How To Get High In Bed For As Long As You Want





Are you having difficulties in trying to get an erection or to stay high? A limp erection can destroy a relationship or complicate it if it is a repetitive occurrence. Your girl friend may assume you have lost interest in her. This can leave you frustrated and both of you may start getting annoyed with each other for no particular reason.


But have no worries because this can happen once in a while to even normal and healthy guys. You are probably getting bored of the routine after a few years, even if you have a very attractive partner. Or, you may have performance anxiety issues and feeling very stressful in trying to give your girl a good time. The brain is your main sexual organ. Almost all the time, an erection is all in your head.


If you are not suffering from any medical conditions and still have difficulties in keeping it hard, the following ways can help you to keep it up and get you high all the time.


(1)   Indulge in your fantasies and talk about them


As the relationship matures, you need to come up with new ways to spice up sex. Indulge in something that gets your heart racing and your sex life will get super sexy. You can bring your wildest fantasies alive by talking about them with your partner and acting them together.


The way to do is to distract yourself from your little head and use your big head in bed. You can start by talking to her seductively and enticingly by inventing a fantasy in your mind or you can whisper dirty nothings into her ears. Indulging in dirty talk and fantasies can help reignite the pleasure of sex for both of you.


(2)   Think and get kinky


Sometimes, all you need to bring your little brother up is a whole new sexual experience. Nothing beats the excitement of wild and kinky sex when the relationship is starting to slow down in bed. You can talk about your secret fantasies and fetishes with each other and indulge in them.


You can have sex with a full length mirror next to your bed. You can take turns applying edible body paint on each other. This can make eating in bed so much more tasty. You can role-play with each other by dressing in character or as other person.


Bondage can be scary, but a few scarves, ropes and light bondage can turn out to be sexier than you think. The world can get dark with blindfolds, but this will open up your sexy imaginative mind. You can mix it all up with some spanking and nibbling or even a handcuff which is a great turn on for bondage sex. Clamps and whips can hurt, but at the right place and right time, even pain can be a huge turn on.


You can make out or have sex while someone may be around or watching, like on the rooftop or under the stars on a beach or in public places such as restroom, dark corner of a club, changing room in a clothing store, on a flight, a train or a bus that is making the last trip of the day. You can make out on someone else’s bed when you are attending a house party or when a wedding celebration is going on. You can finger her under a restaurant. But just make sure that the table-cloth is big enough to cover your indecent public act.


(3)   Do not get too focus on your little head


What you should do is to concentrate on satisfying and pleasuring your partner. When you spend too much time pondering over how erect you are, you can kill the fun which will in turn kill your erection. Talk with your partner to explore ways she likes best to please her. During foreplay when you touch her, observe closely her reactions and her body signals which can help you to identify her highly sensitive spots.


Take your time and do not rush. This is because foreplay always helps a guy to hold on longer. You may think there is no point in doing this but by spending 15 minutes on foreplay before penetration, your little brother will have more time to warm up for the act. Also do not masturbate too often. Though this can be good to control premature ejaculation, but this will not be good if you want to keep it hard for a long time.


These are the 3 tips to get you started. For further reading on sexuality matters, you can click How To Keep A Hard Erection . For more kinky sex ideas, you can visit Dirty Harry’s Secrets

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How To Have Long Sex That Gives Enough Time To Make A Girl Orgasm





Do you want to last longer during sex? If you do, how long should sex last? Is great sex equals to long sex? Does lasting longer mean only lasting longer inside her?


How Long Should Sex Last?


According to various studies done by sex researchers in the US and Canada, the average time for sexual intercourse is 5 to 7 minutes. As this is only an average, what is the ideal or optimal time depends very much on the couple.  According to a research published in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine, the amount of time for sexual intercourse (not counting foreplay) ranges from 3 minutes to 13 minutes. Very few people can go longer than 12 minutes. Both young men and older men are likely to have more difficulties in having long sex.


The medical method of determining premature ejaculation is called intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT), a stopwatch-timed duration measured from the beginning of vaginal penetration until ejaculation occurs. Any IELT that is less than 2 minutes is medically defined as premature ejaculation or rapid ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in younger men and it affects around 20% to 30% of men (all ages). This shows that most people’s sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are.


