How To Turn A Girl On With Erotic Massage

 

 

 

 

 

A sensual massage can create an erotic and relaxing experience for both the person giving the massage and the person receiving it. An erotic massage can relax a woman’s body, mind and spirit through intimate touch which serves to increase her libido. Knowing how to create a truly erotic experience using massage as foreplay will not only get her into the mood and make her orgasm easily, but pretty much guarantee that she will rock your world in return. Use these erotic massage tips to provide the best massage experience that can quickly and easily re-energize you and your partner’s love life.

 

(1)   Create a conducive atmosphere

 

Light some scented candles to set the mood with a soft light and switch off all other lights. Lighting candles can relax the spirit and state of mind. The scent from candles has therapeutic effect that reduces stress and anxiety. Scented candles can add to the effect you are trying to achieve especially if you burn scents like sandalwood, lavender and jasmine. Try playing some of her favorite music in the background. The air conditioner should be adjusted to a comfortable room temperature. It should not be too cold as to make your girl shiver nor too warm to make her sweat. Maintain a nice room temperature will allow your woman to feel comfortable even when she is naked.

 

(2)   Keep her comfortable

 

Make sure your girl is comfortable and the bed is suitable for you to work on. You can provide a soft pillow to have her head relax on it. Prepare for the encounter beforehand by making the bed with soft fabrics. Cover the bed with a large towel to prevent massage oil and lotions from staining the fabric beneath it.

 

(3)   Use some oils and lotions

 

A good sensual massage should involve all the senses, not just touch. Scented oils will include her sense of smell in the experience and enhance the overall massage process. Using massage oil can smooth the glide of your hand against her body and reduce any friction that may cause pain. Some common oils which you can use are sweet almond oil, sunflower oil, avocado oil and grape seed oil.

 

(4)   Start from the top

 

Apply a few drops of massage oil onto your hands and gently rub the neck from the base of the skull using your thumbs in circular motion. Slowly increase the pressure as you rub all the way out to the end of the shoulders. It should be firm, but not too much pressure that it hurts.

 

Then you firmly grip her shoulders right where they meet her neck on both sides. The trapezius muscle in the shoulder is usually affected first during stress. Therefore, this zone may be tenser than other areas of the body. Hence, applying more pressure to this area would be ideal. Press your thumbs onto her upper back. Squeeze her shoulders and release. She should immediately feel a slight release of tension. You continue squeezing and releasing her shoulders as well as applying pressure on her upper back with your thumbs a few times before you move to the upper arms.

 

Apply more oil and begin to softly massage each of her arms. Rub each arm in a circular motion as you gently squeeze the bicep muscles. Run your thumb down the center of the forearm, increasing pressure as you get closer to the wrist. Squeeze each finger and gently pull it outward to relax her finger joints. Apply firm pressure to the palms of her hands using your thumbs.

 

(5)   Work slowly down from her back

 

You can start with an up and down stroke then move on to a circular motion. Lock your elbow to straighten your arm and you lean your body forward as you press your palms on both sides of the backbone. After you press, you release and then you do this action up and down with your palms one to two times along both sides of her backbone.

 

Next you use larger circular strokes with your fingers near to the top of her back and switch to smaller circular strokes near the hip area. Knead on her buttocks using your fingertips. Make a switch to apply pressure using your knuckles up and down the buttocks.

 

When you move to the legs, you apply more oil and rub both legs one at a time. Firmly knead the calves in a circular motion. Then you use your elbow or forearm to press against the thigh as you move further down to the feet to squeeze the ankles.

 

Next you begin the foot massage by squeezing the sole. You use your thumb and index finger to squeeze on each toe. As you move to the tip of each toe, you gently pull on it outward to relax the toe joint. You do the same with the other foot.

 

You will know that you have performed a satisfactory job when your girl craves more of your massage in the future. Want to find some more ways to please her? Go to Foreplay Massager and Pleasure Kit

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6 Tips On How To Turn Her On

 

 

 

 

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What is it about a sexual encounter that makes it so great? What are the things you can do to turn a woman on? Here are the 6 tips to make it happen.

 

(1)     Make her feel comfortable

 

You can do this by telling her that she looks and tastes great. This is very essential because women by nature tend to be insecure and it helps a lot to give them some periodic or regular assurances.

