To Cheat or Not to Cheat?

Temptations are all around us, and it’s easy to have a sneaky moment without getting caught. To cheat or not to cheat, we’ve heard that before. But what should you really do?

To cheat or not to cheat, that is a pretty big question.

But as a matter of fact, it’s not a question at all.

It’s a nagging thought that crawls into your conscience each time you’re presented with an opportunity to get into someone else’s bed.

So should you cheat?

Or should you just resist the temptation?

Understanding the temptation

You know the answer already. Don’t cheat! Period.

But I’m not going to preach those same words. Cheat if you must. Don’t cheat if you can.

At the end of the day, it’s you that has to weigh the balance and understand the real difference.

Firstly, I’m going to ask you a question. Have you ever cheated on your lover?

If you haven’t, you should know that once you do cheat without getting caught, you’ll never really be able to forget about it.

You may be able to put the thought away, but it’ll always haunt you for as long as you stay in the relationship.

And if you’ve cheated already, you’ve been there and done that. How do you feel about it now?

Cheating is fun and easy

To cheat or not to cheat, well, that isn’t really the question anymore. We all know it, cheating is fun and such a sexy rush. With the hectic lives that we lead these days, it’s really easy to cheat or have an affair and get away with it forever. If you’ve been flirting with someone outside the relationship for a while, and the flirting turns to petting and phone sex, it’s only a matter of time before hands start slipping inside each other’s pants.

And when it does happen, I can assure you, the sex would be one of the best you’ve ever had in your life. And just watching your sexual fantasy undress itself in front of your eyes is… awesome!

And the best part, you get away with it all. You have the sexy cake and eat it too!

Falling in love with someone else

Some affairs are purely sexual and some, well, they can get rather complicated. It all starts with a bit of flirting and long conversations. And then you genuinely start to believe you’re in love with someone else.

If you do cheat and get into their bed or even exchange a kiss, it may remind you of everything that’s missing in your own relationship, the affection, the weak knees, and all those happy feelings. But we won’t get into it here.

To cheat…

We don’t have to get into all the sordid details, but let’s admit it, cheating is fun. And more than cheating, the sexual attraction that builds up before you actually do anything with your sneaky lover is all the more fun.

With all the happy lights flowing out of every orifice of cheating, cheating on a partner seems like a fun thing to do. I could even tell you to go for it and have a blast, and just don’t get caught!

But now is where we look at the other side of this happy story on cheating.

It ends with an orgasm

In almost all cases, you cheat because of the sexual excitement. You just want to do it. You and your secret lover may have worked out the perfect time and place, or it may just be a spur of the moment thing, and finally you find yourself in bed, naked and sweaty, and so full of passion it makes you go blind with horniness.

It may feel really good, but it will end. Just as soon as you orgasm.

You may have spent months building the excitement up, but as soon as you orgasm, it’ll all come to a grinding halt.

And if you do love your partner, whether you want to or not, you’re going to remember your partner just moments after reaching for the sky in ecstasy. And it’s not always a happy thought. In almost all cases, you’ll be consumed with an overwhelming sense of guilt even if you push that thought away.

Is it worth it?

To cheat or not to cheat? There’s only one answer to that question. You do want to cheat.

Cheating on a partner gives you a high that a drug addiction may give you. You’ll hate it as soon as you do it. But a day or two later, you’d want it again. There’s no escaping out of an affair, unless one of you start to get bored or lose the sexual infatuation.

Cheat if you must, but try this. The next time you feel a desperate need to sleep with someone else, play with yourself and let yourself loose in your world of sexual fantasies. And once you’re all done orgasming and climaxing, sit up and ask yourself if you still want to cheat on your loving partner.

It’s such a little thing, an orgasm, and you’re willing to throw your loving relationship of years away just to experience an orgasm with someone else. Is it really worth it? You decide.

…or not to cheat

Cheating on a partner and getting away is easy if you’re smart enough. But that memory of cheating will always exist in your mind. And almost all cheaters say the same thing… if only I could turn back time.

It may seem like fun, but once it’s all done and a few months have passed by, you’ll feel stupid about it even if you aren’t caught. And every time you think about it, you’ll realize how much happiness you could have gotten out of your own relationship if you could have devoted the same time on your own partner.

How would you feel if your partner was in your shoes?

Now I’m not trying to take you on a guilt trip, but you need to think about it all before you make up your mind on cheating. How would you feel if you found out that your partner has been cheating on you? How angry and disgusted would you feel if you could hear those words that are exchanged in the heat of the lusty moment? Would you ever forgive your partner or forget the words they spoke?

What would happen if you get caught?

You may have been careful to erase all the signs of the affair. No late night texts, no phone calls in the evening, meet only at lunch hours, and all the works.

