For Men – Sex Positions To Make A Girl Feel Big And Tight During Penetration

 

 

 

 

Anxiety is part of our life. For men, anxiety about performance in bed is the next biggest concern they have besides work-related activities. Modern messages about sex seem to demand that men must get it right for the first time or they will be judged as a lousy lover.

 

You want to make it special for her and want her to feel the ultimate in satisfaction. However, out of the blue, all kind of paranoid thoughts flood your mind. What if she thinks I am too small? What if I cannot last long enough? What if I cannot make her orgasm?

 

To tell you not to worry is easier said than done. So, let’s take a look at these worries and see how you can deal with them.

 

(1)   I am told that size does not matter. But I am sure it does.

 

You heard it right. Size does not matter a great deal as long as you know what you are doing. Whether it is the length or the girth, many men still assume women prefer a larger penis. In fact, this is rarely the truth.

 

Being well-endowed will not make you a great lover if you do not know how to please your partner. The most sensitive nerves are on the outer part of the vagina around the clitoral region. This means you can still pleasure your woman even if you are small. What you lack in size, you can compensate for this with your skill.

 

How to do it? Well, you pay attention to stimulate the clitoris and the surrounding area using your fingers, tongue and choosing those sex positions which can both make you feel big as well as increase the chances and time for you to rub against her clitoris.

 

You can choose doggie (enter from behind). If you choose the normal man-on-top position, you can slip a pillow or a love cushion under her pelvis and rest her legs on your chest or shoulders to create an angle of entry that allow your penis to hit on her g-spot directly.

 

Another way you can try is you still slip a pillow or a love cushion under her hips, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to the chest. As you thrust, you squeeze her thighs together to give you this tight feeling.

 

If your woman likes to be on top, get her to move back and forth or in circles, rather than moving up and down. This can prevent the penis from slipping out and can enhance her sensation as her clitoral area rubs against your pelvis.

 

Besides playing with the different angles of penetration, you can arouse your woman by simultaneously stimulate her clitoris either manually or with a vibrator or she can do it herself.

 

(2)   What if I cannot last long or cannot get it up?

 

Climaxing too early or premature ejaculation is probably the biggest male bedroom worry of all. This can make men feel embarrassed and inadequate. However, it is worth remembering that women rarely orgasm through penetrative sex. Penetration is usually less important to your partner than other kinds of stimulation.

 

What you should do is not to get your mind fixated at penetration alone. Instead you aim for pleasant sexual activity by making sure she enjoys herself thoroughly. Talk to her about what makes her feel good and what you need to do to help her orgasm. If you focus on doing what she enjoys, you should never worry about not being able to satisfy her and your mind will be too busy to think about whether you can last longer. The main thing is as long as you can get her to reach orgasm before penetration she is not going to be too concerned about how long you can last inside her.

 

As for the problem of getting it up (if you do not have medical problems), this is probably due to performance anxiety. This can get into a vicious cycle. If it happens once and you feel embarrassed, worrying that it may happen again, which makes it all the more likely to happen.

 

You are not alone if this happens to you once in a while. According to a study, 52% of men suffer erection problems to some degree at some point during their lives. It will only be a major issue if it happens all the time, which is less likely in younger men. In this case, you should see a doctor.

 

How to cope? Do not drink too much alcohol and try to get plenty of sleep because tiredness can affect performance too. Fear of failure leads to failure. If you focus on the penis and how it behaves, this can only increase performance pressure. So, do not focus on it. If you sense there is a problem, take your time over other areas of sex, which means putting more effort to please her. Giving and getting pleasure from pleasing her will ease the performance pressure on you.

 

The first step to overcome bedroom anxiety is to recognize the reality that at some point in our loves, most of us do suffer some minor sexual malfunction temporarily. The key is to focus on pleasuring her. So, talk to her to explore some mutually agreeable experimentation in the bedroom. You can get help from Hot Sex  to get you started and if you need some extra help, click Hard Erection.

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She Had Sex With A Big Cock

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“What was it Like?”