 

When a woman feels confident about the appearance of her genitals, she will be more open to the different kinds of sexual activity and is more likely to orgasm because she feels relaxed. So next time when you go down on your woman, you should be enthusiastic, tell her how beautiful she is and how great she tastes. Do not treat this whole lovemaking process like a chore.

 

(2)     Keep yourself relaxed

 

You have to recognize that sex is never always perfect. Do not worry if it does not work at times. Avoid making intercourse the be-all/end all. You have to learn to completely let yourself go during sex and just simply enjoy the process without worrying too much of the outcome. Give yourself some room for mistakes and do not be too harsh on yourself. Once you stop worrying about it, it will start working.

 

(3)     Get her in the mood

 

If you want your woman to be uninhibited in the bedroom, you have to give her a little push by setting the mood. Take a sensual bath together. Washing one another is an intimate and seductive act. Take your time to caress the sensitive areas and feel free to sneak in a tongue or a finger.

 

Light the room with some scented candles and incense and play some soft music. Choose a sexy movie she is comfortable with and watch it together. Read to her some erotic short stories. A good way to turn a woman on is to give her a full body massage.

 

If she is comfortable, you can try something kinky such as tying her wrists with a tie and explore her body. You can sensuously feed your woman by coating your fingers with strawberry-flavored ice-cream, chocolate pudding and letting her lick your fingers.

 

(4)     Pay attention

 

The best way to satisfy and please her is to listen to what a woman wants in bed. So when in doubt, open your mouth. Find out what she likes during intercourse and the positions that can make her orgasm fast. It is usually woman on top, facing away, also known as reverse cow girl.

 

Do not assume that you know everything about your woman even though you have been with her for a long time. It will be better to ask her while not in the bedroom such as when you are taking a walk with her in the park or doing some other casual yet intimate things together. Make it a habit to chat with one another everyday about how you are feeling.

 

This extends to listening well and paying attention to non-verbal cues. You have to learn to ‘tune in’ to her body by listening to her breath, feeling the change in the temperature of her skin and the way her muscle tone changes. By really tuning in, you will eventually know exactly what she wants you to do to make her come.

 

(5)     Kiss like teenagers

 

The kiss is one thing that couples must not take for granted. Women put a lot of importance into a kiss. How you kiss can make or break her feelings for you. Couples who have been together for a very long time simply make love and often head straight to the intercourse.

 

The kiss is an incredibly intimate gesture, one which can express passion, love and building intensity and arousal – all in one go. When meeting your lover after a long day, in bed at night, or while going out, you take the time to kiss her gently and with intention. This will make your partner feel incredibly special.

 

(6)     Sensual touching

 

Touching her everywhere releases a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin, which increases a woman’s testosterone levels and ignites her sex drive. Learning all about the various ways of touching and the different sensual massage techniques to female arousal will greatly increase your lovemaking skills as well as her pleasure. A woman’s erogenous zones can be found all over her body. These are the ‘hot spots’ that can set her off into frenzy, if carried out the right way.

 

Hot spots on a woman include the lower back, inner thighs, neck, hands, ears and any foldable parts of the body area (excluding the intimate areas which should only be explored at least 15-20 minutes of gentle caressing of her hot spots). Slow and sensual touching allows a woman’s arousal to slowly build up to a level which allows her to experience incredible pleasure and satisfaction during intercourse.

 

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Did You Commit These Love Making Mistakes In Your Sex Life

 

 

 

 

What do you do when your sex life becomes boring? Does it occur that when you want to have sex, either she tells you she has a headache or she says she is very tired? When your love life gets stale, what should you do? If you truly value your relationship with your partner/lover, read on to avoid these lovemaking mistakes so that you can get her back sexually and give her what she wants.

 

(1)   You look less confident and assertive

 

A man who is tentative or shy about what he wants in the bedroom can come across as less masculine in the eyes of the woman he is in bed with. Sometimes it is the desire to be good or nice in bed that actually causes a guy to be very average or below average in terms of what a woman really wants from her sexual partner. If you have been with a woman long enough to know her body language and emotions, nothing kills the mood like a formal request to proceed.

