For Couples – How To Sex Talk To Make Love Better

Inline image 1

Better Communication Leads To Better Sex


How often do you want to have sex? What are your sexual fantasies? How do you want to make sex more pleasurable? What are the new things you like to try to spice sex up? These are the things you probably like to talk to your partner. You want more from your sex life. After many years of being together, sex has gotten stale and routine. But, whenever you bring up the topic of making some changes or trying new things, your partner gets embarrassed and hurt or kind of behaving in a dismissive manner.


How to talk about sex with your partner without making him/her feel uncomfortable? How to talk to your partner in a way that really let him or her know how you feel? Here are some ways to get your partner to open up.


(1)   Avoid Criticizing Or Blaming


If you feel rejected or not satisfied, find a way to let your partner know without accusing him or her. Start your talking in a positive mode. You can begin by saying something like, “I love you and I like to feel more connected to you.”


Just discuss what you feel is the problem and let your partner know how you feel. For example, “I am really hurt and confused that you seem to have much less interest in sex than you used to,” or “I miss having sex with you.” You cannot be faulted for how you feel and expressing yourself this way is likely to get a more positive reaction.


When you talk to your partner about sex, make sure that this is done outside the bedroom such as in the kitchen while preparing meals, during a casual chat over a cup of tea or a glass of wine. The more natural you can make the conversation, the less threatening it will be.


(2)   Ask About His Or Her Views And Suggestions


Rather than dictating to your partner about how it should be done, he or she will be more receptive if you can ask him or her about suggestions and views on how to make things better. Ask what turns him or her on or what makes him or her uncomfortable. Ask him or her about any fears about sex. Find out from him or her any kind of sexual pleasuring that he or she wants but have not experienced. Get him or her to tell you about any special places he or she likes to be touched.


At this stage it is important to keep an open mind and listen. Avoid ridiculing his or her views. During the discussion, do pay attention to your own and your partner’s body language. Do your facial expressions, your posture appear defensive and/or uncomfortable?


(3)   Use Props


Talking about sex with your partner is not always easy. You have the underlying worry that you will embarrass or hurt his or her feelings. Get some how-to books or videos about sexuality and read or view them together and use them as a platform or basis for your discussion about the new things to try.


Go online or to a sex shop together and look into toys, blindfolds, ticklers and paddles. You can also buy her some sexy clothes and lingerie along with maybe some new perfume so that she does not think it is all about sex.


You can create a “love coupon” book for her and inside each coupon you put things like – romantic dinner, receive a massage, oral sex, try a new position, etc. Tell her that she needs to use each coupon each week.


You may also consider creating a “suggestion box” and both of you will make contributions to this box in term of ideas or suggestions about the things you want to try. Both of you will take turns on a weekly basis to pick out a suggestion from this box and act on it.


(4)   Negotiate A Compromise


It is very common and normal for couples to have differences over how often to make love. The one who wants sex more often than the other one feels being rejected while the other who is contented with the current frequency of sex feels being badgered. This can lead to an impasse or tension.


To ease the tension, work out a compromise. If the husband wants to make love four times a week and the wife once, they can agree they will make love twice a week. The wife can give her husband a kiss and cuddle on those sex-free days to reassure him how much he is loved without her feeling that will inevitably lead to demand from him for sex.


(5)   Give Your Partner Positive Feedback


Your partner may not understand what you are trying to tell him or her about issues regarding sex, but will respond to encouragement. When in the bedroom, show your partner what turns you on and where you want to be touched. You can take his or her hands and put them on the body parts you like to be touched. Give him or her lots of positive feedback during sex. Moan and groan and better still say things like, “Wow that feels good” and “I really like that”.


(6)   Be Patient


You have to realize that the discussion may take more than one conversation. You do not have to knock it out all in one discussion. Sexual communication is an ongoing process. Give your partner time to process and think about what you have said.


Give yourself an option to bring up the topic again. Reassure your partner that you care about how he or she feels and you want to follow up to hear about what he or she has to say about the topic.


If you are still keen for more ideas to improve sex to enjoy your love life to the fullest, you can check this out at Fun Games and/or Creative Sex.



Related articles

Enhanced by Zemanta

Sexual Health – How To Be Better In Bed And Make A Girl Want You More

Inline image 1

Want Her To Get Addicted To You Sexually?


Every time when comes to sex, you just get really nervous, get too caught up in trying to be a good lover, and kind of self- conscious about my size, even though it is average. You have read about the need to relax and you have tried. But when the time comes, you just can’t get fully hard. Do you ever experience this?