Yeah, that’s a common question. Every time one of my boyfriends (and including my husband) found out I had one man who was extremely well endowed, they always asked me What it was like to have sex with a big dick. It was a question that I almost wanted to just write down with my regular answer, and just make them read it because it got so repetitive.

I decided to tell my experience with a big cock on this blog. So many men want to know what it’s really like to have a big cock, so here’s what happened when I had my first.

Having Sex with a Big Cock

So yes, the lover was someone that I had sex with two times. He was in his mid-twenties, and I was 19 at the time. He was just an average African-American man who was decently well built, he was about six feet tall, and was in college. I fell for him at one of my older sister’s college parties. He was sitting alone on the couch and he looked lonely.

It took us three weeks of dating and talking before we had sex. It was over at his apartment. His housemate had gone home for the weekend, so he invited me over on Friday night. We sat and talked for hours on his couch. As the night wore on we got closer and closer until he was on top of me. We made out for quite a while, but both of us wanted so much more… But that ‘much more’ part… well, I had it coming!

As I slid off the couch and knelt between his legs, I felt something like a MagLight in his pants! I was really surprised because it’s just not something any woman really expects to encounter (although we hear stories of men who are very well hung). My eyes went wide, and I instinctively felt the bulge in his pants, giggling a little. Looking up at him, he smiled and said “Yes, it’s that big… soft.”

I was feeling at least nine inches of Soft cock in his pants!

He stood up and I began unbuttoning his jeans. I looked up again as I began to slide them down. He was wearing boxers, but the manhood between his legs actually was extruding from the bottom of his boxers! I gasped as I saw it, and then began laughing in nervous anxiety!

He leaned down and kissed my forehead. Taking my hands, he put them on the elastic top of his boxers, and said “Why don’t you see what’s inside?”

I pulled down the boxers to be slapped lightly in the face by his hardening penis! I took it in my hand and stroked it in amazement. It was huge! At 12 inches long, I was afraid that he’d tear me in two! When I wrapped my hands around it, my fingers and thumb were at least an inch and a half from touching,

I obviously couldn’t give him good oral, he was just to big, so I resorted to licking his shaft up and down until he was wet.

The Stretch

He was sitting on the couch and I got on top. I was facing him when I guided his penis into position. I started coming down on it really, really slowly. The stretching I felt was something like your mouth getting pulled apart at each corner. It took him over an hour to get the head fully in. I couldn’t stay on top any longer as my legs were just too weak, so I sat on the couch and pulled my legs up. He was in front of me and we started again. This time, he was able to get about three inches into me. It felt like my whole vagina was on fire as he kept pushing a little at a time. I couldn’t think and it was getting hard to breathe! He took hold of my hips and gently applied pressure until I gasped, then he’d release, each time going a little deeper inside me. I looked down to see a good six inches still outside, so I had him pull out because it just wasn’t working.

It was about two weeks later that we tried again. This time, we invested in four dildos. There was an 8 inch dildo to start me off, then there was another that was still 8 inches, but was larger in girth, a 10 inch that was again thicker  and finally, there was a 12 inch, just a little less thick then he was. I lay on my back as he got me used to the first, then the second. It took three hours, I think for me to get used to them.

The ten inch dildo was a huge difference. It felt like his massive cock was inside me again, but this time, I gave more easily, and he was able to slide it in and out of me with relatively low discomfort.

When we got to the twelve inch dildo, He really lubed me up, and then had me flip over on my knees, butt in the air. I found that I could take the girth of the dildo better from this position, and grabbing the headboard of the bed, braced myself for the dildo’s full depth.

When it goes that deep, it no longer feels like your making love from your vagina, it feels like you’re making love from your stomach, and throat! I could feel the dildo pushing against my throat, which was really weird. I could barely move  for the next hour as he got about ten inches in me. Finally He got up on his knees behind me, and I prepared myself to take him.

He moved very slowly, feeling my hips, slowing when I pulled away. He really took his time and didn’t start thrusting. The stretching from his huge cock had almost paralyzed me, but I could still take pleasure from the lovemaking.

