Tried and Tested Ways to Liven Up Your Sex Life

 

When people participate in a team sport but maybe don’t get the desired result, it is often said that ‘it’s the taking part the counts’ and this can also be true of sex too.  It is sometimes not the fireworks and explosions you want it to be but you are never going to achieve this unless you put in the groundwork with your partner and yourself.

 

Be the ultimate horizontal hustler with these easy tips to liven up your sex life and ensure you achieve that ground shaking, all-consuming orgasm you rightfully deserve.

 

Self-Pleasure

First things first, whilst it’s a given that most men masturbate and know what turns them on, self-pleasure is a much more taboo when it comes to us ladies.  Maybe it’s because it is a lot more intimate (literally!) seeing as our sexual parts are inside our body so it really means stripping back the boundaries, letting go and getting to know yourself.  In order to have a loving and sexually fulfilling relationship, you need to know how to turn yourself on first.  How can anyone satisfy your needs if you don’t know what it is your enjoy first.

 

Forget about any stigma that you think is attached to masturbation.  The sex industry is a buzzing industry (excuse the pun!). Think of all the sex toys, lingerie, condoms, lubricants…I could go on.  If no one was ‘doing it’ so much, there would not be all of these products available on the market and the world’s population would not be at such a record high.

 

Designer Sex Toy

For many females, the thought of touching yourself so intimately seems unhygienic whilst for those of you with long nails, there is the fear of lacerating your labia – definitely not a turn on! Designer sex toys do away with any of those hesitancies.  If touching yourself doesn’t appeal, the best advice I would give here for anyone having doubts is to go for it, it’s your body, it’s your life so take charge of your own sexual destiny and invest in a designer sex toy.

 

 

There is such a wide range of products with stunning designs, made from high quality materials which are safe to be inserted inside the body.  There are ergonomically and aesthetically pleasing toys, eco-friendly options among others – there really is something for everyone.

 

With so many rechargeable varieties available, you can make your designer sex toy a wise investment as you will be saving the pennies on not having to buy batteries, which has definitely discouraged me from purchasing certain toys.

Lingerie

It’s always nice to feel good about how you look and everyone likes to feel sexy so invest in some nice lingerie and no, that doesn’t mean nipping down to Primark.  Invest in yourself.  Buy something beautiful, of superior quality which won’t break the bank but with a pricetag which reflects its excellence.

 

If you are looking for lingerie which is tasteful, elegant and oozes luxury but is not mainstream, then the Baci Lingerie Collection from Madame Liberty features a number of stunning, sexy designs including bikini styles, brassieres, catsuits, negligees, panties, sexy dresses and much more.  Inject some fun into your bedroom antics with this effortlessly provocative range which comes in a wide assortment of colours.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you want to go a step further, then you could always play dress up with your man and fulfill each other’s fantasies that way…take comfort in the fact that all is not lost and if you need a boost in the bedroom, there are ample ways to liven up your sexual antics.

 

All images in this article are copyright and courtesy of Madame Liberty

It was ‘an honour to be nominated by such a legendary organization in the adult industry’.

 

Author Bio: Rebecca is a frisky, modern lady who oozes sexual prowess.  She frequently writes about fun and exciting ways to liven up our sex lives.

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Sex Tips For Women – How To Orgasm Through Intercourse

 

 

 

 

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According to a Year 2000 Orgasm Survey, 72% of women disclosed that they faked an orgasm at least once. Do you feel that at times, in order to make your partner feel good about himself, you have to appear as if you are enjoying a lot in bed? You may feel a little inadequate or thinking that something is wrong about yourself ? You should not throw up your hands and accept this as something that cannot be changed. Here are some ways to help you get out of this situation and have the sex life you want.

(1)   Stimulate yourself first

 

The fastest and most effective way to get yourself into the mood is to stimulate yourself. Both you and your partner have to shoulder equal responsibility in improving your sex life. When comes to sex, you should not act in a passive way thinking that it is solely your partner’s responsibility to make you orgasm.

