Unusual Ideas To Spice Up Sex




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You have a wonderful sex life and both of you are very open-minded. Both of you have done just about everything and are actually going to venture down another road. You are looking for some more sex ideas and nothing is off limits. The best way to begin is to talk to your partner and ask her what she may like to try. Here are some ideas to start with.


(1)   Use sex toys


Clothespins make wonderful toys. They can be clamped onto any part of the body (for example her nipples) and the sensation is quite intense. The longer they stay on, the more intense the sensation when they are taken off. You can clamp the clothespins to nipples or anywhere along the breasts; along the dies, arms, legs and thighs and almost any other place you can imagine. For more intense sensation, plastic clothespins will be better than wooden ones and small clothespins will have a sharper ‘bite’ than large clothespins.


A pair of chopsticks and a couple of rubber bands can also be used to make improvised clamps. Put the chopsticks above and below the nipples, or along each side of the clitoris and rubber-band them together at the ends.


Ordinary dental floss makes great nipple bondage. Tie a slipknot in a piece of dental floss and pull it snug on her nipples.


Brushes of various sorts are excellent on bare skin, especially when she is being blindfolded. For example, a soft brush such as a shaving or makeup brush can be alternated with a stiff brush such as a toothbrush on breasts, nipples, thighs, sides, etc. An electric toothbrush makes a wonderful sex toy when used on the clitoris.


Ice is a great all-purpose sex toy that can be used in a number of different ways. You can either run an ice cube over her body especially when she is being blindfolded and/or bound; or place an ice cube in your mouth and run your lips and tongue over her body.


Feather is also a great way to turn her on. It can be any type of feather but I would highly recommend that you buy feather products from a craft shop not a sex shop because those real bird feathers that you find on the ground may contain parasites and germs. A peacock feather is common because the end is round and blunt. First you blindfold her and you can tie her up if you want. You run the feather over her body and apply some tickle torture on her. The premise of tickle torture is that she struggles against you but she cannot get away from being tickled and she cannot even scratch the itch because she is being tied.


(2)   Use light bondage


If you want to explore bondage, the easiest way to do this is with plain old cotton or nylon rope. Nylon stockings and silk scarves can cause problems because they tend to bunch and become difficult to untie. When you experiment with bondage it is always a good idea to have a plan about getting your partner untied in a hurry if you need to. One good tip is to keep a pair of bondage scissors handy which you can get inexpensively at most drug stores.


You can tie your partner to the bed, to a chair, or simply bind her hands behind her back. Once you have her bound, you can kneel over her and tell her to perform oral sex on you, or you can penetrate her. Or, you may like to try sensation play such as running your hands or ice cubes or improvised sex toys on all over her body. Blindfolding her can make these sensations more intense. You can add a little bit of light pain play to the mix by pinching, pulling or twisting her nipples. Biting her or teasing her with tongue or fingers can be a lot of fun too.


For introductory pain play, spanking, pinching and biting can be good ways to begin. You may bend her over your lap, or for a bit more fun, you can tie her down bent over the bed. You can combine this with role playing. You will be acting as the teacher disciplining a naughty student. You can spank her with your hands, a paddle, or even a wooden spoon. Start with light rapid strokes and gradually, you can get those endorphins (pleasure-related hormones) going, which is exciting and intoxicating.


The above are some simple, basic but novel ideas which can keep things new and exciting all the time. They can increase both of your pleasure. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Have fun! Experiment! Be creative! Want some more ideas?  Click on Dirty Harry’s Secrets and Love House

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How To Use Fantasy In Love Making




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Acting out fantasies and pretending to be someone else is one of the easiest things couples can do to prevent sex from becoming routine. If you, your spouse or both of you are a little shy, role playing can help to open the doors to feeling more confident with one another. Here are a few tips to get started.


(1)   Keep it easy


The best way to get started is to make it easy for your partner to ease into the situation. You do not need to come up with some elaborate story line or introduce some ridiculous costumes. Whether both of you are a little timid or either one of you has reservations about the whole role playing scenario, it is best to start with something simple and easy for both of you to get into the situation, which is your ultimate goal.


