For Couples – How To Spice Up Sex And Make It Interesting

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How To Bring The Spark Back


Do you feel that what you are doing in the bedroom is getting to be like a routine rather than sexy and exciting? Are you getting bored with the monotonous same kind of sex every time? Do you want it to be different and exciting so that you can make her horny and beg you for sex?


(1)   Rediscover Each Other’s Sexual Interest


Communication is the key to improving your sex life. Neither one of you can read minds. You have to talk to each other about your likes, dislikes, fantasies, fears and concerns. Sex gets better with intimacy and you can only have intimacy if you speak to one another openly and honestly about anything that is on your mind. This is best done when both of you are not in bed.


Through communication (both verbal and non-verbal) and listening, both of you can come to understand what ignites that spark in each other. That may be cuddling, leaving love notes for your partner to find, meeting at a motel for a tryst, trying out new sex techniques, introducing a vibrator or dozens of other potential turn-ons.


If your partner is reluctant, be patient and try to find out why. Ask your partner if there is a way that you can help him/her to overcome the fear or a way for you to work together to spice up your sex life.


If you can’t find the words to talk to your partner about how to improve sex or he/she is reluctant to talk about it, seeing a counselor may help. A counselor can help to create a safe space for your feelings and thoughts to be articulated in a way that can really do some good for your relationship.


(2)   Treat Your Partner As If You Are Dating


The problem that happens to most long-term relationships is after a while; we get so used to each other that we start to take for granted of each other. We stop trying to show the best part of ourselves to do nice things to flirt and impress each other.


For a woman, dress well, dress sexily (like buying new lingerie). This applies the same to guy. He should continue to pay attention to his attire, his appearance and his body. It will be helpful that both of you can exercise together. The key is to maintain the sexual appeal to each other.


Flirt with each other like you used to do when dating. Experts say flirting sends natural stimulants surging through the body, creating an instant emotional ‘high’ similar to orgasm. Just do those things you used to do to each other when you both start meeting each other.


Remember kissing? It is what you used to do when you first met. Many couples find that kissing stops once the relationship gets going or dwindles to a quick snog before getting down to business. Don’t underestimate the power of kissing. During kissing, testosterone is passed to each other through the saliva. This sex hormone can work wonders to increase your libido. So start kissing as passionately as you did at the beginning of your relationship and it will work wonders for your sex life.


Meet each other directly at the date like you used to. Don’t pick each other up. Meet up at a club and head out to dinner, or do something both of you would like. This will remind you of the good old days when both of you would meet each other outside the house. Make it a regular thing, weekly or bi-weekly depending on your budget and schedules. It may seem like a lot of work, but it will make your relationship stronger and healthier in the long run. The resulting good feeling will most likely be spillover to the bedroom.


(3)   Tease Each Other


Spice up your partner’s day by sending out-of-the-blue racy text messages (otherwise known as ‘sexting’) to get him/her psyched to see you later. Tell your partner how much you desire him/her and what you will do later. This really builds up the anticipation and desire for a night between the sheets.


To turn her on, you need to tease her at the beginning to make her horny and then completely stop. To start, you rub her back gently, brushing your hands over her body. Then you walk away to do other things. After a while, you come back and kiss her slowly and firmly. Run your hands through her hair and then stop. Go and make a drink or flip through a magazine. Next, start to kiss her neck. Stop after a few seconds and do something else. Repeat this act four or five times and she will not be able to resist your charm.


Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She does not know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex – the tease her. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects such as feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and make them far more sensitive. However, do not overstimulate the nerve endings because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes numb.


For a woman, she can do a sexy strip tease for him. But if you are too shy to try it, she can have her own version. You just dance for him, making him want to touch you, but never let him. After you have taken off just a few items of clothing, you let him do the rest.


Sex does not necessarily have to be started in the bedroom all the time. To improve your sex life and make it a little different at times, communication is very important, you need to try to behave as if you are still dating and you use some imagination and creativity to tease each other. Use these tips to spice things up and set the mood for great sex.


