How To Turn A Girl On – Give Her Pussy-Vibrating Orgasms

 

 

 

 

 

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What can you do if your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary? Have no worries! There are plenty of ways you can do to spice things up by making her melt under your tender loving care and giving her the best sex ever. Here are some ideas you can use to turn the heat up in the bedroom.

 

(1)   Warm her up first

 

To a woman, sex is more than just penetration. Men can get hard on very fast if they come into contact with sexy women. For a woman, emotions play a greater part in turning her on. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ. It is the starting point for female orgasm. This means you should never grope her right down there. Make your woman feel wanted and appreciated and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level.

 

A good way to get her into the mood is to explore and act out her fantasies. So, why not, and have some dirty talk with her? If she is too shy to open up, you can tickle her fantasy by reading to her some pages from those erotic adult literature. Or, you can watch an erotic film together. Some of the scenes in the suggestive videos can give both of you a few fantasy ideas to start with.

 

(2)   Seduce her

 

If you want her to enjoy sex as much as you do, focus sometime on foreplay to make sure she is adequately aroused first. This will actually intensify her orgasms later. Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Play some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood.

 

For a start, do not undress her completely. You let the rough texture of her clothes work a little magic on her bare skin. There are thousands of tiny nerve endings on her soft, sweet lips. You will be pleasantly surprised by how she can get so easily turned on by just kissing her. The trick is to start with slow and gentle kisses and tease her playfully. When you kiss her, do look into her eyes as you run your fingers down the back of her spine. At this stage, you refrain from heading straight for her genitals. You use your tongue to work its magic on her erogenous zones, from her ears, her neck, her navel and move down to her inner thighs and toes. When she expects you to go for her breasts and clitoris, purposely avoid them. This will escalate her sexual tension so that when you finally decide to reach those erotic zones, her chances of achieving a powerful and squirting orgasm will increase tenfold.

 

When she is sufficiently aroused and stimulated, you can move on to her clitoris and start gently. Experiment with different tongue movements and intensity and see what gives her the most pleasure. If you are not sure what works best for her, you can observe how she stimulates herself by way of masturbation – the motions, the angles and the intensity she uses on herself. Then you replicate these movements on her.

 

(3)   Get naughty

 

Nothing gets a woman more aroused than the risk of getting caught in the act. After she enters into the fitting room of a retail store to try on some dresses, you slip in unnoticed, watch her undress, caress her and get in the act, in the midst of other shoppers in the background. You can have some wild sex in the balcony, on the hood of your car in a deserted gravel road, in a quiet park, or on the beach. Have intercourse in a standing position near to the window.

 

Sometimes you may need a little help to maximize her pleasure. Why not bring along a sex toy? Sex toys are great ways to learn about a woman’s body and what turns her on the most. If she has a vibrator, ask her to show you how to use it.

 

Use these tips for a start to spice up sex and give your wife or lover the best sex that will blow her mind. If you need more ideas to please her, check out Hot Sex and/or Make Her Cum.

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Sex Tips For Women – How To Orgasm

 

 

 

 

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It is estimated that more than half of women have never experienced orgasm and do not know what it is. What is orgasm? How to have orgasms? What are the ways to achieve orgasm? Read on below.

 

Orgasm is an intense sensation that occurs at the climax of sexual excitement that is accompanied by rhythmic muscle contractions and intense pleasure. This is followed by the release of sexual tension.

 

Some women are not able to achieve orgasm because of the lack of sex hormones and related medical problems. Low hormone levels and poor blood circulation to the sexual organ can prevent women from reaching orgasm. Certain medical conditions, medications or surgeries can cause reduced blood circulation to the clitoris. If you are not able to reach orgasm, the first step is to have a physical evaluation to make sure that there is no medical problem.

 

Many women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. This occurs because the location of the clitoris is not conducive to orgasm during the sexual act. For women who are in this situation, it can be quite pressurizing if their partners are disappointed with this.

 

The best way for a woman to reach orgasm is to make her have it on her own. If you can have orgasm by yourself, you will be able to reach orgasm during sex. Here are a few ways you can reach orgasm by yourself.

 

(1)   Strengthen your vaginal muscles

 

One of the main reasons why women are having a hard time in reaching orgasm is because of weak pubococcygeal (PC, or pelvic floor muscles). These are the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening and are the same muscles a woman uses to hold in her urine.