But luck is fickle. And somehow, your partner may get to know that you cheated on them. How would they react? Your relationship may end for ever, and even if it doesn’t end, it’ll never ever be the same unless a miracle holds both of you together. Is it worth it?

Before you cheat on your partner, ask yourself if you’re ready to lose your relationship for an orgasm.

Cheating without cheating – The middle path

Now this may leave you more confused than ever. But the answer is simple. If you value your relationship, don’t cheat. Those few minutes of sex and orgasms are just not worth it.

If you do want to bring more pleasure and fun into your sex life, look for ways to keep the relationship exciting.

Fantasize together

If you and your partner trust each other, learn to be frank about each other’s sexual interests and talk about it while having sex. Talk about your fantasies even if it involves another person. It’ll help you get over the infatuation and bring both of you closer too.

Have an open relationship

You may be high school sweethearts and have always been in love. Now, ten or twenty years later, both of you may want more “opportunities” in bed. It may be the inquisitiveness or you may just want more fun. Speak to each other and look for ways to keep the relationship together, while having fun outside the relationship.

End the relationship

Sexual frustration and the urge to cheat on a lover can at times ruin perfectly happy relationships. If you see no way to keep the love alive, then end the relationship instead of cheating and breaking your partner’s heart. Make up your mind on the way forward and stick with your decision.

Should you cheat or not cheat? Avoid cheating and look for ways to bring that excitement into your own relationship in a manner that can keep both of you happy.

If you want a second opinion, cheat if it’s spontaneous, avoid it if it’s planned.

To cheat or not to cheat? Well, you know your options. Think about it and make up your own mind. But always remember to consider what you’d gain and what you’d lose before jumping into another bed.

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By Alina Andrew

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How To Have Sex As Often As You Want

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[kaset.] Global Orgasm – 22 December (Photo credit: kaset)

She doesn’t seem to be keen. When you touch her, she either pretends she is asleep or she tells you she is tired. Why does this happen? How to keep her interested again so that you can have sex as often as you want? Read on.

 

(1)   Getting wet is not all

 

When comes to sex, every woman is different. Some women can lubricate a lot while others do not. For this reason, you cannot rely on lubrication alone or how much she gets wet as the sole signal to judge whether she is ready for penetration. Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. The fact that she is getting wet is not a good excuse to skip foreplay.

 

How to recognize the signs that she is ready? When she is getting more and more aroused, her heart will beat faster and breathing get heavier causing her body to get tense up. More blood will flow to her genitals, ultimately triggering rhythmic muscle contractions in the vagina and other parts of her body. The skin on her face and chest may flush red. She may moan, pant or her face may take on a pained expression. Some women may emit a silky fluid (not the normal type of lubrication) often referred to as female ejaculation.

 

Before you see the above signs, you have to lay the groundwork and warm her up. You have to be patient. She needs a lot of kissing and tender loving care. She needs you to explore and tease her body to build up the tension and expectation. One of the sex tips you need to keep in mind is not to assume that just because she is wet that she is ready. Getting wet is only the beginning and not the end game.

 

(2)   It is not just about orgasm

 

Ideally it will be nice if she can have orgasm in every sexual encounter. In reality, sometimes she may not reach orgasm at all. This is not your fault and not hers. Lovemaking is, fundamentally, a present moment experience, with no pressure, free of any inhibitions and nagging thoughts. If you are too goal-oriented about achieving orgasm, you can only create unnecessary stress on yourself and her, diminishing the chances of actually reaching peak.

 

You cannot force a woman to reach orgasm. What a woman wants most is to be emotionally connected to her partner and the feeling of intimacy. What you can do, besides physically stimulating your woman, is to create a safe, comfortable and caring environment for her in which an orgasm may happen.

 

Each encounter does not have to be orgasmic. Sometimes it is nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together. Intercourse is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm.

 

Stop pestering her with words like “there yet?”. This can only turn her off. The pressure to perform for you can cause her to fake it just to stop you from asking. You can say words like “Do you like it? Here? There?” or “Harder?”.

 

(3)   Talk to her

 

This has to take place outside the bedroom. Those intimate moments are not the time to bring up any sexual issues. Be careful with what you have to say, no blaming, no accusing, just purely fact-finding. You can ask her some pointed questions such as “Are you tired or do I need some improvements?”  , “Do you need more foreplay?”  , or “Would a sensual massage help?”.

 

Great sex does not happen overnight. Bringing her to orgasm needs lot of patience and knowledge. You can get more ideas from here. Sometimes it can be as easy or simple as offering a little extra help, which you can find at this place.