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For Couples – How To Have Exciting Sex

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Want To Discover The Secrets Of Hot Sex?


Are you interested to know what other couples are doing to keep the level of excitement up, especially if you have been in a relationship for a long time? Do you want to know how to keep your relationship fresh and stave off boredom or complacency? How to keep your sex life as exciting as it is now? Here are some ideas you can use to spice up your sex life and better your relationship.


(1)   Keep The Communication Open


To keep a relationship alive, it is important to communicate and learn about each other, every single day. Your partner may be irritating you and may not be aware of it and if you can let him/her know about how you feel, this can help to resolve underlying issues in the relationship before they spillover to the bedroom. In the process of doing so, this can bring both of you closer to each other, emotionally and sexually. 


Withholding your frustration will not stop your partner from doing the same thing again. If something hurts you or is holding your partner back from achieving something better, talk about it over a cup of tea/coffee or even wine, or when both of you are in a relaxed  mood.


Finances and money issues play a big part in any long term relationship. Monetary satisfaction in a long term relationship can be achieved only if both of you discuss ways to save, invest and spend.


Discuss about family matters and how either of you can deal with it. Talk about kids and their lives ahead. If you don’t have kids yet, talk about when you intend to have them and how you can plan for them. Matters such as these are better spoken earlier than later.


Do talk about your dreams and aspirations with your partner and make sure you know your partner’s wants and dreams in life too.


To build effective communication in a relationship, you need to learn to be truthful. By lying or feeling suspicious about your partner, you are not helping the communication in the relationship. Be truthful with each other and never give your partner the opportunity to doubt you. To encourage the mood for communication, avoid ridiculing or criticizing each other’s views.


To increase communication in a relationship, make plans with your partner to go out at least one evening in a week and/or to find some activities to do together as a couple during the weekends.


(2)   Be Romantic


One of the disadvantages of long term relationship is the tendency for lovers or couples to take each other for granted. They are getting too complacent have stopped trying to be nice and to impress each other. They assume they know each other well. Even favors and special gestures are taken for granted. By doing so, those special gestures will not be special anymore and will become like obligations. Always remember to acknowledge a gesture, however small it may be if you want to understand the secret behind knowing how to keep love and sex alive in a relationship.


To keep the spark alive in your relationship, you have to treat your partner as if you are dating and to romance him/her outside the bedroom. You have to give each other pleasant surprises everything now and then. Once in a while, you pop into his/her workplace and go out for lunch together. You can surprise your partner by taking her to a weekend getaway to a nearby place. At times, on your way back home, you pick up your partner’s favorite dessert for a late night treat. You give each other inexpensive well wrapped gifts every now and then. It could be chocolates, flowers, a game CD, or even a potted plant.


You remember and celebrate with your partner those special occasions such as Valentine’s Day, anniversaries and birthdays. You take the initiative to please your partner and make him/her to feel special to keep the love alive in the relationship.


You dress to impress each other in bed and out of bed. A different style of clothing or different hairstyle or even a new tiny tattoo on any part of your body can trigger new feelings for each other. You can go out and buy some hot lingerie together. To look good to each other naked, you keep yourself physically fit and attractive. You watch your weight and diet and preferably exercise together.


(3)   Try Or Add Something New


Every now and then, do something different such as going to a new city, a new beach or to any place you haven’t been before, take a cooking class together, do yoga with each other, or take dancing lessons. If both of you like animals and like to take care of them, you can get a dog, a cat or even a goldfish. This will open up a wide range of new conversations, which is a great way to keep a long-term relationship interesting.


In bed, you try new sex positions; have sex in different places other than your bed, at different times of the day. You both make a trip to a sex shop or go online to get sex toys. You may also consider bringing in the whips, chains or cuffs, or pour some candle wax. If you are the one who are always taking charge in bed, once in a while you let your partner to take the lead and be his/her sex slave for a day. Just keep an open mind to explore the entire world of sex possibilities.


