How To Get And Use Sex Toys For Beginners




If you have never used sex toys you may find them intimidating. This is especially so for people with little or no sexual experience. You can use sex toys to explore your body before choosing to become sexually active. What are the good sex toy choices for beginners or people who have little or no sexual experience?


Penis sleevePenis sleeve

Penis sleeve

This is a male sex toy. It is a tube made of cyber skin or other soft material that slides over the penis shaft and is supposed to mimic the feeling of a vagina or mouth. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, a penis sleeve is a good choice. Rub a little water-based lubricant on the shaft before you slip your penis through the sleeve and glide it up and down manually. You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have. Some have textured lining for extra stimulation.


Penis ring

Penis ring



The ring works by constricting the flow of blood out of the penis to help the user achieves a firmer or harder and longer lasting erection. For beginners, it is advisable to use adjustable and simple rings. Some rings come with buckles and snaps. If you are using them, just be careful not to let your pubic hair get caught in the snaps.


If you are using an adjustable ring, open it up all the way, slip it over the penis and behind the scrotum and then tighten it. Once you have gotten the ring on, you can masturbate all the way to orgasm and ejaculation. If you feel any discomfort, remove the ring. Whichever type of penis ring you choose to use, do not leave it on for more than 20 minutes. Once you are comfortable with using the penis ring on your own, you can let your partner put the ring on you as part of the sex play.


Clitoral vibrator

Clitoral vibrator


This is the best option for a girl if she does not want to have any insertion at all or does not want to stretch her vagina too much. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation. This is because the clitoris which is packed with numerous sensitive nerve endings is responsible for most female orgasms. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrator than other kinds of sex toys because it can provide some of the best orgasms.


Small vibrator

Small vibrator


This is a good choice for women who are using a vibrator for the first time to insert into themselves. This kind of vibrator is even thinner than a tampon so that it does not hurt when a woman push it into herself. A good thing about small vibrator is that it can fit in the purse so that she can take it with her wherever she goes.


Bullet vibrator attaches to penis ring

A more versatile type of small vibrator is the bullet style vibrator which can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina. Some bullet style vibrators can be attached on penis rings and used for couple’s pleasure.







Anal plug

Anal plug


This is a good choice if you are new to anal sex. Whether you are enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, this toy can give you just enough stimulation without being painful. Make sure you apply water-based lubricant on this toy before inserting it into the anus.



Special toy cleaner

Toy maintenance


To keep your toys in proper condition, it is better to clean them with a mild soap or special sex toy cleaner before and after use. Avoid using strong detergents because they can breakdown the toy material. For battery-operated toys, take out the batteries after using them. Rinse water-proof toys with hot water. For those that are electrical or not water-proof, clean them with a soapy wet cloth. Dry them thoroughly after cleaning. Most germs cannot live on a dry surface.


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Giving Her The Best Orgasm She Ever Had




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If you want to please a woman, you have to make sex better for her. If she is satisfied, she will have orgasms more often which means you will have better sex more often too. Follow these steps to help your wife or girlfriend reach orgasm as often as she can.


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(1)   Start with kissing


Before you do anything, make sure the surrounding temperature is not too hot or too cold. Even a slight chill can hold off an orgasm. Start kissing her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing because it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Deep French kissing can be teaser to what you are going to do next when you are between her legs.


Kiss her sensitive spots (lips, neck, ear lobes). Move your lips slowly towards the side of her neck and kiss softly. Kiss those erogenous zones on either side of her throat. Gently scratch her back as you kiss her and softly but firmly slide your hand up under her hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze. Move your way down her collarbone to the indent located below her neck. Kiss this nerve-dense region. Work your way towards the part of her neck, below her earlobes. This area is full of sensitive, pleasure-producing nerve endings.


Once you have been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt and circle back to her stomach. Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair.


(2)   Move to her breasts


Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing down to her breasts, kissing the upper area and still rubbing her lower body with your hands. While you are kissing her, reach behind and unhook her bra.


Do not just go direct to her nipples. Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck. Though nipple stimulation works, but it is much more effective to tease around them first as well as other part of her body before reaching for her breasts.


