How To Turn A Girl On With Erotic Massage

 

 

 

 

 

A sensual massage can create an erotic and relaxing experience for both the person giving the massage and the person receiving it. An erotic massage can relax a woman’s body, mind and spirit through intimate touch which serves to increase her libido. Knowing how to create a truly erotic experience using massage as foreplay will not only get her into the mood and make her orgasm easily, but pretty much guarantee that she will rock your world in return. Use these erotic massage tips to provide the best massage experience that can quickly and easily re-energize you and your partner’s love life.

 

(1)   Create a conducive atmosphere

 

Light some scented candles to set the mood with a soft light and switch off all other lights. Lighting candles can relax the spirit and state of mind. The scent from candles has therapeutic effect that reduces stress and anxiety. Scented candles can add to the effect you are trying to achieve especially if you burn scents like sandalwood, lavender and jasmine. Try playing some of her favorite music in the background. The air conditioner should be adjusted to a comfortable room temperature. It should not be too cold as to make your girl shiver nor too warm to make her sweat. Maintain a nice room temperature will allow your woman to feel comfortable even when she is naked.

 

(2)   Keep her comfortable

 

Make sure your girl is comfortable and the bed is suitable for you to work on. You can provide a soft pillow to have her head relax on it. Prepare for the encounter beforehand by making the bed with soft fabrics. Cover the bed with a large towel to prevent massage oil and lotions from staining the fabric beneath it.

 

(3)   Use some oils and lotions

 

A good sensual massage should involve all the senses, not just touch. Scented oils will include her sense of smell in the experience and enhance the overall massage process. Using massage oil can smooth the glide of your hand against her body and reduce any friction that may cause pain. Some common oils which you can use are sweet almond oil, sunflower oil, avocado oil and grape seed oil.

 

(4)   Start from the top

 

Apply a few drops of massage oil onto your hands and gently rub the neck from the base of the skull using your thumbs in circular motion. Slowly increase the pressure as you rub all the way out to the end of the shoulders. It should be firm, but not too much pressure that it hurts.

 

Then you firmly grip her shoulders right where they meet her neck on both sides. The trapezius muscle in the shoulder is usually affected first during stress. Therefore, this zone may be tenser than other areas of the body. Hence, applying more pressure to this area would be ideal. Press your thumbs onto her upper back. Squeeze her shoulders and release. She should immediately feel a slight release of tension. You continue squeezing and releasing her shoulders as well as applying pressure on her upper back with your thumbs a few times before you move to the upper arms.

 

Apply more oil and begin to softly massage each of her arms. Rub each arm in a circular motion as you gently squeeze the bicep muscles. Run your thumb down the center of the forearm, increasing pressure as you get closer to the wrist. Squeeze each finger and gently pull it outward to relax her finger joints. Apply firm pressure to the palms of her hands using your thumbs.

 

(5)   Work slowly down from her back

 

You can start with an up and down stroke then move on to a circular motion. Lock your elbow to straighten your arm and you lean your body forward as you press your palms on both sides of the backbone. After you press, you release and then you do this action up and down with your palms one to two times along both sides of her backbone.

 

Next you use larger circular strokes with your fingers near to the top of her back and switch to smaller circular strokes near the hip area. Knead on her buttocks using your fingertips. Make a switch to apply pressure using your knuckles up and down the buttocks.

 

When you move to the legs, you apply more oil and rub both legs one at a time. Firmly knead the calves in a circular motion. Then you use your elbow or forearm to press against the thigh as you move further down to the feet to squeeze the ankles.

 

Next you begin the foot massage by squeezing the sole. You use your thumb and index finger to squeeze on each toe. As you move to the tip of each toe, you gently pull on it outward to relax the toe joint. You do the same with the other foot.

 

You will know that you have performed a satisfactory job when your girl craves more of your massage in the future. Want to find some more ways to please her? Go to Foreplay Massager and Pleasure Kit

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How You Can Help A Woman To Reach Orgasm

 

When it comes to female orgasm, a lot of guys are still quite confused. How does female orgasm happen? What does it feel like for her? Are there different types of orgasm? What can you do to help her reach orgasm? Below you will find the answer to all of those questions and more.

 

What happens when she reaches orgasm?

 

Unlike the male orgasm which can occur very easily, the path to female orgasm is rather complicated and usually happens only under the right conditions. A woman can even experience multiple orgasms if she is able to have one. She can also achieve climax through masturbation.

 

What happens in a woman’s body when she reaches orgasm is very like what happens when a guy ejaculates. There is a feeling of excitement building up to a point where everything “explodes” in a great blast of ecstasy. This “orgasmic moment” is characterized by surges of rhythmic muscle contractions in the vagina and other parts of her body, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds. Her body may become rigid; the skin on her face and chest may flush red. Her face may take on a pained expression as she moans, pants or screams in enjoyment. A few women may emit a silky fluid which is often referred to as female ejaculation.

 

Types of female orgasms

 

There are 3 ways to get a woman to reach orgasm. This can happen when her clitoris, G-spot and brain is being stimulated. She can achieve clitoral orgasm on her own by masturbation. Her brain can be stimulated either by her partner or by herself as a result of her feeling horny with sensual thoughts or fantasies as claimed by some women (such as Lady Gaga). This implies a woman does not need penetration to achieve orgasm.

 

One big difference between male and female orgasm is the capacity of a woman to have the 2nd, 3rd or 4th orgasm after getting her 1st one. But this ability to achieve multiple orgasms has to be learned.

 

There are 2 types of multiple orgasms. The 1st type is the sequential orgasm which is (the more common type) a series of orgasms that come about 2 to 10 minutes apart. There is brief interruption in arousal between each orgasm. A climax during oral sex is followed by a climax during penetration.

