How To Make A Woman Orgasm

 

The biggest obstacle to a woman having an orgasm is psychological. First, she must feel sexy in order to get turned on. For a woman, achieving orgasm is a gradual process. There is no single best sexual technique that can guarantee a woman’s satisfaction. It requires a slow building up of mood and touch that eventually send her over the edge. A better understanding of female orgasm will be of great help in guiding you on how to give her pleasure in bed.

 

(1)   Give her pleasure not pressure

 

Sometimes it is not due to the fault of you or her. It may be due to some temporary psychological factors. Many women feel so pressurized about not able to reach orgasm after a fairly long foreplay session that they end up faking orgasm. The best way to handle this situation is to tell her it is alright and let her know you just want to give her pleasure irrespective of whether she is going to have an orgasm. What you can do is to explore each other’s body and in the process you will probably be able to discover some possible neglected erotic spots.

 

(2)   Get her in the mood

 

If you want your woman to be uninhibited in the bedroom, you have to help her by setting the mood. Do anything to make her feel good about herself. It will be best to make her feel sexy. Give her sincere compliment on something that she works hard on such as her new hairstyle or the new clothes she just bought. Do not rush into the bedroom. When she is sitting beside you on the sofa watching TV or chatting with you, you can start caressing her and kissing her slowly. You can have a steamy and sensual bath with her, taking turns to scrub each other’s back.

You can offer to give her a massage after her hard day at work. You start massaging her shoulders then her neck and when she relaxes you can get naughty with your hands. Pamper her with some of her favorite tidbits, chocolates, or wine. In the bedroom, use dim lighting, play some sensual music, fill the room with scented candles or perfume, change into her favorite colors curtains or bed sheets. You can also create the mood in other places of your house such as in the living room, kitchen or anywhere you can imagine.

 

(3)   Do not just keep quiet

 

Communication is the key to good sex. Some women who are self-conscious about how they look when naked tend to have difficulties in reaching orgasm. You can make her feel good about herself by complimenting how great she looks and you can make some noises to show her how you are enjoying what you are doing on her.

You can also talk dirty to her which is a turn on for most women. You can tell her about what you like to do to her. Your words will be more effective if you can keep eye contact with her. Besides the content of the dirty talk, the way you say it is equally important. You can choose a low and deep voice, high and squeaky pitch or a breathy whisper to carry your sexy messages across to her.

 

(4)   Give her breasts tender loving care

 

Gently brush the tops, bottoms and sides of her breasts which are actually quite sensitive. Slowly move in towards her nipples. The super sensitive nerves on the nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing her nipples will make her get wet.

To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and her clitoris using fingers. After she has gotten aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth on her clitoris. The different sensations on each of her body parts will bring her to an orgasm that she never experiences before.

 

(5)   Give her clitoral orgasm

 

The easiest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris, an area which is solely for her to enjoy sensual pleasure. Before she is properly turned on, direct clitoral contact can make her feel uncomfortable. It is best to start with indirect contact. You can add a little variety by trying side-to-side or diagonal strokes. Once her breathing gets heavy which is a signal that she is ready for more stimulation, you can then place your thumb on her clitoris and start to massage it.

 

Most women do not get orgasm through penetration. It is because there are comparatively much lesser nerve endings in the walls of vagina than at the entrance. Therefore no matter how hard and how deep you can ramp in, you will not get her off. Instead, try a grinding motion that can allow your pubic bone to come into contact with her clitoris which will give her the stimulation she wants to get orgasm. It is the main reason why many women favor the woman-on-top position. This position allows them to control the action to get maximum clitoral stimulation by rocking their hips forward to allow contact with the head of the clitoris.

 

(6)   Get to know the tell-tale signs of her having an orgasm

 

When you give her oral sex, do not immediately dive in and reach for her clitoris. Start by kissing her inner thighs and then move your mouth to either side of clitoris including her vaginal lips before gently making the first contact. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. If her hips are digging into your face, it means you can speed things up a bit by licking her clitoris faster. Watch for signs of her near to climax such as the subtle deepening in the color of her vaginal lips due to increased blood flow. You can also put a hand on her stomach to feel the muscular contractions that immediately happen before her orgasm.

 

(7)   Continuity and consistency

 

Women do love and appreciate your effort when you try new things or ways to pleasure her. However once you discover what works on her, do stick with it until she reaches orgasm. Do not stop or change moves midway to orgasm. You can try those new things in the next round or future encounters.