(2)   Be prepared


Most people start out a bit shy and nervous with the idea of dressing up as someone else and playing a role. This is mainly due to a lack of preparation. The best way to get comfortable with sexual role playing is to get prepared.


(3)   Have a brainstorming session


The best part about role-playing is that there are so many things you can do that are not just confined to the bedroom. Get your creative juices flowing and make a list of things or the kinds of situations that turn you on. Think about whom you want to be, your motivation, the kind of scenario, how you want to dress up and what and where the boundaries and the ground rules are. At this stage, it is important to be honest, sincere and non-judgmental. There should be no laughing at your partner for something he/she says or does.


(4)   Narrowing down the choices to what both of you want


Compare your lists against your partner’s and decide on what both of you are willing to try. Also decide on what you are not going to try. You can set limits without judging the other person. If you are uncomfortable with anything, do let your partner know.


(5)   Setting the role playing scene


Details can help you to get deeper into a sexual role play scenario. When you first imagine a sexual scene, the main points may be enough to get you going, but the more details you can add to the fantasy, the more alive it becomes. Details can also be great for awkward moments when you do not know what to do next. Think about the physical setting, whether it is indoor or outdoor, what time of day is the scenario, are there any other people nearby, and what is the story line.


(6)   Choosing costumes and props


Maybe the most fun part of the preparation is costumes. Sexual fantasy role play is a perfect opportunity to dress up and have fun. Once you have decided on who you want to be, think about ways to add to your character and role through clothing and props. Make a trip to adult shops or novelty stores to choose the costumes, accessories and other items to make your role-playing fantasy complete. You can also try any thrift stores for clothing if these shops do not have what you want.


(7)   Shaping your sexual fantasy role play character


Now that you know who you are, where you are and what you are wearing, it is time to dig deeper into the sexual fantasy role play character. Think about what is your motivation, what are the things that turn on and turn off and is this character going to be dominant or submissive.


(8)   Decide on a good time to act out your fantasy


Timing can ruin even the best prepared plans. Make sure you provide enough time for schedules to be cleared and for other commitments to be fulfilled. This means make a stress and worry free space so that you can have your whole mind on the fun, and not being tie-down with thinking of the hard day ahead. For most of us who work during the week, Friday night is an especially good time because the weekend provides a good buffer.


(9)   Set ground rules for role playing


Setting ground rules and boundaries with the person you are going to engage in role playing with is essential. Some of these rules should be common sense and common courtesy such as no laughing at each other, agreeing beforehand the signals or words to let each other know if things are going well or badly and if things do not go smoothly how you want it to stop.


So, go ahead to explore new situations and make it both intense and safe. Fantasy is always fun, if done the right way. If at first it does not work well, try again. Remember that sex is really another form of communication and the more you explore it together, the better it gets.


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Mother’s Nature Sex Drive Boosters For Men

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This article touches on the issue of men’s “going downhill” sexual performance and how men can do something about this. One suggestion is that men should keep fit by way of regular exercise which in turn can improve their stamina in sexual activities. This is to be combined with the right choices of food which has natural aphrodisiac characteristics. The choices list here is of broad range. This same list of food is also the essentials for a healthy body. Caution should be exercised in that men should not go to the extreme and overly focus on them in their diet. The bottom-line here is to have a well-balanced diet which will lead to good health as well as a fulfilling sex life.


What Is Male Menopause & Its Symptoms


Ever wonder why even those of us that continue to exercise regularly and try to stay in shape but still find it difficult to perform in the bedroom like we did in our younger years?


The culprit is andropause which is better known as male menopause. When men age, our bodies make less testosterone (an essential make sex hormone) than they used to, causing male menopause to set in. Below are the many symptoms of andropause that men just attribute to aging:


(1)   lethargy or decreased energy

(2)   low interest in sex or decreased libido

(3)   deteriorating sexual performance due to difficulty in erections or not able to maintain erections for long

(4)   muscle weakness and aching

(5)   always being emotionally overwhelmed

(6)   sleeping problem

(7)   hot flashes

(8)   night sweats

(9)   low self-respect

(10) thinning of bones or bone loss


Is there anything we guys can do to raise our level of testosterone naturally?