 

You can increase your chances of having orgasm during intercourse by making yourself orgasm first. You can do this by stimulating yourself mentally and physically. Every desire originates from the brain. Therefore work on your mind first by occupying your mind with sexy thoughts. You can read an erotic novel, view porn or indulge in your own fantasies to get your mind into the sexy mode.

 

Once your mind is ready, you can start to stimulate yourself physically. The easiest and most relaxed way is by means of masturbation. Take a deep breath, relax, close your eyes if you want and start stroking your clitoris in ways that you find most comfortable and enjoyable. For a start, you can do this by yourself to find out what you really like best. Later on you can masturbate just before and during sex. You can show your partner how you like to be touched by using his fingers to touch your clitoris during foreplay and/or penetration.

 

(2)   Do not give undue pressure on yourself

 

Once in a while, you may not be able to reach orgasm. This is not your fault and not your partner’s. This is okay and normal. Perhaps at a particular moment, your mind is preoccupied with something else. If you can think in this way, your mind will be able to relax. This is of utmost important because if you are not able to relax your mind, orgasm will be impossible for you. Also, you need to ask your partner to stop mentioning about orgasm while having sex.

 

You can distract yourself from negative thoughts by fantasizing or having some soothing background music. The main thing here is to get yourself at ease and focus on pleasuring yourself. You can guide your partner on where and how you want to be touched. Give him positive feedback if he does the right thing which can be moaning or tightening your grip in his shoulders or telling him that it feels so good and to keep it this way.

 

(3)   Get into sex positions that can help you to orgasm easily

 

When he is on top of you, get him to align to you in such a way his penis is constantly grinding on your clitoris and nearby area. The key to this position is to ‘rock together’ with him. As he bears the weight of his genitals on you, you coordinate with his downward movement by moving your hips upwards to receive him. He will be moving forward and backward in rocking motion while you will be moving upwards, which will increase the pressure as well as pleasure on your clitoris.

 

You can also get into the woman-on-top position. In this position, you can rub your clitoris against his pubic region to induce powerful clitoral orgasm. Alternatively, you can use your hand or ask your partner to stimulate the clitoris while you are in your action.

 

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Sex Tips For Women – How To Orgasm

 

 

 

 

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It is estimated that more than half of women have never experienced orgasm and do not know what it is. What is orgasm? How to have orgasms? What are the ways to achieve orgasm? Read on below.

 

Orgasm is an intense sensation that occurs at the climax of sexual excitement that is accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions and intense pleasure. This is followed by the release of sexual tension.

 

Some women are not able to achieve orgasm because of the lack of sex hormones and related medical problems. Low hormone levels and poor blood circulation to the sexual organ can prevent women from reaching orgasm. Certain medical conditions, medications or surgeries can cause reduced blood circulation to the clitoris. If you are not able to reach orgasm, the first step is to have a physical evaluation to make sure that there is no medical problem.

 

Many women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. This occurs because the location of the clitoris is not conducive to orgasm during the sexual act. For women who are in this situation, it can be quite pressurizing if their partners are disappointed with this.

 

The best way for a woman to reach orgasm is to make her have it on her own. If you can have orgasm by yourself, you will be able to reach orgasm during sex. Here are a few ways you can reach orgasm by yourself.

 

(1)   Strengthen your vaginal muscles

 

One of the main reasons why women are having a hard time in reaching orgasm is because of weak pubococcygeal (PC, or pelvic floor muscles). These are the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening and are the same muscles a woman uses to hold in her urine.

 

Why do stronger muscles give you more sensations during sex? The answer lies in the deeply buried nerve endings in the vagina. It takes strong pressure to stimulate these nerves. If the muscle is lax, the penis will have limited contact with your vaginal walls. But if the muscles are taut, the penis will be able to rub strongly against the walls, stimulating the surrounding tissues and giving the highly sensitive clitoris another boost.

 

Stronger PC muscles will allow more blood to flow to the pelvic region during arousal, making it easier to have an orgasm. A woman with strong PC muscles can clamp down on the penis by contracting them, which will result in greater sexual pleasure for herself and her partner, and probably increase her ability to ejaculate. A woman can strengthen her PC muscles by doing pelvic floor exercises also known as Kegel exercises. These exercises will help to increase the tightness of your vaginal walls. Exercising your PC muscles can take as little as five minutes and doing it three times a day.