After what seemed like hours, he finally reached full depth. I felt full. I couldn’t move. The huge cock inside me was the only thing I could feel. My arms and legs were tingling, and I was blinded by the massive sensations shooting through my body with his every move. He began going in and out, which caused both pain but such intense pleasure that I was on the verge of just passing out. He must have been holding me up because I was just there, floppy and unable to move. I remember that I was trying to scream, but nothing was coming out!

I stayed in that position until he came. With each pulse, I swear I could feel his cum shooting against the back wall of my womb, and the sensation of my uterus filling with his cum made me really feel like I needed to piss really bad. I made him pull out as fast as I could, which was still very slow, and tried to run for the bathroom.

I fell off the bed because my legs were way to weak, and he ended up carrying me to the bathroom and holding me up on the pot so that I could piss out his semen.

I was sore for about a month after that. My vagina at first was very loose, and just fell open when I spread my legs, but over time, it did go back to normal. The stretch scars are still there, but no man has ever noticed on his own, and none have ever guessed that I had been with such a large man prior to them. My husband swore that I felt like a virgin on our first night, and said that I didn’t feel at all like I was loose or anything.

I won’t ever have another man that big, and besides, I won’t cheat on hubby, but it’s just too much work, pain and aching afterwards to be worth the hassle. For those women out there who do have well-endowed husbands, I can only imagine what it’s like to try and satisfy him.

Re-blog from Jane Hsu’s Sexual Advice

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5 Ways To Develop Stronger Vaginal Muscles For Greater Sexual Pleasure

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“My vagina has become so loose that during sex a penis cannot fill it. For this reason, I feel discomfort in having sex. Tell me what can I do?”

 

This is an embarrassing issue for many women who have the same concerns, particularly after having several children. A vagina usually loosens because of age or mood. Contrary to common belief, having sex or too much sex or giving birth does not normally loose the vagina because it is elastic and can revert to its original form after expansion.

 

It is difficult to know for sure if your vagina is loose because there is no standard tightness or size. Your sexual partner may feel that you are loose at down there but another guy does not hold the same view. However, if you have one of the following symptoms, it is an indication that your vagina is becoming loose:

 

(a)  You have trouble holding your urine and experience leak urine problem especially when you laugh, sneeze or cough

 

(b)  You have to insert larger objects inside you to feel the stimulation

 

(c)  You can insert three or more fingers inside you with little or no resistance

 

(d)  Your vagina does not completely close when you are not aroused

 

(e)  You have difficulty squeezing your vaginal wall against your index finger

 

(f)   You experience greater difficulties in reaching orgasm when you pleasure yourself

 

(g)  You cannot satisfy your partner like you used to

 

Before you try to tighten your vagina, you should get the facts clear about loose vagina and sex.

 

(1)  Does being tight is always a good thing?

 

For women, being tight is not always a good thing. This actually indicates you are not aroused or not ready for penetration. When a woman is sexually stimulated, her vagina naturally loosens as the cervix pulls up to allow for comfortable penetration. This means you should be looser instead of getting tighter during penetration.

 

(2)  Does active sex life cause your vagina to get loose?

 

The vagina is a muscular tube with elastic walls. Under normal condition, the vaginal walls touch each other. Your vagina may remain in its aroused state immediately after sex, but it will return to its tight state later. Having sex or the frequency of sex does not reduce the muscle tone of your vagina. On the contrary, sex should increase the muscle tone of your womanhood because this is a form of exercise. Your state of arousal determines the tightness of your vagina.

 

(3) Do pregnancy and sex cause permanent changes in the vagina?

 

With its elastic muscular walls, the vagina can change its size to accommodate any object inside it and then return to its original size prior to penetration. Giving birth should not cause much change to the vagina, unless there is some serious tearing after an episiotomy, a surgical procedure in which an incision is made through the perineum to enlarge the vagina during childbirth. As the average size of male sexual organ cannot be as big as a full-term baby, penetration will not loosen the vagina.

 

(4)  Does every man like his sexual partner to be tight down there?

 

Many women assume men like it tight. But some men may prefer a slightly loose vagina to facilitate harder thrusting and quickie sex. In any case, being tight is not good for you either because it can cause painful sex. Sometimes the problem does not lie with you, it can be due to the below average size of your partner’s sexual organ. The best way to overcome this is after penetration, you can close your legs together to create the gripping sensation against his manhood so as to provide greater friction and pleasure during intercourse.

