Sex Tips For Women – How To Orgasm Through Intercourse

 

 

 

 

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According to a Year 2000 Orgasm Survey, 72% of women disclosed that they faked an orgasm at least once. Do you feel that at times, in order to make your partner feel good about himself, you have to appear as if you are enjoying a lot in bed? You may feel a little inadequate or thinking that something is wrong about yourself ? You should not throw up your hands and accept this as something that cannot be changed. Here are some ways to help you get out of this situation and have the sex life you want.

(1)   Stimulate yourself first

 

The fastest and most effective way to get yourself into the mood is to stimulate yourself. Both you and your partner have to shoulder equal responsibility in improving your sex life. When comes to sex, you should not act in a passive way thinking that it is solely your partner’s responsibility to make you orgasm.

 

You can increase your chances of having orgasm during intercourse by making yourself orgasm first. You can do this by stimulating yourself mentally and physically. Every desire originates from the brain. Therefore work on your mind first by occupying your mind with sexy thoughts. You can read an erotic novel, view porn or indulge in your own fantasies to get your mind into the sexy mode.

 

Once your mind is ready, you can start to stimulate yourself physically. The easiest and most relaxed way is by means of masturbation. Take a deep breath, relax, close your eyes if you want and start stroking your clitoris in ways that you find most comfortable and enjoyable. For a start, you can do this by yourself to find out what you really like best. Later on you can masturbate just before and during sex. You can show your partner how you like to be touched by using his fingers to touch your clitoris during foreplay and/or penetration.

 

(2)   Do not give undue pressure on yourself

 

Once in a while, you may not be able to reach orgasm. This is not your fault and not your partner’s. This is okay and normal. Perhaps at a particular moment, your mind is preoccupied with something else. If you can think in this way, your mind will be able to relax. This is of utmost important because if you are not able to relax your mind, orgasm will be impossible for you. Also, you need to ask your partner to stop mentioning about orgasm while having sex.

 

You can distract yourself from negative thoughts by fantasizing or having some soothing background music. The main thing here is to get yourself at ease and focus on pleasuring yourself. You can guide your partner on where and how you want to be touched. Give him positive feedback if he does the right thing which can be moaning or tightening your grip in his shoulders or telling him that it feels so good and to keep it this way.

 

(3)   Get into sex positions that can help you to orgasm easily

 

When he is on top of you, get him to align to you in such a way his penis is constantly grinding on your clitoris and nearby area. The key to this position is to ‘rock together’ with him. As he bears the weight of his genitals on you, you coordinate with his downward movement by moving your hips upwards to receive him. He will be moving forward and backward in rocking motion while you will be moving upwards, which will increase the pressure as well as pleasure on your clitoris.

 

You can also get into the woman-on-top position. In this position, you can rub your clitoris against his pubic region to induce powerful clitoral orgasm. Alternatively, you can use your hand or ask your partner to stimulate the clitoris while you are in your action.

 

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Sex Tips – How To Last Longer

 

 

 

 

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Do you want to climax at the same time as your girl or to let her orgasm first? Do you feel helpless at those moments when you seem to lose control over the time you make love to your woman?

 

According to a survey of 900 women conducted by a female magazine, nearly two-thirds of them have had sex with a man who experienced premature ejaculation (PE). PE affects men of all ages and it happens to all men at some time in their lives. This happens especially to some guys who are inexperienced or to others who are too highly excited or who have abstained from sex for a long time.

 

PE can be caused by physical or psychological factors, or a combination of both. Some studies indicated that the pelvic muscles which surround the erectile tissues in the penis are in a hyperactive state in men with PE. For the majority of men with PE, the cause is mainly psychological such as feeling pressure to perform. This can cause a feeling of inadequacy which can manifest in the form of performance anxiety and avoiding sex.

 

How long should you last in bed? There is no fix timing here. According to a sexuality survey done on over 7,000 men, 21% of them ejaculated within 50-60 seconds and another 62% ejaculated within 1-5 minutes. Only 1 in 6 lasted over 5 minutes and 1 in 10 over 10 minutes. This can be subjective also. Some men who ejaculated at less than a minute did not feel they have PE and yet some who lasted over 5 minutes still feel they should last longer.

 

While impotence drugs can sort out problems in the short term, long term solutions can be found through non-medical and less costly ways. Here are some ways to cope with PE.