Lift her breasts when you caress them and touch them softly. With your thumb and index finger, you gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and anti-clockwise. Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them under your palms. Now, with your thumb and forefinger, you gently pull on her nipples but never pull down, Switch around the above movements to see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.


As she gets aroused, her nipples will become flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors will become primed for greater pleasure and pressure. You can start gently nibbling on her nipples or using a little more suction or pressure. A slightly firmer touch can be very pleasurable for a woman if she is already aroused. If you start out with intense pinching or firm sucking before she is fully and completely aroused, you are very likely to turn her off.


(3)   Heading downwards


As you move down to her stomach, you kiss every inch of the area below her breasts. Kiss her on the mouth again while you take off her pants. But not her panties yet! Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, you kiss every inch of it and working your way up to her inner thigh. While doing this, you can rub her clitoris. The friction caused by the brushing of the panties fabrics against her clitoris can start to make her feel the heat. Then go back to her left leg and do it all over again!


(4)   Clitoral stimulation


At this stage, she will be begging you to rip her panties off and give her more. Next, you pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris and position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move your tongue in a sweeping motion from side to side. You can also lick her in either clockwise or anti-clockwise motion. In between licking of her clitoris, you lick the rest of her vulva as well. Her vaginal lips and opening have super sensitive nerves that feel extremely pleasuring to her when you run your tongue over them. As she gets more aroused, you can take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it. While licking her clitoris, you can at the same time pinch and rub her nipples gently.


(5)   Get into position


If you are doing the above steps correctly, she should be having at least one orgasm. At this stage, her body will be very responsive to further stimulation and she has the capability of getting multiple orgasms. By now, you can choose to enter her as deeply as you want in any of the 3 following sex positions.


(a)    Enter her from behind (doggy style)

(b)   Woman-on-top

(c)    Missionary with pillow support or with a wedge under her pelvis region with her legs resting on your shoulders


So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes and will get her more turned on than she ever had before. Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have not only one intense orgasm, but lots of them as well. If you are with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make her be the one begging you to be inside her and not the other way round.


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Is Circumcision Good For Sex





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What are the effects of circumcision on your sex life? Does foreskin matter when it comes to sex?


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The function of foreskin


To answer the above questions, first, we need to know what role the foreskin plays in your sex life.


The foreskin acts as a shield for the sensitive glans (head) of the penis. It keeps the glans moist and prevents it from brushing against your underwear. Frequent rubbing of the glans against fabrics can gradually cut down the sensitivity of the glans. This can also cause the skin over the glans to get thicker and drier and less sensitive.


The foreskin is an area rich with nerve endings and is very responsive to stimulation. Inner foreskin and frenulum (an elastic band of tissue under the glans that connects to the foreskin) are the most sensitive areas of the foreskin.


During intercourse and masturbation, the foreskin slides along the head of the penis. This sliding motion stimulates both the foreskin and the head of the penis. Also the existence of natural lubricants on the foreskin means there is no need to use any lubricants for sexual intercourse and masturbation. Actually, this can cut down the possibility of painful intercourse for the female partner.


It is widely believed that painful intercourse is due to the lack of lubrication from the female partner. But it can also be due to the lack of natural lubrication as a result of the removal of the foreskin. To compensate for the decreased sensitivity, there is a tendency to thrust vigorously, which is another reason for dyspareunia (painful intercourse).


The foreskin cuts down the friction between the penis head and vaginal wall. Without the foreskin, there will be a lot of constant direct rubbing of the head against the mucous membrane on the vaginal wall. This also explains the pain and the tendency towards dryness that some women experience when having sex with a circumcised male.


How to have greater mutual sexual pleasure for a circumcised male


(1)   Choose the best sex positions that are mutually pleasuring


(a)    The woman-on-top position is a good choice because it allows a woman to adjust the speed and depth of penetration. To make this position more pleasurable, she can move her lower body up and down instead of the normal back and forward motion. She can alternate between deep and shallow thrust to both stimulate the clitoris and the g-spot. When she leans backward and rests her hands on your legs, the sensation will spread to her clitoris and at the same time her lower part of the body will be opened up for you to fondle.


