How To Create A Sexy Bedroom

 

 

 

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Besides being the place to rest, most people will usually have sex in the bedroom too. Regardless of whether it is the first time or the thousandth you are having intercourse in the bedroom, its atmosphere will either add to or distract from your sexual experience. Therefore, making your bedroom into a space that is comfortable, unique and inviting is one of the easiest and best things you can do to have a great sex life. Here are the ways you can make this happen.

 

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(1)   Make it clutter-free

 

If you want to have this romantic feel for your bedroom, you have to make it spacious. You have to remember that this is your bedroom and not a storeroom. Therefore you should avoid making it stuffy by placing only the things that you need. Keep unused stuff in the cabinet or in the closet. Also, you should not have any exercising equipment around because the bedroom is a place for lovemaking and relaxation and exercising equipment just do not fit in. By keeping your bedroom clutter-free, it will be more inviting, organized and welcoming.

 

(2)   Invest in good quality paint

 

Low quality paint tends to leave a smell in your bedroom which can be toxic and cancer-causing. Use white or warm colors paint so that it will not be too dark when the lights are off.

 

(3)   Get a comfortable bed

 

Make sure it is not too big for the room and preferably one that has built-in drawers underneath. Plush comforters and high-quality sheets will make you both feel comfortable in the bed. Depending on how much space you have, use a mixture of pillows: standard-sized, square or decorative ones with coordinated covers. Arrange them in such a way with the biggest ones at the back.

 

Use relaxing colors such as rich earth tones or calming blues and greens for your bed sheet. Using bed hangings and canopies can add another layer of mystery and privacy to your room. This will make your bed more romantic with those fabrics hanging at the sides. Make sure you choose a fabric that is light and gauzy to make it bear that softness feel.

 

(4)   Add rugs

 

Aside from having cushy beddings, give your floor a soft feel by placing a soft rug (that is the same length of your bed) on either side of the bed. This can add to the cozy and comfortable feeling, giving your room a romantic ambience with all those softness around you.

 

(5)   Use dim lighting

 

Lighting should be soft and filtered. Bright and glaring lights such as the overhead fluorescent lamp can detract from the ambience. Opt for those 40 watts lightings to add comfort and serenity. You can also use a table top lantern or a lamp at the side table. You may also make use of natural lights by having transparent curtains. Make sure the curtains compliment the bedding.

 

(6)   Add mirrors

 

They can also add depth and make your room looks more spacious. You can use as many as you like and they can be any size. But just do not over-do this because you don’t want this to be too overwhelming. Or, you can just use a floor-standing mirror that can be move around the room which certainly adds spice to both the atmosphere and the action.

 

(7)   Make it sexually functional

 

Everything that you could possibly want when you have sex should be within easy reach of your bed. Some sexual necessities that should be neatly stashed in one of the built-in drawers underneath the bed or near to the bed are: condoms, lubricant, breath mints, long silk scarves, sex toys, love cushion, and a roll of toilet paper or tissues for easy clean up. Have your favorite treats handy, maybe a box of chocolates that will be sure to tease. For a late-night indulgence, place strawberries and whipped cream on a small tray next to the bed.

 

(8)   Add a little music and noise

 

Keep your favorite love songs at your iPhone. Soft love music is one of the easiest ways to lift up your mood. You can also invest in a bedside sound system to play your favorite mood-inducing music.

 

If you have a TV in the bedroom, use this only for watching erotic videos. This can be porn, or some romantic or scary movies. There are wide choices of movies that are perfect for getting both of you in the mood. Do not limit yourselves to the obvious ones.

 

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How To Have The Sex Life You Want

 

 

 

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How to have better sex? How to get in the mood? How to become orgasmic? A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It is often due to our busy lives which often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace. If sex with your partner isn’t what it used to be, here are some ways that you can put the spark back in your bedroom.

 

(1)   Communicate your needs to each other

 

Communication is very important in a relationship. This may be uncomfortable to you. But if you do not take this first important step, both of you will have to face with a non-ending unsatisfactory sex life. Do not wait for him or her to ask you what feels good. Tell him or her, what you like most about your sex life. Do not be shy to ask for something new or different. Just be sure that you only bring up such topics when outside of the bedroom, such as during a quiet walk on an evening. In this way, you can talk freely without spoiling an intimate moment.

 

(2)   Add in fantasies and share them with each other

 

Remember that you are a sexual being. Admit it; everyone has at least one major sexual fantasy. Whether you are a naughty doctor or a submissive nurse, it is time to indulge and go wild. One of the biggest factors in a great sex life is being comfortable with your partner. Role-playing offers an excellent way to do so and also to allow you to explore the boundaries of your relationship. It is a harmless way to ease any anxieties both of you may have and keep the mood light.