Source: luv2sex.info

 

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Sex Tips: How To Make Him Want You

English: Male erogenous zones includes the gen...
English: Male erogenous zones includes the genitals (penis, particularly in erect state; scrotum and testicles), the buttocks, the anus and the inner thighs. In the left image we see the genitals (with erect penis) and the inner thighs of a male and in the right image the buttocks and the anus of the same male. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If your sexual activity with your man is becoming dull and monotonous, what can you do to change this? Ever wonder how you can please your man in bed? How to spice things up to have the sexiest fun time ever with him? Wondering what turns a guy on in bed? How to make him desire you and want you more than ever? Read on.

 

(1)   Understand him

 

What better way to please a man than to find out what he likes? You can talk about your new moves in bed and find out if he likes them. By talking and listening to each other, both of you will be able to learn from each other. This will of course help both of you to please each other better and enjoy sex a lot more too.

 

Another way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction is to know where his erogenous zones are. His mouth is one of them. While making out, you suck his lower lip into your mouth and use your tongue tip to stroke up and down. This can make him feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth to all other parts of his body. Kissing the front of his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck, licking his nipples like an ice cream and so on are all the things that can contribute to his pleasure.

 

(2)   Be willing to try new things

 

You need to do something very, very bad and bold occasionally. How about having sex in a public place? The risk of getting caught can be very arousing. Exchanging sexual fantasies with your partner and acting out some of these scenarios or roles can be a great way to spice up sex. Every now and then try other positions rather than sticking with the tried and tested missionary. Always remember that when trying any new things, make sure both parties are willing to prevent one of you from being shocked by something unexpected.

 

(3)   Be confident

 

One of the ways to build confidence is to take care of your body by keeping fit, dress well and having a well-balanced diet. Wear your best night wear when you get into bed. Dress in comfortable lingerie or boxers that enhance your sexiness and make you look good. Men easily get aroused visually, so work on your magic by looking good for him. The better you look when you are about to have sex, the better, sex will become.

 

Lots of things can undermine a person’s confidence, but it often comes down to performance. He may worry about ejaculating too fast, you may be worrying about whether or when you will cum. What matters are not his or your performance, but the overall satisfaction and pleasure you both enjoy. Recognize that once in a while, things may not work up to your expectations and this is normal. You can learn something from this and the knowledge you gain over time will boost your confidence.

 

Another way to be confident is to be knowledgeable. You can read about sexuality matters from self-help guides to get some ideas on how to please your man and at the same time improve your sex life. When comes to sex, a man will really enjoy a woman to open up and feel comfortable in bed.

 

(4)   Take the initiative

 

When was the last time you initiated sex? Inside your mind, you may ask, “Who cares?” But he cares. Initiating is a clear way of indicating you enjoy having sex with him. This can be infectious as to making him feel the same way. Most guys really love their women to be a bit more aggressive, more obvious and more direct at times.

 

Be spontaneous because to many guys, the unplanned encounter with their women is still the best kind of sex. This means to be willing to get intimate with him at any moment. Your willingness to be spontaneous will tell that he is worth putting everything aside for under any conditions – good, bad or indifferent.

 

Click here to continue reading how you can make sex fun for you and him. For more ways to derive greater pleasure, you can visit this place.

Source: luv2sex.info

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How To Have Fast Orgasm

English: woman during orgasm
English: woman during orgasm (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It is one of those things men like to experience when having sex – to make women orgasm faster! Do you want this to happen to you too? How to help a woman reach orgasm easily? Read below for tips on how to have an orgasm fast or better still a squirting orgasm.

 

(1)   Calm mind

 

Orgasms can sometimes happen quickly when you least expect them. At other times, they seem to take forever to reach it. If you want your girl to have a fast orgasm, you must keep her comfortable and relaxed. If she is too tensed up during and just before sex, you are going to have a hard time trying to make her cum.

 

For a start, it will be good to take a bath together with her to gradually get her into the mood. This gives you a good excuse to touch her whole body as you prepare her for intercourse. Ask her to do some deep breathing exercises. To keep her relaxed, you can give her a full body massage, but don’t touch her pubic area first.

 

As you massage her, there are two things you can do to loosen her up. What can be the best way to turn a woman on? Of course, this is best done by seducing/arousing her brain by talking dirty. This can increase the sexual anticipation inside her mind and increase her desire for sex.

 

The other thing you can do is to pay attention and observe her reactions (moans and groans) as you touch the various parts of her body. This should give you a very good idea about her unique hot spots. Once you are able to pinpoint these areas, you can later spend more time and effort to stimulate these erogenous zones to make her orgasm faster.

 

(2)   Stimulate clitoris

 

Assuming you have been doing the above first step well enough to relax her, by now, she should be getting more aroused. Therefore you should move to her more private areas and spend more time on them. This means you have to start stimulating her clitoris. This is the step you cannot miss. The clitoris solely exists for women pleasure. Most women can reach orgasm by themselves by just stroking their own clitoris (masturbating).