 

(1)   Reflex control exercises

 

Masturbation a few hours before sex is said to be the easiest way for a man to delay ejaculation. But what I am referring here is not just masturbation. It is the use of the start-and-stop repetitive action to control your sexual response. During each masturbating session, you stroke yourself until you feel you are about to ejaculate and then you stop probably for a minute before you stimulate again. You do this for a few times until you decide you want to ejaculate. This exercise will train you to control and delay your sexual response. You can combine this with deep breathing exercises. When you feel you are about to reach climax, you breath in deeply to relax your body and muscle in order to delay ejaculation.

 

(2)   Focus on pleasuring your partner

 

If you feel pressured to perform, or have performance anxiety issues, you are more likely to experience PE. Telling ourselves to relax and not to be too stressed up is easier said than done because the more you tell yourself not to do it, the more your mind will think this way. The best way to cope with this is not to think about how long you should last but to switch focus to your partner’s pleasure. You pay attention to your partner’s body and learn/observe when she is about to reach orgasm. You learn to stimulate your partner and pleasure her so that she can reach orgasm sooner and before you. When you see that she is enjoying your stimulation, not only you will get turned on, you will also feel confident you are performing well enough.

 

(3)   Squeeze yourself to numb the sensation

 

During intercourse, when you feel you are about to ejaculate, you or your partner will gently squeeze the base of the penis shaft to hinder sexual stimulation and wait until the pressure for ejaculation stops. This squeezing action can be done repeatedly until climax is reached by both parties. Also, remember to empty your bladder before intercourse because having a full bladder will add pressure to the PC muscles and increase the chances of PE.

 

(4)   Choose the sex positions that can help you last longer

 

(a)   Woman-on-top position

 

When she is on top, your penis is less stimulated. Ask her to go slowly because long and fast thrusting can increase the chances of PE.

 

(b)   Modified missionary

 

You get her to lie on her back with the lower part of her body near the edge of bed or desk and lift her legs straight up pointing to the ceiling. Then you give shallow penetration in standing position. This position is effective because when you are standing or kneeling, it can help to restrict blood flow from your extremities. The penis will not be overly stimulated. This will give you greater control over your arousal and help you to last longer.

 

Use these 4 ways to help you regain your sexual stamina and at the same time satisfy your woman. For more tips to have a long lasting and better sex life, you can read on further from Hot Sex and Last Longer

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Sex Positions That Please A Woman And Make Her Orgasm At Least Once

 

 

 

 

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Do you ever wonder why she is less interested in sex? Or, when you initiate sex, she says she has a headache. Perhaps it is time for you to make some changes in your bedroom routine and get creative by experimenting with some sex positions you never try before.

 

If you want to please a woman and make her orgasm whenever you are in bed with her, you will not achieve much unless you know the differences between the sex positions. These differences may have something to do with the way the position increases the chances of providing more or prolonged stimulation to the clitoris and g-spot as well as helping you to last longer. You may have one or two favorite sex positions. However, if you want to continue to have intimate moments with your girl, you have to learn more about other sex positions that you can try during lovemaking to keep things going hot.

 

(1)   Woman-on-top positions

 

This position puts a woman in total control of the movement and allows deep penetration

 

(a)    Instead of the usual kneeling, she can choose to squat. The usual forward to backward movement can be switched to upward and downward.

 

(b)   In the usual woman-on-top position, you bend your knees so that she can rest her back on your knees. This position allows her to adjust herself in a way that increases the chances of rubbing her g-spot. You can also take the chance to use your hand to stimulate the clitoris.

 

(c)    You sit on a rocking chair. She will either sit facing you or her back towards you on your lap as she positions herself to let you enter her.

 

(d)   While on top of you, she faces your feet. This is the perfect position to rub her g-spot. You can bend your knees to allow her to rest against your knees. Some women feel that they enjoy sexual fantasies more when they face away from their partners.

 

(e)    You sit on the floor with your legs straighten out. She will sit on your lap wrapping her legs around your waist as she adjusts her lower body to allow penetration. This position allows both of you to touch and hug each other. It is very intimate and the pelvic rocking gives a wonderful sensation to her.

 

(2)   Standing positions

 

(a)    She stands facing the wall and bending forward. You hold her by the hips and enter her from behind. She can either allow you to completely dominate her in this position, or she can use the wall to push back against you as you thrust. This is one of those positions that will open her up for deep penetration and will increase the chances of stimulating her g-spot.

