use Kegel exercise to delay ejaculation by contracting these muscles just before orgasm.

 

To do Kegel exercise, start by interrupting the flow of urine when going to the bathroom to get familiar with your PC muscles. After that, you can do Kegel exercise anytime and anywhere by squeezing the PC muscles. Hold for 10 seconds, relax, and do as many reps as you can before tiring.

 

To go along with your exercise, there are some foods that have shown to increase blood flow to the penis. Onions & Garlic are two foods that help your circulation. Bananas are a potassium-rich fruit that can help lower your blood pressure, which can benefit your important sexual parts and boost sexual performance. Chilies & Peppers help your blood flow by reducing hypertension and inflammation.

 

To help you achieve stronger erections include in your diet foodstuff which is rich in Omega-3 acids that can be found in fish like salmon and tuna, as well as avocados and olive oil. Pork, peanuts and kidney beans which are rich in Vitamin B1 can help signals in your nervous system move quicker, including signals from your brain to your penis. Eggs which are high in other B vitamins, help balance hormone levels, which can decrease stress that often inhibits an erection.

 

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