 

(8)   Get her reach orgasm first

 

A woman’s orgasm threshold drops after her first one. It is therefore much easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she has already experienced one. The easiest way to her achieving orgasm before you is to stimulate her clitoris using your fingers, tongue, tip of your “little brother” and a vibrator. Therefore make her orgasm first before you go inside her.

 

There you have it – some of the basics you need to know about female orgasm. They serve as a good starting point to make her enjoy sex with you. There are plenty of other positions and techniques you can try to please her. When you are ready and keen to find out more about these, you can click on Hot Sex and Great Lover.

 

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The Things Women Love A Guy To Try In Bed

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Sex will be mutually enjoyable if men can have a pair of bionic eyes that allow them to read a woman’s brain like an open book. They can then easily know how to please her in bed. However this can only happen in fiction. So, what do women want in bed that they do not dare to ask for?

 

(1)   She loves oral sex

 

Most women love getting oral sex but are afraid to ask. Some of them get this message about the area between their legs been dirty or smelly. Some are quite embarrassed that their area down there resembles a “black forest”.

 

To put her at ease with her desires, you can reassure her by saying her place down there tastes, looks and smells good, or you let her know you love hearing her moaning when you lick her. However, if she is not so comfortable, do not push her on this for the time being. You can build up the mood by massaging her inner thighs and external area of her vagina and keep praising how great she looks down there, until she gets aroused. If there is not much response, probably she is not into oral sex.

(2)   She likes to be “naughty” in public

 

This does not mean something like making love in the middle of the road with people forming a circle around her. But this does not exclude having sex at the backseat of a car, a quiet staircase, a quiet spot at the beach in late night, or even at the changing room of a clothing store. The risk of being caught can be very sexually stimulating and exciting to some women.

 

(3)   She likes you to take charge in bed

 

Most women get turn on if men exude sexual confidence, knowing what is supposed to be done in bed. Though she likes to be dominated, you have to be careful not to behave in ways that make her feel humiliated such as barking orders at her. When you are going to play this domination game, you have to take a gradual approach, gauging her response before you make the next move. You can ask, “Is it okay if I blindfold you next time when I go down on you?” If she is agreeable, the next time you can ask, “Will it be alright if I pin your arms against the bed when I lick your breasts?” It will be best if beforehand you both can agree on the meaning of certain words to prevent misunderstanding. For example, it will be better to use the word “stop” because sometimes “no” may have a different meaning for certain men and women. You can find out from here about Soft Bondage Ideas.

 

(4)   She wants to take charge in bed

 

Some women like to dominate in bed but afraid to let their men know for fear of making them feel “less manly”. If your woman can unleash the sex goddess inside her when she is in charge, it is worthwhile letting her to dominate the lovemaking session. To gauge if she is the dominating type, you can ask her if she wants to adopt the woman-on-top sex position, which is a hint to let her know you love her in control. After this, you can suggest her to give you a blow job while you are being blindfolded and tied up. If she is able to let her inner vixen out, it should be a sexually enriching experience for you.

 

(5)   She likes you to spank her

 

Not too hard, of course! Light spanking can send lots of tingling feelings to her vaginal and anal areas. Same as what you are going to do when you take charge, approach this gradually and take care not to make her feel hurt or insulted. During lovemaking, you can spend a lot of time squeezing and rubbing her buttocks to show you like her behind. After a while you whisper in her ear, “Can I give you a little spanking?” If she is agreeable, do it once, softly and ask her how she feels about it. If she responds positively or is not sure, ask her if you can do it a few more times while you kiss her and grope her buttocks. Act accordingly to her response. During the next time when you get physical with her, tell her how much you enjoy giving her those little spanking and ask her if she wants you to do this again. If she is receptive, ask her if she wants you to do it harder or if she likes to lie on your lap while you spank her.

 

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How To Position Yourself To Last Longer In Bed

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Does finishing too soon in bed make you feel lousy? Are you looking for lovemaking positions that can help you to beat premature ejaculation and earn the extra precious minutes to boost her chances of reaching orgasm? Do you know that your sexual performance, arousal level and the capability to perform impressively in bed can be controlled, improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex positions? This is the topic I am going to discuss, so read on here.

 

The first thing to bear in mind when you have sex is how each sex position you use will affect your ability to maintain an erection and delay ejaculation.

 

Why do positions matter?

