For Men – Sex Positions To Make A Girl Feel Big And Tight During Penetration

 

 

 

 

Anxiety is part of our life. For men, anxiety about performance in bed is the next biggest concern they have besides work-related activities. Modern messages about sex seem to demand that men must get it right for the first time or they will be judged as a lousy lover.

 

You want to make it special for her and want her to feel the ultimate in satisfaction. However, out of the blue, all kind of paranoid thoughts flood your mind. What if she thinks I am too small? What if I cannot last long enough? What if I cannot make her orgasm?

 

To tell you not to worry is easier said than done. So, let’s take a look at these worries and see how you can deal with them.

 

(1)   I am told that size does not matter. But I am sure it does.

 

You heard it right. Size does not matter a great deal as long as you know what you are doing. Whether it is the length or the girth, many men still assume women prefer a larger penis. In fact, this is rarely the truth.

 

Being well-endowed will not make you a great lover if you do not know how to please your partner. The most sensitive nerves are on the outer part of the vagina around the clitoral region. This means you can still pleasure your woman even if you are small. What you lack in size, you can compensate for this with your skill.

 

How to do it? Well, you pay attention to stimulate the clitoris and the surrounding area using your fingers, tongue and choosing those sex positions which can both make you feel big as well as increase the chances and time for you to rub against her clitoris.

 

You can choose doggie (enter from behind). If you choose the normal man-on-top position, you can slip a pillow or a love cushion under her pelvis and rest her legs on your chest or shoulders to create an angle of entry that allow your penis to hit on her g-spot directly.

 

Another way you can try is you still slip a pillow or a love cushion under her hips, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to the chest. As you thrust, you squeeze her thighs together to give you this tight feeling.

 

If your woman likes to be on top, get her to move back and forth or in circles, rather than moving up and down. This can prevent the penis from slipping out and can enhance her sensation as her clitoral area rubs against your pelvis.

 

Besides playing with the different angles of penetration, you can arouse your woman by simultaneously stimulate her clitoris either manually or with a vibrator or she can do it herself.

 

(2)   What if I cannot last long or cannot get it up?

 

Climaxing too early or premature ejaculation is probably the biggest male bedroom worry of all. This can make men feel embarrassed and inadequate. However, it is worth remembering that women rarely orgasm through penetrative sex. Penetration is usually less important to your partner than other kinds of stimulation.

 

What you should do is not to get your mind fixated at penetration alone. Instead you aim for pleasant sexual activity by making sure she enjoys herself thoroughly. Talk to her about what makes her feel good and what you need to do to help her orgasm. If you focus on doing what she enjoys, you should never worry about not being able to satisfy her and your mind will be too busy to think about whether you can last longer. The main thing is as long as you can get her to reach orgasm before penetration she is not going to be too concerned about how long you can last inside her.

 

As for the problem of getting it up (if you do not have medical problems), this is probably due to performance anxiety. This can get into a vicious cycle. If it happens once and you feel embarrassed, worrying that it may happen again, which makes it all the more likely to happen.

 

You are not alone if this happens to you once in a while. According to a study, 52% of men suffer erection problems to some degree at some point during their lives. It will only be a major issue if it happens all the time, which is less likely in younger men. In this case, you should see a doctor.

 

How to cope? Do not drink too much alcohol and try to get plenty of sleep because tiredness can affect performance too. Fear of failure leads to failure. If you focus on the penis and how it behaves, this can only increase performance pressure. So, do not focus on it. If you sense there is a problem, take your time over other areas of sex, which means putting more effort to please her. Giving and getting pleasure from pleasing her will ease the performance pressure on you.

 

The first step to overcome bedroom anxiety is to recognize the reality that at some point in our loves, most of us do suffer some minor sexual malfunction temporarily. The key is to focus on pleasuring her. So, talk to her to explore some mutually agreeable experimentation in the bedroom. You can get help from Hot Sex  to get you started and if you need some extra help, click Hard Erection.