The 1st thing to do is to exercise regularly. Studies have shown that people who exercise regularly have higher sex drive. This may be related to surges of testosterone that occur immediately after doing resistance training like lifting weights, or right after endurance training such as running.


Besides exercises to pump up your body’s production of testosterone, there is another more pleasurable way to achieve this.






Yes, because there are certain food that can naturally build up our testosterone levels. Here are the food choices to boost male hormone levels according to Larrian Gillespie, a retired Beverly Hills urologist and author of The Gladiator Diet:


(1)   Oysters which contain protein, magnesium, lots of zinc.

Along with increasing your physical endurance, oysters pack more zinc than almost any other food source. Zinc plays a key role in muscle growth and testosterone levels.


However, oysters are relatively high in sodium making them a poor choice for people with heart disease or hypertension. They also may contain a bacteria called vibrio that can cause illness when eaten raw, particularly for people with a weakened immunity system. The best way to cut down this risk is to broil or grill them until well done.


(2)   Lean beef which contains protein, iron, magnesium, zinc, saturated fat.

Beef specifically offers the added benefit of high protein and zinc – two essential nutrients to optimize testosterone level and building muscle.


(3)  Beans (baked beans, lima beans, navy beans and kidney beans) which contain protein, fiber, zinc. Canned beans are as nutrious. Beans have the highest zinc nutrient among vegetables and some such as baked beans have as high zinc content as those find in red meat. Other rich sources of zinc can be found in pecans, pumpkin seeds, chicken peas, nuts, sunflower seeds, sesame seeds and wheat bran.


(4)   Poultry which contains lots of protein and little fat.

According to John E. Morley, director of the Division of Geriatric Medicine at St. Louis University, high protein diets have a positive impact on muscle mass and testosterone levels. High fat has the opposite effect. So, let’s eat a lot of chicken meat so that we cann have a good time with “chicks”.


(5) Eggs contain both protein and cholesterol. According to Robert S. Tan, an associate professor of geriatric medicine and an andrologist at the University Of Texas in Houston, testosterone is synthesized from cholesterol and as such, food containing cholesterol is a good source for building up your testosterone. Eggs are a source of pure,unadulterated cholesterol, and one recent study showed that the excess cholesterol in eggs isn’t as harmful as previously thought.


(6) Cottage cheese contains lots of protein and very little fat. (only1% milk fat)


(7) Broccoli, cabbage, Brussels sprouts contain fiber, indole-3.

Indole-3 is an essential nutrient that can help to cut down bad estrogen which causes fat accumulation and interfering with muscle growth. Fiber is great for controlling weight.


(8) Asparagus is a libido booster which is high in Vitamin E (a great sex vitamin)


(9) Sauerkraut (sourcrout) is a type of fermented cabbage that is said to boost men’s sexual activity after they consume it.


(10) Garlic contains allicin

Clinical studies indicate that garlic’s active ingredient enhances testosterone level and inhibits cortisol, a hormone that competes with testosterone, limiting its actions and breaking down muscle tissue.


(11) Ginger stimulates the circulatory system increasing blood flow to the genitals which causes erection and more sensitivity


(12) Ginseng helps in the production of nitric oxide which is essential for smmoth muscle relaxation and erectile function.


(13) Celery makes a man irresistible.

Raw celery contains the male hormone androsterone which can act as a pheromone to trigger female attraction.


(14) Bananas are perfect food for bedroom endurance.

They contain Vitamin B which aside from being the key to convert carbohydrates into energy, is believed to help manufacture testosterone. Munching on one before your “bedroom wrestling” can help you to last longer in bed.


(15) Honey gives more energy and contributes to arousal.

The simple carbohydrate it contains provides instant energy and fuel for working muscles. It is also rich in Vitamin B which is needed for testosterone production.


(16) Basil (a kind of plant that smells like peppermint used in cooking) increases circulation and is beneficial in stimulating sex drive.


(17) Cardamom (a kind of aromatic spice from the seed capsules of various East Indian plants) is a powerful aphrodisiac and is helpful in treating impotence.