Yet this quantitative measure of premature ejaculation does not tell the whole story. There are men who ejaculate within a minute but say they do not have premature ejaculation. On the other end of the spectrum, there are men who are able to last for 20 minutes and they say they do have premature ejaculation. In other words, the definition of ‘premature’ may largely be in the mind of the beholder and depends on a man’s sexual satisfaction and his perception of his ability to control when ejaculation occurs.


Is Great Sex Equals To Long Sex? Does Lasting Longer Mean Only Lasting Longer Inside Her?


It depends on what is your definite of sex. The time people devote to doing sexual things (loosely defined as foreplay) can last from a few minutes, to several hours, or even a whole day! The actual duration for sexual intercourse will often last from vaginal penetration until ejaculation.


But if you broaden the definition of sex to include seduction, foreplay and intercourse, the whole event can stretch to about an hour. There is no real ideal amount of time for the whole event to be satisfying to a woman. Because every woman is different; some can reach orgasm fast while others need a bit more time and effort.


In cases of a female who is quick to orgasm, 10-15 minutes of sexual activity is usually all she needs. This means you do not necessarily have to go for about an hour to satisfy a woman. For every 30 minutes of sex, only one-quarter to one-third of the time should be spent on actual intercourse (penis-in-vagina). This will leave plenty of time for the other things (foreplay) she likes you to do to her – kissing, cuddling, fondling, touching, erotic massage, oral sex, mutual stimulation, etc. If you can focus on pleasuring her, this will distract your attention away from this preoccupation over the duration of sex.


Whether it is 5 minutes or 7 minutes, it does not matter at all. If you are having a good sex life and can talk honestly to your partner from time to time about sex and any issues that arise, you should not be too concerned with ‘how long is long enough’. It is never about quantity because it is all about quality. Time is not the sole determinant for pleasure. If you are not enjoying sex and it is over too quickly, then you should work together with your partner or by yourself, to look for ways to overcome this issue. Do not allow yourself to lead a life of quiet frustration and resentment over sexual issues.


How To Cope With Premature Ejaculation


Here are a few things you can try –


(1)   Practice the start-and-stop technique exercise


This is done by stimulating the penis until you are just about to ejaculate, then stop the stimulation for a while until arousal decreases and resume the stimulation. You gradually increase the number of start-and-stop action to 6 times before ejaculation in your subsequent practices. The key is to get used to the intense stimulation with the aim to give you greater control over when you want to ejaculate.


(2)   Squeeze the penis tip


During intercourse when you are about to ejaculate, you pull out and apply pressure to the tip of the penis for a few seconds to allow the arousal to subside and then you enter her again. This method is rather disruptive to me.


(3)   Pulling the scrotal sack


During intercourse when you are about to ejaculate, you (or your partner) will gently pull the top of your scrotal sack to delay your orgasm so as to win you some more minutes.


(4)   Reducing penile sensation


To dull the sensitivity of the penis, you use double condoms or apply anesthetic creams or anesthetic sprays to the tip of the penis. This can sometimes cause numbness of the penis which reduces sexual pleasure.


(5)   Counseling


This is done by using therapies (cognitive behavioral therapy, psycho-dynamic therapy, couples therapy, hypnotherapy) to enhance sexual communication and knowledge, address intimacy and conflict issues, low self-esteem and performance anxiety.


(6)   Medication


You can either take pills orally or to get an injection directly to the side of the penis. When resorting to pills, you should go directly to a doctor or a licensed pharmacy because the (life-threatening) risks of purchasing fake drugs (which are usually cheaper) from online sites are very high.


You can also learn to last longer by getting used to the intense stimulation through increasing the frequency of intercourse and feeling every sensation of being inside your partner and enjoying it. You should not put up with an unsatisfying sex life. Go and click on Last Long and Extended Pleasure

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For Couples – How To Get Fit To Do It




Find Out More From Here The Secrets Of Great Sex


You may have already heard that exercise can also help to increase your sexual desire. It can stimulate the production of testosterone in both men and women thereby ensuring a better sex life. How do you improve your sex life with exercise? Here are some useful effective exercises that will not only help you perform great in bed but also enjoy it yourself like never before.


(1)   Pelvic lifting exercise


This is an exercise that aimed to strengthen the pelvic muscles for improving your sex life. The stronger and more tolerant your pelvic muscles are, the higher the chances you are able to last long in bed.