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Are You Facing These Obstacles In Your Sex Life

 

 

 

Find Out More From Here Easiest Ways To Spice Up Sex

 

How to get more sex? What are the obstacles that prevent you from having more and how to overcome them? Read on to find out how you and your partner can overcome these obstacles so that you can have more fun again.

 

(1)   Frequent arguments

 

Arguing over the minor issues in your daily life can hurt your sex life. Avoid these by playing to each other’s strengths. You should not try to win on every single thing. At times, give way and let your partner have his/her say.

 

(2)   Kids in the house

 

Get temporary help to take care of kids. If you can, make an arrangement with your neighbors. You take care of their kids on Friday and they take care of yours on Saturday. If the neighbors are unhelpful, seek the help of parents, in-laws or go home when the kids are not around. Nearly 40% of women would be willing to get busy at noon.

 

(3)   TV in your bedroom

 

Researchers found that couples who have a TV in the bedroom make love less often than those whose rooms does not have one. Late night TV programs can be quite distracting and interfering to your love life. Buy a DVR to record any of your favorite late night programs and watch them at other times.

 

(4)   Busy schedules

 

This can leave you and your partner too tired to get intimate. You should consider doing some physical exercises at the early part of the week (which has the effect of stimulating the secretion of more libido-boosting testosterone) can set the tone for the rest of the week. If you can, discuss with your boss about the possibility of making some changes in your job scope that can free up some hours for you to revive your love life.

 

For a 2-income family where the working wife is also taking care of the household tasks, this double responsibility can totally or almost reduce her sexual desire. For her welfare and for the sake of the overall relationship, her husband should take the initiative to look into ways to alleviate her work load.

 

(5)   Too heavy meals

 

Romantic dinners are nice but eating too much can backfire. It can cause you to be too lethargic to have any passion left for your bedroom activities as most of the blood will be diverted to the parts of your body that will be busily doing the job of digesting what you have just eaten. Opt for smaller potions and sharing the dish can boost your sense of cooperation.

 

(6)   Sexual boredom

 

When sex becomes routine, it can eventually lead to a loss of sexual desire. Introduce some sex toys or engage in role-playing (or sexual fantasy) to shake things up. Just do something different. Novelty is good for sex and this is applicable to your social life as well. It can be as simple as skipping your evening TV programs to go for a walk in the park. Anything that makes the start of your evening less predictable can bring some unexpected changes later on.

 

(7)   Her lack of confidence

 

This is expressed in the way she is concerned off herself being physically less attractive. Reassure her by praising her most guarded body parts – buttocks, thighs, and waist – preferably when you are not going to have sex soon. This can reinforce the sincerity of your compliment.

 

(8)   She does not feel loved

 

For a woman, love and sex is not separable. A woman needs good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her husband treats her out of bed greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, a rude tone, hurting words and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to be enthusiastic and passionate during sex. It is important for a couple to be loving of each other, even when they are not in the sex act. Good sex is constant affection and closeness throughout the day.

 

When one of you feel the lack of love, both of you need to deeply examine your relationship, either on your own or with the help of a good counselor. Ask yourself what you can do to bring more depth into your relationship and make it more than sex – a sharing of intimacy. It will be better if both of you speak freely on this subject with each other and try to understand each other.

 

Relationships evolve with time. Mutual understanding, patience and co-operation will in the long run be a very rewarding experience for both of you. For more ideas to improve sex life and relationship, you can click on Hot Sex and Keep It Spicy

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How To Make A Girl Want You Even If You Have A Below Average Size Penis

 

 

 

If your sexual organ is below 6 inches in length, you probably have a lower than average size one. However, this does not put you in a less advantage situation as compared to most other guys. At least, the chances of your girl complaining about painful sexual intercourse are much lower. Here are some of the sexual positions you can adopt to maximize the advantage of a small size penis.