(18) Fennel (a yellow-flowered herb used as flavoring) has a libido-enhancing effect as it is rich in an estrogen-like substance.


(19)  Dark chocolate promotes the release of the “feel good” body chemicals called endorphins. Chocolate also provides small amount of anxiety-quelling tryptophan, arousing caffeine, and a few substances such as anandamaide and theobromine – that in large quantities work like a psychedelic drug and opiate respectively. So, you now understand why it is a popular gift during Valentine’s Day.

(20) Avocado increases both the male and female libido and contains Vitamin B6, which enhances the production of male hormone.


(21) Almond contains essential fatty acids which is important in the production of male hormones to regulate sex drive.


(22) Pomegranate, known by many as the “love apple” is an aphrodisiac that arouses sexual desire.


(23) Liquorice roots induce the production of estrogen which is essential for sexual functioning.


(24) Oats make wonderful energy booster and arouse the libido for greater sexual performance.


(25) Flaxseeds increase the testosterone level and consist of essential fatty acids such as Omega-3 and Omega-6 which help to raise the production of sex hormones.


(26) Figs are rich in amino acids which increase the libido and boost sexual function.


(27) Red wine

Moderate consumption of alcohol causes the body to relax by depressing the central nervous system. Red wine not only contains alcohol, but also pigments from grapes that block the male enzyme, phospodiesterase type 5. This blockage allows men to more easily achieve erections.


There you are, you can see here many food choices that can naturally boost your bodies own testosterone production.



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How A Woman Can Turn A Man On When She Is On Top


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You and your guy are always changing sex positions. He wants you to be on top. But each time when you try to ride on him, it sucks. Everyone tells you to just sit on him and ride it.


But riding a man isn’t just about sitting on top. There is a lot more to it than that. If you want to know how to ride your man and look sexy, here is a list of things for you to take note.


(1)   Practice First


Being a first timer or someone who hasn’t really been riding a man often enough, this position can be a bit tricky. But you can always get better by practicing it on your own. When alone in the bedroom, try rolling a pillow and sitting on top of it like you will, if you are on top of your guy. Roll your hips back and forth like what you are going to do if you are trying to balance on a mechanical ball.


(2)   Get Him Involved


When you are on top of him, grab his hands and have him support your balance. The more balance you have, the easier it will be for you to keep a steady rhythm when you are going back and forth.


If you want to try to bounce up and down, it is important for your guy to help you with the bouncing. It will help ease your sex workout and make him feel involved too. By doing that, both of you will be able to last longer and enjoy the girl-on-top position for a longer period of time.


(3)   Get His Feedback


Sex is all about being connected and having good communication. While you are on top of him, read his signs and ask him if he likes what you are doing and what he likes you to do to improve on it.


If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down to see if it is anything to do with your movement. Perhaps you are moving too aggressively. If he suddenly grabs you, stop moving for a while to find out if he is unable to hold on anymore.


If his member starts throbbing inside you when you are on top, he is probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so you have to slow down and help him get back his control.


(4)   Let Go Off Yourself


If you want to ride your guy, you have to make sure he is really turned on and you have to let go off your inhibitions and forget about your self-consciousness. Focus on how sexy you must look to him while on your knees hovering over him.


While he is on his back with his firm erection, swing one of your legs over him. As you grind your pelvis against his, lean back and stretch your body. You will be able to reveal all and look a lot sexier too.


Then you lick his nipples, nibble his ears, grab his butt as you straddle him and do anything else that makes you feel good. Your man may actually be surprised and get turned on by seeing this new side of yours. He is going to have a hard time keeping his hands off your body as you show yourself off.


(5)   Get Seductive


Use your fingers to play with your hair carelessly when he is looking at you. This will definitely be very arousing for him to see you enjoy yourself. As you bounce off him, cup your breasts with your hands and move them against the sides of your body. You can also take his hands and place them on your breasts as you grind him.


Get close to him, brush your breasts against him and whisper something dirty and sexy in his ears. What better way to turn him on than to tell him, “I’m coming.” So simple, so powerful, so ego-bossing for him because this proofs he is successfully satisfying you.