(b)   Another position to consider is the side-to-side position. Both of you will face with each other, with the female partner raising one of her legs up to facilitate penetration. This position will prevent vigorous thrusting. The female partner can choose to rest her leg over your body to offer greater stimulation of the inner vaginal walls. She can also choose to keep her leg raised to offer you a bigger range of motion which can help her to get intense clitoral stimulation.


(c)    The modified doggie position with the female partner resting her arms flat on the bed with a pillow under her belly. She can arch her back upper or lower to control the depth of penetration. This is the perfect position to hit her g-spot. You can use a circular motion to offer more stimulation to the highly sensitive parts near to the vaginal opening.


(d)   The modified missionary with support where she positions her buttocks near to the edge of the bed. You will put one or two pillows or a wedge under her pelvis region. After you enter her in a standing position, you bring her legs together to create this tightness feeling on the penis for greater sexual pleasure. This position offers both stimulation to the clitoris (during shallow thrust) and the g-spot (during deep thrust). This position is also great for guys with premature ejaculation problems. When you stand, part of the blood flow to the penis will be diverted to your legs which will prevent extra sensitivity.


(e)    The penetration in kneeling position is quite similar to the above position with only two differences. Her buttocks will not be near to the edge of the bed and you will enter her in a kneeling position. You will still put one or two pillow or a wedge under her pelvic region and hold her legs together.


(2)   Use lubricants


The best is to use water-based lubricant which can be applicable to all situations. Oil- and petroleum-based lubricants are not suitable if you use condom. Before you enter her, apply some lubricant on your palm and rub your hands together to warm it up. Then spread it over the tip of the penis and down to the shaft before you enter her.


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Sex Tips For Women – How To Orgasm





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It is estimated that more than half of women have never experienced orgasm and do not know what it is. What is orgasm? How to have orgasms? What are the ways to achieve orgasm? Read on below.


Orgasm is an intense sensation that occurs at the climax of sexual excitement that is accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions and intense pleasure. This is followed by the release of sexual tension.


Some women are not able to achieve orgasm because of the lack of sex hormones and related medical problems. Low hormone levels and poor blood circulation to the sexual organ can prevent women from reaching orgasm. Certain medical conditions, medications or surgeries can cause reduced blood circulation to the clitoris. If you are not able to reach orgasm, the first step is to have a physical evaluation to make sure that there is no medical problem.


Many women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. This occurs because the location of the clitoris is not conducive to orgasm during the sexual act. For women who are in this situation, it can be quite pressurizing if their partners are disappointed with this.


The best way for a woman to reach orgasm is to make her have it on her own. If you can have orgasm by yourself, you will be able to reach orgasm during sex. Here are a few ways you can reach orgasm by yourself.


(1)   Strengthen your vaginal muscles


One of the main reasons why women are having a hard time in reaching orgasm is because of weak pubococcygeal (PC, or pelvic floor muscles). These are the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening and are the same muscles a woman uses to hold in her urine.


Why do stronger muscles give you more sensations during sex? The answer lies in the deeply buried nerve endings in the vagina. It takes strong pressure to stimulate these nerves. If the muscle is lax, the penis will have limited contact with your vaginal walls. But if the muscles are taut, the penis will be able to rub strongly against the walls, stimulating the surrounding tissues and giving the highly sensitive clitoris another boost.


Stronger PC muscles will allow more blood to flow to the pelvic region during arousal, making it easier to have an orgasm. A woman with strong PC muscles can clamp down on the penis by contracting them, which will result in greater sexual pleasure for herself and her partner, and probably increase her ability to ejaculate. A woman can strengthen her PC muscles by doing pelvic floor exercises also known as Kegel exercises. These exercises will help to increase the tightness of your vaginal walls. Exercising your PC muscles can take as little as five minutes and doing it three times a day.


To work the PC muscles, try to stop and then release your urine a few times. Put one finger inside your vagina and squeeze on it as if you are trying to stop urine from flowing out. If you don’t feel tightness on your finger, you are squeezing the right pelvic muscle. Kegel exercises sometimes involve inserting small weights inside the vagina. By using heavier weights, over time, the pelvic muscles can become stronger and tighter, giving you more control over the amount of pressure with which you can squeeze.