 

(1)   Woman On Top

 

This position can help a woman to have orgasm faster. The beauty of this position is that it will not put too much painful pressure against her cervix. Moreover, with the woman on top position, she can take control and decide whether she wants to have an orgasm via her clitoris or her g-spot. Those guys with small size can use positions like Side Rider, See Saw, The Empress and Reverse Cow Girl to their advantage.

 

(a)    For the Side Rider position, your girl will be facing you sideways. She will be squatting and positioning herself above your genitals. Instead of the usual up and down movement, the lateral jerks can increase her sensitivity.

 

(b)   To get into the See Saw position, you sit up with legs straight while your girl sits on your lap with her legs on either side of your waist. You adjust your body and hers so that you can penetrate. As she rubs her genitals against yours, you can either fondle her breasts or massage her clitoris to get her high. If there is too much strain on you, she can lean back using her arms to support herself.

 

(c)    The Empress position is quite similar to the See Saw position, except that this time you lie on your back. She sits on your lap, while leaning back and supporting herself on her hands. To maximize her chances of g-spot orgasm, have her lean back, supporting her weight on her hands.

 

(d)   In the Reverse Cow Girl position, you will lie on your back and your girl will sit on your lap, facing away from you. She can be leaning forward or holding her chest straight up. From here, you can give a good spanking to spice things up.

 

(2)   Rear Entry

 

The doggie position is a win-win for you and your girl. When performed at the correct angle, this position can make even the smallest penis feel quite large and at the same time allows you to stimulate the clitoris with your fingers. You rest her head on the pillow while having her buttocks raised in the air. Her thighs should be drawn together as you penetrate her. You lean forward allowing deep penetration which gives you higher chances to stimulate the g-spot, which can get her to reach orgasm as quickly as possible.

 

An alternative rear entry you can try is by getting her lay flat on her belly. You can then slip 1 or 2 pillows under her hips until her buttocks arches upward. You adopt the half-kneeling posture and position your genitals to facilitate penetration. You spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration. After that you hold her thighs together so that your sexual organ can feel huge inside her.

 

(3)   Pillow-Supported Missionary

 

She will be lying on her back with a pillow under her buttocks or a love cushion. You bend her legs backward so that her knees are fairly close to her chests. Once you enter her, it will feel as if you are filling her vaginal completely. This position is difficult for her to maintain so you can either let her legs rest on your shoulders or your forearms.

 

(4)   V-Formation

 

She lies on the edge of the bed and spreads her legs wide until they form a v-pattern. You grab on to her ankles or her feet and you penetrate her in a standing position.

 

An alternative way is she will be lying down on bed like in a normal missionary position with her legs spreading out forming a v-pattern. You then enter her in a kneeling position. Both these positions allow you to penetrate her deeply, an advantage to guys with small sexual organs.

 

If you are anything like me, being in the smaller size category, these sexual positions should ease your anxiety because they can effectively make a girl orgasm by stimulating either/both her clitoris or/and g-spot. She will then not be able to feel any difference between a big size and a small size penis as she will be too engrossed with all the pleasure you give her.

 

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What Can You Do If She Is Afraid of Your Big Penis

 

 

Find Out From Here About How To Give Her The Best Orgasm

You are one of those guys who are blessed with an above average size sexual organ. You feel flattered when other guys are awed by it when they inadvertently catch a glimpse of your well endowed male organ. You believe most women will think and feel the same way and they will prefer a bigger size penis.

 

In reality, this is not entirely true. For many women a larger penis is actually less pleasurable and can even bring them pain during sexual intercourse. This is bound to lead to stress for her and you may feel guilty over the hurt that you have caused her. However, there are still some appropriate sexual positions you can adopt to make female enjoyment possible. Here are some big penis positions you can try on tonight.

