How To Improve A Woman’s Chances Of Having An Orgasm






I came across this at a sexuality forum. A guy and his girlfriend have been having sex for over 5 months and she never had an orgasm. She never seems to be in the mood to do it. She only said that if the environment was right maybe it would be possible for her to achieve orgasm. She claimed to love her boyfriend and sex didn’t really bother her. The guy would like to know how to make a girl orgasm and how to increase her sex drive.


If you are facing the same situation, the following ideas should help to start the ball rolling.


(1)   Create the right conditions


To get a girl to desire you and want to have sex, you have to put her at ease. This will need more time, the right atmosphere, some romance, and lots of other nice sweet little things you do to make her feel good. If she is stressed and is occupied with other problems, sex will not work. She needs to get in the right mood. Therefore you should be helpful as well as supportive and give her a lot of care and appreciation.


Making love is a slow process for a woman. You may have to start many hours in advance in order to turn her on effectively. This will require fondness and attention from the man she loves.


Women need a much longer foreplay than men. You start by whispering sweet words in her ears. Give her a very specific reason why you find her irresistible such as the curve of her neck or the way she walks. You may also take a long hot shower or bath together which will give you both the chance to touch and rub each other. The lightings in the room should not be glaring. Candles and soft music can help too.


Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready. You need to be patient. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. Sometimes it may not work, even if you do everything right. With practice, she will eventually be more responsive to your stimulation.


Another good way to get her relaxed is to let her mind wander into fantasy. To reach orgasm, she needs to clear her head and turn off her brain’s fear center. Fantasy is a great way for her to deactivate her fear center. You can help her to relax by constructing an erotic fantasy before things heat up. This can be done by whispering provocative sentences to each other in turn, building a story she can get lost in.


(2)   Make her orgasm first


Most women will not achieve orgasm through an ordinary genital sexual intercourse. Men are often very tired after their orgasm. Due to this reason, it is best to ensure your woman has an orgasm before you. She will still be excited afterwards and will enjoy your orgasm.


Women can easily reach orgasm by proper stimulation of the clitoris, a small lap of skin just over the vagina. You can stimulate her clitoris using your fingers and your tongue. One study found women who experience multiple orgasms usually have the first orgasm after cunnilingus, rather than intercourse or manual pleasures. The tongue is therefore the perfect instrument for stimulating the clitoris. The way to do is to start with cunnilingus and move on to intercourse.


There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give her an orgasm, which is the g-spot. It can be a bit difficult to find this region and stimulate it in the right way. This can only be effectively done when she is highly aroused after clitoral stimulation. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way will usually use the woman-on-top intercourse position. This position gives her lots of options to control the movements to facilitate g-spot stimulation.


These are the 2 key things you can do for a woman who never had an orgasm. Her chances of getting an orgasm or even multiple orgasms will be higher if she has a partner who is attentive to her needs.


If you are keen to know more about how you can get your girl to enjoy sex with you, you can read on further at Hot Sex and Make Her Orgasm

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Why Does She Avoid Sex






Find Out From Here On How To Arouse Her


When you are standing in line at the store or in a café, she can be very affectionate. But when in bed, she says she is too tired. When both of you make time to go to bed, sex is always a one-way street, you are the one doing a lot of stroking, caressing and playing with her genitals, trying to get her to reach orgasm. But she has real trouble in getting intimate with you.


A fear of intimacy – hiding behind emotional walls and barriers – is something that affects many adults and prevents them from forming healthy relationship with others.


Here are some reasons why people develop a fear of intimacy and what can be done to close the gap between yourself and the person you love.


(1)   She has fairly strong body image issues


Sometimes a woman’s view of her body can be so poor that she hates seeing herself naked, let alone allowing someone else to see her naked. Some women will do something about this like getting regular exercises and having a proper diet. Others will do nothing but bitch and whine about it and most likely they will have a fear of intimacy.


How to overcome this? One of the things you can do is to basically treat her like she is gorgeous and sexy all the time. You can gently but positively refute all her negative self-doubts. When she is self-conscious about her tummy or wide hips, you just have to say, “You are the hottest woman I have ever dated” and give her this kind of assurance as often as you can. Do not be afraid to grab and caress her tummy or hips just because she has issues over them.


To support what you say, you frequently touch her all over her body, not just during sex but even outside the bedroom. When she is looking or doing some other things, you come up from behind her to rub her tummy or hips. What you are doing is to basically and totally normalize her body and your attraction to it. You have to be patient because this may take a couple of months to change her from someone with crippling body anxiety issues to someone who is very accepting of and comfortable with her body.


(2)   She is afraid of the unknown


Some women can easily open up to men and may have no problem in sleeping with you on the 3rd date. However, some may be unwilling to get intimate even after a couple of months. Maybe she is a virgin, maybe she has had a couple of short-lived relationships, or maybe she is unsure about what lies ahead for the relationship. Perhaps she had been with someone for years and the thought of being with someone totally new, while exciting, scares her. Whatever the reasons, she is one of those people who simply take a longer while to open up, especially where physical intimacy is concerned.


If you share an otherwise mutually satisfying relationship and enjoy being with each other, give her some more time. She may need to feel certain of your love or require a while to feel comfortable with you physically before she can engage in a sexual relationship.


(3)   Unhappy past relationship


Maybe her last boyfriend did not treat her properly (maybe even sexually abused her) or cheated her and this can make her fear intimacy. This fear can prevent her from entering into another close connection. If this is the case, you need to go slow on your sexual advances because being too forceful or trying too hard can backfire. You have to be patient to allow her to heal herself before she can be comfortable with you in an intimate setting. Maybe you can encourage her to talk about her past with you, assuming that she even wants to. By all means, let her know that you find her attractive but will not pressure her into sex. Offer support when she feels scared, confused or depressed.


(4)   She has medical issues


She may be suffering from a condition that is medically defined as hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Signs of this condition include feelings of shame, fear about sexual matters and painful spasm during intercourse, complete emotional detachment during sex. The cause of this condition could be psychological or physical/hormonal.


However, it is important to remember that the absence of a dramatic orgasmic climax during intercourse does not necessarily mean she is suffering from this condition. Sometimes a woman may be concerned about other matters like sexual hygiene or unwanted pregnancy which may prevent her from wanting to be intimate with you and you interpret these as fears of intimacy. Assure her that you will take care of these issues and work together with her to find solutions to them.


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