 

If you are shy to share your erotic fantasies with your partner, afraid of what he or she will think of you, suggest writing an erotic story together one night. Once he or she sees what you have dreamed up for your ‘character’, your partner will definitely know what you have in mind for yourself.

 

(3)   All-day-long foreplay

 

Start foreplay as early as possible before you reach the bedroom because women normally take a bit longer to get hot. Just doing the foreplay a short while before sex may not be enough to get her in the mood.  During the day, do those sweet little things for each other.

 

You can make a date at a restaurant at the end of the day for some fine wining and dining or take a walk at the park. When at home, take a bath together to give you and your partner the chance to touch, rub and scrub each other. After bathing, you can take turns to massage each other for a couple of minutes. By increasing your emotional connection, you can gradually build up the arousal level and increase it right till to the night.

 

(4) Set aside time for sex

 

Better sex will lead to more sex and one of the ways to have it is to make an appointment that neither of you is allowed to cancel. When both of you lead busy lives, sometimes the only way to leave time for sex is to literally put it on your schedule. Lie in bed together for an hour on a weekend morning. You may just chat, or you may engage in ‘bedroom wrestling’. Either way, you are connecting to each other. Though it is just once a week, but an hour or two of sexual activity can be energizing and pleasurable for both of you.

 

(5)   Make it fun

 

Sex is supposed to be fun. The more fun you make it, the more enjoyable it will be. Bring an item into the bedroom, like a board game, which can force you to think about how you are going to use this item to make the experience different. Or, it can be those innocent games, such as truth or dare and spin the bottle. Use these games to reignite the passion. You can trade game points for a 3-minute sexual favors which can be a massage, kissing, oral sex, talking dirty, a dance, a striptease and anything you want. The game is all about teasing which gives you the structure to add in anything that you want sexually. Besides games, you can add in toys and experiment with sexy lingerie, or anything that creates a special mood for you.

 

(6)   Increase her chances of having an orgasm

 

Many women do not have orgasm during intercourse because they do not get sufficient clitoral stimulation in the normal missionary position. What you can do is to get into those positions that can allow greater clitoral contact, such as woman-on-top position. When she is on top, you can stroke her clitoris which is what she needs to have an orgasm. At all times, observe how she reacts when a particular body part is being touched and spend more time on those areas which are highly sensitive for her.

 

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What You Should Know About After Birth Sex

 

 

 

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How soon after childbirth can you have sex again? How will this affect a woman’s sex drive? What to avoid for lovemaking during the first few months after delivery?

 

The sexual implications of childbirth are twofold. First, there are the physical considerations and second, there are the psychological factors. After delivery, sex is often the furthest thing from a woman’s mind, as her body needs time to recover.

 

Whether the baby is born by vaginal delivery or by C-section, a period of 6 weeks is often necessary to abstain from sex to give time for the cervix to close, for internal tears to heal, for the stitches to dissolve and for the post-natal bleeding to end.

 

Every woman may feel differently about when she will be ready or even have the desire to have sex again. Some women may need many months, whereas others will begin feeling ready to make love again within weeks. If you are in doubt about whether to resume sex, ask the doctor.

 

For several weeks after the delivery, the vagina will discharge lochia, a mixture of residual blood, mucus and tissue from inside the uterus. As the healing progresses and the bleeding slows, the discharge gradually turns to a watery pink, then to brown, and finally to a yellowish white. Lochia discharge generally lasts from 2 to 6 weeks.

 

Having a baby passing through the vagina may cause some tearing of the delicate tissues. This will result in vaginal soreness. Even if this does not happen to her, the perineal area can feel bruised and sensitive for some time.

 

With births involving surgery, women have to be careful to keep their stitches free from the risk of re-opening or infection. Some women have to delay resuming intercourse longer because of problems with the wounds.

 

If a woman is breast-feeding, her vagina may also be sensitive. Those hormones that are around when breast-feeding can suppress sex drive. Guys do often get very frustrated when they are waiting to resume sexual intercourse. A couple should therefore tread carefully back into a sexual routine. They should start slow with extended foreplay.

 

Hormone changes and worries can cause some women to experience vaginal dryness for the first 3 months after giving birth. Vaginal dryness can be treated with some over-the-counter solutions such as K-Y Jelly, Liquid Silk, or Pjur. Some condoms that have a built-in lubricant can be equally effective.