When you think about sex, what comes to the mind? Chances are will be stuff like how to last long, how to get hard, or how to make her orgasm? If you are too preoccupied with these, it can give you a lot of stress and affect your performance in bed. Instead of focusing too much attention on yourself, it will be good if you can divert your attention to your lover/partner. Here are some ways you can do to regain your confidence in bed and have the sex life you want.


(1)   Pay Attention


Sex is not a one-way street. Therefore it is very important to pay special attention to your partner’s desires. This will not only help to make sex pleasurable for her, but it can also help turn you on or get you last longer. Talking about this beforehand can help ease any awkwardness if you need to slow down during a heated moment.


Ask your partner to tell you, how her body feels as you touch her. Besides this, you need to really listen to her body, her breathing, her muscle tension, her moaning, the changing temperature of her skin, so that you can tell, in real time, exactly what she likes and doesn’t like, what is working and what is not working.


Paying attention is very important because it allows you to tune in and notice exactly what she is really responding to. It also allows you to make adjustments that can tailor to her needs. If a technique you read somewhere is working, you can enjoy it and follow it to where ever it leads you to. But if it is not working, you will know right away and won’t just keep pushing it, waiting for something to happen that is never going to happen. Paying attention solves all those pointless insecurities men do sometimes feel at one time or another.


(2)   Know Her Body


Knowing her body, her sensitive points are very important if you want to improve your performance in bed.  Knowing the most sensitive parts of your woman is highly essential to drive her totally mad at your each and every touch.


Do you know a woman’s neck is one of the hottest spots on the female body? If you tickle very slightly or give a soft sensuous kiss behind the neck, you can arouse her within seconds and get her ready for almost anything you want.


Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra-sensitive to your touch. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and gently nibbling of her ears can make the experience more sensuous. Such a single move of yours can create a strong physical arousal in her.


Her lips are also another erogenous zone. Try varying the intensity of your kisses by kissing her softly, then more passionately, then slow it down again.


Her scalp can be very sensitive to stimulation, and since she is probably not expecting you to lavish any attention on it, surprise her. Having her hair brushed can be a very sensual experience. Or run your fingers through it as you’re kissing her, or, simply caress her scalp gently with your hand.


The entire breast is rich in nerve endings but a woman with smaller breasts may experience increased sensations per touch. This results from a condensed amount of nerve endings. All breasts respond to stimulation after a while. Therefore, go slow, take your time to fondle the breast. Areas that are especially sensitive to touch include the nipple, the areola (the pinkish area that directly surrounds the nipple) and the underside of her breast.


Avoid over-stimulating the breast because this can be numbing or painful for women during some parts of their menstrual cycle. Try taking the less-is-more approach is highly effective and arousing. Touch her breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. That allows her to have the important moment of anticipation. Stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples by starting around the outer edges of her breast and moving inward with slow circles until they become aroused (hard). This builds up anticipation.


The clitoris is located at the top juncture of her inner vaginal lips, a small knob of pink flesh. Women like different amounts of direct stimulation on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed clitoris, others will prefer indirect stimulation at first through her vaginal lips. The fact is, most women need a good bit of arousal before having their clitoris targeted, but once they have reached that point, which is where many women want you to devote your attention all the way to orgasm.


Another area for sexual massage is the magical G-spot, located roughly 1.5″ inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her G Spot stimulated. This area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused it feels spongy.


The perineum which is the area between the vagina and the anus is very sensitive for a lot of women and is often unexplored. It is made from tissue similar to the vaginal lips so there are a lot of nerve endings there. It also has an element of intimacy that might turn her on when you lick or rub gently on this area.


A lot of women like their buttocks attended to, and with more vigor than you might think. You can use pressure on a butt that you wouldn’t use on a breast. It is not sensitive the way a nipple or a clitoris is so you can knead them and squeeze them. Many women are self-conscious about their behinds, so spending time here will show her that you like it, and hopefully allow her to be more comfortable with herself and you.

There are other hot spots you can consider, which are the backs of her knees, the insides of her arms, her inner thighs, or her palms. Women love to have these areas gently stroked, kissed, licked, or blown upon (be gentle on these areas, they are made of very soft tissue).


Note that every woman is different. Some women enjoy rougher play, while others are really sensitive and prefer light soft touching. Find out her preferences when you move to each of her erogenous zone by asking or watching her reactions.