 

The 2nd type is the serial orgasm that happens with a series of orgasms following one after another closely by only seconds apart. So rapid is the pace of orgasms that she remains in a high state of arousal. This occurs when her clitoris and G-spot are stimulated, which is sometimes called blended orgasm.

 

Under what conditions can she reach climax?

 

For men, it is a very mechanical thing. All he needs to do is to “molest” his “little brother” and normally he should be able to come off quite easily. For women, they demand a “package deal” consisting of the following:

 

(a)    pleasant and comfortable surroundings

(b)   a guy who turns her on

(c)    she feels wanted and appreciated as a woman

(d)   she is sufficiently lubricated in a natural way preferably

(e)    her clitoris is properly stimulated

 

How should you help her to get orgasm?

 

You cannot hurry her, you must be gentle, give her tender loving care and not to give her any pressure but lots of pleasure. You need effective communication skills to find out what she wants. If she is not so sexually experienced and unclear of what she needs, you have to learn how to “read” her body signals when you touch her from head to toes.

 

You can get her to hold your hand to guide you on where and how she likes to be touched. If there is a particular area she likes you to spend more time on, she can hold your hand to keep you from wandering to somewhere else. If she likes you to give you a little more pressure on a particular spot, she can squeeze your hand a little harder to signal you. It will be better if you can get her to masturbate in front of you so you can observe how she likes to be stimulated.

 

You need to keep her comfortable and the environment should be conducive for sex. The place for having sex should not smell and look more like a storeroom. What I mean by giving her tender loving care is you need to be patient in your time and effort on foreplay. Do not act desperate by immediately aiming for her love canal. Instead start with the non-sexual areas to create some anticipation and suspense so that when you finally reach for the final objective, she will be begging for you to proceed.

 

To distract her from any possible anxieties, encourage her to fantasize. You can start the ball rolling by reading her an erotic story to let her mind wander. One area which you cannot miss if you want her to reach orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris using your fingers, mouth, tongue, the tip of your “little brother”, or even a vibrator. If she is over 40, she probably needs extra help from lubricants.

 

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The Small Changes That Turn Her On

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How to increase a woman’s libido? How to get your woman in the mood for sex? How to get your wife interested in sex again? What I am going to discuss in the following paragraphs should help to answer these 3 questions.

 

(1)   Horizontal doggie

 

In this sex position, the man lies on his back with legs spread, knees bent and feet flat on the bed. The woman, who will be facing away from him, is on her hands (or elbows) with her knees between his legs. This position hits her G-spot very nicely. Stimulation can be increased with her using one hand to tickle/massage his scrotum or grab/squeeze the base of his genitals and the other hand stroking her clitoris or any other erogenous region that is highly sensitive to her. With her legs in between his legs squeezing her vaginal walls against his genitals, this can make her seem tighter than usual and he feeling his male hood bigger in size psychologically.

 

(2)   Be consistent

 

Most women reach orgasm from repetitive and continuous stimulation as opposed to hard or varying pressure. Therefore you should treat her moans and sighs as signals for continuing at the same pace and not as a request to apply more pressure. On average, a woman can take between 3 to 30 minutes to reach orgasm from oral sex. If your tongue gets tired, you switch to using your finger or penis to keep her arousal level from going down. Hen she starts to come, keep whatever lovemaking technique you are using to go at the same pace and do not stop until she tells you to.

 

(3)   Getting her feedback

 

Men often make assumptions about what a woman wants based upon what they have done with other women. But women are not all the same. For example most guys know what a clitoris and where to find it. But this does not mean they can get a woman to reach clitoral orgasm. A touch on her clitoris that is enjoyable for one woman may feel like nothing special or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation. How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Try asking her simple yes-or-no questions such as “Does this feel good?” Do not distract her with those open-ended questions. To bring a woman to orgasm, she has to be able to relax and let go. Yes-or-no questions can ease her into providing you with more detailed and helpful information on how to pleasure her.

 

(4)   Making sex more sensual

 

If you want to make sex a more sensual experience, you need to slow down. Slow sex is not just about endurance or adopting complicated sex positions. It is about really been there in the moment and mutual pleasuring. You can create a more conducive bedroom environment for slow sex by moving the TV to another room, shutting down your computer, switching off your cell phone and installing romantic dim lighting.

 

The following is what you can do to slow down for mutual pleasuring

 

(a)    Massage

(b)    Deep, lingering kisses

(c)    Teasing her with your fingers and mouth

(d)    Give her tender and erotic touching

 

Here is a bonus tip: You touch her breasts. How? You use your thumb and index finger to gently massage her breast, first clockwise and then anti-clockwise. You then place your hand over her areola (the colored skin surrounding the nipple) and roll it with your palm. You end this by gently pulling her nipple. Why is this effective? The nipple contains receptors called Meissner’s corpuscles, cell that adjusts to varied stimuli like the friction of a shirt or the moisture of a tongue. The longer you tease around the nipple, the more intense direct stimulation will be. You repeat the process on her the other breast.

 

(5)   Giving her positive feedback

 

Women are vocal creatures and at times feel insecure. A woman needs a little extra reassurance to make sure that is still special in your eyes. You shower her with compliments about connectivity. You tell her how sexy she is when she looks into your eyes. This makes her feel good. When she feels sexy, she is most likely to act sexy.

 

To a woman, sex is an expression of love. The just-mentioned 5 ways will help to deepen your emotional, psychological and even spiritual bond with your lover. Of course, you can always do better and if you are keen to do so, you can click on Hot Sex and Turn Her On.

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