(6)   Start Slowly And Gently


Great sex is all about the rhythm and the motion. Both of you have to feel in synchronize with each other to actually enjoy sex. If you move too aggressively, he will not be able to keep up with you.


As a lot of your weight is resting around his member, you should avoid sitting on him hard or moving in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. This may fracture him down there.


You can move vertically up and down, or move around his member in slow circles, or go fast and quick or slow and deeper. Whatever motions you choose or switch to, give him enough time to adjust to your moves so that he can connect better with you, which will ensure that the sex is better.


(7)   Take Control


Getting on top takes the control away from your man, but your sexual confidence will end up turning him on a lot more. Push him onto the bed and let him know just how horny you are. Grab his hand and ride him harder.


To get kinkier, you can tie his hands to the bed post or even handcuff him or tie his hands together with a scarf. You can also stop halfway and give him oral. Or, you can take his member out while having sex and move your hip close towards his face so that he can lick your clitoris.


(8)   Choose Any Of These Positions

(a)   Chest To Chest


This position facilitates clitoral stimulation. If you find it difficult to reach orgasm in the missionary position, this position will help a lot. Because you are sitting on him, this position does not need much balancing. For him the benefits are that he can relax and just enjoy the fact that you are taking control.


(b)   Normal Cowgirl


This is a great position from a man’s point of view because you can really give him a good show. You need to lean backwards and support yourself with your arms. While doing so, he can play with your breasts or rub your clitoris. You have full control with this position and it is also one of the best for hitting your g-spot too.


     (c) Facing Away From Him


In this position, you sit on him with your buttocks facing him. If your guy is a butt guy who prefers to look at a sexy butt more than an eyeful of boobs, he will love this position.


Use these tips when you are on top of your man. Remember to feel and look sexy and confident so as to give him the wildest ride he ever had.


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For Couples – How To Have More And Better Sex

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Is sex getting routine for you? Are you bored of the same action in bed? Do you sometimes feel tired to have sex?  Do you feel that something is lacking in your love life that you feel like you are just going through the motion when having sex? If this is you, you are not alone. Many lovers get stuck in a sexual rut. But this does not mean you have to settle for occasional and/or boring sex. Here are some things you can do to break the cycle of boredom.


(1)   Talk To Each Other


Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship and the foundation for great sex. Good and effective communication includes being a good listener, paying close attention to the spoken words but also the tone of voice and body language used, in order to get a complete understanding of what is being spoken.


Couples often complain that they do not have much time to really communicate with each other, not with taking care of the kids, holding down one or more jobs, doing household chores and paying bills. If your children do not have a normal bedtime routine, make one. Putting the kids to bed at a reasonable hour gives both of you time to unwind from your day at work or other family responsibilities, allowing both of you the needed time to focus attention on each other.


Making time to be alone with each other should therefore be a priority if you want your sex life to be better. Meaningful communications do not have to only be about personal crises. Endless talk of problems will turn off a partner, no matter how sympathetic he or she is. The time spends together should not be used to discuss the kids, jobs, bills or other stress related topics. Instead the sole purpose of the time together is to connect with each other as friends and lovers.


When disagreements occur, avoiding or refusing to talk about them can breed anger and resentment that can hurt your sex life. It is not that happy couples never argue. Most couples have disagreements. But in a mature relationship, power is not defined by winning an argument or getting one’s way. True power comes from knowing how to discuss differences fully and honestly. Successful couples know how to argue with class and dignity. They may disagree, but in the end, they end up understanding and respecting each other’s differences.


(2)   Give Sex A Temporary Break


At times the pressure to perform may cause you to feel tired of sex. To alleviate the pressure, you can hold off on having sex for a few nights. Skipping sex for a couple of days is a form of delayed gratification. Waiting enhances the anticipation factor, making you more turned on, so when you do have intercourse, it will be better and more fun.


You can also consider forgoing full-on sex and focus on foreplay. If you only have foreplay for a day or two and get each other really worked up, it will make the sex much hotter when you actually do it. Sometimes just simply cuddling each other will do. Affection and tender physical contact are also important investments in your happiness and, ultimately, a better sex life.