To do this exercise, you must lie on your back, knees bent and slightly apart, feet flat on the floor and arms by your side. Breathe in holding in your stomach and hips and lift the pelvic from the floor until your back is straight. Hold on to this position for about 10 seconds and breathe out as you lower your body. Repeat this for at least 4 to 5 times to get effective results.


An alternative way to do this pelvic lifting exercise is to do it with a fitness ball. You still lie on your back with knees bent but this time; you rest the lower half of your legs on a fitness ball. At this position, you lift the buttocks off the floor as you breathe in. You remain in this position for about 10 seconds and breathe out, then go back to the starting position.


You may also consider trying this pelvic lifting exercise. You lie on your back with your knees bent at 90 degrees and hands by your side. Now, you rest your left ankle on your right knee. With your right foot on the floor, you breathe in and lift your buttocks and back off the floor, while keeping your shoulders and head on the floor. You remain in this position for 10 seconds, then breathe out and back to the starting position. Now, you rest your right ankle on your left knee and you repeat the exercise.


Pelvic Lifting Exercise


(2)   Butterfly stretch


This exercise aims to strengthen the inner thighs to make them flexible. The inner thigh is another important area that is very active during sexual intercourse. The butterfly stretch exercise is also beneficial for menstrual irregularities urinary problems and is thought to help erase the pain of childbirth. This exercise can also be done sitting up, back-to-back with your partner.


To perform this exercise, you sit on the floor, soles of your feet touching each other in front of you and knees bent to the sides. You pull your heels towards you as much as you can to the point of ‘mild discomfort’ (not to the point of pain) while at the same time pressing your thighs towards the floor. You breathe in deeply and maintain this position for 10-30 seconds. You return to the starting position and repeat this exercise for 4 to 5 times. When doing this exercise, you should not hunch your back and avoid bouncing your legs because this can damage the hips and groins.


Butterfly Stretch Exercise


(3)   Kegel exercise


This exercise involves contracting the internal muscles (pubococcygeal muscles, widely known as PC muscles) attached to the pelvic bones. It strengthens the vaginal muscles (especially after childbirth), helping women gain greater control and helping them to orgasm faster. Besides it can help to tighten the entrance of the uterus thereby increasing pleasure and satisfaction level during sex. Men can use this exercise to delay ejaculation by contracting the PC muscles just before orgasm and then fully relaxing them.


Kegel Exercise For Man


To perform this exercise, you have to contract your PC muscles by clenching, as though stopping urine and holding there for at least 2 to 3 seconds per squeeze. Inhale as you squeeze each time and try to fully relax your muscles between each contraction. Start with just 10 to 20 squeezes and gradually increase to 100 to 200 per day. Daily workouts of 100-200 squeezes per day for about one month should yield results.


For women, kegel exercise can involve inserting small weights inside the vagina to strengthen the vaginal wall muscles. By using heavier weights over time, these muscles can become stronger and tighter giving a woman more control over the amount of pressure which she can squeeze.


Kegels can be practiced nearly anytime and in any place, while having meals, watching TV, reading or talking to people. Kegels are a fast, easy, convenient way for men and women to enjoy more and better orgasms.


Once you feel that you have good muscles control, it will not be necessary to continue the deliberate contractions. Your PC muscles will be able to maintain themselves once they are strong and healthy and orgasm will keep them contracting happily away.


Try these simple exercises to help you get more sexual pleasure from now on. For more ideas on how to improve sex life, click on Hot Sex and Turn The Heat On

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The Start & Stop Way To Control Premature Ejaculation

If you are keen to find out how to overcome premature ejaculation and boost your lasting power in bed, you want to read this now. Do you know that you can achieve this without relying on short-term fixes such as desensitizing sprays, creams, pills and “climax control” condoms? It is true. You can do this by learning to read your body signals, knowing when you are about to ejaculate and pulling back from that point – the start and stop technique. However, there are 4 important tips you need to remember if you are going to make a success out of it.


Tips #1 – If you go past the point of ejaculation, do not try to stop it.


Tips #2 – You may use fantasy to warm up your body, but do not over-do it. This is because as soon as your body is turned on, you need to focus back on your body and observe how it feels


Tips #3 – When you habitually masturbate by rubbing your pelvis against something, try to use the stroking method for these start and stop exercises. If this involves a switch from your usual way of pleasuring yourself, take a few sessions to get comfortable with this new method.