 

Kegel exercises can also be a good way to get the vaginal muscles back into shape and to regain the muscle tone so that she has this capacity to get aroused again. These exercises are performed by tightening the PC muscles (that regulate the flow of urine) in the same way she stops the flow of urine and are highly recommended for women recovering from pregnancy. Do 10 squeezes at a time, at least 6 times a day. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.

 

However, physical challenges are only part of the toll. Taking care of the new baby can pose a psychological strain. The main reason most women are not keen on sex for at least a few weeks after childbirth is simply exhaustion. If the delivery was long or difficult, the woman may also feel anxious about getting pregnant. Take advantage of the baby nap times to catch up on some sleeping.

 

Worries about body image and post natal depression can also influence her arousal. Therefore do not rush back into a pre-pregnancy sexual routine. Until she is ready for sex, intimacy can be maintained in other ways. Spend time together without the baby or when it is sleeping even if this takes just a few minutes in the morning. Look for other ways to express affection.

 

The post-natal period can be a good chance to consider new sexual positions, learn more about the turn-ons and turn-offs for the couple and to get to know each other in a different way.

 

For the first few sessions after childbirth, it is a good idea to choose a position in which the woman can control the pace and depth of penetration. The woman-on-top position, or one where both lay side-by-side facing each other, may be more comfortable.

 

Unless you want to have baby again, use condoms. Avoid giving her oral sex for the first few months after birth. This can increase the risk of infection for the vagina and womb. Blowing air into the vagina can cause an often fatal illness called air embolism.

 

Although children may be a blessing, the time and effort to take care of them prevents many couples from finding the time to be intimate with each other. Balancing the needs of your child with your urges is not easy, but it can be done if you and your partner are willing to make the effort.

 

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How To Turn Her On Again When Sex Frequency Is Declining

 

 

 

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Has it ever happened to you that when you snuggle up to her, she will say – I do not want to have sex tonight, dear; I have a headache? Do you at times have to do a lot of coaxing and persuasion in order to nudge her into sex?

 

Are you faced with any of the following symptoms –

 

(a)    1-2 times per month

(b)   Sex becomes a chore

(c)    Do not feel intimate after sex

(d)   You do not have any sexual fantasies about your partner

(e)    It seems only one of you are more keen on sex

(f)    There is no sense of adventure or spontaneity in sex

(g)   Neither of you are frisky in the bedroom any more

 

If you have one or more of the above symptoms, you are probably facing the situation of a low-sex marriage.

 

In whatever category you and your partner find yourself belong to, chances are you may still have experienced your share of sexual rejection in your relationship. You may have had to endure a period of ‘drought’ when your partner is not in the mood for sex. While some couples do not see this no-sex or low-sex situation as an issue, it can be a cause for concern to others. This is especially so when one party is never in the mood and the other is always quite keen.

 

If you have this problem of no-sex or not enough sex in your relationship, here are the 6 tips that will help you to improve sexual intimacy

 

(1)   Share sexual expectations

 

It is necessary that partners discuss with one another their sexual needs and wants particularly in relation to the regularity or frequency aspects. Ask your partner how often and when he or she would like to be intimate. Does he/she prefer making love in the morning or at the end of the day?

 

Through this exchange of views, both of you may be closer to a common set of expectations than you may think. If there are big differences in these expectations, jointly come up with a plan that can take into consideration each other’s needs and giving some room for compromise.

 

(2)   Recognize each other’s differences in sexual desire

 

It is very unlikely that your appetite, the amount of sleep you require, how sociable you are and other aspects of your personality will always be perfectly matched with your partner’s. Therefore it is nothing weird or abnormal if you want more or less sex than your partner. A couple must learn not to make this issue a deal-breaker.  By seeing this as a very normal sexual issue, you can negotiate your sexual needs and talk about your sex lives in an honest and respectful way. It will then be possible to reclaim the intimacy and closeness you are both missing.

 

(3)   Be respectful to the low sexual desire partner

 

If you are the one with a higher sex drive level, you have to accept that you may get less sex than you would ideally like. You have to learn not to over-react to a ‘no’ to sex and accept it respectfully. Avoid sexual bullying, begging or manipulating. This is indeed a very tough act to follow and it helps a lot when the low-desire partner can at the same time be more understanding of the high-desire partner’s needs.