(3)   Keep A Proper Lifestyle


This is also very important if you want to perform in bed. Stress can wreak havoc on all areas of your health, including your libido. Stress increases your heart rate (in the bad way) and increases blood pressure, both damaging to sexual desire and performance. Exercise is a great way to reduce stress and improve your health. Keep fit with strength training (weight lifting), swimming and fast walking, running or other aerobic exercises.


To build up your sexual stamina for a better sex life, do Kegel exercise by strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles in your body’s pelvic floor — the ones that let you stop the flow of urine mid-stream. You can use Kegel exercise to delay ejaculation by contracting these muscles just before orgasm.


To do Kegel exercise, start by interrupting the flow of urine when going to the bathroom to get familiar with your PC muscles. After that, you can do Kegel exercise anytime and anywhere by squeezing the PC muscles. Hold for 10 seconds, relax, and do as many reps as you can before tiring.


To go along with your exercise, there are some foods that have shown to increase blood flow to the penis. Onions & Garlic are two foods that help your circulation. Bananas are a potassium-rich fruit that can help lower your blood pressure, which can benefit your important sexual parts and boost sexual performance. Chilies & Peppers help your blood flow by reducing hypertension and inflammation.


To help you achieve stronger erections include in your diet foodstuff which is rich in Omega-3 acids that can be found in fish like salmon and tuna, as well as avocados and olive oil. Pork, peanuts and kidney beans which are rich in Vitamin B1 can help signals in your nervous system move quicker, including signals from your brain to your penis. Eggs which are high in other B vitamins, help balance hormone levels, which can decrease stress that often inhibits an erection.


Want some more tips on improving your sexual performance? Then go for the tips at Great Lover




Related articles

Enhanced by Zemanta

Oral Sex – How Do I Turn A Girl On And Make Her Melt In My Mouth

Inline image 1

Your Priceless Gift For A Girl

Oral sex is a wonderful thing and almost every woman loves it. But many girls are afraid to tell a guy how much they like it. Sometimes the problem is that she is not comfortable in telling you what she wants or maybe she did tell you but you were a little too involved at the time to pay attention. Next time when you are down there between her legs, give her what she truly wants. Here is what you can do to thrill a woman most and make her melt in your mouth.


(1)   Foreplay Is A Must


Women often complain that guys work too quickly through the stages of kissing, hands on boobs, hands on crotch. Most often the best oral sex foreplay is non-sexual and achieved through connection like kissing and looking intensely into her eyes. Women are like ovens, and it takes a little time to warm them up. The time you spend at each stage should be longer because women like to be teased.


When you are down there, instead of being tempted to lick quickly, you flatten your tongue out so that you can slowly lick her entire vulva from top to bottom, and then pause to flick on her clitoris or put pressure on it with your tongue.


This is not to say that she does not like the occasional quickie session. Sometimes she may not need much foreplay. There will be times when she is so turned on and ready for action without much kissing and touching.


You can tell she is in a highly aroused stage if she is eagerly attending to your happy parts more than the rest of your body or pulling you straight into a sexual position. The main thing is to pay attention to her cues and body language and react accordingly.


(2)   Be Enthusiastic


Just like men, women are ego-driven in the bedroom. Even the most confident of them, are shy and/or insecure about at least one thing on their bodies. Always verbally express your appreciation of your partner’s body at any given opportunity. Women are vain; they want to hear all the time about how beautiful and sexy they are. This is why it is such a predictable turn-on when you say things like “damn you are so sexy!” while you kiss and caress her body parts.


It is therefore very important for you to show enthusiasm when you are performing oral sex on your lady. When licking and sucking your partner into orgasmic frenzy, you behave as though you are savoring something extra delicious. Show your lover that you are totally into it and that you are enjoying going down on her, not just to make her orgasm, but because you just enjoy it.


(3)   Do Not Focus On Her Clitoris


The clitoris is highly sensitive and when stimulated, it can bring a woman to an incredible, mind-blowing orgasm. Just because this is the most sensitive spot on her vulva, it does not mean that you just focus on this area alone. Great oral sex involves stimulating and playing with other areas besides the clitoris and vagina. Therefore you should caress other parts of her body too. Two great places to pay attention to are the inner part of her thighs and her breasts.


(4)   Stimulate Her G-Spot


In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding the clitoris, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the inner roof of her vagina which is the g-spot. A blended orgasm can easily be achieved during oral sex when you are licking her clitoris and rubbing her g-spot at the same time.