 

(1)   Shallow Penetration

 

The area around the vaginal entrance is usually much more sexually sensitive than elsewhere because her clitoris is just located nearby. Due to this reason, shallow penetration is a win-win position for both you and your partner. Shallow penetration positions offer higher chances of rubbing the clitoris and also reduce the likelihood of painful sexual intercourse. The positions you can try for shallow penetration are Butterfly and Spoon.

 

(a)    To get into the Butterfly position, your girl will lay on just about any edge big enough with the feet on the floor and you stand or kneel between her legs to enter her. A pillow each under your knees and her buttocks will be useful and comfortable to help in the proper alignment of each other’s genitals. To intensify the pleasure, added manual stimulation can be performed on the receiving partner by either you or her without much difficulty.

 

Butterfly Position

 

 

(b)   To get into the Spoon position, she will lie on her side with you lifting one of her legs and you enter from behind. Penetration through this position is good for g-spot stimulation and of course ideally suitable for morning sex.

 

Spooning Position

 

(2)   Standing/Kneeling Penetration

 

Standing positions, especially those face to face ones are best suitable for guys with above average seize sexual organ. These positions also avoid the possibility of the guy’s genitals slipping out and offer higher chances of stimulating the g-spot. 4 standing positions you can try are the Down Stroke, Chapel, Dancer and Wheel Barrow.

 

(a)    To get into the Down Stroke position, she will lie on her back with her legs resting on your shoulders and you will enter her from a standing position.

 

Down Stroke Position

 

(b)   The Chapel Position is relatively easy for your girl. She will lie on the edge of the bed with her legs spreading wide. You will grab  her legs while you penetrate her in a kneeling position.

 

Chapel Position

 

(c)    In the Dancer position, you will stand facing each other and your girl will lift up one of her legs. You will support her the raised leg and enter her this way.

 

Dancer Position

 

(d)   As for the Wheel Barrow position, your girl will be in doggie position with her hands resting on a chair and you will pick her up by the waist. From here, you will enter her in a standing position.

 

Wheel Barrow Position

 

For all the above sexual positions, it will be helpful to apply some water-based lubricants to help ease the entry. If you are unsure how deep you should go, start shallow and make sure you encourage her to let you know how it feels, by using words such as ‘deeper’ or ‘harder’ when she is ready for more. This will be better than asking you to back off and pull out because she cannot take it anymore and is feeling sore.

 

Do keep the above tips in mind. You should find that highly pleasurable and satisfying penetrative sexual intercourse can be achievable by you and her despite your penis size. For more tips to have a good sex life, you can click on  Hot Sex and Great Lover

 

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The Most Common Sexual Issues That Matters To A Lot Of Women

Some societies treat sex as a taboo topic. Such attitude tends to inhibit any open discussion on sexual matters. This can be so stifling that it prevents women from having enough knowledge to improve their sex lives. So, what are the things that most women are keen to know about regarding sexual matters? Read on!

 

(1)   Anything wrong with me?

 

“I am not able to have an orgasm during sex, is that normal?” “I squirt during one of my masturbating sessions, it feels like urinating but I enjoy the feeling, am I weird?” Sex is something that is very personal. Therefore each person will definitely respond in his/her unique way to any particular act of sexual stimulation. As long as your sex life does no harm to anyone and you are not doing anything to put yourself in danger, there is no reason to be concerned about any of your sexual desires, fantasies and responses.

 

If you are not able to have orgasm during sexual intercourse, it has nothing to do with whether you are normal or abnormal. It is more to do with the lack of communication with your spouse about your sexual needs. The first step towards a fulfilling and satisfying sex life is not to be too harsh on yourself and to accept yourself as a normal person with the right to an uninhibited sexual self.

 

(2)   What is the normal frequency of sex?

 

The concern here is you are probably less interested in sex than others. Research has shown that most long-married couples have sex once or twice a week, if either of them does not have any illness, is pregnant or is bothered by other matters that affect the mood for lovemaking. For newly married couples, sex happens more often but tends to decrease in frequency over time.