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Oral Sex – How To Eat Pussy

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Lick Her Till She Begs You For More


Cunnilingus (or oral sex) which is oral stimulation of the vulva and/or clitoris is one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. She may be too shy to tell you how much she loves oral sex, but nowadays most women expect to be orally stimulated prior to sexual intercourse. Oral sex, when performed masterfully on a girl can make her feel loved, sexy and horny with greater chances of achieving screaming orgasm. The rare man who can perform cunnilingus superbly will always be greatly appreciated, considered an incredible lover and will be the most sought after man. Here is how to give your lover amazing oral sex and be the best she ever had.


(1)   Take Your Time


A huge mistake that men make during cunnilingus is to rush through it. You should gradually build up the stimulating pressure and pleasure and let her reach orgasm naturally, without feeling being rushed. This will ensure that when she orgasms, it will be so much more powerful that she will keep coming back for more.


(2)   Tease Her First


Women love to be teased emotionally, physically and sexually. The better you tease her, the more she will enjoy your oral stimulation. Kiss and lick on her inner thigh which is a very tender area on her body. As you are getting quite close to her vaginal opening, you move away just when she expects you to stick your tongue inside her.


Instead you gently lick the surrounding areas such as the crease where her leg meets the pubic region, the area around her vaginal opening, the perineum (the area between the vaginal opening and anus) and the anus itself. There are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings in these areas. A few moments of licking on these surrounding areas and she will be bucking up and begging to get more of your face closer to her.


Gently kiss on top of her vaginal opening and then kiss a little harder. Use your tongue to lick on her inner vaginal lips. Continue to lick from her perineum up to her clitoris following the outer edges of her vagina along both sides. Treat her vagina like a juicy Popsicle and let her hear your sucking and licking sounds down there to show her you are enjoying every inch of hers. This will make her melt in your mouth.


(3)   Tongue Fuck Her


Expose her clitoris by spreading her vaginal lips and lightly pulling back the clitoral hood. Take her exposed clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, at the same time flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressive.


Get her to tell you what motion feels the best, what speed and what pressure can turn her on the most. Some women love an up-and-down licking motion; others like it to go from side to side like a windscreen wiper, and others may prefer a circular or pressing-down motion. Every woman is different and there is no one best way in doing this.


(4)   Finger Fuck Her


As you are licking and sucking her clitoris, insert your middle and index fingers about two inches inside her with the main aim to find and stimulate the g-spot. You will do this only when she is fully aroused because if she is very wet, her g-spot will be swollen which makes it easier for you to locate.


A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone, but you can give your partner an even more powerful orgasm by stimulating her g-spot with your fingers at the same time when you are giving her oral sex. This will either help her to have a g-spot orgasm or a combination of clitoral and g-spot orgasm at the same time.


(5)   Add In Some Props


Take a break if you need one, but avoid stopping suddenly because it can be very frustrating for the woman. You can use a vibrator to take over the job of stimulating the clitoris and g-spot. You can also use a variety of flavored gels, oils and lubricants which when rub on to her can offer extra stimulation. You can have a mint or cough drop in your mouth when performing cunnilingus to create a very tingling sensation for her to enhance your performance.


(6)   Hang In There When She Cums


When she starts to have an orgasm, continue licking on the clitoris, but gradually reduce the intensity of your stimulation. If your fingers are inside, do not pullout.


Remember that all things are subjective and the best way to please your woman is to read her body language to gauge her likes and dislikes. The real magic of oral pleasure is to do the unexpected and as you put these ideas to use, remember to be as creative as you can.


Read on more from Pussy Licking Joy and/or Oral Enhancement Kit for more tips to get a girl to enjoy sex with you.



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How To Spice Sex Up By Giving A Girl A Good Spanking

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Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough, She Needs Some Spanking Too!