 

How To Overcome The Problem Of A Loose Vagina?

 

Method Number 1: Pelvic muscles-strengthening exercises

 

You can learn how to do kegel exercises to strengthen your pelvic muscles which can help to increase their elasticity to give you greater sexual pleasure. They can improve your bladder tone so that you do not always leak urine. You can do the kegel exercises at any time and any where you want without anyone noticing and here is how:

 

(a)  When you are lying or sitting down, you contract the muscles that control your urination. You should feel the muscles squeezing your anus and urethra. If you are doing this correctly, your buttocks or stomach should not be feeling tight instead.

 

(b)  You squeeze (or contract) the pelvic muscles for 3 seconds and then relax for another 3 seconds

 

(c)  Repeat the exercise 10 to 15 times per session and do this at least 3 times a day

 

There is another way:

 

When you are peeing, you contract your muscles to stop the urine flow for about 3 seconds and then you relax to let the urine flow again. If you want to check whether you are using the right muscles, you insert one finger or two into your vagina and then tighten the muscles. If you feel your fingers being squeezed even slightly, you have located the pelvic muscles correctly.

 

In order to be effective, you need to do the kegel exercises regularly. You have to be patient because this can take 8 to 10 weeks to feel some noticeable improvement. If you feel you are not doing the exercises correctly, you can consult your doctor who will supplement the exercises with biofeedback that can measure muscle tension and offer quick feedback to track your performance and progress.

 

Method Number 2: Using vaginal cones or ben wa balls or oak gall

 

These are weighted devices about the size of tampons that you put inside you to offer some assistance when performing kegel exercises. When using vaginal cones, you start with the lightest cone, insert it into your vagina for about 15 minutes and then squeeze your muscles to hold it in place. You do this for twice a day while you carry on with your activities. After you are able to hold the first cone in place, you can then change into the next heavier one and gradually work your way up to the heaviest. The ben wa balls serve the same purpose in giving you a bit of resistance when doing kegel exercises.

 

Method Number 3: Using neuromuscular electrical stimulation (NMES)

 

This method places a probe (that generates electric current) inside the vagina. The electric current stimulates the pelvic muscles causing them to contract and relax. NMES is performed every 1 to 4 days and lasts for 20 minutes in each session. Some health care provides perform these sessions in their offices while others prescribe home units for their patients.

 

Method Number 4: Using Neocontrol chair

 

This is a special chair that uses magnetic fields to stimulate pelvic muscles. This is conducted by a nurse or technician in an urologist’s office. Each session lasts for 20 to 30 minutes and is done twice a week for about 8 weeks.

 

Method Number 5: Surgical/laser treatment

 

Vaginoplasty is a surgical procedure to restore the muscle tone of the vagina by removing the excess lining of the vaginal wall. The surgeon will also repair soft tissues to decrease the diameter of the vagina.

 

Laser treatment can also be used to treat structural defects and tighten muscles. This is a fairly bloodless procedure administered with local anesthesia and you can walk immediately after the surgery is over. There will be some mild swelling and light bleeding in the 1st 24 hours after the procedure and this should lessen or disappear within a day or two. Your doctor will probably advise you to abstain from sex, use tampons, or douche for at least 6 weeks.

 

Whatever treatment you choose, make sure you are doing this not just for your partner but also for your own good. Your goal should be for the purpose of a pleasurable and satisfying sexual experience.  Now is the time for you to get in touch with your sexuality again to enjoy better sex and achieve orgasm easily. For more information, you can click on Tighten Vagina and Kegel Exercisers.

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Men Health – Does Size Really Matter In Sex?

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Is bigger always better for sex? When most people hear this question, they will immediately think about penis size. Many men think their penis is small. Research confirms that men worry about penis size more than women do and are more dissatisfied with the size of their penis than women are with their partners’ penis size.

 

There are many reasons why men think their penis is too small, and this is due to men’s tendency in comparing their own penis to someone else’s, which I believe is a fruitless exercise. So, do women really care about penis size?

