How To Make A Girl Want You Sexually




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You want more sex but she is satisfied with the current frequency. You have tried everything to get her interested in sex, but to no avail. What is holding her back? What can you do?


There are times in all relationships when sex becomes a little dull or she does not have the same level of desire as you. It sounds as if the responsibility for initiating sexual encounter is falling predominantly on you, the male partner. This may eventually create resentment and frustration in your relationship.


Before allowing the situation to deteriorate further, it is better to have a serious chat with her about how you see your intimate life together. To be a happy married couple involves talking about your sex life to make sure that both of you have a sexually satisfying life.


Here Are Some Ways That Couples Can Spice It Up To Prevent Sex From Getting Dull


So, how do you start communicating for better sex? You can begin by saying that you feel your sexual needs are not being met. The talk should take place under a non-sexual encounter situation and without the kids around. If she is not ready to have this conversation at the moment, ask to make special time for this talk.


During the discussion, you can try to figure out if she understands that you are sexually frustrated and that being sexually compatible is important to you. There is also a need to find out from her about whether she feels pressured to have sex; even when she is too tired or distracted. Ask her how she can show you by words or any other means what feels good to her and whether she is willing to try different kinds of non-risky sex play.


See whether you can dig up anything in her personal history that can affect her sexual desire. Find out if she has any fantasies that she may want to explore and tell her about yours. This communication is just a reality check that something is not working for one of you and there should not be any negative judgment or blaming. Your objective is to want her to be your intimate and erotic friend. She needs to hear these words in order for her to get outside of her comfort zone and learn to become more sexually confident. Nothing will change in your relationship unless both of you are committed to strengthening your sexual connection.


You will not see overnight results. But in the mean time, you can gradually get her back in the mood by building intimacy with her. First you need to build and earn trust from her by being positive, supportive, helpful, appreciative and forgiving whenever you can. Surprise her with small gift at times just because you love her. Compliment her for the specific things she have or the things she had done such as her character or her effort in taking care of herself physically. Do let her know how you adore and cherish her and at the same time telling her how important she is to you can make her feel special. You can also be affectionate with her in non sexual ways without any ulterior motive.


It is also important to make an effort to spend time with her in order to strengthen your relationship. Surprise your partner with a long, romantic kiss and a suggestion to take a walk together. Make sure you hold hands while you walk and talk. You can also put a blanket on the floor of your bedroom or go to the park to enjoy an intimate picnic together. You can schedule lunch dates once or twice a week. Whether it is going on a spontaneous trip, attending a dancing or yoga class, hiking, walking on a beach, seeing a romantic movie or concert, reading an erotic novel together, housing a party for friends, etc, having fun together is critical for the success of your relationship.


Also taking more time during foreplay will help her to feel that her needs are being met. Take a night and make it all about her pleasure to show her how great sex can feel. Kissing is probably the most important part of foreplay. Not just kissing her mouth because there is a broad spectrum to choose from her entire body. Use your lips and tongue to show that you will not neglect any part of her. Kiss her ears, eyelids, neck, throat, shoulders, breasts, stomach, back, inner thighs, feet and of course her mouth. When you go through these areas one at a time, you take your time to find out which areas are especially sexually responsive to her by listening closely to her reactions.


Always keep in mind that every woman is different and thus has different preferences. While some women like soft, tender touch, others prefer aggressive forceful behavior or some like it both. With time, you should be able to pick on what she likes through her body language and vocal approval.


Boredom in your sex life can lead to low libido. Therefore, be more creative and shake things up a bit by trying something different. If you need some ideas or ways to get started, you can click on Hot Sex and Sexy Games

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For Couples – 7 Ways To A Happy Sex Life





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Do you miss those sexy, curious, early days when you are newly in love? These 7 tips can sure help you to bring back and relive those good old days.


(1)   Pump up the adrenaline


Adrenaline can act as an aphrodisiac for a committed relationship. It can inject some oomp into otherwise stale and ordinary days which tend to happen in a long-term relationship. When you stimulate your body, this will have a trickle down effect of stimulating both your mind and emotions.


Do something extraordinary with your partner. This will show your partner how much you care. Give bungee jumping, roller-coaster riding or watching horror movies, a try, if you dare. If you find that this is too extreme, you may consider horseback riding, go-karting, sampling exotic cuisines, enrolling for dancing or yoga classes or travelling to some exotic places together.


(2)   Sexy talk


Whispering sweet words into his/her ears, sending sexy text messages to let your partner know he/she is on your mind when you are apart can increase the emotional connection between the both of you. Sexting is a great way for committed couples to flirt with each other and make each other smile. It is also a good way to build anticipation which is like mental foreplay that could lead to the physical kind, too.


(3)   Encourage 2-way talking


It is essential to have a real conversation at least once a week. This should go beyond the day-to-day type of topics. Couples who communicate well with one another and share activities together are often more active in sex. Before spicing things up with toys or sexy lingerie, work on your communication skills.


Besides talking, you also need to know how to listen to keep the 2-way communication open. Pay attention to body language too. When you need your partner to do something or to make some changes, you package your requests in the form of compliment such as “I really enjoy very much when you for an evening walk to the park with me.” This will avoid the request from becoming like a complaint which can trigger defensive behavior.


Try to detach your emotions from the conversation. In times of strain these will be heightened which could lead to further conflict as you will be hypersensitive to remarks. If you are particularly upset about something, it will be better to vent out your frustration on paper rather than blurting it out. This will allow you to release any negative emotions as well as giving you the time and chance to organize your thoughts so that you can present your issue in a non-confrontational way.


(4)   Show appreciation and support


Besides saying, “I love you”, do not forget to say “thank you” to show your appreciation for the nice, little things he/she did for you. Remember to give compliments to let your partner know you still find him/her physically and emotionally attractive. Volunteer to help out if you can, when your partner is overwhelmed with too many things on hand.


Such nice, little, thoughtful daily gestures can have a cumulative effect to strengthen the foundation of your relationship, reducing the chances of breaking up when the relationship is under stress by some unexpected happenings. The wonderful thing is these acts of consideration and appreciation do not cost you any.


(5)   More kisses


Do you still remember those days when you were dating him/her, you often kissed each other when you met or when you were about to leave? Besides being an act of intimacy, the way you kiss can make or break a woman’s feelings for you. Kissing becomes a forgotten act for many couples in long-term relationships, unless this occurs during foreplay. Couples who kiss regularly tend to have sex more often. Most important, you kiss not just for the sake of initiating sex, but because you love and enjoy the feeling of kissing him/her.


(6)   Maintain eye contact when having sex


Eye contact immediately raises the intimacy level of any sexual act. Closing your eyes can sometimes send the wrong message that you are only present physically, but not emotionally or spiritually. Keeping your eyes open and looking directly into him/her reassures your partner that it is he/she that is turning you on in the particular moment.


(7)   Trying new things in the bedroom


Most people would love their partner to suggest something new to spice things up. Couples tend to stuck into a few things that they know and stop experimenting. But the brain is the biggest sex organ and any time you try something new, you are stimulating the brain’s natural desire for novelty.


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