 

To work the PC muscles, try to stop and then release your urine a few times. Put one finger inside your vagina and squeeze on it as if you are trying to stop urine from flowing out. If you don’t feel tightness on your finger, you are squeezing the right pelvic muscle. Kegel exercises sometimes involve inserting small weights inside the vagina. By using heavier weights, over time, the pelvic muscles can become stronger and tighter, giving you more control over the amount of pressure with which you can squeeze.

 

(2)   Self pleasure

 

This is a good way to discover for yourself what pleasures you. You can do this by rubbing or stroking the clitoris and other areas of the vulva with your hands and fingers and steadily increasing the pace of manual stimulation. Besides your hands, you can run or spray water (from the shower or faucet) on your genitals.

 

To get more intense and prolonged stimulation, you can use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris and nearby area. Some improvised toys such as cucumbers, brush handles, mirror handles, bananas work great too. Also consider trying a penis-shaped sex toy as some women are more sensitive to vaginal stimulation, or need a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulations. Other women enjoy anal stimulation so you can consider experimenting with anal toys. If your nipples are sensitive, you may want to try nipple clamps.

 

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Sex Tips – How To Last Longer

 

 

 

 

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Do you want to climax at the same time as your girl or to let her orgasm first? Do you feel helpless at those moments when you seem to lose control over the time you make love to your woman?

 

According to a survey of 900 women conducted by a female magazine, nearly two-thirds of them have had sex with a man who experienced premature ejaculation (PE). PE affects men of all ages and it happens to all men at some time in their lives. This happens especially to some guys who are inexperienced or to others who are too highly excited or who have abstained from sex for a long time.

 

PE can be caused by physical or psychological factors, or a combination of both. Some studies indicated that the pelvic muscles which surround the erectile tissues in the penis are in a hyperactive state in men with PE. For the majority of men with PE, the cause is mainly psychological such as feeling pressure to perform. This can cause a feeling of inadequacy which can manifest in the form of performance anxiety and avoiding sex.

 

How long should you last in bed? There is no fix timing here. According to a sexuality survey done on over 7,000 men, 21% of them ejaculated within 50-60 seconds and another 62% ejaculated within 1-5 minutes. Only 1 in 6 lasted over 5 minutes and 1 in 10 over 10 minutes. This can be subjective also. Some men who ejaculated at less than a minute did not feel they have PE and yet some who lasted over 5 minutes still feel they should last longer.

 

While impotence drugs can sort out problems in the short term, long term solutions can be found through non-medical and less costly ways. Here are some ways to cope with PE.

 

(1)   Reflex control exercises

 

Masturbation a few hours before sex is said to be the easiest way for a man to delay ejaculation. But what I am referring here is not just masturbation. It is the use of the start-and-stop repetitive action to control your sexual response. During each masturbating session, you stroke yourself until you feel you are about to ejaculate and then you stop probably for a minute before you stimulate again. You do this for a few times until you decide you want to ejaculate. This exercise will train you to control and delay your sexual response. You can combine this with deep breathing exercises. When you feel you are about to reach climax, you breath in deeply to relax your body and muscle in order to delay ejaculation.

 

(2)   Focus on pleasuring your partner

 

If you feel pressured to perform, or have performance anxiety issues, you are more likely to experience PE. Telling ourselves to relax and not to be too stressed up is easier said than done because the more you tell yourself not to do it, the more your mind will think this way. The best way to cope with this is not to think about how long you should last but to switch focus to your partner’s pleasure. You pay attention to your partner’s body and learn/observe when she is about to reach orgasm. You learn to stimulate your partner and pleasure her so that she can reach orgasm sooner and before you. When you see that she is enjoying your stimulation, not only you will get turned on, you will also feel confident you are performing well enough.

 

(3)   Squeeze yourself to numb the sensation

 

During intercourse, when you feel you are about to ejaculate, you or your partner will gently squeeze the base of the penis shaft to hinder sexual stimulation and wait until the pressure for ejaculation stops. This squeezing action can be done repeatedly until climax is reached by both parties. Also, remember to empty your bladder before intercourse because having a full bladder will add pressure to the PC muscles and increase the chances of PE.