G-spot stimulation should only be done when she is quite highly-aroused. Give her oral sex for a few minutes first to get her warmed up as this will help you to locate her g-spot easier later on. When you start fingering her, back off from using your tongue for a few minutes while you use your hands. Then, you begin to lick her clitoris and stimulate her g-spot at the same time. This will increase her chances of having a blended orgasm.


(5)   Lick Her Anus


Analingus can actually be very pleasurable for a woman. The outside of the anus has lots of nerve endings that licking or touching there will drive her crazy. If you are not comfortable with putting your tongue there, you can simply rub it or push against it with one of your fingers while you lick her clitoris.


If you want to be a great lover, you need to take the time to learn about her body and enjoy it slowly. In this way, you can then give her what she wants. You can find out more about this from Kiss Pussy and/or Oral Kit



Related articles

Enhanced by Zemanta

For Couples: How To Make Sex Better, Interesting And Fun

Inline image 1

How To Have The Sex Life You Want


Are you looking for ways to increase the pleasure of sex for you and your girl? Are you looking for ways to make sex better? If you do, here are some tips you can try to spice up your sex life and make your woman always looking forward to her next sex date with you


(1)   Start Early


For women, foreplay starts long before sexual activity. It can start hours or even days before in fact. This is because for women, sex is an emotional experience. When she feels connected to you emotionally, comfortable around you and sexy, the foreplay will be better and get her more aroused. Basically, make her feel like the sexiest, most desirable woman in the world all day long, not just during foreplay. A romantic surprise can make any woman horny.


How to go about doing this? The way to do is to always make her feel good and special, not just for the purpose of getting her to have sex with you tonight. Inject a little romance into your daily life. Do something unexpected for your partner just to make her happy. Be flirtatious at times by sending her sexy text messages to her out of the blue. Give her a pleasant surprise by arriving home with her favorite snacks. If your girl is a fan of certain artistes, when you know they are coming to town for live performance, you can surprise her by buying tickets for these events.


(2)   Suspense


When you finally get her alone, do not rush into sex! Instead, spend time alone (out of the bedroom) talking, touching, and kissing. Every single kiss and touch will progressively make her horny. Then, have dinner together to feed each other anything from strawberries to fingers covered in honey. This is a very good way to light up that spark and you will both be dying to get home.


You look into her eyes as you give her sensual kisses. Kissing is an amazing way to show her how you feel and is a perfect way for igniting flames. Land soft kisses over her ears, throat, breasts, stomach and inner thighs to drive her wild with desire. Also use your teeth to gently nibble on those same areas to bring her to ecstasy. Women especially can’t resist a sexy kiss.


To spice up the foreplay, you can alternate talking dirty with complimenting her during sex foreplay. Let her know you find her sexy and at another time whisper what you like to do to her or have her to do to you.


You can also pamper her with an erotic massage. This is an easy way to turn her on and will almost certainly lead to a much better sex life. Work from the top down, including those often forgotten places on her body. Remember to be firm, but not rough and she will be putty in your hands. This is a good chance for you to explore her body which includes the more subtle areas like the soles of her feet, the nape of her neck, and her inner thighs. Women love it when you take the time to tease and please them.


You pick a movie based on what she likes and watch it together with her. Watching an erotic movie can help both of you to get into the mood and have a better time making love while seeing another couple making out on the screen.


Or you can read to her an erotic novel. The mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. This can help both of you to create fantasies and imagine it together. It will be a bigger turn on that you think.


(3)   Spice Up Oral Sex


You don’t have to resort to cunnilingus toys or props every time you go down on her. But it never hurts to use these things every once in a while to enrich her sensation and experience from oral stimulation.


You get a bullet vibrator (with wire attached) to insert into her vaginal cavity while you are licking her. You can also run the vibrator over her vulva or press it against her clitoris while you simultaneously give her oral. In any case, the added vibrations will spice up the cunnilingus session.


There are some foods that can be used to heighten her cunnilingus fun. One of the best and most favored items is ice. Her naturally hot vagina and the cool contrast of ice will make for a great sensation. You can put the ice in your mouth and cool off your tongue, then run it over her, or you can hold the ice between your teeth and tease her outer and inner vaginal lips. Make sure the ice you use is not completely frozen to prevent it sticking to her body. The ice should be at the point of beginning to melt.


Having a mint in your mouth can give your girl a wonderful chilling and tingling sensation over all the areas that your tongue reaches. Just make sure that you don’t pick a mint that is too strong which will make her have this burning sensation.