 

Why do stronger muscles give you more sensations during sex? The answer lies in the deeply buried nerve endings in the vagina. It takes strong pressure to stimulate these nerves. If the muscle is lax, the penis will have limited contact with your vaginal walls. But if the muscles are taut, the penis will be able to rub strongly against the walls, stimulating the surrounding tissues and giving the highly sensitive clitoris another boost.

 

Stronger PC muscles will allow more blood to flow to the pelvic region during arousal, making it easier to have an orgasm. A woman with strong PC muscles can clamp down on the penis by contracting them, which will result in greater sexual pleasure for herself and her partner, and probably increase her ability to ejaculate. A woman can strengthen her PC muscles by doing pelvic floor exercises also known as Kegel exercises. These exercises will help to increase the tightness of your vaginal walls. Exercising your PC muscles can take as little as five minutes and doing it three times a day.

 

To work the PC muscles, try to stop and then release your urine a few times. Put one finger inside your vagina and squeeze on it as if you are trying to stop urine from flowing out. If you don’t feel tightness on your finger, you are squeezing the right pelvic muscle. Kegel exercises sometimes involve inserting small weights inside the vagina. By using heavier weights, over time, the pelvic muscles can become stronger and tighter, giving you more control over the amount of pressure with which you can squeeze.

 

(2)   Self pleasure

 

This is a good way to discover for yourself what pleasures you. You can do this by rubbing or stroking the clitoris and other areas of the vulva with your hands and fingers and steadily increasing the pace of manual stimulation. Besides your hands, you can run or spray water (from the shower or faucet) on your genitals.

 

To get more intense and prolonged stimulation, you can use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris and nearby area. Some improvised toys such as cucumbers, brush handles, mirror handles, bananas work great too. Also consider trying a penis-shaped sex toy as some women are more sensitive to vaginal stimulation, or need a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulations. Other women enjoy anal stimulation so you can consider experimenting with anal toys. If your nipples are sensitive, you may want to try nipple clamps.

 

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Fun Things To Do To Spice Sex Up

 

 

 

 

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Do you miss those days when it was so exciting and romantic to be together? Do you want to turn back the clock to those sexy, curious, early days when both of you started becoming a couple? Sometimes it helps to go back to the sexual basics when you need to break out of a routine or have a fresh start. If you are worried that sex is becoming stale and predictable, it is time to try something new. Here are some spicy ways to help you break out of a sex rut.

 

(1)   Explore and act out each other’s fantasies

 

You can invite your partner to slowly reveal aspects of his/her sexuality. Perhaps you can start in a less intimidating way with both of you writing down each of your secret and craziest desires on a small piece of paper and put it in a box. Think about what turns you on and what you like to have your partner do to you (or you to him). If you are not sure how to get started, you can read about some erotic stories or watch some erotic videos. After doing this, both of you will exchange your “fantasy box” with each other. Both of you will take turn to pick out a fantasy idea from the box and act it out.

 

(2)   Play with props

 

Props are a great way to fire up a sexual relationship that has gotten stale and help you get inside an alternative reality while in the bedroom. Honey, peanut butter, whipped cream, ice-cream and hot fudge can be very sensual when eaten or licked off each other’s bodies. You can try things like massage oil or lotion, plastic sheet, blindfold, feather, furry handcuffs, vibrator, edible body paint, edible panties or tattoos, or dress up as someone from a fantasy. If you have fancy over people in uniform, you can get your partner a suit from the second hand store and tell him/her your wildest desires.

 

(3)   Be romantic

 

Make an “I love you” coupon book that each of you can use when you feel like it. Some coupon ideas include: Kiss me here. Wear my favorite ______. Call your partner in the middle of the day and explain what you want to do to him/her later that night.

 

Create an intimate mood by lighting some candles and filling the tub with bubble bath or scented oil, such as lavender oil. Take turns to rub each other all over with your hands or a sponge. Include a water-proof vibrating toy or sponge to enhance sensations.

 

Surprise her with a meal you have cooked. It need not be something elaborate – just her favorite dessert will do. Or, you can pick up her favorite dessert on your way back home. Surprise her with small gifts at times.