 

In a world of super size cars, extra large servings for McDonald meals and non-stop effort to build the world’s next tallest building, it is hard to stop thinking about whether bigger is actually better for everything. When comes to the ability to satisfy women, men places a lot of pride on the size of their penis.

 

So, does penis size really matter? The reality is that most of the time size doesn’t matter. In fact, I have some women telling me, too big a size causes painful sex. Other women aren’t shy to say that lovemaking skill is more important than size.

 

Rather than relying on hearsays and the hundreds of junk mails that try to sell you penis enlargement products, let’s look at what research tells us about whether penis size matter?

 

A survey of 655 women between the ages of 19-49 asked about whether penis length and girth matter. The findings revealed:

 

(a)    18% said penis length was very important, 22% said penis girth was very important

(b)   57% said penis length was somewhat important

(c)    25% said penis length was unimportant, 25% said penis girth was unimportant

 

A major flaw of this study was that it did not specify the optimal size. Therefore, women who felt penis girth matters a lot may have different ideas of what the ideal penis girth is. The assumption could be bigger is better, but this is not confirmed by the study. Other more specific studies try to find out about women’s preference between length and girth, still cannot come to any conclusion about preferable size.

 

OK, let’s come out with some scientific facts and figures to put to rest some of the claims and myths about whether or not penis size matters and what is normal for the majority of men. A worldwide study of over 40 independent penis size research projects undertaken since 1942 has come up with a general penis size guideline. Feedback from over 11,000 survey participants put the average erect size of the adult penis is between 5.5 inches to 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches to 5.1 inches in girth.

 

If you happen to be one of the millions who are outside of the average range size in length and girth, please do not worry. You can still make the most of what you have.

The following are some best sex positions that make every man feel “big” irrespective of his penis size.

 

(1)   The Snake Position

 

Get your women to lie down flat on her belly. Put a pillow under her hips so that her buttocks ache upward. Keep your knees bent and position your genital just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Be careful to keep your weight off her body during intercourse. If you want to get the feel of tight fit, simply hold her thighs together as you penetrate her.

 

(2)   The Doggie Position

 

This is quite similar to the snake position. The difference is instead of lying on her belly, she has to kneel down, her back bend forward so that her buttocks are raised upward. Same as above, you penetrate her from behind.

 

(3)   The Rabbit Ears Position

 

Get her to lie on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up so that her knees are quite close to her chest. Put a pillow under her buttocks which will place her vagina at an angle that is suitable for penetration. To keep her knees in place, you can rest her legs on your shoulders as you thrust forward.

 

(4)   The V-Formation Position

 

With her lying flat on her back, you position yourself between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next raise her legs and then spread them apart until they form a “V”. This position allows you to stimulate her clitoris. Free one of your hands by allowing one of her legs to rest on your shoulder and stimulate her clitoris until she orgasms.

 

While it is true that society tends to place a great deal of importance on size, the truth is that a penis of any size can bring a woman to orgasm. Irrespective of size, foreplay is still needed to “warm” her up.

 

Of course, the most important thing is the strength of the relationship with your woman. If she feels loved and appreciated and has strong feelings for you, just words and touching can easily turn her on. If she dislikes you, even you can have elephant-sized penis and superb lovemaking skills, she will not respond to whatever you do. On the contrary, her feelings towards your gestures/actions will make her feel been molested or raped.

 

Want to know more about the secrets of great sex? Read on further from Hot Sex and Women Pleasure.

 

 

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Men Health – Hard Facts Of Penis

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Here are some things you might have wondered about your penis, but were afraid to ask.

 

Appearance And Sensitivity Can Change With Age

 

There are two major changes to the appearance of a penis as a man ages. The head of the penis (glans) gradually loses its purplish color, the result of reduced blood flow. There is also a slow loss of pubic hair. As testosterone wanes, the penis gradually reverts to its pre-pubertal, mostly hairless, state.

