If She Is Not Interested In Sex, What Can You Do





What can be the possible causes when things are not going well in a romantic and sexual relationship? What can you do to improve your relationship and sex life? Here are some common causes of relationship problems and the things you can do to improve your relationship.


(1)   Stop blaming each other


It is important not to blame a lack of intimacy on anyone. You may be tempted to place blame on your partner for a lack of emotional and sexual intimacy. You need to understand however that all human beings have inherent need to be close to each other. A better way to handle this is to recognize that both need to take responsibility for having a successful romantic and sexual relationship and to work together at coming up with solutions.


(2)   Putting relationship with your partner as a top priority


It is important that you do not let schedules and everyday life get in the way of finding time to work on your relationship. If you have the will to make things better, then you need to look at your joint schedules and find time for you to spend with your partner. Make an effort to sit down and have a 2-way talk with your partner about desires and longings, fears and disappointments, triumphs and successes and any other private and intimate details.


If you and your partner are struggling to discuss the things that matter to you both, a better way will be to allow each of you a 10-minute uninterrupted talk to allow both sides to listen to each other. If both of you know there is limited time, this will encourage you to be more concise and avoid being ‘drown out’ if the talking deteriorates into nagging. After both of you have your say, allot a further 10 minutes between you. Allowing time for just the two of you (even if it is just once a week) is very important not only to an intimate sex life but also can give a big boost to your overall health of your relationship.


(3)   Making an effort for each other


It is normal that after being together for quite a long time we tend to take each other for granted. Some of us feel that it is no longer necessary to make an effort to impress or to be nice to each other. As a result, we can become careless in the way we talk to each other and pay scant attention to our appearances.


The relationship with your partner is as close as that of your mouth and teeth. Each time when you chew your food, and if you are not careful, you can easily bite your mouth. The same applies to your relationship. Since you are close to each other, you can easily hurt him/her inadvertently in the way you talk. Most of us feel that it is important to have a good relationship with our colleagues and especially our superiors but do not seem to feel the same with our closed ones.

From today onwards, avoid talking in ways that can make your partner feel hurt and eliminate the phrase – the trouble with you. When you are together, make some small effort in looking good to each other such as proper dressing, a clean-shaven face and slight make-up when going out. Do the best to look sexy and appealing to each other.


(4)   Making an effort to improve sex life


If sex life becomes less satisfying, you need to look at the whole relationship first. Stress or fatigue due to busy working life can be one of the reasons. Often this can be due to unhappiness with the relationship itself. A man may lose interest in sex if the woman is either too aggressive or in the habit of nagging. A woman may feel a lack of interest sexually because of the perception that her man is never good or nice to her unless he wants sex.


Assuming that you have resolved the underlying issues in your relationship, there are plenty of ways to liven up your sex life. You can take turns to allow each other to take charge in the lovemaking session. Be adventurous in bed  and outside of bedroom. Take a trip together to a lingerie store, play sex games or introduce sex toys during lovemaking. Try watching an adult movie with your partner to learn some new moves. You may use fantasies – step outside yourself and try to be someone or something else for the evening. You may read erotica to each other before or even during sex.


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How To Make Sex Fun In A Relationship




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Do you have these relationship problems? You only have sexual intercourse for only once or twice a month. Love making seems like becoming a chore. It seems only one of you are more keen on sex. Read on to find out how you can light up the fire in your love life.


(1)   Exchange sex fantasy ideas through card games


Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life. Sexual intimacy is a continual process of discovery of each other. True intimacy through communication is what that can make sex great. If you and your lover/partner are afraid to ask each other what you want because you think you may not get what you want, you will not be able to know how to thrill each other.


To get things moving, set the mood for a romantic evening with your partner/lover. You can play some bedroom games to spice things up. One of the ways you can do is each of you will write down all your sex fantasies on some cards. There will be no restrictions on what you write, no matter how outrageous and or politically incorrect some of them can be.


Next, you will read the cards together and divide them into 3 categories: fantasies that you love to act them out; fantasies you want to keep that way (e.g. sex with another man or woman or threesome) and fantasies that have nothing to do with your partner/lover. Then, eliminate those fantasies that turn one of you off. Both of you will take turns to choose a fantasy to act on it.


(2)   Spice up the missionary position


The normal missionary position does not allow a woman to have orgasm through penetration because it offers little chances to stimulate the clitoris or the g-spot. However, you can make some modifications/adjustments to increase the chances of hitting either the clitoris or the g-spot. At the same time, she can also offer stimulation to herself or her man.


Have your girl lie on her back with her right leg on your right shoulder. Bend her left leg and place it beside your right side. Then you adjust yourself to enter her. For some added stimulation, she can use her free hands to either rub the clitoris or fondle your testicles (balls).


You can also put pillow or a love cushion under her buttocks so that the lower part of her body is further away from the flat surface, an angle which can increase the chances of stimulating the g-spot when you penetrate her. Your girl can pleasure you at the same time by using her fingers to press on the area between the anus and the testicles, which is an often-ignored erogenous zone.


(3)   Reaching for the A-spot


It is the anus, which is also another often-neglected erogenous zone. You can take turns pleasuring each other’s anus using fingers or tongue. Try a small, thin vibrator. If you want to proceed with penetration, you have to lubricate the vibrator or wear lubricated latex glove to prevent internal skin tears. A woman can massage the male g-spot (prostate) by thrusting one finger between 1-2 inches deep into the anus with palm facing up. This can also give the feeling of wanting to urinate, which also happens when the female g-spot is being stimulated.


(4)   Add in visual stimulation


Men are visual creatures. They get aroused either by looking at women’s breasts or watching porn. For the sake of this, position some mirrors at certain locations or angles that can allow both of you to see yourself in action like directing your own porn movie. You can also buy her some sexy lingerie (which you find arousing). I personally find those lacy black ones quite seductive.


(5)   Mutual masturbation


This can bring some playfulness back into sex. Get her to masturbate in front of you. Ask her to show you clearly how and where she likes to be touched. Since a woman can have multiple orgasms, after she gets an orgasm, you let her place her hand on yours to guide you in how to stimulate her in order to make her orgasm again. When you are able to masturbate her without help, while doing so, she can also offer you the same manual treatment of your genitals.


(6)   Condom trick


This is another way to add a little bit of fun into sex. She will hold the condom so that the rolled up edge is facing her. She holds the condom between the lips with part of her tongue in the condom. She will place the condom on the tip of the penis. With her teeth hiding behind the lips, she will glide her lips upwards along the shaft of the male organ to unroll the condom.


There you go. It is not difficult to achieve a great sex life. What you need to do is to talk with one another your expectations about sex. You and your partner/lover also need to recognize that both have equal and joint responsibility for romance, for having an intimate and successful relationship.


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