(3)   Do Exciting New Things Together

Participating in adventurous, thrilling activities outside the bedroom (a trip to an amusement park, motorcycle riding, cycling and surfing lessons) with your other half can spice things up. Engaging in novel, arousing activities with a partner can reignite that giddy early sensation of being in love. If you both find sailing or water-skiing exciting, for example, that rush-like feeling can carry over into bed. By doing things you both enjoy, you will enhance the connection between both of you, which can improve the overall relationship.


(4)   Do Not Take Each Other For Granted


The main problem in every long term relationship is the tendency to take each other for granted. After so many years together, we become too comfortable with each other. We no longer feel the need to do or say anything to please and impress each other.


One way to overcome this is to take turns to please other by. By forgetting yourself and homing in on his or her pleasure, then switching, you can discover new erogenous zones.  So tell your partner or lover that tonight is all about him or her. Give him or her massage to clue in to untapped erotic territory, like his or her ears, feet and nipples. Focus on his or her reactions such as moans, grunts and a rapid-fire heartbeat so that you will know what drives him or her wild, and concentrate on those areas. Later (or even the next night), pull a role reversal.


Another form of taking each other for granted is reflected by the way both of us start to neglect our appearance. Brush or comb your hair, brush your teeth, take a bath or shower every day, put on some makeup, get rid of those old nasty sweats and put on an outfit that shows that you care about your appearance.


Ladies, put your hair up in a nice clip instead of a “scrunch”, or take the time to curl your hair and make yourself look nice for your husband. Get rid of the granny panties and wear some underwear that is attractive and sexy for your man. There isn’t much that can diminish the romantic feelings between husband and wife than to see your spouse looking frumpy and disheveled.


Taking care of yourself and your body, by keeping fit will both improve your health and increase your energy and sexual appeal. You don’t have to run a four-minute mile to feel that way. Even a brisk 30-minute walk revs your heart and clears your head. Or sign up for a gym membership, put your favorite songs on your iPod and work out with your honey. In fact, studies show that people who stay healthy and active have a better sex life than their couch potato friends.


Passion ebbs and flows in every relationship, but romance can last forever if you make the effort. Hold hands in the movies and when you walk down the street. Lean over and give your partner a kiss just because. Be a little naughty and send a sexy text message. Do something special and unexpected for each other.


Express genuine appreciation and gratitude for the things your spouse does; compliment and flirt with your husband or wife. Take a shower together; give each other massages; make out on the couch without thinking that it is not “good enough” unless you go all the way, like the way you did when you were dating.


Pay close attention to subtle hints and comments about something your husband or wife wants or needs, and purchase it for him or her as a surprise. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive. Pay close attention to clues for birthday, holiday or anniversary gift ideas, making a point to write them down so you won’t forget and end up struggling to find a gift your spouse really wants.


Has your partner mentioned a concert or sporting event he or she has interest in attending? Buy some tickets and go as a couple. Does your spouse enjoy craft shows, museums, art festivals or amusement parks? What are you waiting for? Buy some tickets and go! Do you often hear your partner singing or whistling a tune on the radio that he or she likes? Find out who the artist is and buy the CD that includes the song.


(5)   Stay Physically Connected


Keep your relationship from feeling too platonic by making sure that nonsexual touching is a part of your everyday interaction with your partner. That means a warm hug, an arm around the waist, a shoulder massage or caressing your partner’s hand.


Begin each day by physically touching your spouse with hugs and kisses. Hold hands while sharing a cup of coffee or tea together; place your hand on your spouse’s leg while sitting together watching the morning news; gently caress your spouse’s face.


Just sitting on the couch together watching television is an excellent opportunity to physically touch each other can get the romantic sparks flying. When you climb into bed each night, affectionately cuddle and hold each other for several minutes, rather than immediately turning away from each other to fall asleep. The more you practice spending time being affectionate and feeling more connected, the more your passion for each other will grow.


Keeping the fire alive in your relationship may be challenging, and sometimes it’s more work than we want to do, but the rewards are well worth the effort you put forth each and every day. Click on For Him and/or For Her  for more ideas, advice, tips and clues into how you as a couple can get out of your relationship rut and get those home fires burning all over again.



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