 

A good lover knows how to let her know he is in the mood and can turn her on without being too aggressive. Something as simple as an intense look or a playful touch is a much better way of going about it. You can also show some masculine strength and dominance in a gentle way. When going down on her, try holding her wrists. Put your hand on the center of her chest and hold her firmly down on the bed. Touch her like you own her. Do not be afraid to push her against the wall and kiss her deeply when you feel that she is being sexy.

 

(2)   Trying to make love when she is tired or not in the mood

 

To get her back in the mood, pamper her with a massage. If you want to try something sexy, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pad of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones. If she is relaxed, she is more likely to feel sexy.

 

Deep passionate kisses are one of the greatest ‘turn-ons’ for most women. Kissing is your entrance exam for the rest of her body. You look into her eyes and touch her face when you kiss her, which can really get her aroused. You spend time licking, kissing or gently nibbling her top lip and then do the same to the lower lip. Do give some attention on the area between her throat and chin. The skin will be thinner where the body flexes, so the nerves and blood vessels are close to the surface. Kissing her at this area will trigger an emotional response and make her wet. Slowly build up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

 

(3)   You are just plain lazy

 

You get too comfortable sticking with your usual ways of doing things. As a result of your obsession with orderliness, she can read you easily like the cover of a book, so much so that instead of moaning in bed she is yawning away.

 

To add fun to your love life, it helps that you need to ‘mess things’ up a bit, be less predictable, a bit naughty or cheeky at times to keep her wondering and at times make her can’t help giggling over your ‘performances’. Most women will not admit this but they prefer their men to misbehave a bit at times. This is why you hear about this saying about women falling for ‘bad guys’ and ‘nice guys’ are losers in their love lives. The key is to try to do new things in your love life that you both enjoy.

 

Being less predictable also needs you to do something extra to pleasantly surprise and please her at times. You will come across to her as a very caring and romantic lover. Surprise her with your thoughtfulness by making a bowl of popcorn when she is watching her favorite TV show. Write her a song, poem or love-you note to make her feel really special. Prepare a romantic dinner for two, play some mood music and seduce her, or engage in bedroom games.

 

(4)   You neglect the emotional aspects of sex

 

You are superstitious (blind faith) that your sexual techniques can work miracles on her. You are proud of your over 6 inches long lovemaking tool down there, or if you are not, you look for ways and means to enlarge or lengthen it. In other words, you are too obsessed with the mechanical aspects of sex.

 

Just remember this – every man is the same when he is naked, but what differentiate you from other guys in her eyes is how you relate to her and how much you tune in to her emotional needs. To most women, sex without passion is quite dull and no woman wants to get this feeling that she is being treated like a lovemaking toy.

 

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Understanding Female Orgasm – 1st Step To Make Her Come

Find Out More From Here On How To Give Her Mind-Blowing Orgasm

 

Orgasm is a much more automatic response for men than it is for women. Men do not even need to have any feelings of love and romance to climax, but not for women. For women, achieving orgasm is a process, very different from that for men. The following are some facts about female orgasm and how men can help a woman to reach orgasm.

 

Facts About Female Orgasm

 

Any woman can achieve orgasm. She can also have multiple orgasms if the conditions are right. These include having a caring, understanding partner who is able to apply some sexual knowledge to help her relax and to reach orgasm. Her sexual confidence and competence generally improves when she feels loved and appreciated.

 

Younger women are often not able to have orgasm until some considerable time after they begin to have sexual activities. When they eventually ‘come’ for the 1st time, it happens under the following circumstances –

 

(a)    47% of women had their 1st orgasm through masturbation

(b)   32% through sexual intercourse

(c)    20% through kissing and caressing

(d)   1% while sleeping

 

The most common age for a woman to have her 1st orgasm is 18; but it can be as late as in her 40s for some women. By the time, a woman hit 30; she is able to reach orgasm easily if she has a loving and understanding partner. A woman’s ability to climax tends to improve with age.

 

Masturbation is very helpful for a woman to learn exactly which pressures and rhythms she needs in order to bring her to orgasm. She can then impart this knowledge to her partner by showing him exactly what she needs in order to make her come. This means communicating to him how she likes her body to be touched. This can be done by speaking up or if she is a bit shy, she can use ‘hand signal’. She can grab his hand to guide him where she wants to be touched. For example, she can also signal to him on how she wants to be touched (such as applying more pressure on a particular spot) by squeezing his hand a little harder.