You can make an ice cream sundae dessert on her vulva and dig in. Lick and lap until you have wiped her completely clean and watch as she enjoys every minute of it.


Use the above sex tips to give her the best sexual experience she ever had. When she can experience the fun and pleasure from sex, you can be sure that in future she will always be begging you to get inside her. For more tips to improve your performance in bed, you can click on Couple Love Guide



Related articles

Enhanced by Zemanta

For Couples – How To Spice Up Sex And Make It Interesting

Inline image 1

How To Bring The Spark Back


Do you feel that what you are doing in the bedroom is getting to be like a routine rather than sexy and exciting? Are you getting bored with the monotonous same kind of sex every time? Do you want it to be different and exciting so that you can make her horny and beg you for sex?


(1)   Rediscover Each Other’s Sexual Interest


Communication is the key to improving your sex life. Neither one of you can read minds. You have to talk to each other about your likes, dislikes, fantasies, fears and concerns. Sex gets better with intimacy and you can only have intimacy if you speak to one another openly and honestly about anything that is on your mind. This is best done when both of you are not in bed.


Through communication (both verbal and non-verbal) and listening, both of you can come to understand what ignites that spark in each other. That may be cuddling, leaving love notes for your partner to find, meeting at a motel for a tryst, trying out new sex techniques, introducing a vibrator or dozens of other potential turn-ons.


If your partner is reluctant, be patient and try to find out why. Ask your partner if there is a way that you can help him/her to overcome the fear or a way for you to work together to spice up your sex life.


If you can’t find the words to talk to your partner about how to improve sex or he/she is reluctant to talk about it, seeing a counselor may help. A counselor can help to create a safe space for your feelings and thoughts to be articulated in a way that can really do some good for your relationship.


(2)   Treat Your Partner As If You Are Dating


The problem that happens to most long-term relationships is after a while; we get so used to each other that we start to take for granted of each other. We stop trying to show the best part of ourselves to do nice things to flirt and impress each other.


For a woman, dress well, dress sexily (like buying new lingerie). This applies the same to guy. He should continue to pay attention to his attire, his appearance and his body. It will be helpful that both of you can exercise together. The key is to maintain the sexual appeal to each other.


Flirt with each other like you used to do when dating. Experts say flirting sends natural stimulants surging through the body, creating an instant emotional ‘high’ similar to orgasm. Just do those things you used to do to each other when you both start meeting each other.


Remember kissing? It is what you used to do when you first met. Many couples find that kissing stops once the relationship gets going or dwindles to a quick snog before getting down to business. Don’t underestimate the power of kissing. During kissing, testosterone is passed to each other through the saliva. This sex hormone can work wonders to increase your libido. So start kissing as passionately as you did at the beginning of your relationship and it will work wonders for your sex life.


Meet each other directly at the date like you used to. Don’t pick each other up. Meet up at a club and head out to dinner, or do something both of you would like. This will remind you of the good old days when both of you would meet each other outside the house. Make it a regular thing, weekly or bi-weekly depending on your budget and schedules. It may seem like a lot of work, but it will make your relationship stronger and healthier in the long run. The resulting good feeling will most likely be spillover to the bedroom.


(3)   Tease Each Other


Spice up your partner’s day by sending out-of-the-blue racy text messages (otherwise known as ‘sexting’) to get him/her psyched to see you later. Tell your partner how much you desire him/her and what you will do later. This really builds up the anticipation and desire for a night between the sheets.


To turn her on, you need to tease her at the beginning to make her horny and then completely stop. To start, you rub her back gently, brushing your hands over her body. Then you walk away to do other things. After a while, you come back and kiss her slowly and firmly. Run your hands through her hair and then stop. Go and make a drink or flip through a magazine. Next, start to kiss her neck. Stop after a few seconds and do something else. Repeat this act four or five times and she will not be able to resist your charm.


Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She does not know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex – the tease her. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects such as feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and make them far more sensitive. However, do not overstimulate the nerve endings because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes numb.


For a woman, she can do a sexy strip tease for him. But if you are too shy to try it, she can have her own version. You just dance for him, making him want to touch you, but never let him. After you have taken off just a few items of clothing, you let him do the rest.


Sex does not necessarily have to be started in the bedroom all the time. To improve your sex life and make it a little different at times, communication is very important, you need to try to behave as if you are still dating and you use some imagination and creativity to tease each other. Use these tips to spice things up and set the mood for great sex.


If you need more tips to make sex fun, click on Fun Games and/or Creative Sex



Related articles

Enhanced by Zemanta