 

(1)   Some positions can give you better control over your arousal and stimulation levels. There are certain positions that put undue stress on the core muscle groups in your body – particularly your arms, thighs, buttocks and pelvis. This stress makes it difficult to control your arousal.

 

(2)   Women like guys to take charge in bed. When you change positions every now and then, you will appear more dominant and increase your attraction in bed.

 

(3)   When you are in the middle of your “bedroom wrestling”, you do not want to do anything to distract her. Changing from your usual position is the best way to manage your arousal while not appearing too obvious about it.

 

So, which sexual positions are the best for boosting your stamina?

 

(1)   The Female Rider Position

 

This is commonly known as the woman-on-top position. This position gives you higher chances of lasting longer in bed even though she is actually controlling the movements and thrusting.

 

Why is this so?

 

(a)    This position allows your body to be totally relaxed and stress-free. You are simply lying on your back and enjoying the sensations flowing through your body. When you are in a state of relaxation, it will become very easy for you to control your arousal.

 

(b)   The most sensitive part of your “little brother” is at the underside near to the tip. The upward thrusting motion inside her will create less friction as compared to the normal downward thrusting movement and therefore lesser stimulation to make you ejaculate too soon.

 

(c)    This position allows her to be in charge of the stimulation. Her rhythmic movements can turn you on but you can control your arousal and relax or tighten your pelvic muscles with total ease.

 

(2)   The Female Reverse Rider Position

 

The name implies this is the reverse of the woman-on-top position – her back is facing you whole sitting on you. This position can help you to change the level of stimulation without losing the fun and pleasure of lovemaking.

 

(3)   The Spoons Position

 

In this position, the male lies on his side with his knees bent and the female lies on her side with her back press against the male. This position eliminates those bodily stresses which affect your ability to control the level of your arousal. You can speed up or decrease the power, depth and frequency of the thrusting action.

 

Women love men who can take control during sex through the use of different lovemaking positions. The above 3 positions give you better control than those positions which require you to squat or support yourself using your hands or elbows. These positions can help you to remove the stress (cause by certain sex positions) which is very important in allowing you to overcome premature ejaculation. If you are still keen to unlock the secrets to longer lasting fulfilling sex, you can click on Last Long and Cure Premature Ejaculation.

 

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3 Things Every Man Must Know About G-Spot

How to give a woman wild, gushing g-spot orgasms
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For ages, evidence about the existence of G-spot was not confirmed. But in 2008, an Italian research team managed to find physical differences between women who claimed to have G-spot orgasms and women who did not.

The G-spot is more a zone rather than just a particular spot that is located roughly 2 inches inside the front wall of the vagina. The G-spot feels rougher to your touch than the surrounding area of her vaginal wall and you can locate it by when thrusting your index or middle finger (with nails cut and lubricated and palm up) about 2 inches into her vagina. When she is being turned on, the G-spot will be filled with fluid causing it to swell and increase in size.

 

Not every woman finds the G-spot equally when being stimulated. While some enjoy very much pleasure from G-spot stimulation others feel uncomfortable because it may make them feel like urinating.

 

Here are the 3 most important things every guy needs to know about the G-spot:

 

(1)   Stimulate the clitoris first

 

The clitoris is located where the top of the inner vagina lips meet, which is the biological equivalent of the male sexual organ. Most women prefer to have the clitoris stimulate enough first before reaching for the G-spot. Going direct to the G-spot may make her feel dry and uncomfortable. Also do not skip foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. Foreplay can help you to locate the region easier since it will be swelled when she is being sexually aroused.

 

(2)   How best to stimulate the G-spot

 

The normal lovemaking position – missionary position – is unlikely to allow you to reach her G-spot by penetration unless your erected sexual organ can curve upwards. You can get better chances of hitting the G-spot by putting her legs over your shoulders or making her knees and shoulders meet when penetrating. The aim is to position her genitals higher than other parts of her body to increase the chances of your ‘little brother’ in contact with the G-spot. You can also do this by pulling her pelvis up onto your thighs and penetrate her from a kneeling position while grabbing her thighs from underneath.

 

Other positions that can easily get in touch with the G-spot are the woman-on-top position (she either faces you or her back facing you), rear entry position (she stretches one leg straight on edge of bed and keeps the other leg on the floor and you enter her from behind with your knees slightly bend) and the doggie style position.