 

Most women find their ability to climax varies according to what part of their menstrual cycle they are in. A woman generally feels especially orgasmic half way through her cycle, which roughly coincides with the time she ovulates and her body temperature tends to be a bit higher. But some women can feel particularly turned on just before a period. Others do not feel like having sex at all at certain days in a menstrual cycle. All of this is normal.

 

A woman can have orgasm with her clitoris, G-spot (located inside and on the front wall of the vagina towards her belly button) and even her brain being stimulated. The easiest way for her to have orgasm is by stimulating her clitoris which she can do by herself or her partner stroking this area. Some women can even ejaculate if their G-spot is properly stimulated.

 

A woman can even have multiple orgasms, a series of climaxes that occur closely together. The ability to have multiple orgasm increases with age, normally in her 40s, 50s and even 60s, if she has a happy relationship and a patient partner who is willing to stimulate her to ‘come’ again and again. A woman who is having a single orgasm can only experience one rush of pleasure that last from a few seconds to a minute. Multiple orgasm can occur from 2 to 10 minutes apart (sequential multiple) or one right after another (serial multiple).

 

It is very rare for a woman to climax exactly at the same time as her partner. But this can be achieved if her partner is able to control his orgasm, is able to use his fingers to stimulate her effectively or even using her own finger to stimulate herself, so they can climax together.

 

The main reasons that younger women have difficulties in achieving orgasm –

 

(a)    21% of them due to lack of response from partner

(b)   28% due to she is not in the mood

(c)    27% due to stress

(d)   24% due to lack of foreplay

 

For women who are approaching their middle age, the main reason is due to hormonal changes in their body.  Sex can become uncomfortable to them due to not enough lubrication. A common treatment is hormone replacement therapy, though effective, but not safe to use for long term. Other alternative options are health supplements such as soya and red clover which can alleviate menopausal symptoms.

 

How can a guy help his woman to achieve orgasm?

 

You can stimulate her clitoris using your fingers, mouth, tongue, the tip of male sexual organ and a vibrator. When using your fingers, adopt the indirect approach by stroking the areas surrounding her clitoris before moving to her clitoris when she is near to climax. When you give her oral sex, you can try to create a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some sucking or pulling away when she is close to orgasm and blowing on it to heighten her sensation. You can also use the tip of your tongue to lightly lick her clitoris and surrounding areas and get a little more aggressive when she is near to climax.

 

You can ask her to be on top of you to increase the chances of your genitals brushing against her clitoris. Another way is to get her legs clamped tightly together against her stomach in missionary position and you enter her.

 

You use a battery-powered vibrator or you can slide a vibrating ring into your genitals to give her some extra stimulation during penetration.

 

You can stimulate her G-spot using either your fingers or through penetration. The fingering technique can be a bit difficult for some guys to locate her G-spot. You insert one or two fingers into the vagina with the palm facing upwards and curl your fingers slightly, moving towards her belly button until you feel an area of flesh that is rough.

 

You use the doggie or rear entry position to increase the chances of hitting her G-spot. When you use the missionary position, you put a pillow or a special purpose cushion under the lower part of her body so that her genitals area is positioned at a higher level than yours and you penetrate her.

 

Of course before you reach for these 2 hot spots, you have to make her comfortable by fostering a romantic environment for sex. You can stimulate her brain by making her feel good about herself, by dirty talking or encouraging her to fantasize. You also need to spend time on foreplay which consists of kissing, hugging, touching, massaging as well as fondling her breasts because this can have an ‘electrifying’ effect on her clitoris. If unfortunately you ‘come’ before her, you can still kiss and stimulate her until she reaches orgasm.

 

Having an orgasm is a lovely feeling for a woman. You can in turn get aroused when you see her gets turn on with her moaning and gasping. If this sounds a great idea to you, then click on Hot Sex and Great Lover.

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Find Out More About The Sexy Ways To Please A Woman In Bed

 

Most guys like to brag about their sexual prowess. But sex is not rocket science which means you can be as good as any self-proclaimed sex experts. There are many factors that can affect a woman’s sex drive. Some of which are obvious, while others are definitely not. What can you do to drive her wild?