Sometimes your girl is real naughty and she deserves to be spanked, or it may be you who are the naughty one who just want to give her a good spanking. Spanking is a great way to spice up your love life, adding a little kink and eroticism. Giving a girl a good spanking can increase blood flow to her genitals and leads to a greater state of arousal. Some women get so turned on by spanking that you may find your girl begging for it every time the lights go out. Here is how to spank properly and make her enjoy it.


(1) Talk To Her


Just don’t spank her out of the blue. If you haven’t at least given a hint that you plan on spanking her, this could lead to problems. She might not be in the mood or she might even have a sun burn where you plan to swat her. If spanking is your idea, discuss it thoroughly with your girl beforehand rather than springing it on her randomly. Or, you can just go for it and give your partner a light tap and gauge their reaction. Teasing your partner playfully throughout the day can be a good way to start.


(2) Add Role Playing


Spanking can be fun, and it is even better when there is role playing involved. Perhaps you can be an angry school master and she can be a naughty, disobeying student, you are the guard and she is the prisoner, you are the traffic cop and she is being caught for speeding, or you can be her boss and she can be a bumbling and incompetent employee. Let the scenario start and improvise the lines as you go along. This idea for including role play into spanking adds an extra layer of fantasy while making her go wild.

(3) Adventurous Locations.


Surprise your partner by taking your activities outside the bedroom and to a place slightly dangerous, with a chance of getting caught. Perhaps it is a public restroom, a trail in the woods, or a poorly-lit parking garage. The rush you both get from engaging in slapping sex will be heightened even more by the danger that at any second someone might find you.


(4) Start With Light Spanking.  


You don’t want to scare the crap out of your girlfriend with a full force slap to the butt. Doing it that way is just asking for you to get throw out of the bedroom and for your lady to never want to take a spanking again. Keep it light and playful, almost silly to get her into the whole idea of spanking. Never smack both buttock cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way. Keep your hand tight and slightly cup to ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.


(5) Choose A Position 


There are many positions in which to administer and give a spanking. It is up to you and your partner to discuss what is comfortable for her. Some of the positions include over the knee, bent over a chair, she stands with her hands against the wall, or you lay her down across your lap and place a pillow under her front side to get her butt as high in the air as possible. While you have the option of spanking a butt with a paddle, a whip, or an abundance of other props, I strongly recommend that you start off with your hand. Besides the hand is best as it allows you to get the full feel of the ass-spanking connection.

(6) Talk To Her While You Are Spanking


You want to keep up the dialogue during spanking to make it a truly interactive affair. This will also maintain the excitement for her throughout. Tell her how naughty she has been and that she is getting what she deserves! Part of the turn on for her during this is feeling like a “bad” girl, different than her standard role in the office or the house. Talking to her in the right way will add to her enjoyment.


(7) Do Not Stick To One Spot


If you just swat your partner over and over and over on the same spot on her butt or thigh, it’s going to eventually begin to hurt. And even thought she might like the pain, you might be doing damage to the skin or blood vessels without even knowing it. Vary your location a little bit, never landing too many spanks in a row on one spot. Always remain attentive to your partner the whole time. Listen to her emotions and respond to her feelings. If you feel she is not enjoying herself, be sure to stop or change your tactics.  


(8) Spice It Up


One tip for spanking your woman is to please her in other ways while the spanking is going on. She’s going to get very aroused, so you can halt your spanking to slide your hand—or your tongue—between her legs to give her clitoral stimulation. After not quite getting her off, resume your spanking, going back and forth, making her beg you for an orgasm.


(9) Let Her Spank You Back


It is not fair that you lay into her butt so hard that it has got red marks everywhere, now is it? How about letting her take a turn at you? Have a good spanking session, laugh your heads off and spank each other silly. If neither one of you are able to walk the next day, you’re doing it absolutely right.


If you are looking to take foreplay to the next level, you should include spanking as part of the act. It can be stimulating for both the male and female partner, but only if you do it the right way by following the above nine tips. So be creative, be rough, and give her a good spanking.


