Read This If You Want To Have More Sex

 

 

 

 

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There is no exact science in the game of lovemaking. But there are some things that a guy does that can turn a woman off. If you want to have more sex with a woman, this is definitely the last thing that you want it to happen to you. If you want to become a better lover, you have to make sure that you do not make any of the following mistakes.

 

(1)   You assume you know everything

 

Men like to believe that just because their usual ways of lovemaking work on their previous girlfriends, they will also work on other women as well. The fact is every woman is different and this is especially so when it comes to sex.

 

Every woman’s body responds in different ways to sensation. What feels great to one may do nothing or even cause discomfort for another. When it comes to intercourse, some may like fast and deep thrusting while others will like it slow and shallow. Or, some may like to mix it up with slow and shallow initially and later on fast and deep. Also, every woman has her own favorite sex position. Differences between partners’ body shape and height may make some positions better than others.

 

To avoid making this mistake, it is better to pay attention to her reactions and better to get her feedback when you are in bed with her. When you want to experiment with some newly-learned techniques after reading a self-help sex guide, it is better to discuss them with her and better still to read this guide together with her.

 

(2)   Keeping quiet about sex

 

For certain unknown reasons, some people are quite embarrassed and hardly talk to their partners about sex. If it is hard for your partner to say what she wants sexually, try asking specific questions instead of open-ended questions such as “What do you like?” which may not get a clear answer. While you are trying out certain moves with her, you can ask her which one she likes better.

 

Not only do some men refuse to talk about sex, they also feel that it is better to keep quiet during sex. This is not a good thing. Because saying something or making some noises at least can show your partner you are enjoying and this can turn her on. Keeping quiet may give your partner this feeling that you are not mentally with her. Many women want this mental connection with their partners first before they can get turned on. Men should not hold back their moans, grunts and sighs because the sounds of sex are sexy and great turn-ons. Making these noises can help both partners get into the experience more fully.

 

Couples should give each other verbal cues during sex. A woman should use words like, “harder”, “slower”, or “right there” to help her man know what she likes. Men can engage in dirty talking which can make sex highly arousing for women.

 

(3)   Treating sex as a separate matter

 

Sex to many guys may just be something that is very mechanical – penetrate and ejaculate. But for most women, love and sex are not separable. A woman needs to feel loved before she feels sexy and gets turned on. Many men do not seem to be aware that sex does not happen in a vacuum. A man may not know why he is unhappy with the sex he is having and not connect that with how he and his partner are getting along.

 

A woman will not open up sexually with a partner if she does not feel safe emotionally with her man. Your recent behavior will set the mood in the bedroom. She will still be thinking about how you have treated her the week before, the day before and the hour before.

 

Most women crave for romance. They appreciate the sweet little things their men do for them outside the bedroom. They want their men to be caring partners. Putting your arms around her, giving her your shoulder to cry on, listening to her, maintaining eye contact with her are counted as part of good foreplay which will work wonders on her after the lights are off. Foreplay begins not in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom.

 

(4)   Too dogmatic

 

Some men view sex toys as a threat, or competition, thinking that using them can cut down their partners’ desire to have normal sex. The fact is though many women are interested in using, or have used sex toys, they also realize no matter how good the sex toys can be, they can never replace the intimacy and love from their partners. Proper usage of sex toys can broaden a woman’s pleasure.

 

A vibrator can deliver focused, consistent and intense stimulation that is impossible for a human to provide. Many women need that kind of stimulation to have an orgasm. There are also sex toys that can stimulate both partners at the same time. Instead of totally rejecting sex toys, embrace them, get used to them and go along for the ride to ultimate pleasure.

 

It is all up to you. You can determine the type of sex life you want and have. Watch out for these mistakes, is the first step. If you need more ideas to jump-start your sex life, you can click Hot Sex and Eternal Flame

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How To Find Time For Sex If You Are Busy

 

 

 

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After you have kids, it is often the children’s needs took precedence over other needs and the chances are your sex life will be affected. By the time kids have gone to bed, probably both of you are quite exhausted. But one day the children will be gone. It is therefore very important to keep the closeness and intimacy in the relationship by taking time and effort to foster it. This means putting romance at the top of the to-do list in your daily life.

 

All you need is a new approach to time and energy management especially when it comes to making time and saving enough energy for lovemaking with your partner. You may not be able to have spontaneous, carefree sex, but there are simple ways of reintroducing sex and reminding yourselves how much you enjoy it. The following are some ways on how to create the spark for romance during those wonderful and precious moments while not sacrificing your time for rest and not compromising your roles as responsible parents.

 

(1)   How to get back into sex if you haven’t had sex for a while or feel like you have lost the passion?

 

Try to take it easy by starting with just cuddling and stroking each other naked, but without going all the way unless you want to. Get to know each other’s bodies again, maybe with a sensual massage or having a bath or shower together and remember what you use to enjoy.

 

Women may even find things feel different after having a baby, so it really can be a voyage of discovery. At other times, hold hands, touch and kiss every chance you get. The key is trying to relax into it and going with the flow. The feelings you stir up may surprise you.

 

(2)   How to find time for each other?

 

This requires you to talk it over and make the commitment to set aside quiet time for intimacy. You can pick one night of the week for your ‘special date’ and make it sacred. If one of you is required to travel due to job duties, you can pick an alternate night to your pre-arranged fun night and stick to it. To spice things up, you can take turns planning what to do on your date nights.

 

Many couples are just too exhausted to have sex once they have sent the kids to bed. This is normal and perfectly okay. How about trying something new like making love in the morning? Our testosterone levels are higher in the morning (peaking at 10am) than at other time of the day. This is one of the reasons men wake up with an erection. For women, morning sex is also good for them because all the life’s distractions that interfere with arousal are still ‘submerged’ under their ‘semi-sleeping’ minds. Therefore, try taking advantage of the sleepy comfort of making love in the morning on a weekend when you do not feel the need to wake up at the crack of dawn.

 

Another way is, if you are too tired to have sex, you go to bed but set the alarm. Once the alarm goes off, give yourself an hour or so to get intimate. Then take turns giving one another a massage until both of you go back to sleep.

 

(3)   Try quickie sex

 

How about having quickie sex in the shower? Let’s face it; having fast sex is sometimes better than no sex at all. Let your kids enjoy their favorite computer games as a ‘reward’ for good behavior or good exam results and let them know mommy and daddy are going to do some ‘area cleaning’. For sure, kids will leave you alone because they seldom volunteer for household chores. With foot rests, handles, vibrating sponges, handcuffs and water-proof display cards, this set-up is supported with super powerful suction caps to stay put while you and your partner get wet. Do take note that water washes off water-based lubricants, so get a silicone based lubricant for shower sex.

 

When you are doing quickie, you can take turns to be the center of attention – it gets to be all about you tonight and all about your spouse tomorrow tonight. In this way, each of you gets an opportunity to orgasm as much as you want without the pressure to perform. You will save time and energy and give each other something to look forward to.

 

(4)   Block out all distractions

 

Nothing spoils the mood more than those unnecessary or irritating distractions. Therefore turn off all those electronic gadgets that include computer, cell phone and Blackberry. Some workaholic bosses have this annoying habit of (not giving you peaceful time even after office hours) texting or calling their staff during late nights or early hours in the morning. If you are addicted to your smartphone, you will have to leave it in another room, locked up.

 

Getting creative is the key to find new ways to have time for making love. So after you have finished reading this, do not linger too long in front of the computer and start getting into the act! Want to get some more ideas to keep the passion ongoing? Click on Hot Sex and Turn The Heat On

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