 

(b)   In this more advanced standing sex position, she will slightly separate her legs and bend over to grab her knees. You will enter her from behind. Heights issues can be overcome either by you bending slightly at your knees or she stands on a stool or stair step.

 

(c)    This position will require you to stand at the edge of the bed. She will lay on her back with buttocks on the edge of the bed. She will rest her feet on your shoulders while you lift her buttocks to penetrate her. She can also rest her legs on your arms or wrap her legs around you as you thrust her.

 

(d)   This is a reverse of the position just mentioned. She will stand adjusting her body for penetration while you will sit at the edge of the bed.

 

(3)   Rear entry positions

 

(a)    She lies on her stomach with her hips slightly raised while you enter her from behind. She can put a pillow under her upper body to adjust the angle of penetration. As you enter her, you will push together and separate her buttock cheeks. Every time you do this, it will change the sensation just a bit, making the tension tighter and then loose.

 

(b)   She will squat in a position like a frog. This will mean her hands and feet are on the bed with her knees up. She should put the majority of her weight on her legs and hands as she leans slightly forward. You will then penetrate her from behind. She can bounce up and down a little on you to enjoy herself in this position.

 

By now, she should be moaning in pleasure as you try one of the positions listed above. If these do not work, do not blame yourself and do not give up. You can try other methods of stimulation from Hot Sex and Make Her Orgasm.

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Sex Tips – What She Wants

 

 

 

 

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As guys, we always like to assume that we know everything about our women that have been sharing the same bed with us for many years. You believe you know what she is thinking by the way she looks at you, just like the way she seems to always know what you want before you do. However, there are things like hidden fantasies, unshared longings, fetishes and other matters that she may be too shy to talk about.

 

Here is a list of some of women’s secret wishes based on the feedback from over 700 women.

 

(1)   A caring partner is more sexy

 

Women appreciate a guy who is supportive and sensitive especially when they are upset. Putting your arm around her, handing her a tissue and listening to her – these are small but powerful ways to connect to her and help a lot in deepening the relationship. At times, when a woman is distracted by certain libido-killing matters (such as stressful work or lack of sleep) it will be a big turn-on if you can be as supportive as you can in some ways such as running some small house-related errands, helping in the dish-washing.

 

(2)   She expects you to be a good lover

 

Women like a man who knows what he is doing, who can take charge and who will make an effort to find out what she likes and dislikes. A lot of women lose interest in sex because their husbands are, or become lousy lovers soon after marriage.  Women read sex advice, but men seldom. If you want to please a woman, it helps a lot if you can do some reading on your own about sexuality-related matters. Better still, if you can read this together with her so that you can at the same time share with each other the things both of you will like to do to spice up sex. These readings can give both of you ideas and get you physically and mentally excited before you enter the bedroom.

 

(3)   She does not like to be hurried

 

Unless she is already highly aroused, most women prefer their lovers to be a bit more patient with them in bed. Women want to feel connected, understood and to be romanced before they can get turned on. This means spending time talking and touching her long before you reach the bedroom. Women like to be told they look nice and they like a man who notices this without being told. If she is looking particularly attractive in a sexy new dress, or in a new haircut, do let her hear about it before she mentions it. Most women also appreciate some simple romantic gestures (intimate dinner, pampering her with erotic massages, taking a bath together) and will often reciprocate these after the lights are off.

 

(4)   Simpler can be better

 

I am all for experimenting with sex positions which can be fun and in the process you discover what works for her. When you read about some of the sex guides, they may introduce you to some sex positions that seem more fitting on a gym class field day than for you. There is no need to be overly fancy during sex. Whatever position you choose, make it a point to adopt those that offer lots of opportunities to stimulate the clitoris by using your fingers or hers, with sex toys, or by pressing herself against your body. In almost all cultures and throughout time, there are 3 basic sex positions that have ruled and probably highly underrated.

 

(a)   Missionary

 

This will be a simple modification of the normal missionary position which is merely in-and-out thrusting. You place two or three pillows under her buttocks to lift her lower body off the bed at an angle. This position will allow you to rub against her clitoris and at the same time hit her g-spot when thrusting.

 

Another way is when you penetrate her, you keep as much of the base of your penis in contact with her outer vaginal lips as possible and have her grind against you in circles.