Tips #4 – In the course of your training you may find yourself losing some of the control you have developed. This can happen but if you persevere in your effort you will continue to progress.


Here is how you practice the start and stop technique:


(1)   Stroke your “little brother” up and down when you start masturbating. This action simulates penetration. What you only need to care about is to pay attention to the physical sensations of your genitals and pelvic area when you pleasure yourself.


(2)   When you are quite close to the point of release, try to notice the “tickling” sensation that occurs at this stage. Once you understand how it feels like, you are able to notice it when it occurs again next time so that you can judge the correct moment to stop stimulating yourself.


(3)   Observe closely how your body feels like when you get more aroused and to get used to this “tickling” feeling. At this point you need to worry about how long you can last or if you ejaculate too fast.


(4)   As soon as you can tell when the “tickling” sensation is going to arrive you can begin doing the start and stop exercises.


(5)   Stroke yourself until you achieve erection then stop for at least 15 seconds and observe how your genitals and pelvic area feel and the way the rest of your body behaves when your excitement subsides.


(6)   Resume stroking yourself again and do the start and stop action a few times. The aim here is to learn how to control your sexual response so that you can know when to stop stimulating yourself halfway in order to prolong your pleasure time.


(7)   After you stop stimulating yourself, you may lose erection but you can always get it up again when you resume masturbating. During each practice, bring yourself close to the tickling point 3 times.


(8)   Repeat this exercise daily. As you go on, 2 things will happen. First, the length of time you have to wait to regain control will gradually decrease. Second, the length of time you can continue stimulation between stops will increase.


(9)   Once you know how to master the start and stop technique, you slowly increase the number of times you do this start and stop action till 6 during subsequent practices.


(10)After you can do this start and stop action for 6 times in each session, you can increase the stimulation and usefulness of this exercise by using good oil or water based personal lubricant.


Indeed you can use masturbation not just for your own self-seeking pleasure, but as a means to control your sexual response to earn you the precious extra minutes to satisfy both you and your partner. If you are keen to get some more spicy hot ideas to improve your sex life, you can click on Last Long and Cure Premature Ejaculation.

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How To Control Ejaculation

Once in a while almost every man is likely to get into the situation of ejaculating too soon after penetration. But some men have this more often than others causing distress to themselves and their partners. The good news is that you can do something to stop premature ejaculation (PE) and here is how.


(1)   Ascertain the underlying causes of PE


There is no known cause of PE but it is most often believed to be the result of psychological issues, rather than physical ones. Among these are stress and performance anxiety as well as bad masturbation habits. If you have been used to a quick fix when you are pleasing yourself, you are likely to ejaculate faster when in bed.


(2)   Learning to control ejaculation


This is the key to eradicate PE. Most men can learn to control ejaculation just as they learn to control urination. There are a few methods you can use to control PE. These allow you to have a better understanding of your sexual response and pace sex in a way that enables you to time your orgasm. The process of learning to stop PE needs you to be patient and maintain a positive attitude. The key is to take consistent action. Your body needs time to adjust to the training and conditioning. By focusing on what you need to do and be disciplined, you can eventually extend the time you last in bed.


(3)   Pleasuring yourself


One of the ways to stop PE is masturbation. Set aside time and space for yourself and use masturbation to learn about your own sexual response. This can help you to focus on how your body feels and controls your ejaculation by stopping your stimulation just before the point of no return. You can use this start and stop action a few times within each masturbating session to gradually stretch out the time you eventually let go.


(4)   Consider having an appointment with a counselor or sex therapist


PE can feel shameful to some men and keeping silent can make things worst. If you want to stop PE, you may need to consider seeing a sex therapist or counselor. They receive special training and have greater knowledge of sexual difficulties and may also be better equipped to talk about PE in the larger context of your relationship.


(5)   Get your partner involved


Trying to spice up sex life is not just the sole responsibility of one partner. This requires the effort of both parties in providing emotional support to each other to over-ride any bedroom problems. Everyone involve in a sexual encounter needs to take some responsible for the sex that is happening. The attitude of treating this is his problem and no my problem can eventually kill the sex drives of both parties. If sex ends before one or more than one of the partners involved wants it to end, then both parties have to address this problem. In order to stop PE you may need to start making some changes in the sexuality aspect of your relationship. Each partner needs to talk about what they want, why they want it and what they can do to make it happen.


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