 

Being too critical to your loved ones can hurt libido. Therefore find things to compliment each other. All of us like being praised from time to time, but more so, when the compliment comes from someone you love. However, be genuine in your appreciation, as false praise can hurt feelings.

 

Try kissing each other as often as you can. Kiss her the first thing in the morning. Women love simple displays of love and waking up your wife with a kiss, are sure to set her humming for the rest of the day. Spend at least five minutes kissing. This is the only thing that will help you to rediscover the passion and sexuality that your kisses hold.

 

(4)   Explore new activities as a couple

 

Try something different or enjoyable outside the bedroom. The chemical reaction produced by new activities is similar to the feelings you experience at the beginning of a new relationship. You could try dance lessons, tennis lessons, yoga or massage classes, or take cooking or language class together. Choose anything that engages you and teaches you something new that you can share.

 

Sex is more than just penetration. At least to a woman, it is a total engagement both emotionally and physically. Everything starts from our mind. Work on her mind is the first thing to make sex fun again.

 

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Read This If You Want To Have More Sex

 

 

 

 

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There is no exact science in the game of lovemaking. But there are some things that a guy does that can turn a woman off. If you want to have more sex with a woman, this is definitely the last thing that you want it to happen to you. If you want to become a better lover, you have to make sure that you do not make any of the following mistakes.

 

(1)   You assume you know everything

 

Men like to believe that just because their usual ways of lovemaking work on their previous girlfriends, they will also work on other women as well. The fact is every woman is different and this is especially so when it comes to sex.

 

Every woman’s body responds in different ways to sensation. What feels great to one may do nothing or even cause discomfort for another. When it comes to intercourse, some may like fast and deep thrusting while others will like it slow and shallow. Or, some may like to mix it up with slow and shallow initially and later on fast and deep. Also, every woman has her own favorite sex position. Differences between partners’ body shape and height may make some positions better than others.

 

To avoid making this mistake, it is better to pay attention to her reactions and better to get her feedback when you are in bed with her. When you want to experiment with some newly-learned techniques after reading a self-help sex guide, it is better to discuss them with her and better still to read this guide together with her.

 

(2)   Keeping quiet about sex

 

For certain unknown reasons, some people are quite embarrassed and hardly talk to their partners about sex. If it is hard for your partner to say what she wants sexually, try asking specific questions instead of open-ended questions such as “What do you like?” which may not get a clear answer. While you are trying out certain moves with her, you can ask her which one she likes better.

 

Not only do some men refuse to talk about sex, they also feel that it is better to keep quiet during sex. This is not a good thing. Because saying something or making some noises at least can show your partner you are enjoying and this can turn her on. Keeping quiet may give your partner this feeling that you are not mentally with her. Many women want this mental connection with their partners first before they can get turned on. Men should not hold back their moans, grunts and sighs because the sounds of sex are sexy and great turn-ons. Making these noises can help both partners get into the experience more fully.

 

Couples should give each other verbal cues during sex. A woman should use words like, “harder”, “slower”, or “right there” to help her man know what she likes. Men can engage in dirty talking which can make sex highly arousing for women.

 

(3)   Treating sex as a separate matter

 

Sex to many guys may just be something that is very mechanical – penetrate and ejaculate. But for most women, love and sex are not separable. A woman needs to feel loved before she feels sexy and gets turned on. Many men do not seem to be aware that sex does not happen in a vacuum. A man may not know why he is unhappy with the sex he is having and not connect that with how he and his partner are getting along.

 

A woman will not open up sexually with a partner if she does not feel safe emotionally with her man. Your recent behavior will set the mood in the bedroom. She will still be thinking about how you have treated her the week before, the day before and the hour before.

 

Most women crave for romance. They appreciate the sweet little things their men do for them outside the bedroom. They want their men to be caring partners. Putting your arms around her, giving her your shoulder to cry on, listening to her, maintaining eye contact with her are counted as part of good foreplay which will work wonders on her after the lights are off. Foreplay begins not in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom.

 

(4)   Too dogmatic

 

Some men view sex toys as a threat, or competition, thinking that using them can cut down their partners’ desire to have normal sex. The fact is though many women are interested in using, or have used sex toys, they also realize no matter how good the sex toys can be, they can never replace the intimacy and love from their partners. Proper usage of sex toys can broaden a woman’s pleasure.