 

(4)   Get to the root of the problem

 

Remember that you cannot have good sex in a bad relationship. Probe deeper to see if there are any underlying resentment or anger from/towards your partner that act as an obstacle to greater intimacy. Hormonal fluctuations, medication, past sexual trauma, painful sex or undiagnosed illness can all have an impact on our sexual desire. Face up to all these issues and look for ways to resolve them. Seek professional help if you are unable to change things on your own.

 

(5)   Strive for greater intimacy

 

Intimacy in a relationship is not automatic. It must be developed and nurtured through cultivating an environment characterized by mutual trust and respect, deep communication and time-together. You cannot be intimate if you do not talk and spend time with each other. Making your spouse’s needs a priority is an excellent way of breaking down the barriers to a great sex life.

 

(6)   Sometimes have sex even if the mood is not there

 

If we just wait for the mood to come to have sex, some of us would never have it. This seems contradictory to what I said about learning to accept ‘no’ to sex. But marriage is all about mutual love and respect and compromise which involves at times giving way to his/her needs. Once you start the ball rolling and just do it, desire and arousal often follow.

 

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How To Have Great Sex

 

 

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What constitutes great sex life? What makes a sexual encounter so great? Is it something to do with adrenaline, intense attraction, or sexual techniques? In the following paragraphs, I will share with you the facts I gather from people who have both satisfying and fulfilling sexual experiences.

 

(1)   Emotional connection and empathy

 

What I mean here is making an effort to communicate and mentally link to others. I believe this is the most important in every type of human relationship. This is especially so with your loved ones. You need to learn how to truly and freely get your thoughts to the other person. Of course, this has to be a ‘2-way traffic’. Therefore, it is very important that you need to listen well and pay attention to the verbal and non-verbal cues.

 

When comes to your sex life, this means the ability to recognize (even without being told) what and when a particular kind of touch can elicit a certain response in your partner and what other kinds that do not work. Non-verbal communication is therefore a vital component of transcendent sex.

 

In order to successfully embody this element of sexuality, both you and your partner have to be emotionally mature enough to recognize each other’s needs and desires, so that both you can convey them to each other. This also requires your partner to have self-confidence, to accept himself/herself as what he/she is, so that both of you will be able to let go and allow each one to enter into each other’s ‘emotional world and space’.

 

(2)   Trust and vulnerability

 

The ability to let your defenses down and to bare certain hidden aspects of yourself to each other is a distinguishing factor between regular and amazing sex. Being willing to let go and to expose the vulnerable aspects of yourself to each other can foster greater interpersonal sexual bonding. This ability to surrender oneself sexually to your lover means there are no barriers in trying to satisfy each other in bed.

 

(3)   To be truthful to each other

 

When it comes to sexual matters, to be truthful means you can say anything and be anything. Authenticity in a sexual relationship involves you and your partner being entirely self-expressive, uninhibited and not self-conscious. The importance of letting go in relationships (which I mentioned in the 2nd point above) and to be completely genuine with your partner has an incredibly powerful effect emotionally and sexually. Letting your defenses down is considered by many happily married couples to be liberating and an important component of amazing sex.

 

(4)   To be focused in the present

 

The state of feeling ‘totally absorbed in the moment’, of being completely in tune with the sensations during lovemaking is an important characteristic of an ideal sexual experience. This tuning in will help you to know exactly what your partner wants you to make her orgasm. This paying attention builds sexual intimacy. Her feeling of you tuning in to her body will serve as a trigger for her to achieve mind-blowing orgasms.

 

(5)   Deep sexual and erotic intimacy

 

This intimacy between you and your partner has to be developed long before both of you actually has sex. There is a strong link between erotic intimacy and a sense of security in a relationship. This closeness to each other comes from deep mutual respect and trust, caring, genuine acceptance and admiration between lovers.

 

(6)   Discovering each other and getting fun out of it

 

You should treat each sexual encounter with your partner as a great opportunity to explore and discover each other. This process of taking risks and pushing each other’s sexual boundaries as you explore each other will help you and your partner to get this feeling of adventure and fun, which will result in a very enriching sensual experience.

 

As you can see, achieving great sex is more than just mastering sexual techniques. The mindset and the intent of the person or couple engaging in these acts are equally important. Too much emphasis on the physical mechanisms of sex will not be as fulfilling overall as the emotional and psychological benefits of staying focused in the present, to be comfortable with oneself, to let down your defenses and to explore each other’s erotic attributes that both you and your partner do not even know you ever have.

 

This understanding and realization is the first most important step on your journey to a great sex life. On the way to reaching this objective, if you want to know what are the things you can do or try to make this whole journey more enjoyable and smooth, you can click on Hot Sex and Great Lover.

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