 

Because every woman is different; some like it gentle, some like it a bit rough, some like direct stimulation while others prefer indirect stimulation. The best way to find out what works well for her is to get her to show you how she masturbates or let her hand hold yours to guide you to where and how she likes to be touched.

 

Besides using your fingers, use your mouth to lick on her clitoris too, because most women love oral sex. For a start, press your tongue tip to her clitoris lightly and quickly and then you move on to the surrounding areas. As she gets highly aroused, you can spend more time on licking the clitoris and you can begin to lick faster and maintain this pace until she reaches orgasm. You can even speed up the process by bringing in sex toys such as a clitoris vibrator and/or g-spot vibrator.

 

(3)   Get into positions that can help her to orgasm faster

 

(a)   Reverse cow girl

 

She is on top of you and faces the other way. She gradually lowers herself to allow your penis to get inside her. This position makes it very easy to hit her g-spot and also allows you or her to stroke the clitoris at the same time.

 

(b)   She sits and you stand

 

To get into this sex position, you lift her up onto the counter top and let her assume the spread-eagle position. You should be standing in front of her to enter; the angle and thrust force provided by this sex position should get her excited in a minimal amount of time through g-spot stimulation.

 

     (c) Up and down banging

 

In this position, you need to move two to four inches forward from the usual missionary position. The next is to align yourself in such a way that the base of your penis is rubbing against her clitoris. Both of you will coordinate the movement – while she pushes her pelvis upward by two niches, you will push down gently to give a slight counter-resistance.

 

(d)   Rear penetration

 

The doggy style is effective in hitting her g-spot and you can double her sensation by massaging her clitoris at the same time.

 

Another way to do this is both of you will lie by your side with you behind her. You pull her bottom backwards against your groin and slip her top leg over your hip. With her thighs spread in this way, you will enter her from behind. This is one of those favorite sex positions for women because they love the feeling of a man’s arm wrapping around them or playing with their breasts and clitoris.

 

Do you want to have some more ideas to please a girl and at the same time make sex fun for you? If you do, click on here and/or this place.

From : luv2sex.info

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101 Sex Tricks to Try Before You Die

Recommended by carnally creative men and women, some of these are hot how-tos, while others recount sizzling booty experiences.

 

1. On a hot night, lick the salt off each other’s sweaty bodies.

 

2.Take a steamy shower together…but with the lights out.

 

3.Stay silent all through the action and just listen to your breathing.

 

4.Make missionary sex more passionate by wrapping your feet around his lower legs and ankles and pulling up toward him as he thrusts downward.

 

5. “Spooning has a tame rep, but it’s incredibly hot: I can get really deep, play with my girl’s breasts and feel her backside buck against my hips. It’s total-body pleasure.”

 

6.Sit on his lap totally naked…except for boots. Cowboy boots, stiletto boots, motorcycle boots, whatever — they’re so powerful and sexy.

 

7. The perfect oral-sex technique: Pretend his hard-on is an ice cream cone that’s melting quickly. You have to keep licking at different angles, swirling the melting drops upward and putting your entire mouth around the scoop on top.

 

8.Hold his arms over his head during woman-on-top and nibble the skin between his armpit and elbow.

 

9.Try standing-up-against-a-balcony sex. There’s a reason this booty style is a staple of every porno flick and X-rated photo spread.

 

10. “I went out with this chick who capped off an oral-sex session by licking the area between my balls and shaft. It was out of this world. In seconds, I was hard all over again.”

11.Lie naked against your man, your back to his chest, and encourage him to whisper all of his dirty desires to you.

 

12.Have him undress you slowly and take the time to kiss and caress each body part as it comes into view.

 

13.Get your guy to skip the in-and-out thrusts and ask him to “stir” with his penis. He’ll stimulate every steamy inch of you.

 

14.Put a little bit of lubricant on your hands and intertwine your fingers. Then grip your man’s penis with your palms and move your hands up and down his shaft.

 

15.“Let me know you’re not wearing panties by taking my hand and placing it under your skirt.”

 

16.“Just as I reach peak, pump my balls in your hand in time with the contractions of my orgasm.”

 

17.Have your guy lie on top of you and enter you from behind, then close your legs so his legs are outside of yours. It’s the perfect position for G-spot stroking.

 

18.Pull off the road and find a secluded spot, then get busy in the car. It’s even hotter if you can hear the traffic, because you feel like you might be caught at any moment.

 

19.Turn on a fan while rubbing him down with ice cubes. The fan makes the ice feel extracold against his skin, and when you put your mouth on his body, he’ll get goose bumps from the sudden shivery sensation.

 

20.Command your man to remain still during doggie-style and move your butt in slow circles.

 

For even more scandalous sex tricks, read on more from here and/or this place.

 

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