 

A vibrator can deliver focused, consistent and intense stimulation that is impossible for a human to provide. Many women need that kind of stimulation to have an orgasm. There are also sex toys that can stimulate both partners at the same time. Instead of totally rejecting sex toys, embrace them, get used to them and go along for the ride to ultimate pleasure.

 

It is all up to you. You can determine the type of sex life you want and have. Watch out for these mistakes, is the first step. If you need more ideas to jump-start your sex life, you can click Hot Sex and Eternal Flame

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Sex Tips – What She Wants

 

 

 

 

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As guys, we always like to assume that we know everything about our women that have been sharing the same bed with us for many years. You believe you know what she is thinking by the way she looks at you, just like the way she seems to always know what you want before you do. However, there are things like hidden fantasies, unshared longings, fetishes and other matters that she may be too shy to talk about.

 

Here is a list of some of women’s secret wishes based on the feedback from over 700 women.

 

(1)   A caring partner is more sexy

 

Women appreciate a guy who is supportive and sensitive especially when they are upset. Putting your arm around her, handing her a tissue and listening to her – these are small but powerful ways to connect to her and help a lot in deepening the relationship. At times, when a woman is distracted by certain libido-killing matters (such as stressful work or lack of sleep) it will be a big turn-on if you can be as supportive as you can in some ways such as running some small house-related errands, helping in the dish-washing.

 

(2)   She expects you to be a good lover

 

Women like a man who knows what he is doing, who can take charge and who will make an effort to find out what she likes and dislikes. A lot of women lose interest in sex because their husbands are, or become lousy lovers soon after marriage.  Women read sex advice, but men seldom. If you want to please a woman, it helps a lot if you can do some reading on your own about sexuality-related matters. Better still, if you can read this together with her so that you can at the same time share with each other the things both of you will like to do to spice up sex. These readings can give both of you ideas and get you physically and mentally excited before you enter the bedroom.

 

(3)   She does not like to be hurried

 

Unless she is already highly aroused, most women prefer their lovers to be a bit more patient with them in bed. Women want to feel connected, understood and to be romanced before they can get turned on. This means spending time talking and touching her long before you reach the bedroom. Women like to be told they look nice and they like a man who notices this without being told. If she is looking particularly attractive in a sexy new dress, or in a new haircut, do let her hear about it before she mentions it. Most women also appreciate some simple romantic gestures (intimate dinner, pampering her with erotic massages, taking a bath together) and will often reciprocate these after the lights are off.

 

(4)   Simpler can be better

 

I am all for experimenting with sex positions which can be fun and in the process you discover what works for her. When you read about some of the sex guides, they may introduce you to some sex positions that seem more fitting on a gym class field day than for you. There is no need to be overly fancy during sex. Whatever position you choose, make it a point to adopt those that offer lots of opportunities to stimulate the clitoris by using your fingers or hers, with sex toys, or by pressing herself against your body. In almost all cultures and throughout time, there are 3 basic sex positions that have ruled and probably highly underrated.

 

(a)   Missionary

 

This will be a simple modification of the normal missionary position which is merely in-and-out thrusting. You place two or three pillows under her buttocks to lift her lower body off the bed at an angle. This position will allow you to rub against her clitoris and at the same time hit her g-spot when thrusting.

 

Another way is when you penetrate her, you keep as much of the base of your penis in contact with her outer vaginal lips as possible and have her grind against you in circles.

 

This modified missionary position is also quite good for her too. When she is lying on her back, you pull her knees up to her shoulders, lifting her pelvis so that her vagina points up almost to the ceiling. This position allows deeper penetration and chances to contact the g-spot.

 

(b)   Woman-on-top

 

You place two fingers so that each finger will rest on either side of your penis. When she rides on you, the area between the two knuckles will be in direct contact with her clitoris. This position will offer stimulation to her clitoris and inner vaginal lips.

 

(c) Guy-behind-girl

 

When you enter her from behind, you can use your fingers or a small vibrator to stimulate her clitoris. This position will also give you higher chances of hitting her g-spot.

 

The lists here are by no means exhaustive. You can read the rest of them from Hot Sex and Make Her Orgasm if you want to lead her to easier orgasm, higher arousal and better lubrication

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