 

It is normal for a penis to curve slightly to the left or right when it is erect. It is only when you have a more significant bend in your penis which may cause you pain or difficulty having sex, that you need to see a doctor. This condition, known as Peyronie’s disease, occurs most commonly in middle age. This is due to the accumulation of penile scar tissue which cause the penis to become curved

 

Studies have shown that the penis becomes less sensitive as men age. From age 25 on, sensitivity starts to decline. The sharpest decline in sensitivity is seen between age 65 and 75. This can make it hard to achieve an erection and to have an orgasm. Whether this will render orgasm less pleasurable remains an open question?

 

It Can Shrink With Less Usage

 

You need to have erections regularly to keep your penis in shape. It has to be essentially exercised. To maintain a healthy tone, the smooth muscle of the penis must be periodically enriched with oxygen by the rush of blood that engorges the penis and makes it erect.

 

If you do not do anything to maintain normal erection, the penis can get shorter. Without regular erections, penile tissue can become less elastic and shrink, making the penis 1-2 centimeters shorter. A device like a vacuum pump, which forces the penis to swell with blood, can help men with physical erection problems maintain a healthy penis.

 

Is Masturbation Healthy?

 

Due to the above reason, it is okay to masturbate. Apart from the pleasure it gives, masturbating can help you learn what you like and don’t like sexually. Men can also use masturbation to learn how to control their orgasms.

 

Some guys are worried that if they masturbate too often they will run out of sperm. Men will not run out of sperm, as they produce it continuously. After a man has ejaculated, it will take some time before he can ejaculate again. This is normal and doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with his sperm.

 

Masturbation is harmless, but if you do it too often your genitals may feel sore. If men do it a lot in a short space of time, they can get a slightly alarming looking swelling of the penis, called oedema, caused by fluid in the tissues. However, the swelling disappears within a day or two.

 

Another thing to take note is vigorous masturbation can rupture your penis.

 

No Relation Between Size And Erection

 

There are two types of penises. A penis that doesn’t gain much length with an erection has become known as a “shower,” and a penis that gains a lot is said to be a “grower.” However, most penises aren’t extreme showers or growers. About 12% of penises gained one-third or less of their total length with an erection, and about 7% doubled in length when erect. Generally, shorter penises increase more in length when they become erect than longer ones.

 

Researchers also found that the difference in length between a short penis and a longer one was a lot less obvious when erect than when flaccid. For example, the flaccid penises varied in length by 3.1cm (1.2 inches), whereas the average erect lengths differed by only 1.7cm (0.67 inches).

 

The Tip Is The Most Sensitive Part

 

Many men consider the underside of the glans (head) of the penis and the underside of the shaft to be most sensitive to sexual pleasure. The implication from this is, when a woman performs oral sex on a guy, it is not necessary for her to take it all in, which can trigger a gag reflex. What is needed is a woman should spend more time on the tip and the underside using her fingers, lips and tongue.

 

Circumcision And HIV

 

While there is not significance difference in sexual pleasure between circumcised and uncircumcised, circumcision can cut down the risk of getting HIV and passing sexually transmitted diseases to your partner. This is because certain anaerobic bacteria (which do not need oxygen to grow) thrive in the inner fold of the foreskin which is moist most of the time.

 

After circumcision, there are fewer kinds of bacteria on the men’s penises. This also explains why circumcision has been linked to a lower risk of getting HIV. One theory is the anaerobic bacteria may prompt the immune system to respond in a way that makes cells more vulnerable to HIV infection.  

 

Vibrators Can Help Men With Ejaculation Problems

 

Vibrators aren’t only for women. They work on the penis, too. In fact, vibration is so effective on the penis that often men with spinal cord injuries can ejaculate with the aid of a special medical vibrator. For this kind of treatment, the vibrator is usually held against the underside of the head of the penis.

 

Although vibrators often help men with ejaculation problems, you don’t have to have any kind of medical condition to use one. You could do it just for fun by using a vibrating personal massager.

 

A happy sex life is very important for every relationship and your overall life. Though sex can get boring and less satisfying at times, you should never resign to this state of affairs. There are ways to spice things up. When there is a will, there will always be a way. For this you can turn to Hot Sex and Endless Pleasure for inspiration, ideas and tools to get back the sex life you want.

 

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