 

(4)   Choose the sex positions that can help you last longer

 

(a)   Woman-on-top position

 

When she is on top, your penis is less stimulated. Ask her to go slowly because long and fast thrusting can increase the chances of PE.

 

(b)   Modified missionary

 

You get her to lie on her back with the lower part of her body near the edge of bed or desk and lift her legs straight up pointing to the ceiling. Then you give shallow penetration in standing position. This position is effective because when you are standing or kneeling, it can help to restrict blood flow from your extremities. The penis will not be overly stimulated. This will give you greater control over your arousal and help you to last longer.

 

Use these 4 ways to help you regain your sexual stamina and at the same time satisfy your woman. For more tips to have a long lasting and better sex life, you can read on further from Hot Sex and Last Longer

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Pregnancy Sex – What You Should Know

 

 

 

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How to maintain intimacy with her during pregnancy even though at times, sex may not be possible? These and other common questions and concerns about sex during pregnancy will be the topics for discussion in the following paragraphs.

 

(1)   Is it safe?

 

This is probably the first question that comes to most people’s minds. In case of normal, low-risk pregnancies, the answer is safe. If significant complications with a woman’s pregnancy are expected or detected by her doctor, he or she is advised against having sex. Common risk factors include history of premature labor or birth, history or threat of miscarriage, unexplained bleeding, discharge or cramping, leakage of the amniotic fluid surrounding the baby, a weak cervix which opens prematurely raising the danger for miscarriage or premature delivery and placenta previa, which is a condition in which part of the placenta is covering the cervix.

 

If after being checked by the doctor that the chances of these risks happening are low, it is normally safe to have intercourse. Some doctors recommend that all women stop having sex during the advanced stage of pregnancy, just to play safe, because semen contains a chemical that may actually stimulate birth-related contractions.

 

(2)   How to cope with changes in sexual desire

 

Decrease in sexual desire normally happens during the early and later part of pregnancy as a woman’s body adjusts to pregnancy and prepares for delivery. Her partner’s desire for sex is likely to increase or decrease as well.

 

Some men feel even closer to their pregnant partner and enjoy the changes in their bodies. Others may temporarily lose sexual interests due to anxiety about the burdens of parenthood, or get concerned about the health of both the mother and unborn child. The male partner may have a problem trying to reconcile his spouse’s identity as a sexual partner with her new identity as an expectant mother.

 

Communication will be of great help in dealing with these issues. Pregnant women may want affection from their partners without having sex. Guys may feel that the lack of interest as a sign of rejection. It is therefore important to communicate your needs and to discuss other ways to satisfy your desire for intimacy such as oral sex, massage or masturbation.

 

(3)   Is it okay to masturbate during pregnancy

 

Self masturbation is a great way to release sexual tension and energy for both men and women. It is also a good way to stay sexual without penetration or when the expectant mother is not in the mood for sex. For partners who want to experience the passion of sex without penetration, both partners can mutually masturbate.

(4)   Is it safe to engage in oral sex during pregnancy

 

It is okay to have oral sex while pregnant. However, the male partner must not blow air into the vagina. If there is a concern for infection, dental dam can be used to increase the safety of oral sex. Swallowing semen during pregnancy is allowable as long as the partner does not have any sexually transmitted diseases. As there is increased discharge during pregnancy and if either of you are bothered by this, just simply wash up the area before oral sex.

 

(5)   Is anal sex dangerous during pregnancy

 

The anal canal is blood rich and anal sex can disturb the soft tissues of the anal canal and causing bleeding. Also the only thing that separates the vagina and the rectum is apiece of skin and this may make anal sex more painful during the advanced stage of pregnancy. If you do not engage in this before pregnancy, I do not see the need to experiment with it during pregnancy.

 

(6)   How about using sex toys while pregnant

 

Sex toys can be used during pregnant as long as the toys do not cause harm to the cervix or the vagina. Using external toys increases the risk of infection; therefore make sure the toys are disinfected before and after each use.

 

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