 

(1)   Do not rush

 

Women on average take 8 minutes longer than men to reach orgasm. Therefore if you want to impress a woman in bed, you have to slow down and give her sufficient time to get aroused. What better way to achieve this than to spend some time and put in more effort on foreplay. A woman needs foreplay to get her wet and ready for penetration. Without sufficient time for foreplay and trying to rush things up, sex can be painful.

 

(2)   Stimulate her brain

 

Great sex is not limited to what you do in the bedroom. Most women need their partner to make them feel loved and appreciated. Most guys may not realize this. A woman’s major sexual organ is not located at the lower part of her body, but at her upper body, which is her brain. Emotional intimacy is equally important to turn a woman on. Share your desires and fantasies and be honest about the things that turn both of you on and off.

 

Most important, do listen to her. If you listen more, you will have better chances of understanding what is important to her. If you know what she wants, you will know how to please her in bed. Take time to hear her story.

 

(3)   Paying attention

 

Great sex is not just about mastering sexual techniques or about the size of your sexual organ. The only way you will ever know what is and what is not working when you are in bed with a woman is by using this best sexual technique – paying attention! You need to pay attention to build intimacy with a woman. You have to learn to “tune in” to her body by listening to her breath, feeling the change in the temperature of her skin and the way her muscle tone changes. By really tuning in, you will know exactly what she needs to have orgasm.

 

(4)   Make it fun for her

 

Contrary to what most men are led to believe in, orgasm is not essential to a woman’s sexual satisfaction. If you want to be a master lover, do not regard orgasm as the ultimate goal for sex. Aim to pleasure your partner and she is more likely to respond in kind. You focus on your partner and how her body connects with yours. You let your mind to be attuned to the sensations and movements of both of your bodies. Your goal should be to react instinctively without planning anything. If you can stay in this state of action and reaction and simply enjoy the entire lovemaking process, the better the sexual experience will be for both of you.

 

(5)    Give Her An Orgasm

 

Though a woman does not need to have orgasm to be sexually satisfied, this does not mean she does not want to have one. For a woman, achieving orgasm is a process and is supposed to be a fun experience. This means you do not miss out all the kissing, licking and caressing which are also essential in getting her to climax before you stimulate her clitoris by touching, rubbing and kissing it.

 

(6)   Practice sensual sex

 

Men can easily get aroused by watching porn and staring at women’s breasts. However, women are multi-sensory. They can get aroused by all of their senses of sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste.

 

(a)   Sight

 

Make your surroundings look more romantic with soft lighting or candles or change the curtains into those with bright colors that can get both of you in the mood. Both of you can put on some sexy underwear or outfits to seduce each other. You can use blindfold to sharpen her other senses.

 

(b)   Hearing

 

Women get turn on when men show the desire to please them. Talk dirty to her. Tell her what you are going to do and that your sole purpose is to get her feel and believe she is a sex goddess. Choose music with horny themes or any types that have a special meaning to both of you and play that music when you are making love.

 

(c)    Smell

 

Fill the room with warm, relaxing scent. Apply on yourself small amount of aftershave or perfume. Spray some perfume on the bed sheets too. Massage her using scented oils or lotions. But be careful not to let oil-based products to come into contact with condoms.

 

(d)   Touch

 

Spend some time in touching each part of her body from head to toe by way of tickling, stroking, circling, grabbing, massaging, licking and changing the rhythm and speed of your touching. To enrich the sensation you can tickle her with a feather or you can touch or rub against her skin using a cloth that can be made of cotton, silk, satin, fake fur or anything that captures your imagination.

 

(e)    Taste

 

Cook her favorite dishes or go out to eat something special as a prelude. But be careful not to overeat as this can make you lethargic. You can also blindfold her and feed her some passion fruits or chocolates. Paint her body with edible cream or syrup and lick her like an ice-cream cone.

 

The above are some of the things you can do to pleasure a woman, which is critical in maintaining a great sexual relationship. You can always be the perfect lover every woman wants. Do you want to learn some more tricks to rock her world? Click on Hot Sex and Great Lover.

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