 

This modified missionary position is also quite good for her too. When she is lying on her back, you pull her knees up to her shoulders, lifting her pelvis so that her vagina points up almost to the ceiling. This position allows deeper penetration and chances to contact the g-spot.

 

(b)   Woman-on-top

 

You place two fingers so that each finger will rest on either side of your penis. When she rides on you, the area between the two knuckles will be in direct contact with her clitoris. This position will offer stimulation to her clitoris and inner vaginal lips.

 

(c) Guy-behind-girl

 

When you enter her from behind, you can use your fingers or a small vibrator to stimulate her clitoris. This position will also give you higher chances of hitting her g-spot.

 

The lists here are by no means exhaustive. You can read the rest of them from Hot Sex and Make Her Orgasm if you want to lead her to easier orgasm, higher arousal and better lubrication

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How To Have The Sex Life You Want

 

 

 

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How to have better sex? How to get in the mood? How to become orgasmic? A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It is often due to our busy lives which often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace. If sex with your partner isn’t what it used to be, here are some ways that you can put the spark back in your bedroom.

 

(1)   Communicate your needs to each other

 

Communication is very important in a relationship. This may be uncomfortable to you. But if you do not take this first important step, both of you will have to face with a non-ending unsatisfactory sex life. Do not wait for him or her to ask you what feels good. Tell him or her, what you like most about your sex life. Do not be shy to ask for something new or different. Just be sure that you only bring up such topics when outside of the bedroom, such as during a quiet walk on an evening. In this way, you can talk freely without spoiling an intimate moment.

 

(2)   Add in fantasies and share them with each other

 

Remember that you are a sexual being. Admit it; everyone has at least one major sexual fantasy. Whether you are a naughty doctor or a submissive nurse, it is time to indulge and go wild. One of the biggest factors in a great sex life is being comfortable with your partner. Role-playing offers an excellent way to do so and also to allow you to explore the boundaries of your relationship. It is a harmless way to ease any anxieties both of you may have and keep the mood light.

 

If you are shy to share your erotic fantasies with your partner, afraid of what he or she will think of you, suggest writing an erotic story together one night. Once he or she sees what you have dreamed up for your ‘character’, your partner will definitely know what you have in mind for yourself.

 

(3)   All-day-long foreplay

 

Start foreplay as early as possible before you reach the bedroom because women normally take a bit longer to get hot. Just doing the foreplay a short while before sex may not be enough to get her in the mood.  During the day, do those sweet little things for each other.

 

You can make a date at a restaurant at the end of the day for some fine wining and dining or take a walk at the park. When at home, take a bath together to give you and your partner the chance to touch, rub and scrub each other. After bathing, you can take turns to massage each other for a couple of minutes. By increasing your emotional connection, you can gradually build up the arousal level and increase it right till to the night.

 

(4) Set aside time for sex

 

Better sex will lead to more sex and one of the ways to have it is to make an appointment that neither of you is allowed to cancel. When both of you lead busy lives, sometimes the only way to leave time for sex is to literally put it on your schedule. Lie in bed together for an hour on a weekend morning. You may just chat, or you may engage in ‘bedroom wrestling’. Either way, you are connecting to each other. Though it is just once a week, but an hour or two of sexual activity can be energizing and pleasurable for both of you.

 

(5)   Make it fun

 

Sex is supposed to be fun. The more fun you make it, the more enjoyable it will be. Bring an item into the bedroom, like a board game, which can force you to think about how you are going to use this item to make the experience different. Or, it can be those innocent games, such as truth or dare and spin the bottle. Use these games to reignite the passion. You can trade game points for a 3-minute sexual favors which can be a massage, kissing, oral sex, talking dirty, a dance, a striptease and anything you want. The game is all about teasing which gives you the structure to add in anything that you want sexually. Besides games, you can add in toys and experiment with sexy lingerie, or anything that creates a special mood for you.

 

(6)   Increase her chances of having an orgasm

 

Many women do not have orgasm during intercourse because they do not get sufficient clitoral stimulation in the normal missionary position. What you can do is to get into those positions that can allow greater clitoral contact, such as woman-on-top position. When she is on top, you can stroke her clitoris which is what she needs to have an orgasm. At all times, observe how she reacts when a particular body part is being touched and spend more time on those areas which are highly sensitive for her.

 

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