(2)   Self pleasure


This is a good way to discover for yourself what pleasures you. You can do this by rubbing or stroking the clitoris and other areas of the vulva with your hands and fingers and steadily increasing the pace of manual stimulation. Besides your hands, you can run or spray water (from the shower or faucet) on your genitals.


To get more intense and prolonged stimulation, you can use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris and nearby area. Some improvised toys such as cucumbers, brush handles, mirror handles, bananas work great too. Also consider trying a penis-shaped sex toy as some women are more sensitive to vaginal stimulation, or need a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulations. Other women enjoy anal stimulation so you can consider experimenting with anal toys. If your nipples are sensitive, you may want to try nipple clamps.


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How Do I make A Girl Orgasm





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According to some studies, 15% of women never experience an orgasm and 50% to 75% of women do not reach orgasm during intercourse. Therefore the chances of you being able to make a girl orgasm are quite low. Do you want to increase the chances of women reaching orgasms when they have sex with you? Here are some ideas that you can help a woman to get there.


(1)   She has to be comfortable first


All our desires originate from our minds. Therefore a woman has to be completely relaxed in order to have an orgasm. If she is stressful, very concerned about how her body looks in front of the mirror and wondering if she is abnormal because she seldom or can’t orgasm, for sure she will not be able to orgasm.


To keep her mind at ease so that she can get in the mood, reassure her that she is adorable and praising the positive aspects of her at every opportunity. When the moment arrives, you can start by taking a shower together which will give you lots of chances to touch each other. After this, you can pamper her with an erotic massage. This should be a perfect foreplay to start with.


(2)   Give her lip service


Almost every woman loves oral sex. Most women can easily reach orgasms through clitoral stimulation rather than during sexual intercourse. You can tease her clitoris by using your tongue to draw circles around it. When she is getting more aroused, you can mix up your tongue movements with left-to-right and up-and-down.


During the process, she can give you feedback about her preference by verbal or non-verbal means such as squeezing your hand twice if she is uncomfortable. To give her extra pleasure, you can pucker your lips around her clitoral tip and gently apply suction. This can increase blood flow to the clitoris and make it even more sensitive.


(3)   Use your fingers


You can enhance the effects of oral sex by using your fingers to rub on her g-spot. This should only be done when she is highly aroused. This is because under normal condition,  it can be quite difficult to reach for her g-spot, which is located about 2 inches deep from her vaginal opening. Make sure you trim your fingernails and preferably you lubricate your fingers for easier entry.


When you finger your girl, find a position you feel comfortable with. You may like to position either by facing her, perpendicular to her or side-by-side with her. Whatever position you choose, when your fingers are inside her, they should be pressing against her belly. While fingering her, you should continue with clitoral stimulation either using your tongue or your thumb to rub on the clitoris. This combined action if done properly will give your girl not only one orgasm but multiple orgasms. When she orgasms, her vaginal muscles will contract and squeeze against your fingers and you should only pull out your fingers after her muscles relax.


(4)   Get into position


At this stage, it will be best to get into those positions that will continue to stimulate either the clitoris or the g-spot.


(a)   Penetration with support


She is lying on her back. You can either place a pillow or a wedge under her buttocks to elevate her hips so that they are almost at right angle to the bed. To keep the position stable, press her knees against her chest as you penetrate her. This position allows you to reach her g-spot easily.


(b)   Legs on shoulder


She will place her ankles on your shoulders. You will push her knees towards her chest in order to raise up her hips. You will penetrate her in this position. The advantage of this position is that it allows double stimulation. Your penis will stimulate her g-spot. You can use your fingers to rub her clitoris.


(c)    Enter from behind


This is the doggie position that many women like because it also offers easy stimulation of the g-spot during penetration. Same as the above position, you can also use your fingers to stimulate the clitoris.


These tips here should increase the chances of your girl at least having an orgasm. Most important, just be patient and do not pressure her. She may or may not orgasm sometimes ( not your fault or hers). But be patient. Practise these tips will definitely make her orgasm most of the time.


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