 

(3)   How to let my husband know what I want in bed?

 

You should not expect your husband to be able to second guess and read your mind all the time. Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life. You have to speak out and be clear about what you want. The way to do is to package your request in the form of compliment. This will avoid the request becoming like a complaint which can lead to defensive behavior. For example, you can say, “It really turns me on when you touch me there,” or “I love it when you take your time on foreplay.” You can also give him some non-verbal guidance by way of positive feedback such as moaning or moving certain part of your body closer to him when he makes the right move. You can also put across by what you want in a playful manner by way of dirty talking.

 

(4)   Why I lose interest in sex?

 

Loss of libido is a common problem affecting one-third of women. Fluctuating hormone levels due to pre-menopause syndrome, stress from work and household responsibilities, medications (certain contraceptives are linked to low sex drive), etc, are possible causes of your decrease in sexual desire.

 

Check to see if any of these causes are relevant to your situation. If medication is the cause, discuss with your doctor to prescribe alternative drugs. If juggling between household and work duties is too overwhelming, you need to discuss with your spouse about sharing some household responsibilities or getting outside help. At the same time, look for ways to improve intimacy with your spouse and reconnect you with your inner vixen. There are non sexual ways to be intimate such as cuddling, talking, holding hands, watching a movie together or just having a dinner alone. You can try masturbation to uncover certain hidden aspects of your sexuality which can help to reverse the loss of libido.

(5)   How to get over it if my husband/I cheated?

 

To save your marriage, the partner who cheated must make an effort to sever all links with the 3rd party. The unfaithful spouse needs to be honest to own up to his/her mistakes. Make an appointment to visit a family counselor for some therapy sessions to help you find ways to rebuild the relationship. The injured party should be given an outlet for him/her to vent, cry or let go off the hurt feelings for about 10 minutes a day. This will gradually ease the pain after a period of time.

 

(6)   How do I let my spouse know about my fantasies?

 

Indulging in fantasies and sharing them with your partner can lead to hotter lovemaking and greater intimacy. One way to begin is to create a “fantasy box” to list down you and your partner’s sexual fantasy. When things get dull in the bedroom, these fantasy ideas can be put into action. Another way is to share verbally what you want with your partner. Many times, simply talking about what you want can turn you both on so much that there is no hesitation when it comes to acting on it.

 

(7)   How can we find the time for making love?

 

It may seem unromantic to say you need to schedule time for sex. But with life getting busier due to increase responsibilities from workplace and home, sex can gradually be pushed into low priority if there is no attempt to allot time for it. Learn how to say no to some requests for your time. Re-prioritize your activities to free up some time for lovemaking. Make your relationship and your sex life a priority.

 

(8)   How do we spice things up if we are stuck in a sexual rut?

 

To keep sex life exciting and fun, you can inject some novelty by making small changes in routine. Try having sex at different places (at home or outside home such as the back seat of your car or a motel room near your place) and different time of the day. During the lovemaking session, you can incorporate role-playing, oral sex and/or try new sex positions. Try giving each other hot oil massage, using feathers to tickle each other, having sensual bath together, arousing each other in ways other than traditional intercourse.

 

Try to set the mood in advance with proper lighting, proper music, proper food, and proper settings. Make sure that the setting suits your partner’s tastes. You can create the romantic mood at any places in your house such as the living room, kitchen or anywhere you can imagine. Rent romantic or sexy movies. Visual stimulation always works because erotica helps you to get in touch with your deepest, darkest and most sensual fantasies. Visit an adult store for some couple sex toys. Sometimes props can be fun. Never be afraid to try something new.

 

Sometimes it is also a good idea to temporarily abstain from sex. At times, sex may hold a lot of anxieties for certain couples, which can inhibit true intimacy. This can be avoided by simply replacing sex with the relaxing pleasures of cuddling, kissing, massage, or to pursue other activities you enjoy.

 

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