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What You Need To Know About Bondage Sex

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A Little Bonding Can Get You Closer To Your Partner

What is bondage? Bondage is any kind of physical restraint that restricts or controls someone’s movement to further the sexual pleasure of the players involved. It covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts and can mean different thing to each person. It may also involve deprivation of one of the senses; for example being blindfolded, or the ears being muffled. For others, it may involve inflicting a bit of ‘pleasurable’ pain such as being whipped or spanked or to use clamps on the nipples.


You don’t need to have a closet full of elaborate gear to engage in bondage – scarves, bungee cords or a couple of ties can be enough to get a good bondage session going, and if you have ever enjoyed having someone hold your wrists so you can’t move your hands during a sexual encounter, you may find that bondage could hold some pleasant surprises for you.


Some people find bondage thrilling and exciting and there is something very sexy about being ‘taken’ or ‘ravished’. Being restrained means your partner can tease and ease and you just have to lie back and receive the pleasure.


Others find bondage a relaxing, meditative experience; they feel calmed and relaxed, perhaps freed from responsibilities, while being tied up. Many high-powered business people enjoy being in a submissive role during sex because their jobs and their lives are filled with being in charge and making lots of important and eve stressful decisions.


Bondage is supposed to be fun and should not cause hurt. But it can cause harm in certain ways.

Someone who stumbles and falls will normally automatically put their hands out in front of them to catch themselves, but if their hands are tied they can easily bang their head against something and end up in the hospital with a very serious injury. Someone who is tied to a chair but whose feet are still on the floor may accidentally tip themselves over with no way to catch themselves. Limbs that are held in one position for too long can cause blood circulation to be cut off, or nerves to be pinched. Anything that obstructs breathing can be fatal. A life-threating situation such as a fire that someone could normally deal with easily can become a fatal situation if they aren’t free to handle it. Knots can get tangled in hair.


For this reason, bondage sex is not for one-night-stand encounters. It involves one of the partner willingly surrender himself/herself to all forms of restraints which mean there has to be total trust between two persons. It should only be used when relationship is not under severe strain. Bondage sex should not take place when one of you are tipsy or under the influence of drugs. This can cause misjudgment on how tightly to tie the knot or for the one being restrained, be unable to determine the accurate level of comfort.


In order to engage in bondage sex, you have to pay attention to safety. You also can’t force this on your partner. Communication is very important. Listen to him/her concerns and fears and assure him/her that it is just an idea to try something different to spice up sex. You also have to know your partner’s limits and boundaries and respect them.


When you are engaged in bondage, make sure you are prepared with scissors (to cut away the restraints) or keys (to release the cuff) when the need arises.


Make sure you both have a safe word which means all actions have to be stopped immediately. If you are unable to speak, have another signal that is easily picked up and/or seen i.e. finger snapping, humming, toe tapping, etc.


If any part of the body turns purple, blue, numb or cold to the touch, you should untie or loosen up the restraint. You should leave a finger’s width between the skin and the tie so as to avoid any damage to the nerve or cause excruciating pain.


When you choose ties, make sure you get those thicker ones because the more flesh they cover the safer they are. So, get those thick padded cuffs or thick rope, silk scarves and stockings. The thinner the restraint the more likely they can cut off blood circulation.


Never restrain your partner by the neck, or suspended him/her off the ground for too long. Make sure you plan for periods of time where your lover can move his/her limbs to get the blood circulating. At all times, make sure blood flow and breathing is not affected. Never leave your partner alone when his/her movement is being restricted.


Take your time to tease and pleasure him/her can make the experience deeper and more erotic. Your partner will appreciate the extra-special attention you shower on him/her and he/she will reciprocate by trying to please you in any way you want.


There are always many ways that couples can use their creativity to keep sex exciting and fun. Foreplay can be more than just soft kisses and oral sex. If you want more great sex tips to get your partner addicted to your sex appeal, you can click on Tough Love and/or Kinky Sex.



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