 

(3)   Female ejaculation

 

You may be surprised actually many women (though not all) can ejaculate. Female ejaculation usually occurs as a result of prolonged stimulation of the G-spot. Though this looks like she is urinating however, it is different from actual urination. The fluid contains the same substance as that of the fluid produced by the male prostate. The amount of fluid releases during ejaculation varies from woman to woman. Some seem to be gushing while others only come in drips.

 

G-spot stimulation is only one of the many ways to get her reach orgasm. What you need to keep in mind is to know and understand what works for your woman, what makes her feel good and satisfying during the process which is the most important. You can get a better understanding of how female sexuality works by checking this out at Hot Sex and All That She Wants

You may want to watch this Video HERE about the G-Spot Debate from Carvaka Sex Toys

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10 Naughty Ideas To Give Women An Orgasm

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When talking about female orgasm, most guys are clueless. Many guys are not aware that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms. Partly due to this reason, many women can go for years without having an orgasm from their partner.

 

We all know how difficult it can be in working to improve a woman’s bedroom experience. Some guys may be trying too hard by applying indiscriminately the lovemaking techniques they have just read without understanding that not everyone woman is the same and each woman responds differently to those sexual trick(s). Complicating this matter is some women are not sure what can really satisfy them.

 

Here are the 10 ways you can work on to increase the possibilities of her reaching climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms:

 

(1)   Building intimacy outside of the bedroom

 

Women do not get automatically turn on during sex. The one indispensable element in getting women aroused is the existence of intimacy or closeness with their partners in the relationship. When was the last time you surprise her pleasantly by doing unexpected but appreciated things for her? This requires you to pay attention to her needs and communicating to understand what she needs in daily life. Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures do turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a woman’s brain.

 

(2)   Make her feel comfortable

 

If she is not able to feel relaxed she will not be able to have orgasm. Take the time to give her a back rub, massage her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away the tension.

 

(3)   Ignore the vagina

 

Do you know that extended foreplay can increase the possibilities of her coming? Spend time kissing, caressing and touching her will help to build up the sexual tension and usually the expectation will be very powerful.

 

(4)   Switch your focus

 

Stop worrying about what and how you can gratify her or concerning about you yourself may disappoint her. At the particular moment when you are with her, throw everything out of your mind and stay focus on her. If you are able to focus all your attention on her first, you will be able to make love to her much more passionately.

 

(5)   Take your own sweet time

 

Unlike men who can get aroused quickly and mechanically, women take a longer time to “heat up”, probably up to 20 minutes. The most effective way for a guy in helping her to reach orgasm is to delay his own orgasm first. The best way to do this is: penetrate as per normal and when you feel you are about to get high, simply move your hips in a circular motion as if you are swaying a hula hoop. When your “little brother” cools down again, continue stimulating her.

 

(6)   Avoid using lubricants

 

There is no need to use lubricants because women by themselves have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they are turned on. The use of lubricant can “distort the message” her body is trying to send you because you are not sure whether she is really in the mood yet. Of course for certain women especially those elderly ones who have problems of vagina dryness, the use of lubricants may be a necessity. But for most women, it is best not to resort to external aids.

 

(7)   Not too much attention on the clitoris

 

Once you have stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will inflate and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation. After the clitoris is fully stimulated, go and pleasure the G-spot.

 

(8)   Locate and stimulate the G-spot

 

The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and can be found about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. There are 2 basic methods to stimulate the G-spot which are by using your fingers and adopting a lovemaking position that can effectively reach the G-spot. When using your fingers, make sure you cut your nails and lubricate your fingers first. You then curl your fingers into a “come here” gesture with your palm facing upwards when entering her to locate the G-spot. 2 possible lovemaking positions you can use are the doggie position (penetration from behind) and the missionary position with support under her hips that can tilt the lower part of her body at an angle to facilitate G-spot stimulation.

 

(9)   Adopting the best position

 

Not all lovemaking positions are equally good due to individual women preferences. Generally, the easiest position for a woman to climax is the reverse missionary position (woman on top) because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

 

(10)  Offer her oral sex

 

This is much more satisfying for women than the intercourse itself due to the over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris. Just be careful not to apply too much pressure on her clitoris right away because this area is very sensitive, which may irritate her and turn her off. Take turns to lick the surrounding area of her opening and the clitoris from time to time.

 

Now you can use these 10 tips right away to give women the most ground-shaking experiences of their lives. If you are eager for more ideas to please the special woman of yours, you can check this out at Hot Sex and All That She Wants

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